Having It A.L.L.

Do you struggle with staying consistent?

You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that stuff. 

In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life.

Resources from this episode:

• "How To Develop Grit So You Can Do The Things You Don't Want To Do" - https://youtu.be/Ph0BLJPbsD8

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How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have?

That question was asked to me recently by a listener and client, and I think it's in such alignment with everything that we talk about on this podcast. A major part of living your abundant loving life is being able to experience peace, joy and flow in the midst of the life you've created.

It's not about how many balls you're trying to keep up in the air, it's about how effective you are and how much you're enjoying the experience.

In today's episode I share with you the mindsets, tools and personal practices that grant me the ability to peacefully and joyfully juggle many roles and responsibilities, while keeping overwhelm and imbalance at bay.

Resources from this episode:

• Balance Chart app from the YourDay Balance Game: https://theydbg.com/

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When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it?

I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it!

And it made perfect sense to me: pain did not feel good, and so why would I want to experience something that didn't feel good?

Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey.

Tune in as I give you a new way to look at PAIN and show you why leaning into pain will free you from your fears.

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What is codependency?

As you read that question above, you probably have an idea of what codependency is in your mind. Most people can spot signs of codependent behavior when they see it in others, but fail to notice it in their own lives.

The truth about codependency is that it's much more prevalent, damaging and insidious than you might imagine, and in fact it's at the root of many of the biggest challenges that people face day-to-day.

Today's episode is the first part of a series that addresses codependency and how it shows up in our lives. In this conversation, I begin with the basics of codependency and share with you what it is, what it looks like, and how you can start overcoming it.

As you will see, codependency is not just something that happens to other people "out there", it's something that might be wreaking havoc on your most important personal relationships.

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In today's quick fix I let you know why you need to learn to love and get excited about life's hardships

--- Rough episode transcript ---

If you’re listening to this podcast then I know that you’re into improving yourself and truly stepping into your greatness, and I can bet that you’ve been practicing. Maybe it’s meditating or journaling or being grateful or facing your fears or practicing humility. Whatever it is, this message for you.  

WHEN STUFF HITS THE FAN IN LIFE, WHICH HAPPENS AND WILL NEVER STOP HAPPENING UNTIL YOU’RE DEAD, YOU NEED TO BE PSYCHED ABOUT IT! 

Hear me out. 

You’ve been doing all of these things to improve yourself.

You’ve been finding your strength, uncovering your gifts, revealing your mission and purpose.

You’ve been practicing getting organized and being compassionate and having courage.

You’ve been listening to podcasts and reading books and attending retreats and buying courses. 

All of these things have been your training, and none of it matters when life is going smoothly. When life is great and everything is working out in your favor and the tides are rising, you’re not asked to be courageous and humble and intelligent and mature.  

It’s only when things go south, when life smacks you in the face with circumstances, that your training is put to the test. 

So, you have to start relating to life’s circumstances as GAME TIME!

Seriously.

When you create a fender bender on the way to work, or your kitchen floods, or your kid does something dumb and gets arrested, or your baby won’t stop crying, or your partner is withholding love — THAT is when you will really get a chance to see how far you’ve come. It’s in those moments that all the reps you’ve put in reading and meditating and working on yourself matter.  

Because when you’re able to respond differently to a situation that you’ve responded to the same way your whole life, you’ve just won and you’ve stepped your game up just a little bit. 

So get excited when things go south, because it’s in these moments when you actually have an opportunity to grow.  

As I say all the time, HAVING IT ALL is about your relationship to life and what it serves up, so next time you’re presented with a circumstance that sucks, remember that’s it’s an opportunity to grow into a greater version of yourself.  

That’s it for today. 

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Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health?

I get it, we're in the middle of a global circumstance that can be used as a great excuse to not exercise and neglect your health. But the ripple effects of doing so are far reaching, and you may be underestimating how detrimental it can be for your overall health & wellbeing if you've been putting physical exercise on the back-burner.

In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your health - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social - and I'm showing you how they are all connected. Now is not the time to take your foot off the health gas. Especially if you're afraid for your physical health, now is the time to do MORE exercising, MORE clean eating and MORE healthy social connecting.

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How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day?

Here's the truth, there are people out there living incredibly fulfilling lives, they HAVE IT ALL, the Big S Success, and you can bet that it's not by accident.

The way you start your day and the way you end your day have a HUGE impact on not only what happens during the course of your day, but also how you feel about yourself and your life. A winning morning and nighttime routine doesn't have to be long and complicated and rigid, but it does need to be intentional. 

In today's episode I share with you the very specific habits and routines I use in the morning and evening to set myself up for success each day.

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Do you feel your life lacks purpose and meaning?

Many people (if not most) are on a journey to find purpose and meaning in their lives. And truthfully, many will never find what they're looking for....because they're looking in the wrong places.

On today's episode I'm sharing with you the key to living a life of purpose and meaning, and I'm revealing why so many people struggle in this area DESPITE having a strong desire to create a life they love living.

By the end of the episode you'll know exactly where you need to focus your energy to discover meaning and purpose in your own life.

Resources from this episode:

• Regrets of the dying by Bronnie Ware - https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/

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Do you struggle with asking for help or accepting help when it's offered to you?

For me, asking for help has been a challenge since I was young. I don't really know when I started to feel like I needed to take care of things on my own, but that belief follows me to this day.

In this episode I'm sharing with you a few common examples of when the universe places people or things in our path that are there to help us.

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What if the path to achieving your highest dreams wasn't in the clarity of your vision, but in the standards you hold for yourself?

Todays episode explores the idea that, "We become our lowest standard, not our highest dream." I unpack this statement and give you action steps for raising your standards so that you can have it all!

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