Han and Matt Know It All

In this week's Overflow episode, we talk about highlights from the Facebook group, updates from listeners, managing worrying roommates, and remember all of the advice column questions that got away. Let's get to it:

1. Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition
   • Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM
   • The Library Bar in Manhattan
   • 7 Avenue A
   • New York, New York 10009
   • Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group
2. Nobody Guessed The Critically Acclaimed Musical We Hate Correctly This Week
   • We're revealing the answer on the podcast on May 11th!
3. Matt's Billion Second Birthday
   • Billion Birthday Calculator
4. Thoughts on Reading More
   • How to Win at Feminism by Feministing
   • Asking for a Friend by Jessica Weisberg
   • The Merry Spinster by Mallory Ortberg
5. Word Crossy Is a Rip-Off of Wordscapes
   • Get the original here: iTunes & Google Play
6. Islam & Judaism Q&As in the Facebook Group
   • Han and Matt Know It All on Facebook
7. This Week's Pun
8. Listener Zelphyr, Saltborn Sovereign Update
   • Reference: "#61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!)"
   • "How Do My Partner and I Harmonize Our Different Styles of Non-Monogamy?"
9. Listener Arunyra, Healer of the Silkland Wealds: "How Can I Better Manage My Conversations With My Ever-Worried Roommate?"
10. "The Requests That Got Away" In Memoriam
    • Ask a Manager: "Is voluminous, curly hair unprofessional?"
    • Ask a Manager: "What are the rules for talking about social gatherings around people who weren't invited?"
    • Ask Amy: "My Husband's Family Contacts Me About Gifts and Get-Togethers. Why Won't They Ask Him?"
    • Ask Amy: "Should Grandkids Without Vaccinations Come to Holiday Party?"
    • Ask Amy: "Woman Wants Ring to Become Virginity Protector"
    • Ask Ellie: "Taking care of my kids is exhausting. Is this my life now?"
    • Ask Gigi: "What Do I Do About Pain During Sex?"
    • Captain Awkward: "My new coworkers are super-weird about potlucks and I don't like the patriarchy."
    • Care and Feeding: "Wayward Status Update"
    • Carolyn Hax: "Groom's mother bridles at wedding plans"
    • Carolyn Hax: "If you're angry about how an angry friend brought up your anger . . ."
    • Dear Mariella: "Will my girlfriend stop loving me if I earn less than her?"
    • Dear Prudence: "Am I Being Abusive to My Husband?"
    • Dear Prudence: "Feel like Pepe Le Pew"
    • Dear Prudence: "Help! My Dentist Kissed Me Twice on the Forehead."
    • Dear Prudence: "I'm keeping my baby"
    • Dear Prudence: "Leaving in a Blaze of Glory"
    • Dear Prudence: "My co-workers make fun of trust-fund babies. They don't know I am one."
    • Dear Prudence: "Our Kids Watched Sound of Music but Didn't Know What Nuns Are"
    • Dear Prudence: "Should I mention abuse in a Ph.D. application?"
    • Dear Prudence: "When the wrong friend gets you in their divorce"
    • Dear Prudence: "Help! My Future Mother-in-Law Is Calling Me 30 to 50 Times a Day About My Wedding Dress."
    • Dear Wendy: "Parents Don't Want me to Share a Room at My Sibling's Destination Wedding"
    • Miss Manners: "Helpful Host Turns Hurtful"
    • Miss Manners: "Sorry: Houseguest Outranks Housecat"
    • r/relationships: "Me [21F] with my best friend/housemate [22F] of nearly 2 years, she thinks my cat is hers/ours"
    • r/relationships: "My [27F] boyfriend [30M] is upset with me after I slept with someone else, on agreed terms, as part of an open relationship."
    • Savage Love: "Wife Is So Hot Over The Knee"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 8th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Dear Money Mom: "My Degree Is Worthless and I Can't Make Enough Money"
2. Dear Prudence: "Disgraced Professor"
   • College Humor: "Did You Know We Work with a Sex Demon? | Hardly Working"
3. Ask Erin: "Should I Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice? Please Advise."
4. Captain Awkward: "Oops, just figured out I'm polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child."
5. Carolyn Hax: "Sabotaging your brother's relationship — what would Dr. Lecter say?"
6. Listener Ludatha, the Fancy Knifer: "How Do I Confront My Friend About Her Evil Stepmother Tendencies?"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we share so much news about the advice column world, talk follow-ups and updates from fellow know-it-alls, and get into getting yourself ready for a new, (ostensibly) less abusive workplace. Let's do the thing:

1. Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition
   • Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM
   • The Library Bar in Manhattan
   • 7 Avenue A
   • New York, New York 10009
   • Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group
2. More Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate In One Try
   • We're revealing the answer on the podcast on May 11th!
3. Thank you for all the P.O. Box love
   • Pictures on Twitter!
4. Advice Column World News
   • New Advice Column: Dear Therapist
   • New Subreddit: r/malementalhealth
   • Digg is Rounding Up the Best Advice Column Questions Each Week
   • Ask a Manager: "What Are the Strangest Things You've Ever Seen on a Resume?"
   • Ask a Manager: "I talked with Captain Awkward on the Ask a Manager podcast"
   • Brackify: Ultimate Hate Read Bracket for Advice Columns
   • Asking for a Friend Book by Jessica Weisberg
5. Child Protective Services Follow-Ups
   • Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
   • The New Yorker: "When Should a Child Be Taken from His Parents?" The Nation: "Has Child Protective Services Gone Too Far"
   • The Atlantic: "Working Mom Arrested for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Alone at Park"
   • ABC News: "Utah passes 'free-range parenting' law, allowing kids to do some things without parental supervision" (Facebook Group Discussion)
6. Ex-Boss Sending Sex Toys Follow-Ups
   • Reference: #63: Han and Matt Lose Their Mind
7. Pinning a Toddler's Ears Follow-Ups
   • Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
8. Vitamin D Is Magic
   • Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
   • https://www.crohnsandcolitis.org.uk/news/research-study-vitamin-d-and-ibd
   • https://crohnsdisease.com/nutrition/vitamin-d-ibd-link/
   • https://academic.oup.com/ecco-jcc/article/6/4/397/425715
   • https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC511449/
9. "Terrible horrible pun" from Listener Dyra, Astral Regent
10. Lister Tamisril, Desolater of the Bezirh Highlands Update
    • Reference: #62: Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant
11. Listener Marynida, the Prized Mermaid of Silvershore Seaport Update
    • Reference: Opinion Overflow #32: "How Do I Stop Procrastinating Doing My Taxes?"
12. Listener Zelda Ambershine, Siren Lyricist Update
    • Reference: #47: Hannah and Matt Herald Sarah Knight
13. Know-It-All Badges to Be Awarded
    • Email Address Typo on the Listener Hub Page
    • Old Tumblr Links Redirecting to Spam Site
    • Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist's Pet Pictures Were Not Lightboxabale
    • Don't Use the Word 'Tribe' to Describe Your People
      • Native Appropriations: "The Privilege of the Yay Life Tribe"
14. Listener Hillary: "How Do You Set Yourself Up for Success When Starting a New Job?"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 1st, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Captain Awkward: "When people want you to do complicated & unethical things, it's okay to say no!"
   • Fast Five Vault Switch Scene
2. Ask a Fuck Up: "Can People Change?"
3. Ask Polly: "I Love My Boyfriend, But I Can't Stop Cheating!"
   • How to Win at Feminism by Reductress
4. Dear Prudence: "How Do I Talk to a Loud Co-Worker?"
5. Ask a Manager: "A Co-worker Left Me an Anonymous Note … and a Pacifier"
   • Ask a Manager: "I interviewed Gretchen Rubin about happiness and work"
   • Zack Toscani on Twitter: Shrimp Lunch Thread
6. Ask Amy: "Cat Has First Dibs on the Buffet"
   • #43: Hannah and Matt Commemorate October's Gems
   • Opinion Overflow #27: "My Mother-In-Law Is Trying to Kill Me and My Child Maybe?"
7. Listener Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora: "How Do I Ask My Partner to Step It Up When Their Depression Is Worse Than Mine Right Now But I'm Still Majorly Struggling?"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we share listener tips on overcoming tabletop RPG anxiety in a follow-up to Opinion Overflow #33: "How Do I Get Over My Anxiety About Role Playing?":

1. Listener Lady Margella III, Commander of the Thunderpearl Airship's Update
2. Listener Rhianna's Tips
3. Listener Empusaria the Devourer's Tips
4. Listener Ursial the Cyclone's Tips
5. Listener Athamus, Satanic Harvester's Tips
6. Listener Solyara, Queen of the Mist Wants to Help
7. Listener Keldira, Arboreal Raider's Many Thoughts
8. Listener Amariel, Scheming Orator's Game Recommendation
   • Hanabi

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 18th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Bonus: Vitamin D Deficiency Discussion
   • DocASAP: Consider getting an annual physical or check-up with a doctor ASAP if you haven't yet this year
2. Sense and Sensitivity: "My Daughter Has Big Ears"
   • Use #FellowKnowItAll to weigh in on this on social media!
3. r/parenting: "12 year old daughter forces 17 year old son out of the closet."
4. Care and Feeding: "My Stepsons Won't Stop Trolling Me"
5. Ask a Manager: "Someone I've Known for Years Lied to Get Me to Hire Someone Terrible She Wanted to Get Rid Of"
6. Carolyn Hax: "Carolyn Hax: Fiance Ran off with Another Woman; Wedding Invitees Demand Refunds"
7. Dear Prudence: "Good Fences Make Good Neighbors"
8. Listener KittenSunshineBubble: "What Do I Tell People Who Keep Wrongly Assuming I'm Pregnant?"
9. Listener Not Okay: "How Do I Safely Stop My Building's Super From Sexually Harassing Me?"
   • NY Employment Lawyer Blog: "Sexual Harassment by Building Superintendent leads to Multi-Million Dollar Settlement"
   • HUD: "Fair Housing-It's Your Right"
   • U.S. Department of Justice: "Sexual Harassment in Housing Initiative"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we announce our Spring meetup, we make some corrections, we share some resources and laughs, update an old Reddit question, and SO MUCH MORE (seriously, look at all of those links)! Come play with us:

1. Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition
   • Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM
   • The Library Bar in Manhattan
   • 7 Avenue A
   • New York, New York 10009
   • Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group
2. More Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate In One Try
3. Pomodoro Technique For Productiveness
   • Lifehacker: "Productivity 101: A Primer to The Pomodoro Technique"
4. Correction and Resources for White Allies
   • Medium: "White people, stop asking us to educate you about racism"
   • Medium: "The Other Side of Diversity"
   • Upworthy: "What people of color feel when you say their anger isn't justified."
5. Dear Prudence's Daniel Mallory Ortberg's New Book and Digital Press Tour
   • "The Merry Spinster"
   • The Cut: "'Mallory Is Not Gone': Daniel Mallory Ortberg on Coming Out As Trans"
   • Literary Hub: "Mallory Ortberg: 'Experiencing the Joy of Transitioning Feels Really Powerful'"
   • Tor: "Help! I Can't Let Firefly Go! And Other Advice for Nerd Problems"
6. New Advice Column: Ask a Fuck Up on The Outline
7. New-Ish Advice Column: Ask the Salty Waitress on The Takeout
8. Listener Muzrona, Chieftain of the Garnet Clan Warns About Religious Discrimination
   • Reference: "Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant"
9. Another Reason to Do Your Taxes RIGHT NOW
   • IRS: "Taxpayer Guide to Identity Theft"
   • ITRC: "The Importance of Filing Taxes Early"
10. Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager Has More Tips for Procrastinators
    • Unfuck Your Habit
    • Sarah Knight's 'No Fucks Given' Books
11. Listener Sonnet Has an Update!
    • Reference: "Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!)"
12. Update to a Reddit Question Discussed in Episode #24
    • Reference: "#24: Hannah and Matt Flirt With Guests"
    • Original: Reddit: "Me (25F), the inadvertant cause of dramas at the wedding of my boyfriend's sister (23F) tearing his family apart."
    • Update
13. Listener The Nameless One Is This Week's Points Earning Machine
14. Listener Lady Margella III, Commander of the Thunderpearl Airship: "Anxiety Over Role-Playing (No, Not That Kind)"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 11th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Dear Harriette: "Reader Wants to Report Neighbors"
   • CNN: "Why Undocumented Immigrants Pay Taxes"
2. Carolyn Hax: "My Sister Can Date Whomever She Likes. Except Him. or Him. or Him."
3. Dear Jane: "My Old Boss Sent Me a Douche and I Don't Know How I Feel About It"
4. Ask APW: "Is It Sexist That My In-Laws Expect MY Parents to Bankroll Our Wedding?"
5. Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Spend Less Time With His Mom?"
6. Ask a Manager: "Our Employee Is Taking Nude Photos in Our Office and Posting Them to Facebook"
7. Listener Kitty: "How Do I Ghost on My Broken Record Friend?"

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In this week's Overflow episode, we introduce new badges, make an exception on catfishing, help you do your taxes (sort of!), and much more! Let's begin:

1. We Have a 5 New Badges!
   • Listener Leader Board
   • Fellowship
   • The Artiste
   • A Helping Hand
   • Heart & Parcel
   • 100% Royalty
2. Listener Chaniko Who Lights the Way Is a Badge-Earning Machine
   • The Peace of Wild Things
3. Listener Solyara, Queen of the Mists Catfished Her Husband
   • Reference: Opinion Overflow #30: "Should You Hijack a Friend's Baby Shower to Campaign Against Circumcision?"
4. Listener Tamisril, Desolater of the Bezirh Highlands Has Lawyerly Thoughts
   • Reference: #52: Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel
   • "When the lawyer has not regularly represented the client, the basis or rate of the fee shall be communicated to the client, in writing, before or within a reasonable time after commencing the representation."
   • Pa. RPC 1.5(b)
5. Two Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate
   • Listener Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo
   • Listener Remira Trouble Seeker
6. Listener Ursial the Cyclone Made a D&D Character Sheet for His Fantastical Name
7. Listener Tavi, Heart of the Stars Gives Us the Source on 'Hatpin Panic'
   • Reference: #59: Hannah and Matt Crush on You
8. Listener Saphra, Conjurer of Feasts Has Thoughts On Apologies (Patron Bonus Clip Only!)
9. Listener Rubius Rascal, the Amaretto Tastemaker of Keystone Monastery Gets Points
10. Listener Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker Shares Insights About ADHD
    • Reference: #62: Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant
    • Dear Prudence: "I'm Tired of Being My Boyfriend's Mother. Help!"
11. Listener Anne, Defender of Willow Has Thoughts on Becoming a Parent and Some Laughs
    1. Daily Mail: "Parenting Test"
    2. Evil Overlord List
12. Listener Marynida, The Prized Mermaid of Silvershore Seaport: "How Do I Stop Procrastinating Doing My Taxes?"
    • http://www.psychceu.com

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 4th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask APW: "My Best Friend Just Un-Invited My Husband to Her Destination Wedding"
2. Dear Prudence: "I'm Tired of Being My Boyfriend's Mother. Help!"
3. Ask Amy: "Cat at Root of Couple's Issues"
4. Ask A Manager: "Was I Wrong to Call Out My Coworker for Using the Word 'Fight' In Her Cancer Struggle?"
   • 1st Comment, from 'suspension retention'
5. Ask Annalisa Barbieri: "My Boyfriend Kissed Another Man: Does That Mean He's Gay?"
6. Sexual Healing: "My Girlfriend Masturbates After We Have Sex. Why?"
7. Carolyn Hax: "A Poisoned Relationship"
8. Listener Tamisril, Desolater of the Bezirh Highlands: "My Assistant Stopped Talking to Me as Soon as She Realized I'm Hella Queer!"

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