Han and Matt Know It All

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 27th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Dear Abby: "Hard Work in Gym Pays Off With Arm-Wrestling Triumph"
2. Ask a Manager: "My Coworker Has Started Faking a British Accent"
   • "Bust a Nut" Clip from My Brother, My Brother and Me
3. Dear Mariella: "My Boyfriend Wants Me to See Other People for Romance and Sex"
4. Dear Prudence: "Help! a Senior Colleague Asked Me, the Intern, to Help Translate His Animated Porn."
5. Friendshipping!: "Please Respect My Bedtime"
6. Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?"
7. Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?"
   • Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
8. Correction: Lice Not a Cleanliness Issue
   • Reference: #72: Han and Matt Air Their Grievances
   • Head Lice Facts
9. New Advice Column Alert: CNBC's "Work It out"
   • Jenna Goudreau
10. Shoutout to Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Why Shouldn't I Take The Red Pill?"
11. Shoutout to Nicole Cliffe on Reddit Open Relationships Inevitability
    • Nicole's Tweet
12. Shoutout to Ask a Fuck-Up: "With Special Guest Neko Case"
    • Vice: "Queer Women and the Rise of Passive Online Flirting"
13. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Can I Wear a Backpack With a Suit?"
    • Amazon: "CoolBELL Convertible Backpack Messenger Bag Shoulder bag Laptop Case Handbag Business Briefcase Multi-functional Travel Rucksack Fits 17.3 Inch Laptop For Men/Women (Grey)"
14. Shoutout to Captain Awkward #ThatFuckingGuy on Twitter
    • Captain Awkward's Tweet
    • Captain Awkward's Patreon
    • Ask Dr. NerdLove's Patreon
    • Buffering the Vampire Slayer Patreon
15. Shoutout to Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut's Adorable Cat Thread on Facebook

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 20th, 2018, and beyond, including:

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2. Ask Amy: "Gay Couple Wonders How to Respond to Neighbors' Petty Harassment"
3. Carolyn Hax: "Don't Throw Out the Baby with the Bedbugs"
4. Ask a Manager: "My Boss's Dog Keeps Attacking My Co-Workers"
5. Dear Wendy: "My New Girlfriend Told Me She's Bisexual and I Am Not Ok With It"
6. Y'all Need Help: "Your Potential Throuple Turned Into a Couple and Someone's Feeling Left Behind"
7. The Totally Super True Origin Story of This Week's Sponsor, Sudio
   • Okay, maybe a teensy bit embellished
8. Listener Kelly: "Can I Politely Decline My Stepmother's Tacky Gifts?"
9. Listener Tygora the Unstoppable: "How Do I Get My Coworker to Stop Oversharing?"
10. Update to Step It Up From Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora
    • Reference: #65: Han and Matt Step It Up
    • Shreddies "Anti-Fart" Underwear
    • Also: Subtle Butt (lol)
    • Poo-Pourri (this pun does not stink and neither will your poops!)
11. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Can I ask a new hire to use a nickname since we share the same first name?"
12. Massive Badges Update on the Listener Leader Board
13. GDPR Privacy Policy Update

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 13th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "My Boss Gave All the Women Flowers for Mother's Day"
2. Interpersonal Skills: "How to enforce a "No Shoes" policy in my apartment?"
3. Swipe This!: "How do I get away with refollowing a friend I unfollowed when I was upset?"
4. Sense & Sensitivity: "Friend Might Be Gay"
   • College Humor: "Honest Interracial Date"
5. Let Us Sex-plain: "My Boyfriend Still Has Dating Apps"
6. Listener Kairluma, the Wonder of Haraka: "I'm Wearing a Bridal Party Dress That I Don't Like; Can I Change Into a Different One For the Reception?"
7. Listener The Nameless One: "On Bodies, Weddings, and Chronic Illness (The POWER TRIO)"
8. BONUS: Shoutout to Social Q's: "'It's Not My Fault I'm White.' Sure, but That's Not the Point."
9. BONUS: Shoutout to Alison Green on Dear Wendy: "Five Questions with Alison Green of 'Ask a Manager'"
10. BONUS: Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "The 18-Month Coffee Debate, and Other Stories of Office Coffee Wars"
11. BONUS: Imagine Dragons: "Blank Space/Stand By Me"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we apologize for several missteps, gush over some of the wildest advice column questions this year so far from Ask a Manager and Dan Savage, and much more! Begin your journey here:

1. New Fan Subreddit and Two Fan Spin-Off Facebook Group
   • HaMKIA Has a Subreddit (listener-created)
   • Learn to Know it All: Makeup and Fashion (Facebook, listener-created)
   • Learn to Know All the Self-care: HAMkittens Taking Care of Themselves (Facebook, listener-created)
2. Several Listeners Got the Hated Musical Guess Right Before the Episode Aired
   • Well done! Badges have been awarded.
3. Apology: It's "Indigenous Children" and Not "Native Children"
   • Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork, Asking for a Friend: "We're White. Can We Adopt a Black Child?"
   • Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork, Ask Dr. NerdLove: "My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women"
4. Apology: We Implied that Porn Performers Aren't Real People, Too
5. Apology: Rubius Rascal's Additional Thoughts on Creeper Boyfriend from Dr. NerdLove
   • Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork, Ask Dr. NerdLove: "My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women"
6. Apology: Insensitivity on Topic of Menstruation and Maxi Pads and Transwomen
   • Reference: #68: Han and Matt and Alison Know It All, Ask a Manager: "I got written up because my coworker saw maxi pads in my car"
7. Ask a Manager: "My Dad Is Dating My Boss, and They Want Me to Go to Couples Therapy with Them"
   • Captain Awkward's Take
8. This Question Got Answered on FOUR Advice Columns
   • Dear Prudence (April 12th)
   • Dear Kiki (May 3rd)
   • Dear Wendy (May 4th)
   • Ask Amy (May 11th)
9. Transracial Adoption: Nicole Chung Has Many Words
   • Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork, Asking for a Friend: "We're White. Can We Adopt a Black Child?"
   • Catapult's Adopted Series
   • "All You Can Ever Know" (Book Pre-order) by Nicole Chung
   • Nicole Chung on Twitter
10. Savage Love: "Gay Trump Voter: No One Will Fuck Me!"
    • Savage Love: "Reader to Gay Trump Voter: May You Die Alone and Unloved in the Filthiest Unregulated Roach-Infested Nursing Home Because the GOP Defunded the Medicaid Program That Pays for It"
11. More Advice for Listener Stuck
    • Reference: The Critically Acclaimed Musical That We Hate | Opinion Overflow #38
    • Aephe, Stout Battlemage Helped on Facebook, Too!
12. Hamilton Playlist Suggestion
    • Check LMM's Hamilton Annotations on Genius for all of the classic rap references and create a playlist
13. Listener Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo: "Should I Get a Cat?"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 6th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "My Coworker Has a Podcast About Sex"
2. Ask Dr. NerdLove: "My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women"
3. Asking for a Friend: "We're White. Can We Adopt a Black Child?"
   • NPR: "Incentives And Cultural Bias Fuel Foster System"
4. Dear Abby: "Couple Disagrees On Etiquette Of Curating Their Bathroom Art"
   • Time: "Immersions (Piss Christ)"
   • My Brother, My Brother and Me (fan video): "play with me!"
5. r/relationships: "I (28f) found out my husband (28m) is getting 3 expensive, sugary coffee drinks a day. Me approaching him caused an angry tirade about how I ruined his life. How to recover from this?"
   • Parks and Recreation (Complex list): "Entertainment 720"
6. Ask APW: "Is It Un-Feminist to Want to Lose Weight for My Wedding?"
7. Listener Heather: "Help! Is Being Polyamorous Making Me Attractive to Creeps?"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we FINALLY reveal the critically acclaimed musical that we hate, one year later after this bit has overstayed its welcome at least 10-times over. But! To make up for our (Matt's) shenanigans, we're also covering three listener questions! Let's do the thing:

1. The Top Five Incorrect Guesses
   • #5. Les Mis
   • #4. Wicked
   • #3. Rent
     • Lindsay Ellis: "RENT - Look Pretty and Do As Little as Possible: A Video Essay"
   • #2. Avenue Q
   • #1. Dear Evan Hansen
2. The Musical That We Hate...
   • Book of Mormon!
   • Some good reading about it in the comments of this AAM question
3. Final Correct Musical Guesses This Week
   • Listener Heldraga the Unseen
   • Listener Lady Margella III, Commander of the Thunderpearl Airship
4. Lady Margella Recommends Head Over Heels
5. Arkyn the Enduring: "How Do I Suggest to My Mom That Her Diet-Resistant Gut Issues Might Be Anxiety?"
6. Thessafre Goldwing, Nature's Fury: "Was I Wrong to Call Out My Upstairs Neighbor For Their Noisiness?"
7. Stuck: "How Do I Stop Feeling Like a Failure and a Burden?"

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Han and Matt take a trip down sexy memory lane for episode #69 and replay the top 5 sexiest hits, including:

1. #5) Listener Uldrek the Resilient: "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?"
   • Reference: #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!)
2. #4) Captain Awkward: "Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?"
   • Reference: #1: Hannah and Matt Set Some Boundaries
3. #3) Dear Prudence: "42 Pearls and Counting"
   • Reference: Opinion Overflow #2: Opinion Overflow #2: "Are Hannah and Matt Too Obsessed with Dear Prudence?"
4. #2) Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me?"
   • Reference: #25: Hannah and Matt Fight Rape Culture
5. #1) Dear Sugars: "Is There Such a Thing as Wanting Too Much Sex?"
   • Reference: #48: Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances

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In this week's Overflow episode, we talk about Broadway musicals, Daniel Mallory Ortberg's new look, new advice columns, trans-antagonistic family members, and more! Here we go:

1. Final Week to Guess the Critically Acclaimed Musical We Hate!
2. Correct Musical Guesses This Week
   • Listener The Quantum Feline
   • Listener Raal'tuc, Vexing Archfiend
3. BroadwayADay App
   • For alerts on entering Broadway lotteries
4. Facebook topics now have tags!
5. Daniel Mallory Ortberg's Dear Prudence Photo Update
6. Advice Column Alert: Stack Overflow's 'Interpersonal Skills'
   • Stack Overflow: "Can we be game master as a couple?"
7. Dame Magazine Advice Column Ft. Ashley Nicole Black
   • Help choose a name on Twitter
8. Miss Manners' Take on 'Must jilted bride pay for guests' expenses?'
   • Reference: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
9. "Strength-Based Thinking" Tips From Listener Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut
   • Reference: Han and Matt Step It Up
10. More Advice for Friends Who Want to Hug
    • Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast
11. Update on Walking In on the Masturbating Teenage Boy
    • Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast
12. Listener Druvaali, The Great Deity of Melodies: "Should I Confront My Trans Antagonistic Sister?"

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Han and Matt are joined again by Alison Green of Ask a Manager fame on the Monday episode to talk about Alison's upcoming book (out TOMORROW!), re-discuss some recent Ask a Manager questions, and tackle questions of various topics from around the web:

1. Sponsor: Sudio, maker of stylish headphones! Use discount code "KNOWITALL" at checkout for 15% off your order.
2. Alison Green
   • Ask a Manager Book
   • Direct Report on Slate
   • Ask a Manager on Twitter
   • Alison's previous Han and Matt guest spots:
     • #13: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager
     • #23: Hannah and Matt Summon Alison Green
     • #60: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager II: The Speakquel
3. Ask a Manager: "I got written up because my coworker saw maxi pads in my car"
4. Ask a Manager: "I'm required to take two weeks off and I don't want to"
5. Dear Prudence: "How Do I Prevent My Coworker From Pranking Me Again?" (AKA 'Confused')
6. r/relationships: "Girlfriend of 2 years (28f) replaced all my (28m) old books with new copies, angry doesn't begin to describe how I feel"
7. Ask APW: "Will My Bachelorette Party Be Awkward Since I Have No Friends?"
8. Listener Christine: "My neighbor's dog's toy is LOUD. Is it petty to complain?"

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Han and Matt interviewed the extremely qualified Kristin Russo for the Monday episode and tackled listener queeries on bisexuality, asexuality, presenting queer, and more!:

1. Kristin Russo
   • My Kid Is Gay
   • Everyone Is Gay
   • Kristin on Autostraddle
   • Buffering the Vampire Slayer
   • Kristin on Twitter
   • We Exist Beyond the Binary
2. Listener Simon, Leaver of Expensive Thermoses on Public Transit: "How Do I Respond to People Who Are Hellbent on Erasing My Bi Identity?"
3. Listener The Invisible Bi: "How Do I Dress Queer So That My Bisexuality Isn't Invisible?"
4. Listener Decidedly Anonymous: "Who Should I Come Out to In My Family, and How?"
5. Listener Ursial the Cyclone: "How Do I Come Out as Asexual and Aromantic to My Mother, Who Wants Grandkids?"
   • PBS' First Person on Asexuality
6. Listener Pissed Off Trans Lesbian: "Should I Invite My Probably Transphobic Uncle to My Wedding?"
7. Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner: "What's the Best Non-Gendered Honorific to Use When Addressing Strangers?"
8. BONUS: 'Assigned Male' Comic: A Trans Resource
9. BONUS 2: 'Questionable Content' Comic

Additionally: there will be a Patreon-only bonus question featuring Kristin Russo that was sent to us by Listener Ezavul, Angel of Mending: "How Do I Explain What Nonbinary Gender Is to My Very Catholic Parents?"

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