Guftuguu

Guftuguu

By Surabhi MaheshwariSociety & CulturePersonal Journals
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Guftuguu episodes

  • The Price You Pay For Having a Uterus

    Just heard something interesting on whether mere careers can bring women the satisfaction and meaning that they need in life , or is having children and getting married necessary to fulfilling life's ultimate purpose (especially for women). These are some thoughts on the same.

    29 min
  • What to do when your partner has anxiety ?

    I have experienced debilitating anxiety myself, and from that space I thought I could provide a few insights on how a partner (or even a friend), who wants to help, can play a part in creating an environment of some kind of healing for their partner so that eventually their mind has some space to resolve or calm the patterns creating anxiety. The idea is not to be a saviour or enabler or justify abusive behaviour citing mental health, but just to be a friend in need, I guess.

    52 min
  • Value Differences in Friendships : How can we ever know when to let go ?
    A lot of us are in and / or around a lot of dysfunctionality as we grow up, and therefore what to expect out of healthy and well functioning friendships or relationships can be next to impossible to picture at first. In this conversation, I’m primarily talking about , the possible scenarios of what happens when our personal values ( as we grow up) severely clash with those of our ‘friends’ , or we start to feel unaccepted or unvalued by our peers or friend groups. BOOK RECOMMENDATION !!! - “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood. I have spoken a bit about that in here, just as an indication with how people starting off from places of low-self esteem or trauma or lack of a sense of self operate in relationships as well as friendships as grown ups.
    36 min
  • Youth is Wasted on the Young ?
    I always found this quote so fascinating. Just some Friday night thoughts on why they say this. And what kind of actions might entail actions that are genuinely meaningful.
    12 min
  • What is the right place of sex in life ?
    Not an exhaustive conversation by any means. Just a few key thoughts and observations about how I feel we treat sex, what would be the correct approach towards sex and then the difference I saw in the way it is approached in my ‘own’ culture vs where I live currently.
    20 min
  • Man Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life : Logotherapy

    Carl Jung said, in one of his interviews from 1959, 'Man Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life'. Victor Frankl, in his book, 'Man's Search for Meaning', says that when people have a why, they can endure any how. He also says that every age has its own mass neurosis, and the neurosis of our age is the neurosis of meaning. He developed his own school of psychotherapy, and his approach towards psychoanalysis, which he called 'Logotherapy'.He proposed that the primary motivation behind all human actions is a desire to meaning. He has written over 20 books in German on the same. This is me just trying to scratch the surface. 

    40 min
  • Arranged Marriage v/s “Love” Marriage
    For several cultures where Arranged Marriages are an alien concept, the entire set up can be looked at as quite outlandish, and sometimes with a bit of condescension. This is my attempt to demystify what really happens in the process of an arranged marriage, strictly as I have seen it around me, and to humanize the entire concept a little bit. The reality of an arranged marriage set up , though with flaws of its own like every other set up, can really be as ‘normal’ & ‘functional’ ( or ‘dysfunctional’ ) as settings where marriages aren’t arranged.
    32 min
  • Shame : Shame and it’s relationship to Depression.
    Shame is a very primal human emotion, which I feel isn’t talked about enough in comparison to how big of an influence it has in our personalities, decisions, public demeanor and even the relationship it has with some very serious and chronic mental illnesses. This is my two-bits on shame and how it’s relates to depression and other mental health illnesses, based on my own experience and what I ended up reading after in order to learn more about it.
    1 hr 1 min
  • Pain and Art - 1
    How I think Pain, Conflict and Art are related. P.S. All the Urdu poets I have mentioned in the podcast ( Faiz, Faraz and Ghalib) are dead. Apologies if I spoke of them in the present tense !!! The podcast is in English, except for some pieces of Urdu poetry. And since the topic is too abstract, I have had to take more pauses to formulate my sentences !!
    26 min
  • Rape Anxiety

    Constant thoughts of fear and panic relating to a possible sexual assault, even when a person is in places where they feel relatively safe. This is my experience with what I can call 'Rape Anxiety', and how shockingly common the phenomenon seems to be amongst all genders.  

    P.S. I really hope I spoke sensitively enough for the conversation to not be triggering. But the topic is a difficult one. If you do find any part of the conversation triggering, sincere apologies and suggestions are welcome.

    29 min

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