Hang On To Your Hat

Hang On To Your Hat

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Hang On To Your Hat episodes

  • Mantra MC - Full Time Rapper - Father Of One

    Mantra is a Hip Hop artist and father of one. Check you tube for his music videos!

    Topics discussed include:
    "Bloody Roman Catholics!"
    We discuss Mantra's music video for the song- Loud mouth.
    A little bit of Hip-Hop History.
    Timing is everything- when is the right time to have the baby.
    Losing a father and having a son.
    Examining the family history so that you can parent consciously- inherited traits, the good and the bad.
    Table etiquette for toddlers?
    Messy kids flash backs to share house filth- emulating "Dogs in space" and "Withnail & I".
    Order and routine.
    Kids take up all your mental bandwidth.
    Creative work is like another bawling baby.
    Is fatherhood an appropriate topic for Hip Hop?
    Kids change the way you see everything.
    Putting the kids first- they're always on!
    Kids are a good excuse to slow down and we could all do with that, right?
    The joy of ordinary moments.
    Kids are an invitation to work on yourself.
    Competitive parenting.
    Put your oxygen mask on before the children.

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    1 hr 20 min
  • Pip Norman- Father Of Two, Mc From TZU

    Pip is a father of two, a writer and music producer. (He produced Missy's last record "Solastalgia" actually) and is one of the vocalists/producers in Hip Hop act TZU.

    Topics discussed include:

    Does being a father make you bald?
    The second child is when the work really starts.
    Trying not to bring your work home with you.
    American Dads- a culture of optimism and affirmation.
    The joys of Breakdancing- perhaps not for dad's.
    When the kids interest align with yours.
    Sammy tells Missy that she's not a singer.
    Realistic punishments.
    The old screen time conundrum
    High impact kids TV- slow it down.
    Yoyo champions used to come around to schools and we all played with sticks.
    Camping with Kids.
    Touring with Missy and looking after the kids
    Sympathy for our own parents.

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    1 hr 7 min
  • Jason Honrado - Father Of Three

    Jason is a stay at home Dad with three daughters and a busy wife. He was raised by his mother and Grandmother - partly in the circus. Wait! What?

    You'll see.

    Topics discussed.

    Managing your kids in public, restaurant etiquette.
    Growing up without male role models.
    Fatherhood is the best of life and the worst of life.
    Selfish to Selfless- children force growth and maturity.
    Blokes need to get their hands dirty, it's a thankless job that women have done for centuries.
    Balancing your needs with your children's.
    Cultural bubbles, insulting your children from the outside world.
    Being an expat family in Singapore.
    The need for adult contact.
    The difficulties of putting kids in a foreign school.
    Are any parents really coping?
    Flying with infants.
    Jason regales us with tales from the circus.

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    1 hr 34 min
  • Ben Tuffy Lee

    Ben is a father of two boys, he's a rock singer in, self described "Dad punk" band, the Dirty Bloods and he is Dan's brother.

    Topics discussed.

    Abandoning fashion- letting yourself go and saying all the same stuff your dad said to you.
    You reap what you sow- talk nonsense and telling bad jokes comes back at you twice as hard.
    What is normal for a 4 year old?
    Footy and the joys of indoctrinating your children.
    Laser tag is excellent therapy for parents.
    Dealing with the issue of drugs and alcohol as your kids get older.
    Sex education and puberty.
    Parenting is adapting.
    Sympathy for our own parents.
    Prepare your kids for the reality of the world.
    How "present" can you realistically be?
    The parental meltdown- how do you deal with losing your cool.
    Keeping a toddler safe
    Accepting big emotions- A four year old is like your drunk mate.
    Boys boundaries- hard and soft edges.
    Parental guilt.
    Love and psychopathy.
    Derek tells a conception story.
    "it's really f&^%$ing hard" that's the truth.
    Hang on to your hat and don't forget you're not alone.

    Special thanks to Zeek for 1) making the music i have loved for 20 odd years, and 2) letting us use the awesome track 'my big brother' for the outro this week.

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    1 hr 14 min
  • Bonus Anzac Day Recap Episode

    D&D found themselves in the eerily empty streets of Collingwood on Anzac Day, so they took the opportunity to reflect on how fatherhood has been effected by war.

    Also included here, is a quick recap and discussion about the things they have learnt so far with our amazing, insightful and generous guests.
    Hang on to your hat all you new fathers out there and remember- you're not alone.

    Shows we discuss on this episode.

    Scott Edgar
    Sean M Whelan
    Dr Chris Higgins
    Brett Cousins.

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brett-cousins-father-of-two/id1454765079?i=1000436413642

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    36 min
  • Brett Cousins, Father Of Two

    Brett is a founding member of Red Stitch Actors theatre, an actor of stage and screen, you might even recognise him from his time on Neighbours many years ago. He is a screenwriter, friend and father of two and today he joins us for one of my favourite conversations so far.

    The topics covered.

    Red stitch playlist fundraiser, playlets, playwriting, theatre directing.
    Derek talks about his time at Mooroolbark amateur theatre company.
    Fixed wheel bicycles, hipster and feeling old in Collingwood.
    The second child disruption.
    You reap what you sow- when talking nonsense and telling Dad jokes comes back at you.
    Are they crazy or are they just four years old.
    How are other parents coping- what's normal behaviour?
    Being a single Dad- successful break ups.
    Don't stay together just for the kids- parents being happy is more important.
    Why do people split up after the second child?
    Don't forget your partner- nurture your relationship.
    Dealing with your emotions- kids can be cruel.
    Brett talks about being on the Australian TV soap, Neighbours at the age of 21.
    When the kids start taking care of themselves.
    TV and kids- smart TV viewing- single parents and TV- avoiding advertising- binging watching.
    Parents can't be perfect but they can be aware and prepared to improve.

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    1 hr 11 min
  • Dr Chris Higgins - Missy's Dad

    This week our conversation is with Dr Chris Higgins. Chris is a father of three, Grandfather of five, a GP, Head Doctor at the Asylum Seekers Resource Centre and Dan's father in law. He was an early fan and critic of our previous podcast "What now, Derek?" and now he shares with us his thoughts on fatherhood.

    List of topics covered.

    The subculture of the 1960's, the Vietnam war, conscription and the terrible possibility of watching your children go to war.
    what do fathers expect of their children?- Happiness over material success.
    Being Missy Higgins' father- watching your child achieve sudden, early success and the issues that raises.
    fame and social anxiety- leaning on family rather than drugs and alcohol.
    The most important thing- establishing an open, supportive, trusting relationship with your kids.
    Let them make mistakes to learn. protect and let go simultaneously.
    Experimenting with drugs- What if our kids do all the things that you did??
    The rise of "Ice".
    What should we tell our kids about our past?
    Parents will always find a way to take the blame for their kids hardships.
    Forgive yourself... but not too much.
    Chris tells an anecdote about mountain climbing with his son.
    Take trips with your kids where you overcome some kind of obstacle. foundational activities.
    Being present not just in the room.
    Screen addiction for the whole family.
    What kids want most is connection with family members.
    Go camping- make memories.
    The horrors of croup- Dealing with your own anxiety in order to calm the child.
    Childbirth- what does the father really have to offer?
    Shared values and parents being on the same page.
    How much open sharing should happen between parents and kids?
    Derek has an idea to have a food truck outside the children's hospital that serves known allergies.
    Chris talks briefly about his position as head doctor at the Asylum seekers resource centre.
    Learning more from your kids than they learn from you.

    We hope to have Chris back again in future to delve deeper into all of these topics and to give Dan a chance to be less nervous!

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    1 hr 11 min
  • Sean M Whelan. Poet, Son And Sperm Donor

    This week we talk with Poet, Civil Celebrant and podcaster, Sean Whelan about the early death of his father and learn about what it means to be a sperm donor.

    We discuss how expectations have changed since our fathers' generation, tell some anecdotes about our Dad's and their efforts to discipline us before moving on to discuss in detail the wonders of same sex parents and their donor men, conscious conception and considered parenting in the absence of a father.

    NOTE FROM DEREK: Some serious topics covered in this episode have sparked constructive conversations between the subjects about definitions and roles in same sex parenting situations, especially when they involve a donor. Dan and I have been loving the learning curve and are happy to say the Mothers from this ep. are going to come in at some stage for a chat.

    Topics Covered:

    Elderly Grandparents, skipping a generation by being an old dad.
    Good Dad- Bad Dad. The importance of routine, conscious fathering, sober fathering.
    Sean M Whelan, Army Dads, Vietnam veteran Dad, generational differences, Grandads - all care, no responsibility.
    When your father dies. Dreams of my father. Dad- the glue that holds the family together.
    Anecdotes of fathers dealing and not dealing with behavioural issues.
    The ins and outs of being a sperm doner- what does it mean to be a biological father to the child of a same sex couple- rights and obligations if any- the strong relationship and considered agreements that are needed. Should hetero couples have a contract too? Close male role models in the absence of a father- Kids need role models beyond their parents.
    selling sperm on the Russian Black market and other jokes about donor-ship and finally, the ways in which fatherhood has changed since our fathers time.

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    1 hr 6 min
  • Scott Edgar - Father Of One

    Dan and Derek get down to some serious fathering anecdotes and peer support with Scott Edgar from musical comedy trio tripod. We also touch briefly on the joys of Dungeons and Dragons which allows me to say, with great pleasure, that D&D declare that they are D&D curious. We also discuss the logistics of family meetings- the ethics of screen time and mobile phones for eleven year olds, corporal punishment and the terror of the teen years approaches.

    Scott has illustrated a series of kids books recently called The Super Moopers with Sally Rippin and Fiona Harris.
    Scott and Tripod also have a podcast with Andrew Pogson- check it out: perfectly-good-podcast-featuring-tripod-and-andrew-pogson

    Topics discussed-

    Regulating emotions.
    Perhaps we are born evil and learn to be good.
    Empathy.
    Corporal punishment (outlawed in 93) Hitting children, right or wrong?
    Using the same script as your parents.
    Should 11 year olds have a phone?
    Kitchen table diplomacy- family meetings.
    Presenting the world in a balanced way. "the world is not your oyster"
    Pretending to be angry.
    Modeling behaviour.
    censoring yourself because of your kids. "No daughter of mine"
    Kids in the public eye- photos on the internet.
    Monitoring kids on the internet.
    "Will the internet be the Thelidamide of our generation?"
    Calling Vs texting.
    We evolved for face to face comunication.
    Disconnection- who needs friends.
    Dungeons and Dragons- Are you D&D curious?
    D20 Tattoo.
    Real world activities- Board games.
    Parenting advice - the good times don't last but the bad times don't last either etc.
    Teens- the kids are listening- they become what you tell them they are.
    Can a marriage withstand a second child?
    Siblings.
    only child- Dad has to provide the pushback that another child would provide.
    Managing anger.
    Tarquin!
    Into the laundry.
    Super Moopas.
    Tripod- perfectly good podcast.
    It's terrifying to be a father.
    Sitting on Santas lap. Kids that don't trust santa.
    Being santa.

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    1 hr 41 min
  • Genesis Or Metamorphosis

    Here we go. Dan and Derek's award whining podcast 'What Now" has been rebranded and reborn into a show focussing loosely around fatherhood, and will be having plenty of interesting guests on the show at different levels of PFSD (Pre Fatherhood Stress Disorder).

    SO... hang on to your hats and let's get stuck in.

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    1 hr 29 min

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Join Derek Myers, Dan Lee and their many guests as they discuss fatherhood. Our parenting conversations are sometimes funny, sometimes scary and sometimes sad.. just like every day of being a father…