Today is Mother’s Day in the UK. The chat you’re about to hear with my friend Sheila was actually recorded exactly one year ago on the sofa, in the lounge of my flat. It was the first interview I recorded for this podcast series, which was intentionally done on Mother’s Day. Sheila and I discuss where we are, in our journeys and how we have reclaimed Mother’s Day as a day we no longer feel we have to hide from.  

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Zarina is so articulate in her pain, so delicate with her words and so achingly honest, I was thinking to myself as I was listening to it just now, ‘why haven’t I put this episode out earlier’?  I owe Zarina a lot for saying things I couldn’t say and grabbing me and holding me close to her story, even though we had only just met.  I want to give you a head’s up that there are parts of this interview that might be difficult to hear.   Please e-mail with any comments, or if you have a story to tell yourself at [email protected]. You can also find me on Patreon, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter if you search happilyeverafterpodcast.

Most of my guests have tried to have their own children but have now made peace and found happiness in a life that does not involve their own children. My guest this week is Greg Betzweizer, half of the Greg and Kamra couple who are dear friends of my husband and mine. The four of us are usually laughing the entire time we are together and we definitely share quirky sensibilities, which I think comes through in our chat. Greg and Kamra’s decision to not have children was not always a straightforward one but Greg speaks candidly about how he can be a better son and husband if he is not also a father.

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I recorded this interview with Al, a very close friend of both my husband and myself. I met Al when I moved over to London from Los Angeles, about 12 years ago and he immediately felt like family. Because Al was single at the time, he, Robin and I used to get together on a Sunday, watch a movie or an episode of Planet Earth, eat a massive roast dinner and drink our body weights in wine. Since then, Robin and I have gotten married and had our struggles with miscarriages, Al has lived in Hong Kong, then moved back, then got himself sober, got together with the love of his life and got married. I am really grateful that Al was up for chatting to me because I asked him some pretty obtrusive questions about all of it.  Tune in for episode 13 in which I speak with Al's wife Jo.  They are a spectacular couple.  Please e-mail with any comments, or if you have a story to tell yourself at [email protected]. You can also find me at www.happilyeveraftercoach.com, on Patreon, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter if you search happilyeverafterpodcast.

After my last episode, I didn’t have any immediate plans for which interview to broadcast next. I always had these interviews in my back pocket with my brother, mom and dad that I recorded two years ago when my family was last together for Thanksgiving. At that time, it was before the birth of the Happily Ever After podcast and I was desperately searching for the meaning of life without children. I started questioning the importance of legacy with anyone who would engage with me, because once I started realising that I might not have children of my own, I began suffering an existential crisis as I battled thoughts that revolved around WHAT IS THE MEANING OF IT ALL, THEN!? So you will hear some archived interviews with my dad John, mom Joanne and brother Adam, which are a little bit amateur on my part, with some background noise and so on…I mean, there was a family Thanksgiving going on, after all. After the break you’ll hear a couple of current interviews with my sister Bethany and my brother in law Gordon which are SUPER professional because I have had ten episodes to practice!

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This week I speak over the power of broadband, laptops and conferencing software to my dear friend Erika Bertling in Los Angeles, whom I have known for an astounding 20 years. We met when we were both travelling the world working on TV shows. Erika was an audio engineer and I was a story editor. Erika introduced me to the Oct 15th International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day and never fails to let me know on this day every year in one way or another that she is thinking of me. So having her as a guest today is my way of telling her that I am thinking of her on this day and for expressing how big a part she has played in my healing, just that little message she will send. Every year.

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Erika’s blog is here and it is very good:

http://www.tummymuffin.net/p/blog-page.html

I met Jessica through the Fertility Fest; a festival for anyone exploring their fertility journeys. It is a place for both mothers in arms and mothers in their hearts and it is a space Jessica is hoping can be a nurturing environment for all women. We as women are stronger united than divided, and the “haves” and “have-nots” in the fertility community seem unavoidably separated, but they shouldn’t be. We discuss the philosophy behind the Fertility Fest but also Jessica’s endurance challenges, which have ended up being more symbolic of Jessica’s quest for motherhood than she had imagined.      

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Here is a link to the Brene Brown TED talk about human connection that Jessica referenced in part one:

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

And some more helpful links:

www.jessicahepburn.com

www.fertilityfest.com

Finally, I got a man to speak to me. Well, I convinced my husband Robin to get involved. There was a bit of bribery. I won’t lie. We had an honest conversation, which covered our years of trying for a baby and all of the things that make us happy now. Robin is a sound engineer and is the regularly unnamed support staff of one who helps me make all of the thingies work on the recording device and teaches me how to make it all sound even better by using audio editing software that he taught me to use. I really enjoyed being able to speak to my husband about all of this. I don’t know what I’d do if he wasn’t such a good sport. Probably just bully him into being a better sport, I guess…    

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Episode seven. This week we are wrapping up the interview that I conducted with Brandi, blogger and generally inspiring lady with ten years of infertility struggles now behind her and the surprisingly rewarding childless not by choice life ahead of her. If you haven’t listened to episode six, in which we heard Brandi’s story, I suggest you listen to that first, so that you can get a sense of where Brandi is coming from.  Brandi lives in South Carolina and I in London, so I conducted the interview over the internet. Brandi was just telling me one of the ways that she began training herself to appreciate the little things in life, so that she could get over the big thing, which was not being able to have her own child. 

Find Brandi here:

• Email:  [email protected]
• FaceBook:  fb.me/notsomommy
• Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/notsomommy/ 
• Pinterest:  pinterest.com/notsomommy
• Twitter:  https://twitter.com/iamnotsomommy

And her blog here: http://notsomommy.com

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Episode six, y’all. This week I am speaking to Brandi, who is an inspirational young lady, making lemonade out of lemons after ten years of battling with infertility. We recorded this interview through the marvellous internet, as Brandi is in South Carolina and I am in London. Brandi had so many great things to say about facing life without your own children and how to speak to someone you love who has struggled with infertility, that I decided to make this a two-parter.  This is part one.