While Heads will often focus on the emotional chaos of being in a relationship with a Heart partner, there's something important that can get missed beneath all that. In this episode, Randy tells the story of the moment he knew that Beverly was the perfect partner... at least, perfect for him. It's a short episode since Beverly is off island for the day but it's an important message about the real value of Hearts.

What are the things that you brought to your relationship? Do you have specific beliefs about what it means to be loved? Are there things your partner should "just know" that they should do to show that they love you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss how our individual definitions of love are formed and why humans naturally (and wrongly) assume that everyone does it the same way. This time on Heart Versus Head, it's backpack cleaning time!

One of the biggest challenges in relationship communication is when you try to make your partner happy and they're trying to make you happy. It can end up with frustration and NOBODY being happy. In this episode, Randy and Beverly take on why focusing on your partner's happiness only works if you actually know what they want and need - and most partners get that wildly wrong. #HeartVersusHead #relationships #relationshippodcast

Do you love your partner or are you in love with that wonderful feeling of being in love? It's easy for our brain to like the wonderful feeling of the early stages of being in love but it can trick our brain into believing that love will always feel that way. That leaves a lot of Hearts feeling disappointed and Heads feeling frustrated. Let's talk about it. In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack why falling in love is awesome and staying in love takes some understanding. #HeartVersusHead

Sometimes couples need to argue. Maybe a boundary has been crossed. Maybe your partner and you can't agree on the next car to get - Randy and Beverly had that fight. So how do you have a tough discussion without someone becoming immediately angry, defensive or withdrawing completely? In this episode, you and your partner can learn the best way to start an argument so that you don't start a fight, a riot or a divorce. You're about to learn the power of "I love you AND..." 

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Heads tend to compartmentalize everything. Hearts are more likely to flow things together that are linked by similar emotions. This can lead to conflict in a relationship when we don't understand it or assume that our partner does it the same way as we do. Putting things in boxes also makes the Head partner seem like an uncaring narcissist or unfeeling robot. Lumping things together makes the Heart partner seem irrational at times. In this episode, Randy and Beverly offer some insight into why it happens, where it leads and how to resolve the problem. Learn more about the hosts and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com

Randy and Beverly dive into how people use things like names, pet names, and familiar phrases to create connectivity in relationships. The things people say might mean different things depending on the context but most couples don't really talk about what these common things really mean... and they're missing out on a really connecting conversation. If you're looking for ways to connect more deeply in every conversation... you'll want to talk about this one. 

In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss how relationships are often seen as "bad" in a moment when a broader view might help both partners see things a little differently. When relationships encounter trouble, the human brain goes into protection mode and notices all the bad stuff, while almost completely ignoring the good stuff. Plus, in this episode, you get to learn the word agathokakological and see if your relationship is like a Florida Neighborhood Watch Program. 

Well, what did you expect? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why Hearts and Heads face so many challenges with expectations and why it is so important to talk about them before the trouble shows up. From completely different vacation expectations to not knowing what to do when our partner is crying... we expect that this episode will have a little something for every couple. 

In this episode, Randy and Beverly take a deeper look at how needs influence relationship satisfaction and why it's so darn tricky for Hearts and Heads to talk about what they really need in the relationship. From love and respect to topics like intimacy, couples are often focused on the wrong things in the wrong ways. Learn to talk about what you need in a more useful way.