Han and Matt Know It All

Han and Matt tackle questions entirely from listeners in this special episode, including:

1. Listener The Blissful Nether Lich: "Where Do We Draw the Line for Throwing Out the Whole Historical Figure?"
   • New York Times: "Prestigious Laura Ingalls Wilder Award Renamed Over Racial Insensitivity"
   • Slate: "The Far Right's Pedophilia Smear Campaign Is Working"
   • Ravishly: "How To Love Something And Also Hold It Accountable, From My Favorite Murder's Biggest Fan"
   • Wil Williams on Parasocial Relationships
2. Listener The Awful Anaconda: "I Work With a Known Predator and No One Will Kick the Motherfucker Out"
   • New York Times: "Catholic Priests Abused 1,000 Children in Pennsylvania, Report Says"
3. Listener Sorrowfang: "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?"
4. Listener The Electric Bone Scorpion: "My Sister Won't Tell Me Whether or Not She's Coming to my Wedding"
5. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
6. Listener The Bronze Leviathan: "How Do I Deflect Getting Asked How Old I Am All the Dang Time?"
7. Wedding Pronoun Advice from Lephra, Master Manipulator
   • Reference: #81: Han and Matt Double the Fury: "How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable?"
8. Killing Kittens
   • Business Insider: "£5 million sex party company Killing Kittens is crowdfunding, raised over £500,000"
   • Killing Kittens
   • Your Safe Date
9. Shoutout to AutoStraddle: "Getting In Bed With Kristin: AMA for Everyone!"
   • Be An Autostraddle Plus Member
10. Advice Column Alert: "Ask a Pot Doc" on Merry Jane
    • "Using Cannabinoids to Treat Anxiety, Pain, and Multiple Sclerosis"
11. NPR: "A 94-Year-Old 'Sexpert' Gives India Advice On You Know What"

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When Han and Matt are away, the kitties are at play! Seven INCREDIBLE listeners banded together and recorded a parody episode of the show from the perspective of our cats, Mad-Eye Moody and Shadowcat, and the results are spot-on and utterly delightful. Here it is for all to share in our delight!

Credit to:

• Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora
• Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut
• Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer
• Maewyn the Lacerator
• Princess Silentstrike
• Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker
• Ezavul, Angel of Mending

They even put together a Playbill with credits and cat pics!

10/10, would be parodied again.

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 29th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask APW: "How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable?"
   • Queer Eye: "Sky's the Limit"
2. Captain Awkward: "'When I told you my marriage is over, it wasn't an invitation for advice on how to fix it.' + Summer Pledge Drive continues"
3. Dear Prudence: "Is This Abuse or Just Lack of Sleep?"
4. Ask a Manager: "my coworker brings her five kids to our work meetings"
5. Baggage Check: "How do I get my sister to stop sharing my life story on her podcast?"
6. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
7. Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat: "So, Is Gender Just a Measure of How Closely One Aligns With Gendered Stereotypes or What Exactly?"
8. Listener Update and Question from Sonnet: "My Friend's Fiance is a Bit of a Jeffrey and I Don't Know How to Politely Explain Why I Can't Hang Out With Them Anymore"
   • Reference: #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102: "How Much Should I Tell My Partner About My Romantic Status With My Secondary Partner?"
9. Listener Update from Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer
   • Reference: #73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?"
10. Listener Kavura, Illustrious Mariner: "What Are the Ethical Considerations for Donating Blood?"
    • Red Cross: "LGBTQ Donors"
    • Future of Personal Health: "The Far-Reaching Benefits of Donating Platelets"
11. Shoutout to Dear Fifi: "Is my generation doomed to be miserable?"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 22nd, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Matt Notes (Skip 5 minutes ahead if the below is not interesting to you!)
   • Fantastical names: Are a Patron-Only perk going forward
   • Leader Board: Will be retired on August 31st
   • Emails: Can no longer all be responded to due to volume
2. Asking for a Friend: "My Houseguest Was a Brocialist Jerk. How Should I Respond?"
3. Dear Wendy: "My New Boyfriend is Mad That My Male Roommates See Me Naked"
4. Carolyn Hax: "When a friend talks down to you, should you speak up to her?"
5. Baggage Check: "A friendship on the critical list?"
6. Miss Manners: "In-laws can't seem to leave the camo at home"
7. Dear Prudence: "My Best Friend's Son Is Stalking My Daughter—and My Friend Calls It Puppy Love"
8. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
9. Listener Norgowyn, Doomsayer of The Night's Fall: "How Do I Let My Friends and Family Know That My Moving Away Has Nothing to do With Them?"
10. Shoutout to MBMBaM 416: "How Do I Respond to People Who Ask 'Is This a Sex Thing' About my Polyamorous Relationships?"
11. Shoutout to Dear Harriette: "I'm Tired of People Telling Me How Much Better I Look Now That I've Lost Weight"
12. Shoutout to Vice: "Labeling People Video Game 'Addicts' Could Be a Massive Mistake"
13. Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Guest Post by Leah Chibe: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News"
14. Hollywood: "Natalie Portman in talks to play warring twin sisters in advice columnist biopic"
15. Advice Column Alert: "Queer Abby" on INTO
    • Queer Abby: "Am I Bi or Pansexual?"
16. Advice Column Alert: "Dear Pepper" on The New Yorker
    • Dear Pepper: "A Partner's Ex, Feeling Smothered, and Bad Feminism"
17. Advice Column Alert: "Ask the Astro Poets" on W Magazine
    • Ask the Astro Poets: "Am I the Only Nerdy Leo Out There?"
18. Advice Column Alert: "Dear Graham Norton" on The Telegraph
19. Advice Column Alert: "Hola Papi!" on Them.us
    • Hola Papi!: "Is My Cousin a Closet Homophobe?"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 15th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Do I Need To Fire My Friend?"
   • Susan Fowler: "Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber"
   • Refinery29: "Feminist Apparel CEO Fires Entire Staff After They Learn He's An Admitted Sexual Abuser"
   • Daily Beast: "Ousted Billboard CEO John Amato Being Probed for Sexual Misconduct"
   • The Cut: "Thinx Ex-Employee Accuses Miki Agrawal of Sexual Harassment"
   • NY Mag: "Vice Media Was Built on a Bluff"
2. Savage Love: "Her Husband Demanded a Monogamous Commitment but Describes Their Marriage As Open"
   • Jhumpa Lahiri: A Temporary Matter (from Interpreter of Maladies)
3. Savage Love: "Learning To Trust Again After a Monogamish Relationship Blows Up"
4. Ask a Manager: "my child-free coworkers constantly complain about people with children"
5. Dear Fuck-Up: "My boyfriend can't manage his 'anxiety'"
6. Dear Abby: "Hurt Turns To Anger As Video Games Consume Boyfriend"
   • Ask Ellie: "Video games are taking over my son's life"
7. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
8. Listener Update from "When to Throw Out the Whole Sister?"
   • Reference: When to Throw out the Whole Sister | Opinion Overflow #37
9. Shoutout to Baggage Check: "I'm not happy with the way I look, so please stop asking me to be in your selfies"
10. Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Rule Explainer: Why We Don't Diagnose People Through The Internet"
11. Shoutout to Y'all Need Help: "How to be More Assertive (or When to Clap Back at Men)"
12. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Should I organize an all-men beach weekend for my coworkers?"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 8th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Listener Meetup in DC
   • Saturday, July 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM
   • Penn Social
   • 801 E St NW, Washington, District of Columbia 20004
2. Han and Matt on the Ask a Manager Podcast
3. Ask Amy: "Family friend is shocked by woman's film career"
4. Ask APW: "What Do You Do When Your Husband Isn't Your Biggest Fan?"
5. Dear Dharma: "Are We Sending Mixed Messages on Equality?"
6. Dear Abby: "Crush On Married Boss Causes Heartache Every Day For Worker"
7. Dear Wendy: "My Boyfriend Wants to Open Our Relationship But I Don't Want To"
8. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
9. Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "#1123: Blanket statement: DONT FUCK YOUR STUDENTS"
10. Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "Parents offer racist undermining advice about her dream to adopt"
11. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "should I give my boss a heads-up about my half-sleeve tattoo"
    • Karen Glass Instagram
12. Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Woman's #MeToo moments lead to despair"
13. Listener Victoria Recommends Door Guardian for Home Security
    • Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
14. Listener Melanie's Thoughts About Pinning Toddler's Ears Back
    • Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
15. Listener Meghan Relates Strongly to the Ethicist Letter Writer from Last Episode
    • Reference: #77: Han and Matt Agree to Disagree
16. Listener Alexis Has Thoughts On Friend Hugging#77: Han and Matt
    • Reference #57: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 1st, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Sense & Sensitivity: "A Very Talkative Friend Now Rides the Same Morning Train As Me And I Just Want My Quiet Time Back"
2. Judge John Hodgman: "Singing Along to 'Hamilton' — at 'Hamilton'"
3. Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Keep My Wedding Off Social Media?"
4. Ask APW: "I Want My Friends To Be More Excited About My Polyamorous Engagement"
5. Ask Amy: "Expectant parents want to avoid gender stereotypes"
   • Take Gender Forward
6. The Ethicist: "Must I Honor My Dad's Gifts to Political Groups?"
7. Ask a Queer Chick: "Should I Shave My Legs So My Husband Is Attracted to Me?"
8. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
9. Listener Mortified: "My Very Conservative Roommates Caught Me Sexting and I Don't Know What To Do"
10. Shoutout to Savage Love: "The World Is on Fire but He Has a Question About Porn"
11. Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "Want to make sexism obsolete? Start with the kids."
12. Shoutout to RadioWest: "Asking For A Friend"
13. Shoutout to Chicago Tribune's Write-Up of the New Play About Ann Landers, 'The Lady with All the Answers'
14. Shoutout to Social Q's: "Let's Not Talk About That"
15. Advice Column Alert: "Transplaining" on Mic
16. Advice Column Alert: "Ask an Addict" "I write this column because of my shame"
17. Advice Column Alert: "Dear Fifi" on The Daily Edge

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 17th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Carolyn Hax: "You have PTSD because you were abused. Don't beat yourself up."
2. Ask a Manager: "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs at every meeting"
3. Dear Fuck-Up: "How do you live when everything sucks?"
4. Savage Love: "His Wife Has Two Boyfriends and He's Got Squat"
   • Politico: "Young Trumpies Hit D.C."
5. Care and Feeding: "My Kid Doesn't Want to Volunteer. Is She Hopelessly Selfish?"
   • #FellowKnowItAll Question: What do you think?
6. Listener Lori: "Red Cross Is Guilt Tripping Me and I May Have Crossed a Line"
7. Shoutout to You Need Help: "You're Not Sure If You're a Boy and Gender Is Hard"
   • The Nib: "Am I Queer Enough?"
8. Shout-out to Ask Amy: "Jogger wonders how to respond to street harassment"
9. Advice Column Alert: "Advice From A Nice Girl" on Refinery29
10. Happy Story About Polyamorous Relationship in the News
11. Remira, Trouble Seeker's Thought on Friends' Mental Health
    • Reference: #73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. On Bodily Autonomy:
   • Dear Jennifer: "My perfect girlfriend insists on getting breast implants"
   • Sense & Sensitivity: "I'm concerned about teenage daughters posting model shots on Instagram"
   • Ask Amy: "Girl pressed for nude photo should wear T-shirt instead"
2. Ask Ellie: "I don't feel bad enough to end the affair I'm having"
3. Savage Love: "Guy Alarmed, Yeah, By Younger Boyfriend's Interest"
4. Ask a Manager: "my coworker interrupts my work to ask why I look so serious"
5. r/relationships: "I'm [24 F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?"
6. Listener Apin'eht, Thorny Duelist: Sadistic Work Bully Update and How to Leave a Job Review Without Burning Bridges
   • Reference: Opinion Overflow #24: "How Do I Deal with a Sadistic Work Bully?"
7. Kairluma, the Wonder of Haraka: Pink Bridesmaid Wedding Dress Update
   • Reference: #71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps
8. Advice Column Alert: "Baggage Check" on Washington Post
   • Baggage Check: "Is My Therapist Slut-Shaming Me?"
9. Shoutout to Carolyn Hax & Ask Amy: "How to show solidarity with a recovering alcoholic"
10. Shoutout to Is It Normal?: "My son wants to wear dresses and I'm scared for him"
11. Shoutout to Ask Dotty: "How do I make my partner shut up while I'm watching my shows?"
12. Social Q's Turns 10: Philip Reflects (CW: Suicide)

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 3rd, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Captain Awkward: "Dudebro won't stop bugging me about another dudebro. I JUST WANNA DO MY JOB."
2. Ask APW: "What Can I Do About A Partner Who Isn't Excited To Marry Me?"
3. Carolyn Hax: "Mocking Yourself Isn't an Invitation for Others to Pile On"
4. Dear Fuck-Up: "I Don't Think My Friend's Chronic Illness Is Real"
   • Washington Post: "Dangerous unproven treatments for 'chronic Lyme disease' are on the rise"
5. Shout-Out to Ask a Manager: "My Coworkers Keep Trying to Find out What My Chronic Illness Is"
6. Ask a Manager: "Someone Spends an Hour a Day Putting on Makeup in Our Shared Bathroom"
7. NOTE: Content Warning (Suicide and Domestic Abuse) from 37.01 through 54.04)
8. Listener The Anonymous One: "My Online Friend Might Need Mental Health Intervention And I Don't Know What To Do"
9. Listener Machete Alice Has Additional Advice About Group Therapy Confidentially Breach
   • Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73
   • Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?"
10. Listener Desdemona & Another Reminder That Your Partner Threatening Suicide If You Leave Them Is Unconscionable and Not Your Fault
    • Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73
    • Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?"
11. Listener Clogger Has Words and Resources for LGBTQ Survivors in Abusive Relationships
    • LGBTQ Abusive Relationship Infographics
12. Listener Bianca Has a Book They Recommend for Those Of Us Who Know Women in Abusive Relationships
    • "To be an Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women" by Susan Brewster
13. Advice Column Alert: "Find Your Fit" on Autostraddle
    • Read the latest "Find Your Fit"
14. Advice Column Alert: "Tough Love" on Outside Online
    • "When Your Dog Cramps Your, Ahem, Bedroom Activities"
15. Shoutout to Tough Love: "What to Do When Your Husband Is More Into Gaming Than Sex"
16. Advice Column Alert: "Ask Real Estate" on NYT
    • "How I Answer Readers' Peskiest Apartment Questions"
17. Shoutout to Dear Abby's $5,000 College Columnist Scholarship contest
18. Shoutout to Asking for a Friend: "I Think My Friend Is a Jordan Peterson Fan. What Should I Do?"
19. Shoutout to Ask a Manager, Who Is Now On BBC Radio!

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