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The Core of Insecurity When you look up insecurity, it says uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. A lot of times we think insecurity comes from our past, something we did, or something someone said. It can feel like it’s just who we are. But it’s not. Confidence and insecurity are emotions. They are not personality traits. You are not an insecure person. You are a woman who sometimes feels insecure and sometimes feels confident. At the core of both are the thoughts you’re thinking about yourself. That’s the shift. If you want to address insecurity, you don’t need to change your job, your body, or your circumstances. You look at your relationship with yourself. That’s the base. So instead of asking how do I become confident, ask how can I feel less insecure? You don’t have to jump straight to confidence. You can feel curious, relaxed, connected, or even just neutral. Those emotions help bridge you there. The work is identifying the thoughts you’re thinking about yourself. Some are obvious. Some are sneaky. Even something like “I’m not that good” can feel harmless, but it has an impact. When you notice those thoughts, you don’t fight them. You don’t fix them. You notice them. And then you start changing how you talk to yourself. Like a bestie. Support, understanding, encouragement. When those old thoughts pop up, they don’t hit the same. You see them for what they are—just sentences. You’re not a victim of insecurity. You’re a woman who feels emotions, and those emotions come from thoughts you can look at and choose on purpose. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #28 – Permission to Celebrate It is not selfish to celebrate. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: Reasons we don’t let ourselves celebrate. How our mindset impacts what we do next. Celebrating is a choice. Featured on the Show: On-demand 3-day Training to Create a Better Relationship with Yourself – Free Download Ready to stop overthinking and be yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Permission to Celebrate Today we are talking about something that gets overlooked. We wait to do it. We don’t let ourselves do it. And sometimes we feel guilty when we do it. Celebrate. There is so much every day that we can enjoy and celebrate, but the weight of suffering around us can feel heavy. For a long time, I felt guilty for being healthy while my sister was sick. Then after she passed, that turned into feeling selfish for being alive. I would hold myself back from enjoying things because of one thought: it should’ve been me. That thought felt true. But it was what created the guilt. It wasn’t her illness. It wasn’t her passing. It was what I was thinking. And when I saw that, everything changed. I realized I was living through a filter where I didn’t deserve to enjoy my life. And that kept me from celebrating anything. But that’s busted. This life is not a consolation prize. It’s a gift. Giving yourself permission to celebrate does not take anything away from someone else’s suffering. It doesn’t devalue it. It doesn’t ignore it. It’s a celebration of life. There will be moments of suffering. That’s part of being human. But there are also moments to celebrate. And when you’re in those moments, you get to fully be there. You don’t have to hold yourself back. Your people want to see you celebrate. They want to see you living your life fully. So if you’ve been holding back, this is your permission. Celebrate. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #27 – Behind I don’t know ‘I don’t know’ is the signal something important is behind it. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: Why you feel stuck. The reason we say, ‘I don’t know.’ How to get the answer you’re looking for. Featured on the Show: On-demand 3-day Training to Create a Better Relationship with Yourself – Free Download Ready for emotional health and consistency in your goals? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Behind ‘I don’t know’ There’s something our brain does when it doesn’t want to work for us: I don’t know. It feels super true, and it usually feels like the answer. But it’s not. It’s usually a signal that something valuable is behind it and needs to be explored. When our brain offers up “I don’t know,” we often stop right there. We drop what we were thinking about, distract ourselves, or move on like that was the final answer. It’s busted. “I don’t know” is not the answer. It’s the signal. When I hear myself say it now, I know that’s my next project. I’m figuring this out. That’s what happened a couple years ago when I was trying to light the gas fireplace. I heard myself say “I don’t know” in a huff, and realized it was time to investigate. I had to get focused and determined. It ended up being simple. I just needed to press and turn with the right finesse. It probably took about a minute of focus, but to my brain it felt huge. That’s what our brains do. They make things feel bigger than they are. One sentence — “I don’t know” — can make us feel stuck and want to quit. So what do you do? First, notice when you say it. Second, invite yourself to find the answer:If I did know, what would I do?What do I think the answer is? Third, be curious. Don’t beat yourself up. All brains do this. Fourth, celebrate when you stay with it and find the answer. That little celebration helps build a new habit. Being stuck doesn’t happen because you don’t have ability or experience. It happens when “I don’t know” gets to end the conversation. When you look behind it, you won’t stay stuck. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #26 – What is Your Motivator? Our brain learns emotions that are motivators, and they are not the ones you’d expect. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: How to tell which emotion you’re feeling. How you feel drives your actions and inactions. How to use emotions as a tool in your tool belt. Featured on the Show: Ready to create a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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What is Your Motivator? The difference between the emotion that motivates you and the one your brain uses thinking it’s motivating you. This is going to be fun. What does motivated feel like? Powerful, certain, grounded, calm, excited, driven, committed, contentment. When you feel those, you’re clear. You know what you’re doing. You’re not forcing yourself. But our brain can link other emotions as motivators—and they’re not. For me, it was disappointment. I thought I had to wait to be proud of myself until I reached the goal. So I kept feeling disappointed. And that didn’t make me take action. It made me sit, avoid, and question everything. My brain thought disappointment was a motivator. It’s not. Same with guilt and nervous. They can feel important, but they don’t create motivating action. They create judgment, avoidance, hiding, and feeling stuck. These emotions aren’t problems. They’re magnifying glasses. So instead of using them to push yourself, use them to look. Ask yourself: why do I feel this? That’s where the clarity is. Then you can put the magnifying glass down and choose a real motivator: Powerful. Certain. Calm. Committed. Content. That’s what creates action. You don’t need to eliminate guilt or disappointment. You just don’t use them as motivators. Use them to understand what’s going on, then choose what will actually move you forward. This takes practice. But once you see it, everything changes. Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #25 – Good Enough is Busted Good enough is a distraction from what you really want. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: The value of your human life. Why good enough is settle. How to have more energy and less overwhelm. Featured on the Show: Ready to create a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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Good Enough is Busted Women with incredible talent, creativity, drive, and uniqueness hold themselves back because of one sentence: I’m not good enough. Let’s bust that right now—it’s not true. When you think you’re not good enough, it feels important. Your brain gets ultra focused on it, but it creates zero change. It just repeats. And when we use “good enough” for anything else, it’s a settle. It’s like… ehhh. You know you don’t really want it. So why are we using that to define ourselves? You are not a settle. Your value is already 100%. You have a human life—you’re valuable. Period. Now that that’s off the table… what do you actually want? Let’s bust “good enough” on both sides. You are not “not good enough.”And your goals shouldn’t be “good enough.” If a goal feels like “good enough,” it’s a signal you don’t really want it. Goals don’t fuel you—you fuel the goals. You’re the battery. So if you’re spread across too many things, your energy gets divided. More goals don’t give you more energy. Less yeses gives you more power. Choose what you really want from a powerful place of thought, and then fully power those goals. If you don’t feel powerful, it’s not because you’re not good enough. It’s because you’re not lined up. So let’s flip that. What are you ready to power? Click here to schedule a Consultation with Christie. Join us in Authentic Confidence Reset to feel yourself again. Click here to sign up. If you want weekly gems to feel your most authentic self, sign up for the Lovelies List here. Tag @mschristiewilliams and share your top takeaways! In this episode, we cover:

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Ep #24 – Choose Powerful Thoughts Feeling powerful comes from thinking powerful thoughts. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: You can make decisions from a clean, powerful place. Feeling powerful is the opposite of feeling stuck. How to choose powerful thoughts. Featured on the Show: Ready to create a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

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