In this episode, Randy and Beverly take a deeper look at how needs influence relationship satisfaction and why it's so darn tricky for Hearts and Heads to talk about what they really need in the relationship. From love and respect to topics like intimacy, couples are often focused on the wrong things in the wrong ways. Learn to talk about what you need in a more useful way. 

In this episode, Randy and Beverly continue to explore the reasons that couples fight: different values, unmet needs and miscommunicated expectations, VNEs. This episode focuses on values, the deep core beliefs that form in our early years and shape the way we live, communicate and love later in life. 

What if you could de-code the conflict in your relationship? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain the three reasons that couples disagree, argue and fight. By understanding the different values, needs and expectations we have from our partner, we can more easily communicate and find common ground. Relationship disagreements always come down to different values, unmet needs or missed expectations. By understanding these differences, you'll both be more prepared to communicate with understanding and compassion for your partner. If you're ready to break the cycle of conflict in your relationship, it's time to understand VNEs; Values, Needs and Expectations. 

How much time and energy do you spend trying to keep your partner happy? In this episode, we'll discuss why everyone is going to fail at making someone else constantly happy. If you're ready to stop trying to guess the secret code for your partner's happiness, then give this episode a quick listen. Honesty is less work than mind reading and generally yields better results in relationships. 

Why is it so dang hard to make a collaborative decision? Why are Hearts so passive? Why do Heads get so frustrated and short with this stuff? If you've ever argued over something simple - like where to eat - then this podcast will explain how Hearts and Heads can create more natural communication in the relationship so that you both can enjoy a little happiness. 

Why are Head partners constantly trying to fix everything for their Heart partner? When the Heart partner has a bad day, the Head partner is right there to offer generally unwanted advice... and that leads to fights that don't need to happen. If you both want to make your relationship a lot easier, check out this episode as Randy and Beverly dive into why you should never fix a vent. 

Randy and Beverly discuss being offended from the Head and Heart perspective. This episode covers: How triggers sneak into our daily interactions and why not to call your partner a monkey. 

A casual conversation turns into a conversation about why Hearts feel so darn much and Heads seem to feel nothing. At all. Ever. Dive deeper with Randy and Beverly as they talk about cockroaches and kittens and much, much more. 

Listen as Randy and Beverly discuss why there's so darn much pressure on Head partners when it comes to Valentine's Day. And they'll share the secret - at least their secret - for making sure that holidays don't turn into fights, even if someone gets a vacuum cleaner. 

All couples have petty arguments. You are, after all, two different people. We discuss how to overcome the small disagreements and watch for the bigger issues behind these arguments. We also provide some techniques that Heads and Hearts can use to bicker more effectively... and bring back some fun banter.