Hang On To Your Hat

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Hang On To Your Hat episodes

October 02, 2019 Grumpy Old Sick Men On The School Holidays
Dan and Derek have a cheeky phone chat. We explain our upcoming 2 week break for the school holidays and the exciting guest planned to see the year out. Dan is flat with the cold and Derek is tripping balls on hayfever medication. We talk about croup, hospital waiting rooms and Clover's bike crash.
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20 min
September 26, 2019 Uncle Jack Charles- National Treasure, Respected Elder, Grandfather Of Aboriginal Theatre, Father To All Who Need Him.
Uncle Jack isn't a Dad in the usual sense but he's certainly the grandfather of Aboriginal theatre and a spiritual father to many indigenous and non-indigenous people alike. Uncle Jack is an Australian icon and a truly beautiful man- look him up, watch his movies and TV (especially the documentary "Bastardy"), read his Autobiography (Born again black Fella) say hello to him in the street. He really is a father to all those who need him. Donate to the Archie Roach Foundation if you'd like to support the incredible and vital work that Uncle Jack and Uncle Archie are doing.

http://www.archieroach.com/about-the-foundation

https://www.penguin.com.au/books/jack-charles-9780143792222

http://ilbijerri.com.au/event/jack-charles-v-crown/

https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/theatre/a-bold-exploration-of-the-pursuit-of-sobriety-20181116-h17z3l.html

Being a father figure in the community.
In Indigenous societies everyone brings up the children-
The move to expunge criminal records so that fathers who have payed their dues can have access to their children. Part of the treaty process in Victoria.
Reconstituting community hubs so that the young can access elders and vice versa.
The men are missing or behaving badly.
Jack's time in the Box Hill boy's home.
Jack's family origins- the extraordinary, still unfolding epic, that is the life of Jack Charles.
A little on theatre History in Australia.
The national Black theatre, Bob Maza and Gary Foley.
Jack plays Bennelong naked at the Sydney Opera House with David Gulpilil.
Initiation late in life can be confronting.
Young men going through lore gives them responsibility and accountability.
How Jack met his Aboriginal family as a young man.
Jack's days as a cat Burglar
Jack continues to discover family members.
The real meaning of Moomba.

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1 hr 7 min
September 20, 2019 Nick Kirk - Personal Trainer And Father Of Two.
Nick and his wife, are the owner, operators of Team Elwood personal training studio. They have two boys under five and a great approach to fitness and mental wellbeing- while juggling everything else.
https://www.teamelwood.com.au

Topics discussed:
Old dad's have gotta protect they're backs.
Dan's double hernia operation from lifting kids that keep growing.
The getting off the floor test- how much do you groan?
Protect your back!
Early starts on no sleep.
Dan's hints for story time relaxation- transition from story to dreamland.
The who's more tired Olympics.
Parental amnesia.
How judgmental we are before we have kids of our own.
Fitness values for kids.
Hiding vegetables.
Making sure you enjoy exercise.
Discovering mental conditions as a result of the challenges of parenthood.
Managing the chaos.
Being present and the kids with different interests to you.
The importance of community and connection for mental health.

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1 hr 9 min
September 11, 2019Jayden Sheridan - Founder Of Yeah Gnar Skate Brand, Father At 17
Since becoming a father at seventeen in a country town troubled by drug addiction and bored teenagers, Jayden's love for his son and strong desire to give him the best possible life have driven him to work hard, start a skate brand, save money and stay sober. This conversation is a wake up call to all the dads and a lesson in goal setting and sacrifice.
Jayden lives in a van. That is cool in the skate world and is a decision he has made to help save money for his long term plan - return to Seymour, where Jayden's son lives with his mother and setup a business. He already has a successful skate brand 'Yeah Gnar' and is developing some top secret prototype inventions.
Of course, weekend dad time is awesome cos dad already lives in a camper. The fellas adventure and go out bush away from the digital nasties most weekends, giving the lad the analogue time we all dream of giving our kids.
Dan didn't make it in person this episode due to a sick kid but we got a phone in with him which was cool.
we discussed
Dan's home plumbing
Throwing away good appliances
Jayden's Yeah Gnar Skate brand - https://www.instagram.com/yeah.gnar/
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1 hr 5 min
September 04, 2019 Hugh Van Cuylenburg: Resilience Project Founder And Father.
Hugh is the founder of the Resilience Project and a great bloke. He is dedicated to helping people improve their mental health and resilience. There's simply too much to write here about the resilience project so just google him- he and his team are doing really great work. On this occasion he joins us to talk about being a father to his son and the one that is on the way.
https://theresilienceproject.com.au
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557
Topics discussed.
Kids can be cruel.
A few amusing anecdotes involving poo and farts.
Is swearing really that bad??
People tell you it's hard but it's much harder than that!
Oh, how we forget the trauma... Let's have another one!
Give the first born a present from the new baby: a lesson in Diplomacy.
Siblings become friends in the end.
New Yorkers are more friendly when you've got a baby.
Hugh gets an answer he didn't want- two kids are much harder than one.
The origins of the resilience project.
Being over worked when you've got a tough child.
Exercise as much as you can and find a sport you can't lose.
Purpose for mental health.
Vulnerability disarms and relieves stress.
Men shouldn't be allowed in politics.
Hugh, teaching in Indian, witnessed uncommon joy.
Resilience on the internet- what's coming next.
Kids need to know life isn't always fair.
Man up! Derek misunderstood what it meant at the footy.
Hugh's podcast: the imperfects.
Dan overshares. Notting Hill.

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59 min
August 28, 2019 Greg Quicke: Astronomer, Motorcycle Mystic, Father.
Quickie is a bush astronomer to some, a motorcycle riding mystic, a pearl diver and a father to his daughter as well as being a kind of community father to many others, including my kids. When he's on the telly with Professor Brian Cox he's known as Space Gandalf on account of the big white beard and long white hair. He runs amazing Astro tours out of Broome, Western Australia.
Topics discussed
A brief history of Quickie- Astronomy in the bush and working with Professor Brian Cox on the tellie.
Walking the country with Paddy Roe and the Goolarabooloo- the country knows what's in your heart.
Quickie talks about his daughter.
Mothers are amazing.
The cycles of the planets and the possible effects on our lives- a bit of astrology to think about.
Quickie really explains the sky very well- makes astronomy accessible.
Literally watching Saturn return.
Full moon is a time of high energy.
Unbroken connection to a water hole for 40,000 years.
Fighting for your right to be a father- Quickie had to let go of his daughter for a while after coming up against the wall of the family court.
Kids take you back to your own father.
The old discipline and boundary-setting debate.
Quickie and I sit in the sand dunes at Cable Beach at 6am talking about breathing.
The many fathers it takes to raise a child- community fathers.
The Day Quickie and Sammy had a run in and the respect that followed.
Kids hear everything- Sammy tells his kinder about blue mushrooms.
Quickie talks about Pearl diving in Broome in the 1980's.
Breathing water is so easy but it will usually kill you.
Embracing the challenges- "Relax- you're not in charge anyway"
When someone saves your life in an instant without thinking about it.
The kids weren't sent to destroy you.
Back to the extended family of our community.
Further conversation about Sammy and his many fathers.
Risk and reward.
Don't hold your breath when you're under pressure.
When you get to the end of your tether.
Here's some links to Quickie on the tellie!
https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazers-guide-to-the-cosmos
https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazing-moon-and-beyond
https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazing-live
https://iview.abc.net.au/show/back-to-earth-stargazing-live

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1 hr 37 min
August 22, 2019 Mark Jones- Documentarian, Storyteller, Spiritual Adventurer And Father Of Two.
Mark Jones: documentarian, storyteller, spiritual adventurer and father of two.
Mark made 17 adventure documentaries with the legendary Malcolm Douglas and subsequently managed his crocodile park. He is a historian, storyteller and an adventurer with a deep fascination and appreciation for Rock art and Aboriginal culture. This is a conversation of epic scope.
Topics discussed.
Crabbing in the Mangroves and discussing the epic of Gilgamesh.
Straight into everything- storytelling and history.
Linguistics, Aboriginal story tradition, the Kimberley.
Malcom Douglas documentary making. Managing the crocodile park.
Falling in love with the camera, the Kimberley and rock art.
Fear of the future now that I have children- everything that humans create eventually collapses.
More Gilgamesh- the end of human immortality.
Mark's fatherhood journey told. Meeting his wife over a fish gutting table.
Even the most serine parents will be pushed to their limits some time.
Aboriginal people in the Kimberley call their children mother and father.
How do we nurture resilience in our children?
Being a father is a healing process.
When your parents didn't cope very well and the effect that has on you as a parent.
Call your son Dad.
Kids have Epochs.
Without our wives we are doomed.
Politics should be dominated by women.
Misogyny.
Sleep is everything.
A meeting with a great white shark- that's not a euphemism.
Meaning and connection in order to parent well.
"What's it all about?"- A billionaire asks an Aboriginal man sitting on a mat.
We are living in an unsatisfying story.
Spend time with the dying.
Children are better with death than adults.
Resilience by facing realities of life.
Your soul kept moving and the fear didn't exist.
To give birth to the ancients in a new time is creation. Jung.
Universal Lore.
Decide what you question is?
Toddlers are c@$!s. Sometimes.
Avoiding the violent upbringing that we may have had.
Entitled, thin skinned and narcissistic.
Strong fathers as a stand in for the world.
Accept that your kids won't like you sometimes.
Men and boys- clear measured guidance.
Girls need good fathers too.
Letting go of the voices in your head.
Broome
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2 hr
August 19, 2019Geoff Ritchie Baldwin - Soon To Be A Dad
We interrupt the Broome Series with some pending baby content ----
While dan is dashing about in Broome, Derek had a great chat with moto journalist Geoff Baldwin as he is about to become a father for the first time.
Geoff and his wife are not only having a home birth, but they are doing it in a pool in the loungeroom. They chat about the benefits and realities of home birth and Derek reveals that he was, in fact, a deliberate home birth baby from the 60's (man).
Some topics covered this episode:
There's no turning back
Home Birth
Forgetting all the trauma
Guessing the Gender - everyone has an opinion
Being a writer from home with a baby
Trying for a baby - ovulation based sex can be a bit unromantic.
Mercy Hospital Birthing Centre - sadly not there anymore, but a great mid point between hospital and midwife style birth.
Water birth - for comfort and pain management. (ground floor only)
extracting a fish bone from your wife's throat with tweezers - Geoff is all set for toddler triage.
mother in law in the birth team - this is going to be a bonding experience.
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49 min
August 14, 2019 James Brown - Pearl Farmer, Biologist And Father Of Four... Almost.
James and his family established the Cygnet Bay Pearl farm on the Dampier Peninsula and through this multigenerational endeavour they have developed strong personal and working relationships with the indigenous Bardi people. It is a unique place to bring up kids where the country itself does much of the teaching.
Topics discussed.
Straight to the discipline debate
We are both children of the 70's
Parenting has changed- expectations have changed.
Even in the most remote town on earth, phones and social media are a concern.
John Marsden and the realities of childhood development.
Parenting mentors.
The struggle to look after your relationship and mental health.
Biology wants us to breed- that's all.
Oxytocin addicts.
When having kids is hard to do.
The bush raises the kids.
Growing up with Aboriginal people.
Holding back the smart phone Tsunami.
Teach resilience
Boys will find someone to follow.
Find some bush to release your kids into.
All non-indigenous people should spend time with Aboriginal people and take the time to listen and learn.
White Australia has no idea about what Aboriginal Australia needs. Long term relationships for reconciliation.
Bardi kids going through lore- Non-indigenous kids being invited to go through the process too.
A brief history of the Brown Family Pearling business on the Dampier Peninsula.
Managing the fear for your kid's future- what if they do the things we did? And more!!
Trying to appreciate the good things about being a parent.
Can we be fearless parents?

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1 hr 24 min
August 07, 2019 Dave Mann- Travelling Musicians, House-trucks, Veggie Oil And Kids
Dave and his family live in an evolving work of art; a beautiful house-truck that runs on used veggie oil. They travel between Margaret River and Broome depending on the season, playing concerts big and small, while home schooling. It's a complicated but simple life style that proves that anything is possible. Even with kids!
Topics discussed in this episode:
Dave tells the fascinating origin story of his family and the truck that has been at the very centre of their life and life style.
Surprise twins and storage issues.
Freedom is a trade-off but it's worth it.
Children generate opposing emotions simultaneously.
Even a house truck needs a home base for the crazy times.
The extraordinary details required to leave an almost non-existent foot print.
Family Tetris! As the family grows the truck evolves.
Reducing to the absolute basics can actually reduce anxiety.
Music residency at cape Levique while home schooling the kids.
Recording studio in a shipping container.
Making time for your relationship.
Making time for yourself.
Telling and retelling your relationship narrative.
We are a storytelling species.
Losing the skill of being a good audience.
Transitioning from the road to the water- Trading the truck tray for the Catamaran.
Veggie oil to wind power.
Anything is possible in Broome- this place is an amplifier.
Alcoholics go Geograhicals- changing location but not stopping drinking and expecting things to be different.
The healing power of community.
Broome is magic. The country listens and knows your intensions.
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1 hr 10 min

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