Christmas has a way of bringing old family dynamics straight back to the surface.

Even if you’ve done the work. Even if you’re self-aware. Even if you usually cope well.

In this replay of one of my most listened-to episodes, I talk through practical, realistic ways to think about boundaries with family at Christmas. Especially when the dynamics are emotionally immature, critical, or draining.

This episode is for you if:
 • You feel activated around family, even when you wish you wouldn’t
 • You struggle to hold boundaries without guilt or over-explaining
 • You end Christmas feeling exhausted, resentful, or like you’ve lost yourself
 • You’re high-functioning, capable, and tired of just “pushing through”

This isn’t about cutting people off or becoming emotionally cold.

It’s about understanding why family triggers land so deeply. And how to protect your emotional energy without abandoning yourself.

If Christmas is already feeling like a lot, this episode is here to support you.

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You like to follow wellness practices but you’re not sure which ones are helpful for nervous system regulation and which ones to leave behind. 

There are so many choices that often tap into your deepest fears and insecurities and even with the best of intentions, can make you feel worse. 

This episode explores how you can tell the difference between what’s working and what isn’t and how to listen to yourself more so you can make empowered and informed choices.

If you’ve been wondering how to heal from emotional  trauma 

What supports nervous system regulation 

The practices that focus more on capitalism and productivity instead of healing 

This episode is for you. 

Lizandra is a practicing psychotherapist based in the UK who works with high achieving and high functioning women who want to heal from the past and break unhealthy patterns through deeper self awareness and nervous system regulation healing. 

If you are based in the UK and EU, you can book a consultation for 1 to 1 therapy. 

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Have you ever wondered what it means to regulate your nervous system? 

In this episode you'll learn more about how nervous system regulation doesn't need to be complicated and a starting a simple exercise can help you to feel calmer and relieve anxiety. 

This is a supportive practice but it’s not a substitute for therapy. 

Lizandra is a MBACP Registered Psychotherapist based in the UK who works online and in St.Albans Hertfordshire. 

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In this episode, I talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder and the subtle ways it can creep into your mood, motivation and day-to-day energy. 

You'll hear me cover: 

- What to do when you feel yourself withdrawing or shutting off

-Simple daily habits that help

-When to reach out for extra support

If winter always feels harder and you're tired of pushing through on your own. this is the kind of work we do in therapy. I've got current availability for women who want support with anxiety, burnout and the deeper stuff underneath it. 

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Have you ever wondered if you’re the toxic one? 

Want to know the four toxic behaviours that happen in relationships that stem from an insecure attachment? 

In this episode, psychotherapist Lizandra explores the patterns that most people get stuck in when dealing with conflict. It’s the everyday behaviours that cause disconnection in the relationships that matter most. 

Ready to break your unhealthy relationship patterns and heal from the past? 

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Therapy is changing. 2026 is going to look very different for anyone who’s already on a healing journey. This episode breaks down what those changes actually mean for you.

We talk about the rise of real connection in therapy. More relational work. More collective healing. Less of the “fix yourself alone” mindset that kept so many women stuck in burnout.

We also get honest about AI. It’s growing fast. It can be useful. It’s not therapy. I explain why big tech is pushing into the mental health world. The impact it’s having on clients and therapists. And what to look out for so your healing doesn’t get reduced to another tech product.

You’ll also hear why therapy is becoming more normal, more accessible. And why that shift matters if you grew up holding everything together and trying not to take up space.

If you’re navigating high-functioning anxiety, attachment wounds or childhood trauma. This episode will help you understand what’s coming. And how to stay grounded in support that’s actually human.

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The internet is talking about Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? Read the Article 

In this episode, Lizandra, a psychotherapist in private practice at New Frame Therapy talks about the decision to stop working with couples. 

It relates to the changes happening in relationships and why it's so hard to heal from attachment trauma and form trusting secure attachments in relationships. 

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Abandonment doesn’t always look like what we think it does. It isn’t just about someone leaving or not choosing you. 

In this episode, I talk about the less obvious ways abandonment shows up.

The ones that start in childhood and shape how we connect (or disconnect) as adults.

You’ll hear about:

The hidden forms of abandonment that often go unnoticed — like over-functioning or caretaking.

How emotional abandonment in childhood can happen even in loving homes.

The link between fear of being left and the ways we’ve learned to leave ourselves.

Listen if you want to:

Understand why independence can sometimes be a trauma response.

Recognise the moments you abandon your own needs to feel safe.

Begin reconnecting with the parts of you that never got the care they needed.

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Previous Episodes

Self Boundaries, Attachment and Burnout [Ep 30]

Adverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25]

How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]

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 Being called “needy” in a relationship can feel shaming but what if being needy isn’t the problem?

In this episode, I unpack why we end up feeling anxious, clingy, or desperate for reassurance in relationships. We’ll explore how childhood experiences and attachment patterns shape our needs and why trying to suppress them only backfires.

You’ll learn:

• Why needing connection is human — and when it gets labeled as “too much”
• The hidden cost of ignoring your needs or shutting down
• Practical steps to feel secure in yourself while communicating clearly with your partner

If you’ve ever felt “too much” or worried that asking for what you need will push someone away, this episode is for you. 

It’s about shifting from shame to curiosity, and learning how to meet your needs in a healthy, confident way.

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Why Self-Soothing Feels So Hard When You Have Anxious Attachment [Ep 32]

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Lizandra is a BACP Registered Psychotherapist and Relationship Therapist based in the UK who works with adults healing from childhood trauma and high functioning anxiety.

When most people think about healing, they focus on what they should be doing — journaling, setting boundaries, or practicing self-care. But just as important is what you need to stop doing.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five common habits that can quietly hold you back from feeling secure in yourself and your relationships. These patterns often come from trauma, and you might not even realise how much they’re shaping your everyday life.

We’ll talk about:

• Why you might feel the need to over-explain yourself.
• How constant apologising keeps you stuck in shame.
• The subtle ways people-pleasing turns into self-abandonment.
• What happens when you dismiss your own emotions.
• And the one habit that can make you feel like you’re always “behind” in your healing.

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re working so hard on yourself but still feel stuck, this episode will help you see what needs to shift — and it’s probably not what you expect.

Resources 

Five Steps to Setting Boundaries Free Guide 

Adverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25]

Here’s why you’re getting stuck in your healing journey [Ep 22]

What to do when you feel Emotionally Overwhelmed [Ep 17]

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