Heal That Shit with Alissa Buethe

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I talk about the idea of being called delusional and why that word kept showing up in my life over and over again. After a conversation that made me question whether I was holding onto unrealistic expectations, I started noticing the same message everywhere… in books, conversations, social media, and even in the patterns I’ve learned to recognize as signs when I need to pay attention.

This episode dives into the connection between intuition, repeating patterns, and the way our thoughts, choices, and behaviors create the reality we live in. I share how I’ve learned to slow down, listen to those messages, and be honest about the habits that keep me stuck in the same loops.

Sometimes the difference between staying the same and creating something new comes down to being willing to believe in a life that doesn’t exist yet, and the bravery it takes to be delusional about what you want to create.

If you’ve ever felt like you want more out of life but aren’t sure how to break the patterns you’re in, this episode is for you.

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Most people believe that conflict is what damages relationships. But the truth is, conflict is unavoidable in any meaningful connection. Romantic relationships, friendships, family, even work relationships — if the relationship is real, conflict will show up at some point.

The real damage usually comes from avoiding the conversation altogether.

In this episode, I talk about why I'm not afraid of conflict and how learning to face it head-on has helped me build deeper understanding, stronger relationships, and a greater sense of self-respect. I share the mindset shifts that helped me stop seeing conflict as something to fear and instead view it as an opportunity for honesty, growth, and clarity.

This conversation explores how resentment is often just a conversation that hasn’t happened yet, why understanding someone’s conflict style matters, and how staying grounded in your own values can change the way you approach difficult conversations.

Because sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a relationship… is be brave enough to have the conversation.

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In this episode of Heal That Shit, I share why I picked up Nobody’s Girl by Virginia Giuffre and why I chose not to look away from a story that is hard, heavy, and deeply personal.

What started as an airport audiobook download turned into something much bigger. Listening to her recount the grooming, manipulation, abuse, and the powerful systems that protected it brought up pieces of my own story, memories from childhood, the shame that keeps us silent, and the ways trauma follows us into adulthood. Some chapters forced me to pause. Not because I was shocked, but because my body remembered.

This episode isn’t just about one survivor’s story. It’s about how silence protects perpetrators. How discomfort keeps systems intact. How easy it is to rationalize or minimize abuse, especially when powerful names are involved. And how dangerous it becomes when we look away because facing the truth challenges what we believe about others… or about ourselves.

I talk about shame, survival responses, healing in safe relationships, and what it means to use your voice after years of staying quiet. I also challenge the cultural instinct to defend, deflect, or deny when new information makes us uncomfortable.

Yes, it’s hard to listen to stories like this. It should be. But storytelling matters. Truth matters. Accountability matters.

I finished the book. I’m not looking away.

And I hope you won’t either.

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Kristopher Pace, Hope Mercedes from the band Mythology, and her amazing mom Mrs. K to talk about something deeply personal — a song they created together as a tribute to Christopher’s late brother, Daniel.

The song is called “Brother,” and it’s more than music - it’s a message. We dive into how the collaboration came together, what the song really means, and how they intentionally produced it using 432 Hz, a frequency known for its healing properties.

This song is already touching lives and is currently being considered for a 2026 Grammy nomination!

We go deep in this one: into the creative process, the emotion, the message, and the quiet strength that runs through it all. It’s about connection, grief, resilience, healing, and the unspoken bonds that tie us together.

If you’ve ever needed a reminder of how powerful music can be - as a healing force, as a way to honor someone you love, or as a call for unity - this episode is for you.

Tune in and join us for a powerful conversation about brotherhood, artistry, legacy, and the voice a song can give to our souls.

This is a song for anyone who has lost someone too soon…

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In this episode of Heal That Shit, I talk about reconnecting with a couple of friends who reminded me just how powerful encouragement can be. They showed up at the perfect time, lifting me up and reminding me that sharing my voice and my stories isn’t just something I enjoy—it’s part of my purpose. Their presence was a nudge to step back into who I really am and what I bring to the world.

Not long after, I received a different kind of reminder from my grandmother, who passed but continues to guide me in her own way. A simple message on a page in the park stopped me in my tracks and reminded me of the power of storytelling. She had a way of pushing me to learn and grow, even when it wasn’t easy, and that moment was her way of telling me I had wandered off course but could find my way back.

What ties these experiences together is connection. Storytelling is how we create it—when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, open, and real. It’s how we make others feel seen, heard, and less alone. Between my friends’ encouragement and my grandmother’s reminder, I know it’s time to start sharing again, because that’s where the magic happens.

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I share the inner tug-of-war I’ve been feeling since starting a new life in Montana. Even though the plan was always to move, settle in, and bring my kids out after school ended, the emotional weight of leaving behind everything familiar has been heavy. I’ve found myself second-guessing, grieving what I’m letting go of, and wondering if I’m making the right decision, especially when things feel uncertain or hard.

But deep down, I know this journey is about more than logistics. It’s about faith, trust, and learning to follow my intuition. I’ve asked the universe for signs, and when I slow down and truly listen, the guidance always comes. Not to relieve me of responsibility, but to affirm what my soul already knows: that I’m being led somewhere important, even if I don’t fully understand it yet.

This process has reminded me that real peace comes from surrender,. Not halfway, but all the way. That 100% commitment, even when the path is unclear, is where the magic happens. It’s not about being certain of the outcome, it’s about choosing a direction and trusting that everything I need will meet me there. And that’s what I’m doing now. No more wavering, no more fear. 100% all in.

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In this episode, I chat with Nicole Middendorf, wealth advisor and certified divorced financial analyst, CEO of Prosperwell Financial in Minnetonka Minnesota, public speaker, coach, author of five books, mother of two children, and domestic abuse survivor. 

Nicole and I share discussions on the impact of doing scary things, navigating life changing events, and how absolutely amazing solo travel for women can be.

Nicole talks about her "Live It List" and how it has shaped her philosophy on life and her ability to go from simply surviving life to thriving. "Every time you do something new, big or small, it gives you more resilience, more confidence." Nicole also reminds us that it is okay to want - and live the life you desire.

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In this episode, I reflect on the constant cycles of change that life brings and how those shifts have been showing up in my own world lately. Between moving, parenting, building a new life, and saying goodbye to the old one, I’ve been riding the waves of transition—sometimes feeling grounded, and sometimes completely overwhelmed.

One thing I’ve learned is how powerful the quiet moments are. They’re often the only time emotions we’ve tucked away finally surface—grief, fear, uncertainty—but also clarity, creativity, and hope. A short drive or a slow walk in the park can suddenly become the space where big realizations happen. That’s where healing begins. That’s where new visions start to take shape.

This episode is about letting yourself feel it all—honoring the grief that comes with change, but also welcoming the optimism of new beginnings. It’s about being present, building a life of intention, and demonstrating what resilience really looks like. Because healing doesn’t happen in the chaos. It happens in the quiet.

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In this episode of Heal That Shit, I speak with healer Wendy Benning-Swanson about her journey through grief and loss, the importance of self-discovery, and the path to empowerment. Wendy shares her experiences with grief after losing her husband and how it led her to explore spirituality and healing practices.

The conversation delves into the significance of joy, the role of fear in personal growth, and the necessity of self-reflection and forgiveness in the healing process. Wendy emphasizes that healing is a personal journey that requires willingness and effort, and that understanding one's purpose can lead to a more fulfilling life.
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This week Facebook memories shared a couple of videos I posted this time last year about my experience dating in my 40s, all of the trauma most of us are sifting through in our lives in an attempt to be happy and possibly find someone to share that happiness with, and the realization that trying to date at this point in life is filled with challenges that did not exist in our 20s.

The truth is most of us who have found ourselves unexpectedly single in our 40s are recovering from trauma from past relationships, just now digging into issues that have shaped us from our childhood, and learning not only how to understand ourselves, but how to navigate that awareness while simultaneously trying to navigate someone else's experiences that have shaped their thoughts, beliefs, feeling and fears.

Its ugly. It's messy. But it's also a great opportunity for practice in becoming the best version of ourselves as each interaction can bring awareness to places where healing is needed and provide an opportunity to choose differently this time.

Because that is how you break patterns...by making a new choice when faced with familiar circumstances.

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