Han and Matt Know It All

In a very special 2017 Year in Review episode, Hannah and Matt welcome Andrea Grimes of The Establishment's "Bad Advice" fame to reminisce about the questions that most warmed our hearts and those that most made us want to burn everything to the ground. It was a very fiery year, to put it lightly. Enjoy??

1. Andrea's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick
   • Captain Awkward and Friends of Captain Awkward: "When Spouses Don't Agree About Birth Control"
2. Andrea's "Set It on Fire" Award pick
   • Misc.: Please May I Keep Boning This Racist? (Carolyn Hax December 2nd, Dear Abby February 13, Savage Love August 23)
3. Han's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick (*SEE BELOW)
   • Listener Weary and Wary: "How Lenient Should I Be of My Friends With Depression and Anxiety Who Are Repeatedly Undependable With Plans?"
4. Han's "Set It on Fire" Award pick
   • Ask a Manager: I ghosted my ex, and she's about to be my new boss
5. Matt's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick
   • Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating?
6. Matt's "Set It on Fire" Award pick
   • Ask APW: The Garter Toss Reminds Me of My Sexual Assault, but My Fiancé Wants to Do It

"Set It on Fire" Runner-Ups:

• Ask a Manager: my boss enlists me in hiding his multiple affairs from his wife
• Ask a Manager: I ghosted my ex, and she's about to be my new boss
• Ask a Manager: is the work environment I've created on my team too exclusive?
• r/relationships: My (33F) self-absorbed sister (22F) is holding an "auction" for all her potential bridesmaids to compete in for a place in her wedding
• Sense and Sensitivity: Parents Doubt Son's Talent
• Captain Awkward: Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?
• Captain Awkward: Messy housemate blues with a side of bugs.
• Ask Amy: Height isn't this dating misfit's only challenge
• Let Us Sex-Plain: My partner always wants to have sex at 5am
• Dear Prudence: Pets are not family, are they?
• Dear Prudence: Fiancé Worried My Genes Will Affect His Son's "Package"
• Dear Prudence: My Husband's Best Friend Proposed to His Girlfriend During Our Wedding Ceremony
• Dear Sugars: Is There Such a Thing as Wanting Too Much Sex?
• Ask E. Jean: How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me?
• Miss Conduct: Don't Date Nazis
• Savage Love: Dick Monsters

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In this week's episode, we finally admit that we get so many requests for Dear Prudence and Ask a Manager commentary that we could easily host three separate podcasts! I mean... Patreon bonus content, maybe? Like, jokingly! But kind of serious? Anywho, let's do this thing!

1. Listener Machete Alice Wants to Recruit a Friend to Listen to the Podcast;
2. Ask a Manager: "I Didn't Get a Job Because I Was a Bully in High School" + Update;
   • Original;
   • Update;
3. Ask a Manager: "A Colleague Is Hitting on Me and I Don't Know How to Respond" Update;
   • From "Hannah and Matt Hit on You";
   • Original from AaM;
4. Dear Prudence: "I Left My Daughter off of the Christmas Card";
5. Dear Prudence: Ethical Nonmonogamy 101 & a "Stolen Cat" Requests;
6. Listener NoNoNoNo Has Advice for TransSlytherin;
   • From "Opinion Overflow #20: "Am I a Scrooge?"";
7. Listener Arcaehl, Lost Spellweaver: "How Can I Move Past Being Rejected by Family Members?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 10th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Dear Prudence: "Name (AKA The Evil Name Thief Who Delights In the Tears of 6 Year Olds What the Actual Fuck)";
2. Dear Annie: "Hatred and Disgust for Stepson";
3. Ask Minda Honey: "How to Bow out of a Party";
4. Dear Abby: "Boyfriend Shows No Interest in Expanding Family of Three";
5. Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist: "How Do I Convince My Mom Once and For All That I'm Never Going to Want My Brother Back In My Life?";
   • Listener Hub Pet Pictures;

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This week's Overflow is itself overflowing! Y'all send us so many wonderful things, it's impossible for us not to share them all. Let's dive in!

1. ScarleTeen Advice;
   • Another advice column that's new to us!;
   • Mo Ranyart's work;
2. So Much Love and Support for our Last Overflow;
   • Opinion Overflow #19: "Do I Have To Keep White Supremacists In My Life?"l
3. Ask a Manager Bummer Update;
   • Original: "employee dressed up as coworker for Halloween to mock her, fending off a colleague's dinner invitations, and more";
   • Update;
4. Listener Spencer Retakes the Listener Leader Board Throne!;
   • And becomes the second person to find all the Listener Hub secrets;
5. Lephra, Master Manipulator Has Cat Tips;
6. Dear Prudence: "Stuck (AKA The Evil Stepmother Question)";
   • Requested by THREE listeners, a first ever;
7. Listener Trans Slytherin: "Am I a Scrooge?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 3rd, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Ask Team Practical: "My Cousin's Boyfriend Groped Me—Why Is Keeping Him off My Guest List My Problem?";
2. Dear Prudence: "I Can't Comfort the Teen Who Killed My Cat";
3. Ask a Manager: "A Colleague Is Hitting on Me and I Don't Know How to Respond";
4. r/relationships: "My (29f) sister (23f) ruined her credit and blames me";
5. Tough Love: "How to Craft Your Life's Purpose and Stop Wasting Your Precious Time Here on Earth";
6. Listener Rage Wanderlust: "How Can I Politely Tell Friends and Family To Stop Asking Me For Updates About My Job Search?";

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This week's Overflow includes some excellent responses from listeners, a reminder not to date nazis, and an even more in-depth reminder that you don't have to keep Trump supporters in your life. Even if they're your grandparents and they're on their death beds. Enjoy!

1. Listener Hetha, Zealous Inquisitor Has Some Intuitive Eating Advice;
   • Everybody L.A.;
   • The Fat Nutritionist;
2. Listener Delisa on Twitter Locks Out Her Cats at Night Too;
   • In reference to our Opinion Overflow #18: "What Should I Consider Before Getting a Cat?" Episode;
3. Don't Date Nazis (Still);
   • Carolyn Hax: She thinks her fiance's racism 'seems like a pretty trivial thing';
4. Listener Leemra, Adept Aeromancer: "My Trump Supporting Grandparents's Health is Declining; Do I Have to Make Nice With Them?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 26th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Dear Sugars: "Is There Such a Thing as Wanting Too Much Sex?";
2. The Ethicist: "My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere?";
3. Y'all Need Help: "Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain";
4. Listener Alouicious Leatrix: "What Do I Do About My Sexless Marriage? And Before You Say 'Ethical Nonmonogamy,' That's Not on the Table Here.";

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This week's Overflow features THREE new (to us) advice columns that we recommend checking out, a very special Magic card, a lovely listener letter, and a question about cats. Let's do this thing!

1. Ask Bear is Back;
   • S. Bear Bergman's Homepage;
2. Friendshipping! Podcast Is Great;
3. Social Q's Kids Section Is a Thing;
   • It's Print Only, though;
4. I Made a Magic card for My Mom;
   • She donated and offered up the name "Cynthea Motherfury";
   • You can support us on Patreon and get a card, too!;
5. Listener Aephe, Stout Battlemage Relates to a Recent Question;
   • Dear Jane's "Is It Unreasonable for Me to Ask My Boyfriend to Move to Canada with Me?" from Hannah and Matt Commemorate October's Gems;
6. Listener Fearful for Frida: "What Things Should I Consider Before Deciding Whether Or Not I Want to Get a Cat With My Roommates?";

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For the Monday episode, Hannah and Matt interviewed New York Times Best Selling author Sarah Knight, the anti-guru author of self-help instant classics The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, Get Your Sh*t Together, and the recently released You Do You, the third in the "No F*cks Given Guide." We discuss three listener questions that speak to fellow-Know-It-All-Sarah's expertise:

1. BONUS: The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove;
2. Listener Uratron, Ragecaster: "How Do I Manage My Increasing Discomfort of Working With an Intuitive Eating Coach Who Is Built Like a Runway Model?";
   • New York Times: "After 'The Biggest Loser,' Their Bodies Fought to Regain Weight";
3. Listener Zelda: "How Do I Manage My Anxieties Around Performance Reviews in Light of Experiencing a Past Trauma?";
4. Listener Kirin, the Unmaker: "Should I Be Upfront About My Ball-Jointed Dolls Hobby With People I've Just Started Dating?";

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Dear Listeners,

We've gone and done the thing! We're now on Patreon, where you can pledge monthly donations to help support the work that we do on the podcast, which can get you so many exclusive rewards, including (but not limited to):

• A Matt-generated Magic the Gathering card of your badass alter-ego (Common Tier)
• Exclusive bonus content recorded just for Uncommon and higher patrons (extra questions, dramatic readings, cat videos... WHO KNOWS) (Uncommon Tier)
• A monthly exclusive Google hangout invite to ask us anything and just hang out (Rare Tier)
• If you're ever in NYC, we'll take you out for a drink! (Mythic Tier)

Because of the delightful support via donations that we've already received, we thought that now was the right time. For the holidays, we're running a limited time promotion:

Anyone who donates at the Common Tier of $1 between NOW and December 31st, 2017 will get access to 8 holiday-themed questions we've pulled from advice columns over many years with our fresh takes, each one released to patrons each day of Hanukkah (between December 12th to the 20th).

We put a dorky video, so you should go check that out and laugh at our expenses ever if you don't plan on being a patron.

We love y'all so much! Donation or not, the sheer enthusiasm you've shown us on Twitter and in our ever-filling inbox makes our hearts sing. Catch ya'll next week after the break!

P.S. Listener M is your new leader, having found all of the Listener Hub secrets and vaulting into first! Hot diggity dang!