Han and Matt Know It All

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 12th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "My Husband Doesn't Want Me to Go on a Business Trip to Vegas" + Update;
2. Dear Prudence: "My Sister Lied to Me About Why She Needed to Borrow $1000 and I'm Not Sure I Can Forgive Her";
3. Captain Awkward: "Boyfriend Is Overly Concerned About Who I Hang out With.";
4. Private Lives: "My Girlfriend Had a One-Night Stand and It Has Destroyed My Life";
5. Ask APW: "My Smug Married Friends Refuse to Get Excited about My Wedding";
6. Listener E: "How Do I Rekindle an Old Friendship With Someone Whose Dad Secretly Molested Me?";
   • RAINN: National Sexual Assault Hotline;
   • 1-800-656-HOPE;
   • The Cut: "Your Reckoning. And Mine. As stories about abuse, assault, and complicity come flooding out, how do we think about the culprits in our lives? Including, sometimes, ourselves."
7. BONUS: Second "Comrade Femme" Question Shoutout;

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This week's Overflow is bursting with love! Seriously, y'all sent us a tremendous amount of emails the prior week, and we're blown away by it. You're wonderful! Here's some of what you sent us:

1. Stinky Couch Guesses;
   • In response to Holly Hellhunter's question in Hannah and Matt Value Alone Time, titled, "Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I'm on a Trip?";
2. Hated Critically Acclaimed Musical Correct Guess;
   • A point for Orlahv, Wicked Savant on the Leader Board!;
3. The Journey of Listener Spencer's Cat, Winston;
   • You can see Winston on the Pet Pics portion of the Listener Hub;
4. Miss Manners on RSVP Cards;
5. Listener Maewyn the Lacerator: "Should I Call Out My Coworker Who Sends Problematic 'Joke' Newsletters to the Entire Company?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 5th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "My Employee Dressed up as a Coworker for Halloween to Mock Her";
   • "I Don't Like Thing" Comic;
2. Ask Amy: "Wife Wonders About Siblings' Bathroom Habits";
3. Dear Prudence: "Is It Wrong to Want to Redo My Wedding Since the First Ceremony Was Rushed to Accommodate my Dying Father-In-Law?";
4. Captain Awkward: "Ethical Non-Monogamy & a Difficult Conversation.";
5. Listener Naedros, Reckless Aeronaut: "Is It Unfair for Me to Want My Boyfriend to Work on His Anxiety?";
6. Listener First Last: "How Can I Trust My Husband Again After He Was Caught Harassing a Woman Online?";
7. Listener Couple In a Bad Position: "How Do We Tell Our Friend That His Girlfriend Is No Longer Welcome To Hang Out With Us?";

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This week's Overflow asks: who can I punch? But also: what happens when Han edits the podcast for a second time, but misinterprets one of Matt's tips and turns us into breathless vampires? Well, the answer to that second one is "more editing," but the first one? Listen and find out!

1. Laura II Gets a New Name and a New Point!;
   • Solyara, Queen of the Mists' Cats;
2. Listener Lephra, Master Manipulator: "Why I Need Advice Columns";
3. Listener Pampora, Void Cartographer: "Why I Read Advice Columns";
4. Dear Prudence: "Judge Judy (How Do I Apologize For Punching My Sister and Breaking Her Nose?)";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 29th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Miss Manners: "Do I Include Who Isn't Attending In This Confusingly-Worded RSVP Card?";
2. Dear Prudence: "Will My Husband's Alcoholism Ever Improve Enough For Me To Feel Good About Our Relationship?";
3. Ask Polly: "I Hate Men";
4. Savage Love: Episode #574 thoughts on "I Have Sensual Encounters with My Masseur";
5. Listener Holly Hellhunter: "Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I'm on a Trip?";
6. Listener I Vant to Be Alone: "How Do I Set Up Emotional Boundaries With My Roommate?";
7. BONUS: Dear Prudence: "Nobody's Mother"
   • Trans Lifeline;
   • Trevor Project;

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This week's normally-scheduled Overflow asks a big question: why are we here?!? It also asks: what happens when Han edits the podcast? Stick around to find out:

1. Advice Column Alert: Bad Advice;
   • Every Tuesday, the Bad Advisor (Andrea Grimes) gives "terrible guidance based on actual letters";
2. Personality (Mis)fit Thoughts;
   • A listener commenting on "Is This Just Some Weird Gender Thing???" on Hannah and Matt Consult Dear Businesslady;
3. Dear Prudence: "Who Really Has a Problem?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the MONTH of October 2017, including:

1. Ask A Manager: "I Could Delete My Former Employer's Website — Should I?";
2. Dear Prudence: "Pets Are Not Family, Are They?";
3. Ask Amy: "Gun-Toting Brother-In-Law Wants to Open-Carry Around Kids";
4. Social Q's: "Should I Share a Traumatic Story?";
5. Dear Jane: "Is It Unreasonable for Me to Ask My Boyfriend to Move to Canada with Me?";
6. Captain Awkward: "My Newly Nudist/Naturist Friend and Unwanted Naked Photos";
7. Listener ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged: "Should I Say Something About My Uncle's Body Negative Comments Towards My Cousins?";
8. BONUS: Donate to us via the link in our site's navigation!;

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This week's SECOND Overflow is entirely updates! We've got an upcoming guest who we need questions for, the official launch of the Listener Hub, and so much more. Stick around:

1. Sarah Knight, Upcoming Guestpert;
   • Upcoming advice book, "You Do You";
   • YouTube: "The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove";
   • Send us questions for Sarah Knight!!;
2. Women & Gender Nonconforming (an apology);
   • We are no longer using "female-bodied" as a catch-all to express the idea of not "being raised female" or "not experiencing male-privilege";
3. Listener Rihanna Question Update;
   • Original Question from Hannah and Matt Divvy Expenses Equitably, "Should I Warn Away Employees Who Are Interviewing at My Problematic Workplace?";
   • Ask a Manager's "Chocolate Teapots Ltd.";
4. Women Who Feel Entitled to Sex With Their Partners;
   • Listener Kate on Twitter & Listener Kal'eht, Dusty Anarchist get points for finding us the requested terrible women;
5. The 'Listener Hub' Is Live!!;
   • Can we use your pet pics?;
   • Have you not yet sent us your pet pics??;
6. Setting Boundaries for Listener Friends;
   • If we're friends or have become friends, email us anonymously at bit.ly/hannahandmatt;
7. Introduction Episode Request;
   • Tell us what your all-time favorite quotes or clips are from the show for the 1-minute intro video we're making for new listeners!;
8. Ask a Manager: "update: is the work environment I've created on my team too exclusive?";

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We hosted Courtney C.W. Guerra of "Dear Businesslady" for the Monday episode and had so much to talk about that we couldn't fit it all into one episode. Thus: Opinion Overflow #13! This Overflow contains two questions that were recently published from other advice columns as well as a new Listener Question:

1. Ask A Manager: "My Male Colleagues Expect Me to Do the Department's Admin Work";
2. MBMBaM (22:21): "What Should I Do About My Boss Who Jokes About My Having Been Mugged?";
3. Listener Eva, Abyssal Awakener: "How Do I Report Sexual Harassment in the Service Industry Knowing that So Many Women Have Been Punished for Speaking Out?";

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Hannah and Matt interviewed Courtney C.W. Guerra of "Dear Businesslady" for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on a thematically similar question from her most recent column:

1. Dear Businesslady (November 9th, 2016): "How Do I Say the Thing?";
   • Trample the Patriarchy Sweater;
   • I've Got Anxiety Sweater;
2. Dear Businesslady (December 15th, 2015): "Is This Just Some Weird Gender Thing???"
3. Dear Businesslady: "Can I Reform My Incompetent Managers?";

Part 2 of our time with Courtney is posting this Wednesday, in which we discuss questions from Ask a Manager, My Brother, My Brother and Me, and a new Listener Question!

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