Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

“You can only tell yourself one story at a time.”(see EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY)

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On a recent training run, I reflected upon an answer I’d given in a podcast interview on the Fifth Quarter.

Hosts Lason Perkins and Jeff Osterman asked: “Do you celebrate the green lights?”

The guests were wondering, figuratively, if I had the habit of appreciating the little blessings in life.

I surprised them, and myself, by noticing that very morning, I did just that – celebrated several successive green lights while running.

I answered literally.

I shared how the green lights allowed me to complete my run without stopping.

However, on a subsequent run, I would realize a far better answer.

I thought about their question as I approached a red light.

I was forced to stop.

Automatically, I raised my arms and celebrated.

This is awesome!

Why was I celebrating a red light!?

It wasn’t because I was able to stop and rest.

Rather, I was filled with appreciation that I was running…

That I was outdoors. That I was getting exercise. That I was above ground!

I celebrated a red light!

Sure, I had a bit of a runner’s high.

As I thought about their question, I wished I could take my answer back.

How much better would it have been, I wondered, if I answered, “Green Lights!? Anyone can celebrate a green light…

…I do my best to celebrate the RED LIGHTS!”

Enjoy the show!

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“The great value of having a big, hairy, audacious goal is that it forces you to get on your toes. Nobody with big, hairy audacious goals is living passively.” (see EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY!

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At halftime of a recent NBA playoff game, Kenny Smith (the TNT color analyst) shared a powerful observation about the Warriors’ play and, more importantly, their disposition.

Kenny’s observation isn’t confined to the basketball court.

The defending NBA champs – the Warriors – found themselves down 0-2 to the Sacramento Kings and were now facing a crucial game 3.

At the half, the Warriors were up 53 - 41.

Kenny said, “This is the first time in this series that the Warriors look like ‘the hunters.’”

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Champions tend to rest and relax. Success breeds complacency.

Meanwhile, the competition becomes hungry.

Those who are hungry hunt. Those who are well-fed become the hunted.

Finding themselves down 0-2 and possessing a halftime lead in game 3, Smith made an important observation: The Warriors regained their winning mentality.

They were, once again, the hunters.

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Ask yourself, “Am I playing life today like a hunter or the hunted?”

Enjoy the show!

Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

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It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”:

https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man Thinketh

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“High expectations are the key to everything.” ~Sam Walton (Founder of Walmart)

“The key to happiness is low expectations.” ~Barry Schwartz (American Pyschologist)

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Which is it?

Should you have high expectations or low expectations?

How about…

Both.

Often you should have high expectations. Sometimes you should have low expectations.

Sometimes, no expectations are the way to proceed.

It depends.

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To let go and to possess high expectations are just two sides of the same coin.

While Habits 2 Goals is about goal achievement. It is also about appreciating the things we can influence as well as the things we cannot.

Put simply: Goal-striving is intelligence in action. However, it is also one’s ego and willpower in action.

John was a guy who seemed to accomplish every goal he went after. A goal achiever of the highest order. He’d recently sold his company for millions while undergoing an eighteen month battle with leukemia.

Just a week before he would pass away, he did the only thing that was left to do. He let go.

That may have been John’s great gift and it was a powerful lesson to all who loved him.

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One can practice the art of letting go daily.

When it comes to goal achievement, it’s crucial to recognize where the ego is pursuing ambitions and outcomes beyond your control.

With awareness and practice, daily frustrations can vanish with the practice of letting go.

Enjoy the show!

Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”:

https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“By adding positive pressure, anyone can improve their productivity, performance and even peace of mind.” ~MG (see The Pressure Paradox™)

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On a return trip to San Diego, I stop in Orange County for breakfast with a great friend – a super friend – who happens to be a championship-winning, professional collegiate rugby coach.

Surprisingly, he starts to ping me about setting big goals for himself and, more importantly, about how he can stick to them!

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I tell him that the very best way I know (from experience), to stay on track and move toward my biggest goals is to simply track the key, supportive habits that will drive the goal’s attainment.

He knows this, by the way.

It’s likely that we ALL know this.

That is, if it’s important to you, you’d better be tracking.

“To know, and not to do, is not to know.” ~Confucius

Habit tracking is not optional and some methods are better than others ; )

Here’s the “right way.”

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The first part to ACHIEVING ANY BIG GOAL is to commit!

This presumes you are clear and do know what your BIG GOAL is!

Such a commitment creates the requisite PRESSURE.

Establish a deadline.

Pay an entry fee.

Establish some real consequences for not following through, etc.

Once you are committed, THEN it’s time to begin tracking the core, recurring behaviors (habits) that will bring you closer to the goal.

That is step two.

TRACK the core, habits that will drive the goal’s attainment.

THAT IS HOW YOU STAY ON TRACK.

One simply must track to stay on track.

That is it. Simple and powerful but not necessarily easy.

You got this!

Enjoy the show!

Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“There are three constants in life – change, choice and principles.”~ Stephen Covey

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Principles govern one's results over the long term.

— Excerpt from Principles I —

Principles can be likened to the law of gravity: Throw a rock out of a window and you know it will fall toward the earth – every time!

Principles are environmental factors that control, influence, and dictate one's results.

Covey shares his, "Law of the Farm" example to convey a principle in action.

It's impossible to plant a seed today and reap the harvest tomorrow.

Impossible.

The principles at play demand that time and nurture are required to reap a harvest.

Thus, principles govern results.

Human effectiveness operates similarly – within a context of timeless, environmental principles.

Part II is about how the concept of principles coincides with “The 3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System.”

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In the model above, where do you think these governing, timeless principles are located?

Correct.

The environment!

One's environment has the ability to be a showstopper depending upon the goal they are aiming for.

For instance, just try to grow flowers in the snow.

Similarly, imagine a client whose home life is a wreck. They have a tenant they cannot evict and their wife is threatening divorce.

How likely is it that they will be able to finish their creative endeavor anytime soon?

About zero percent.

Why does this matter?

It matters because this model reminds us that we must develop our habits and skills within a conducive environment – one that is in alignment with the governing and timeless principles at play.

Is your environment favorable for your goals and ideals?

Are you working in harmony with governing principles like "the law of the farm?"

Are there more tools, and resources (time, money, people) required to help develop the required habits and skills?

My latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY, reveals the first and only behavior model to illustrate human behavior in an “echo-system.” Not eco-system.

Further, it illustrates how the essential components for personal transformation and long-term goal achievement must be aligned for human effectiveness.

Feel free to comment and share. ; )

Enjoy the show!

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→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“There are three constants in life – change, choice and principles.”~ Stephen Covey

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Chances are good that you've read or at least know of the book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Most people think it's a book about habits. It is not.

It's a brilliant book about effectiveness.

Here's the key: Effectiveness by operating within the context of “universal, governing PRINCIPLES.”

Now, you're saying what the heck does that mean?

Principles govern one's results over the long term.

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Principles can be likened to the law of gravity: Throw a rock out of a window and you know it will fall toward the earth – every time!

Principles are environmental factors that control, influence, and dictate one's results.

Covey shares his, "Law of the Farm" example to convey a principle in action.

It's impossible to plant a seed today and reap the harvest tomorrow.

Impossible.

The principles at play demand that time and nurture are required to reap a harvest.

Thus, principles govern results.

Human effectiveness operates similarly – within a context of timeless, environmental principles.

To be effective, one must operate in alignment with principles like:

RESPONSIBILITY

VISION

PRODUCTIVITY

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How do you know these principles govern effectiveness?

Try to imagine an effective person who is not responsible.

Try to imagine an effective person absent of direction – vision. 

Thus, each of those (above) are principles that dictate one's ability to produce the results they are looking for.

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Collectively, Covey labels these the "private" victory.

Be proactive. = Responsible

Begin with the end in mind. = Vision

Put first things first. = Productivity

Each is identified as an essential habit to be developed because it aligns with the governing principles of effectiveness.

Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.

Comment and share.

Enjoy the show!

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“If you want small changes, work on your behavior; if you want quantum-leap changes, work on your paradigms." ~ Stephen Covey

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. Paradigms: Part II – [Episode with special guest Jen Grant]

Paradigm by definition:

noun

par·​a·​digm ˈper-ə-ˌdīm 

: EXAMPLE, PATTERN

especially : an outstandingly clear or typical example or archetype

… regard science as the paradigm of true knowledge.—G. C. J. Midgley

: a philosophical and theoretical framework of a scientific school or discipline within which theories, laws, and generalizations and the experiments performed in support of them are formulated

the Freudian paradigm of psychoanalysis

broadly : a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kind

A model or framework – a typical example or archetype.

In short, paradigms don’t just influence behavior, they drive it from within as a self-referential model, similar to an operating system.

Why are we talking about paradigms again?

As a behavior model, the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” is a paradigm-shifting tool.

Thus, this tool/model ☝️ can help anyone diagnose and troubleshoot their long-term goals and/or personal transformation pursuits.

Second, similar to "Plato's Cave" allegory, it reveals the power of a paradigm shift by altering what one understands by changing what one “sees.”

As Jen says in this episode, "What's interesting is that until you become aware of the paradigms that have been handed to you growing up (by default), you'll never realize that you can create and choose your own paradigms." 

Choosing your own paradigm is a unique human superpower!

Since paradigms drive behavior as a self-referential model - the very first, most important, paradigm shift one can make is understanding how they control and direct the paradigms that direct their behavior.

Everyone can intentionally adopt paradigms that support their long-term goals and personal transformation pursuits.

Much more about the model in my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Comment and share!

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Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“If you want small changes, work on your behavior; if you want quantum-leap changes, work on your paradigms." ~ Stephen Covey

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Clichés can become so overly used that people forget their original intent.

What does it really mean to have a “Paradigm-shift”?

Paradigm by definition:

noun

par·​a·​digm ˈper-ə-ˌdīm 

ˈpa-rə-, also  -ˌdim

: EXAMPLE, PATTERN

especially : an outstandingly clear or typical example or archetype

… regard science as the paradigm of true knowledge.—G. C. J. Midgley

: an example of a conjugation or declension showing a word in all its inflectional forms

: a philosophical and theoretical framework of a scientific school or discipline within which theories, laws, and generalizations and the experiments performed in support of them are formulated

the Freudian paradigm of psychoanalysis

broadly : a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kind

A model or framework – a typical example or archetype.

In short, paradigms don’t just influence behavior, they drive it from within as a self-referential model, similar to an operating system.

A paradigm shift has the potential to instantly alter decades of prior behavior patterns/habits.

Yes. Instantly.

This is precisely what Stephen Covey means by quantum leap (above) ☝️.

EXAMPLE:

A story I enjoy telling involves a neighbor-friend who insisted that she could, "Never quit smoking!" 

Henry Ford used to say, "Whether you think you can, or you can't, you're right."

It was safe to say that her paradigm was, "I'm a smoker, and I will always smoke."

Fast forward approximately eighteen months. I notice that she is exercising and had lost some weight.

She looked terrific. I told her she looked healthy.

She then declared, "I quit smoking too!"

How is that possible? I wondered.

She seemed committed to her story about never being able to quit smoking.

"I"m pregnant!" She nearly shouted.

There you have it.

That's a paradigm shift.

Roles (like mother or father), titles, names, badges, even uniforms, etc., influence how people see themselves which influences their behavior.

Observe the stories that unfold in your life relative to how you see yourself, your goals, and your ideals.

How do you regard the world at large?

Einstein's allegedly said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a hostile or friendly universe.”

The truth is, as I wrote in EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY, it's both a hostile and friendly universe.

However, from that simple determination (a paradigm – a self-referential model) an array of decisions, actions, and behaviors spill forward to alter the results of one’s life.

Ask yourself what paradigms you have subscribed to. Which may need to change to alter your results?

Comment and share!

Enjoy the show!

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Most people just go through the motions…” ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger

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I came across a Youtube short #youtubeshorts in which Arnold was pointing out that when most people lift weights they are just “going through the motions…”

Examine his statement more deeply.

It can be applied to everything.

Where do you find yourself “just going through the motions?”

If the difference in effective weight lifting is the powerful application of concentration – putting your mind into it – where else can this idea be applied?

Essentially, this is a different way to approach concentration and focus – “putting your mind into it.”

Next time you perform an important task, whether it’s accounting, writing, or lifting weights be sure to PUT YOUR MIND INTO IT!

Enjoy the show!

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“It's not the will to win that matters – everyone has that. It's the will to prepare to win that matters.” ~Coach Bear Bryant

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While watching the NCAA men's wrestling championships a powerful mind bullet emerges.

An excited reporter asks the Cornell head wrestling coach, "How can your wrestler assure victory?"

The coach chuckles and replies, "Well, this is the easy part. All he has to do now is wrestle!"

The lesson is simple and profound: Great performances rest upon a foundation of Planning, Preparing, and Practicing, "The 3 P's."

The greater the pressure to perform in any event, whether it's wrestling, a concert, or a presentation, the greater the demand to Plan, Prepare, and Practice better.

In The Pressure Paradox™, "The 3 P's" are detailed in depth.

Notice how all the elite performers under the highest pressure situations tend to be the ones who Plan, Prepare and Practice the best.

Enjoy the show!

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

It’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.com

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android