Can someone love you and still hurt you? It's not a simple yes or no answer. In this episode, we break down the difference between hurt that comes from mistakes and hurt that comes from control, and why loving someone deeply can make it almost impossible to see the difference when you're in it.

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For weeks I kept calling it a rough patch. This is the night I couldn't anymore. It started with something small and good, a gathering with people I'd missed, and it ended somewhere I never saw coming. For fifteen years I'd had one reliable power in our marriage. That night, for the first time, it failed me. In this episode, I walk through the hours that followed, the choices I made trying to hold everything together, and the one I still regret most, the one that pulled our two little girls into the middle of it. By the end of that night, I understood something about what was happening to us that I couldn't unsee.

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In my marriage, saying the word "gaslighting" didn't start a conversation; it ended one.

If you've ever wondered whether what's happening to you is gaslighting or been told you're using the word wrong, this episode is for you. We're talking about what gaslighting really is, what it isn't, and why your experience deserves to be heard no matter what you call it.

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After one conversation changed everything, the weeks that followed were a slow unraveling. Every day brought a new accusation, a new reason to doubt myself, and a new version of me I didn't recognize. I thought I was a dedicated, loyal, trustworthy person, until someone I loved convinced me I wasn't.

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On our 15th dating anniversary, I sat across from my husband at a coffee shop and told him something completely honest: that a man had hit on me the night before, and I'd said no. What I got back was an accusation of having an affair. This is the episode where the story begins, and where I first learned that telling the truth could be used against me.

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Welcome to He Blamed It On Me. This podcast is my unfiltered story of living inside, leaving, and recovering from a marriage that went from amazing to abusive in one conversation.

In this episode you'll hear why I am starting this podcast and what you can expect.

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