Having It A.L.L.

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor

You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”

In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.

Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster, and recorded this episode with no notes and no script. Every part of this episode was created organically, on the spot.

I did that because i wanted to exercise my muscles of creation, and what resulted was a powerful reflection on creativity, the creative process, and tapping into our creative potential.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

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If you looked at your average day, how much of it do you spend in a state of Joy vs Sadness?

My coach and mentor Day Adeogba shared with me a conversation he had with his kids recently, where he asked them "What do you think your Joy:Sadness ratio is?" That idea of a Joy:Sadness ratio totally fascinated me, and inspired me to think about it for myself....which of course led to this podcast episode!

Tune in to hear about the Joy:Sadness ratio, how you can determine your goal Joy:Sadness ratio, and what you can do to experience the amount of Joy you desire in life.

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How do you practice self love on a daily basis?

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 ways that I practice self love every single day. I'm breaking down the simple habits and practices that keep my tank full and provide a spark in my life. And I'm also sharing with you 3 habits that I STOPPED doing because they didn't support or honor me.

My intention is that this episode gets you to examine your self love practices and inspires you to level up how you love on yourself.

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Why is change so frustrating?

You'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to change something that you REALLY want to change. I know in the past I've been incredibly hard on myself for "not having the willpower" or "not wanting it enough" or "not being disciplined enough", when I failed to make change happen in my life. 

But what I told you there were crucial pieces of the change equation that you were missing? Ones that illuminate why change is so hard, and how to actually make it work for you.

In today's podcast I get into the psychology behind making meaningful changes in your life, and I help you demystify this area that causes frustration in so many people.

I drew inspiration for this episode from a conversation I heard on The Life Coach School Podcast -- https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/1/

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What is your sexual story?

No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex.

We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings that are unhealthy and certainly don't uplift and heal.

But it doesn't have to be that way! You can rewrite your sexual story, heal those sexual wounds you carry, and create an entirely new sexual experience for yourself that's based in love, feels authentic, and full of genuine connection.

Today I'm kicking off a series about sex which will help you transform your views on sex, from the inside out.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so by emailing me at [email protected]

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Are you more of a leader or a follower?

You might think that one of these roles is better or more preferred than the other. However, the truth is that it's your ability to balance between the two that will lead to your greatest success, and your goal is to understand your leadership-to-followership ratio.

In today's episode I help you rescript what it means to be a great leader and follower, and I give you the tools to create a greater balance between your inner leader and follower!

Resources from this episode:

• YourDay Balance Game website: https://theydbg.com/

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How would you describe what being an "involved dad" is? And, if you're a father, would you currently consider yourself an "involved dad"?

This idea came up in a conversation Sarah and I were having on our other podcast, Doing It At Home, and I was clear that discussing fatherhood and what it looks like to show up powerfully as a dad was something to bring to Having It A.L.L..

Join me as I dive into what it really means to be an "involved dad" and why that label itself carries with it some controversy. 

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Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away?

That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health.

Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. You scroll and scroll and scroll, knowing in the back of your mind that nothing productive or healthy is coming from it, but you feel unable to close the app and put your phone away. Doomscrolling has been going up in recent years, and as a result mental health and emotional health has taken a huge hit.

In today's episode I talk about Doomscrolling, break down why we do it, and give you some expert advice on how you can break the cycle and reclaim your health!

Struggling with Doomscrolling? I can help you. Learn about my coaching programs at www.matthewbivens.com/coaching, or email me at [email protected]. My programs are designed to help you break bad habits, form new healthy ones, and reclaim your happiness!

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Where does your personal health rank on your list of priorities?

Probably not at the top. Well, as you can guess from this title of this episode, I'm making a strong case for why you MUST begin to push your health to the top of your list. And I'm talking right now! Not next month, next quarter, over the summer. NOW!

And yes I do mean priority. Your health should be the first thing you're thinking about each day, before your kids your spouse your job your co-wokers, all of that. 

I'm going to break down why your health needs to be priority, what exactly I mean by "Health", and give you clear steps to start making meaningful strides in your health right now. 

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How do you know whether or not you "have it all" in your life?

One of my goals for you is that you move closer towards your definition of "having it all", and to do that you need to have an objective way of assessing whether you currently have it all. That's where the 6 F's come in!

Today's episode is part of a series I did where I breakdown the meaning of "Having It A.L.L." (particularly the A.L.L. acronym). In today's conversation I'm sharing with you the 6 key areas of life that are an integral part of the Having It A.L.L. Framework, the 6 F's: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. In the episode you'll hear my definition of each of those areas, how they impact your life, and things you can do to improve or increase any of those 6 areas so that you can get closer to truly "having it all".

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