Han and Matt Know It All

In this week's Overflow episode, we continue spreading the love of Monday's episode by announcing the launch of our P.O. box, announcing a new place online for y'all to hang out and get together, and reading so many beautiful emails from our fellow Know-It-Alls. Your journey through the tunnel of love begins here:

1. We have a P.O. Box now!
   • Han Malyn & Matt Albrecht
   • P.O. Box 730
   • New York, NY 10116
   • (Note: We're both vegetarian, Han is allergic to eggs, and Matt is allergic to almonds.)
2. We have a Facebook group now!
   • Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group
3. Listener The Heinous One: "Dogs Aren't Racist"
4. Maxim: "This Is the Scientific Reason Why Some Dogs Are 'Racist'"
5. Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat: "Give Yourselves More Credit"
6. Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way on Parenting
7. Even More Non-Cards Against Humanity Game Recommendations
   • Codenames Duet
   • Harry Potter: Hogwarts Battle
   • Sentinels of the Multiverse
   • Bang: The Dice Game
   • AttrAction
   • Spyfall
   • Junk Art
   • Mysterium
8. Judge John Hodgman: "Judge John Hodgman on Window Squirrels"
9. Listener Empusaria the Devourer Has an Update and Follow-Up Questions
   • "So I was wondering if you have any advice or scripts for any of the following, about this manuscript in particular, but also unwanted 'gifts' in general."
     • 1) Turning down the thing if asked
     • 2) How to avoid accepting the thing when someone is trying to just hand it to you
     • 3) How to refuse/give the thing back if they've opted for just placing it somewhere in your home, then stating they've done so and that they really hope you'll like it, or if you've already failed at step 2
     • 4) Failing all that, how to not feel bad about never reading the manuscript/using the thing, and what to say when asked about it later
   • Use #FellowKnowItAll on Twitter to answer these questions! We'll retweet your answers for Empusaria.
10. Preferred Way of Asking About Pronouns and Reply All Episode About Catfishing
    • The Radical Copyeditor: "The Radical Copyeditor's Style Guide for Writing About Transgender People"
    • Reply All: "#97 What Kind of Idiot Gets Phished?"
11. Listener Zelphyr, Saltborn Sovereign "In Defense of Sleep"
    • Reference: "Opinion Overflow #22: "How Do I Find the Right Therapist?""
12. Listener Vodashri, Ruler of the Rustglade Raceway: "Is It Rude to Critique a Fan Fiction Story You Received as a Gift?"

SOMEbody once told me the world is able to submit their favorite questions or questions they may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. What a concept! We could all use a little advice.

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As a sequel to Han and Matt Teach Poly 101, the Know-It-Alls answer six listener questions on the topics of open relationships, ethical nonmonogamy, and polyamory. This time, we're joined by Han's girlfriend Liz as our special guest to help us with this fresh set of tricky relationship questions:

1. Listener Kema, Emissary of the Void: "How Do I Experiment with Dating People Without Feeling Like I'm Misleading Them?"
2. Listener Sonnet: "How Much Should I Tell My Primary Partner About My Romantic Status With My Secondary Partner?"
3. Listener Sarah: "How Do I Find Polyamorous Friends That I Don't Necessarily Want to Date?"
4. Listener Zelphyr, Saltborn Sovereign: "How Do My Partner and I Harmonize Our Different Styles of Non-Monogamy?"
5. Listener Aurora, Dark Huntress: "My Husband Depends on Me and My Boyfriend Financially, but I've Been Contemplating Divorce. What Do I Do?"
6. Listener Uldrek the Resilient: "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?"
7. Bonus: Chris Fleming: "Polyamorous"

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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In this week's Overflow episode, we talk depression, the new leader board achievement badge system, and more! Let's do it!

1. BONUS: Depression!
2. New Listener Leader Board
   • Now featuring achievement badges!
3. Accepting: D&D Character Sheets of Your Fantastical Characters (To Be Added to the Leader Board
   • Example: Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo
   • D&D Character Sheet Creator: Orcpub
4. Dear Prudence: "Help! Is It Ever OK to Catfish Mom?"
   • Radiolab: "Darkode"
5. More Advice for Your Queer AF Wedding
   • Reference: #59: Hannah and Matt Crush on You
6. Other Places to Find Writers from The Toast
   • Nicole Cliffe on Shondaland: "So, Your Kid Found Out About Death"
   • Mallory Ortberg on Vulture: "Star Trek Discovery Recaps"
   • Vulture: "The Bachelor Recap: The Heartless Bachelor"
7. Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way: "Should You Hijack a Friend's Baby Shower to Campaign Against Circumcision?"
   • Carolyn Hax: "A Two-Time Cancer Survivor Now Must Face Her Malignancy-In-Law"

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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Nearly a year later after she was Han and Matt's first ever guest, Alison Green of "Ask a Manager" fame joins the Know-It-Alls again for a Monday episode that's all-work-related questions!

1. Ask a Manager
   • Ask a Manager: "Listen to Episode 1 of the Ask a Manager Podcast"
   • Ask a Manager Podcast on iTunes
   • Ask a Manager on Twitter
   • Hannah and Matt Know It All: "#51: 2017's Best & Worst Advice Questions (Ft. The Bad Advisor)"
   • Ask a Manager: "I Ghosted My Ex, and She's About to Be My New Boss"
   • Ask a Manager: "Update: I Ghosted My Ex, and She's About to Be My New Boss"
2. Ask A Manager: "How Do I Handle My Boss's Toxic Girlfriend?"
3. Ask A Manager: "My Coworker Is Crowdfunding for IVF and Keeps Asking Everyone for Money"
   • Ask a Manager: "Our Boss Will Fire Us If We Don't Sign up to Be a Liver Donor for His Brother"
4. Ask A Manager: "Should Employees Have to Ask for a Raise?"
5. Ask A Manager: "My Coworker Had an Affair with a Colleague's Husband, and Now Is Treating Her Badly at Work"
6. Listener alyTemporalAnom: "What Should I Do About Having Mistakenly Gotten a Message From a Coworker Who Was Trash-Talking Me?"

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 11th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "A Job Application Asked Me to Rank If Torturing a Person Was Worse Than Prostitution"
2. Ask Polly: "Should I Have a Baby?"
3. Ask APW: "Should I Drop My Friend Who Didn't Bring a Wedding Gift?"
4. Dear Prudence: "Am I a Sociopath for Wanting to Have an Affair Even though Everything Is Great in My Marriage?"
5. Carolyn Hax: "A Two-Time Cancer Survivor Now Must Face Her Malignancy-In-Law"
6. Dear Abby: "Unwilling Husband and Father Just Wants a Life to Himself"
   • The Establishment: "Bad Advice On The Etiquette Of Boning Your Daughter's Best Friend"
7. Listener Hetha, Zealous Inquisitor: "How Do I Handle the Queer Aspects of My Wedding With Extended Family Not in the Know?"

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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In this week's Overflow episode, Matt once again flies solo to deliver EVEN MORE THAN EVER inbox gems, including:

1. Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day
   • February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215
2. P.O. Box: Coming Soon?
3. Podcast Problems (Review): "'Hannah and Matt Know It All' A Second Opinion for Advice Columns"
4. Survey Note & Apology
   • Listener Demographics survey for Hannah and Matt Know It All Podcast
5. Listener Katie: "How Do I Cope With My Delusional Boss Who Is Hellbent on Destroying Everything That Is Good in the World?"
6. Mom & Dad Are Fighting
   • Slate advice podcast on parenting
7. Machete Alice Update
8. The Marsh Devil Has a Better Weather Website Plus an Important Reminder
   • Weather Underground
9. Ask a Manager Is Launching a Podcast!!!
   • Submit questions here
10. Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way on Friend Touching
    • Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast
11. "A Lesbian's Positive Experience With Tinder"
12. Gender Neutral Pronoun & Futurama
13. Fantastical Name Pronunciations Since the ASMR Bonus Episode & Shout-Out to Newest Patrons
    • Amelia Grizzlebriar, Ambitious Pupil
    • Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker
    • Basila, Darling Champion
    • Berylglow, Estival Sprite
    • Ezavul, Angel of Mending
    • Jixa, Odious Germinator
    • Kahlmera, Ringleader of The Silkbay Arena
    • Roldizal, Bestiary Curator
    • Selavyn the Bruiser
    • Ursial the Cyclone
14. "Is There Something Better Than Saying 'I'm Sorry' After Others Share Bad News With You?"
15. Rapid Fire Roundup
16. Women With PhDs
    • Solyara's Tweets
17. Ask a Manager Animals Taking Over Home Offices
18. The X-Card

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 4th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Miss Manners: "Looking for a Singular, Gender-Neutral Pronoun"
   • The Bad Advisor: "Bad Advice on Grammar-Policing Gender Neutral Pronouns"
2. Ask a Manager: "My Coworker Responds to All Problems with 'At Least You Don't Have Cancer or an Eating Disorder'"
3. Dear Prudence: "Helping After Harvey"
4. Tough Love: "Can I Keep My Bed Bug-Infested Friend From Coming Over?"
5. Ask Amy: "Sister Struggles with Brother's Demands"
6. r/relationships (Ceddit Link, proceed with caution): "My Table's Dungeon Master [20/30?M] Thinks That I'm [20f] Being Too Sensitive to His Jokes"
   • r/lfg (Looking for Group)
   • Roll 20
7. Listener Riecka the Aeonian: "What Word Should I Use In Place of 'Female'?"
   • Jezebel: "The Problem With Calling Women 'Females'"
8. BONUS: Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day
   • February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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In this week's Overflow episode, Han goes solo to offer their advice on Monday's questions (Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast)!

As a reminder, our first fan meetup event is taking place soon! Details below:

February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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While Han's business trip continued, Matt brought in friends of the pod Lauren Passell and Eric Emch of "PodcastPodcast" fame ("The podcast that talks about how great other podcasts are!") for the Monday episode and tackled entirely advice podcast questions!

1. Lauren and Eric from "PodcastPodcast"
   • PodcastPodcast: "Ep 33 THE Hannah and Matt Are Here!"
   • "Hannah and Matt Adjudicate Bridal Quandaries"
2. Anna Faris is Unqualified: "How Much Should I Share About My Personal Life on My New Podcast"
3. Dear Sugars: "Cutting the Financial Cord"
4. Friendshipping!: "How Do I Ask My Friends for Permission to Platonically Touch Them?"
5. Listener Jane Doe: "I Do Housework for a Family Friend and Don't Want to Walk in on Their Son Masturbating Again. Help?"

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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In this week's Overflow episode, Matt once again flies solo to deliver all (err, quite a few!) of the listener inbox items, including:

1. Patron-Only Minecraft Server!
   • Instructions on how to join
   • All Patrons are welcome to join in on weekly (Wednesday night) Minecraft 101 play sessions with 1 or more of the Know-It-Alls but can play in the server any time
2. Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day
   • February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215
3. Opinion Overflow #27: Listener Feedback for Apin'eht's Workplace Bully Nightmare
   • Ask a Manager: "My Company Won't Fire a Bad Employee!"
   • The Balance: "Learn the Different Types of Harassment in the Workplace"
4. Listener Katie: "How Do I Cope With My Delusional Boss Who Is Hellbent on Destroying Everything That Is Good in the World?"
5. Captain Awkward Is Awesome
   • It Came From The Search Terms: "I Can See The Sun In Late December"
6. New Advice Column
   • Care and Feeding: "What Do I Say to a 13-Year-Old Friend of the Family Who's Madly in Love … With Me?"
7. Finnish Language's Gender Neutral Wonders
8. Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager Has Some Tips For You
   • Captain Awkward's Unwritten Rules
   • Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture
   • Reference: "Hannah and Matt Work From Home"
   • Reference: "Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves"
   • From Away: "Irish Car Bomb Cupcakes Recipe"
9. More Listener Advice for Mother-In-Law's Party Manners
10. Listener Nononono: "How Do I Manage My Mother-in-Law's Bad Food Safety Habits?"
11. Listener Email Roundup

Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to [email protected], anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to [email protected] for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com.

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UPDATE: Listener Jen pointed out to us the problematic origins of the term "Irish Car Bomb" and why it's insensitive to use so cavalierly: "The history of Ireland for the last 100 years has been plagued by civil war, oppression, bitter rivalry in religious and national factions, and pain in the partitioning of the North from the republic of Ireland. During the four decades of the Troubles in the last half of the 20th century, an estimated 3,500 people lost their lives, due in no small part to improvised explosives. More than half of these were civilians. Many were children. Even 20 years following the Good Friday agreement of 1998, the Irish people are still grappling with how to find justice and settle the mysteries of how loved ones died. This is no easy thing to do, and yet as a nation the Republic (whose current events I am more familiar with than the North) are committed to engaging in this painful process with peace, healing, and forgiveness as the ultimate objective."