Have you heard of Roommate Syndrome? Or maybe you're experiencing it right now...Roommate Syndrome happens when a couple falls into the routine of daily life and the sexual/romantic connection gets lost. In this episode, I talk about the 4 Sexual Styles that couples tend to follow according to genius sex therapist, Barry McCarthy. Find out which style you are, what the risks/benefits are of each style, and what to do to keep things spicy long-term!

Read the book by Barry McCarthy: Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style

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We hear it all the time in the sex world: "you need to shift your mindset from performance to pleasure." But what does that actually mean, how do you do it, and why is it important? In this episode I talk about the most common performance concerns, how to address those, and then how to prioritize pleasure, fun, and connection, instead of worrying so much about whether your dick will stay hard or your puss will stay wet.

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How intimately do you understand your libido, aka sex drive, aka desire/arousal? Every wondered why sometimes you're super easily turned on and other times you just can't get it up? In this episode, I talk about the science behind being turned on and getting turned off, and the most common reasons couples complain about having a sexual desire discrepancy. Take the quizzes linked below to learn more about what hits your sexual gas and brake pedals, and then talk to you partner about it, goddammit.

Sexual Inhibition Quiz

Sexual Excitation Quiz 

Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski

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In the wild west of the sex advice industry and the internet as a whole, there are lots of good resources and even more terrible ones. In this episode, we talk about the three sex scams that piss me off the most: expensive "sex addiction" treatment programs, sex toy MLMs, and unqualified sex coaches. Plus some fun insight about aphrodisiacs, online spell casting, and catfishing. Just do your research, trust your gut, and don't waste your money!

Learn about SEX ADDICTION SCAMS

Learn about MLMs

Learn about COACHING SCAMS

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We're seeing more and more people open up about swinging, open relationships, and polyamory. But how do people make these relationships work? What skills are needed? How do you know if it's an option for you? In this episode, I explain the most common relationship styles, basic lingo, necessary skills, and tips for exploring. Plus, as always, I bust some myths with hard-hitting facts and answer some listener questions!

Recommended Books

• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating & Sustaining Open Relationships
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma & Consensual Non-monogamy
• The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Freedoms in Sex & Love

Poly Content Creators

• Dana and the Wolf
• Polyamfam

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What the hell is asynchronous vs synchronous sex? Asynchronous sex breaks the traditional mold of penetrative, mutual, everything-happening-at-the-same-time sex by allowing one partner to focus completely on receiving pleasure and the other on giving. In this episode, I cover the many benefits of asynchronous sex, how you can incorporate it into your sex life, and specific examples of what it can look like!

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Have you ever thought about the grey areas of consent? Not just a simple yes or no, but the situations where communication is unclear or something just doesn't feel right? In this episode we dive into the less talked about aspects of consent with some examples of how to make sure everyone is feeling comfortable and confident. We also explore what consent means in the context of society and specifically the current state of our ~government~.

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So many heterosexual men are curious about prostate stimulation, anal play, pegging etc. but don't know where to start. In this episode, I provide a very basic anatomy lesson, tips for how to prepare and have a good time, and I address the misconceptions and worries that many straight men face when exploring their prostate.

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Ever wondered what effects different substances can have on your sex life? This week, we dive into how substances like alcohol, weed, stimulants, opioids, and recreational drugs can impact your sexual desire, arousal, and long-term health. Don't worry, it's all of the information and none of the fear tactics. No judgement here!

SAMHSA's Substance Abuse Helpline
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What is hypersexuality? Is sex addiction a real thing? Do I have it?
Sex addiction is one of the most highly contested topics in the world of sex therapy. It's not technically a diagnosis but tons of scammy companies offer expensive treatments and programs. In this episode, we talk about the causes of hypersexual behavior, signs that you might be struggling, and how to get affordable & effective help!

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