Bill Herring is a certified sexual addiction therapist who has maintained a private practice in Atlanta for over 30 years.  For many years Bill was a board member and conference chair of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (“SASH”). Bill has published many professional articles, including one we will be discussing today. In 2017 he wrote a chapter for a book on the history of the sex addiction field.  That same year Bill wrote “A Framework for Categorizing Chronically Problematic Sexual Behavior”, which won Article of the Year by the publisher.  In 2019 Bill received the prestigious “Carnes Award” from the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health for his pioneering work advancing understanding of this field of study.  Just about anything you want to know about Bill can be found at billherring.com. Today, Carol the coach will be interviewing Bill, who will be talking about the framework for categorizing problematic sexual behavior that he introduced in 2017.  This framework provides a way to distinguish types of sexual behavior as problematic without having to label the person.  This helps avoid the conflict that often happens when a person is reluctant to self-identify as a sex addict while still wanting help for their sexual behavior.  This framework allows people who may not be truly sexually addicted to receive assistance for their sexual concerns without having to accept a diagnosis.  By using five short conversational questions this framework gets to the heart of what is problematic about any type of sexual behavior without assigning labels.  This framework has a lot of implications for people who struggle with their sexual behavior as well as the professionals who want to help them improve their lives.

Stephen Ammann is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and a graduate of Northwest Nazarene University, Stephen provides individual, couple, and group counseling using an integrated approach. He founded Northwest Wellness Center in Nampa, where they specialize in sex and addiction, trauma treatment as well as couples’ therapy. NWC has specific intensive models that focus on addiction, trauma, and couples’ retreats. Stephen is a certified EMDR therapist and consultant. He has co-facilitating DeTUR trainings with the late Dr. AJ Popky, in the US and Canada. DeTUR is an EMDR addiction protocol addressing triggers and urges leading to unwanted behaviors. Stephen developed the EMDR protocol LIFE SCAN which looks at each of the development stages such as epigenetic trauma, utero, birth, non-verbal, and so on through the client’s life span. He uses this effective process to help clients deal with trauma, addiction, and other concerns.

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Louise A Stanger Ed.D, LCSW,  who is going to help us understand Addiction In The Family- Helping Families Navigate Challenges, Emotions and Recovery. He explains that Covid 19 has seen an unprecedented rise in the use and misuse of alcohol, marijuana, prescription, and nonprescription drugs (opioids and stimulants) etc.  This coupled with the rise of anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues along with gastrointestinal issues has created a perfect storm. Americans’ today report that they have either started or increased their substance use as a way of coping with stressors related to Covid 19. Neilson reported a 54% increase in national alcohol sales in March of 2020 for example as opposed to a year ago and online sales on alcohol increased by 262% from 2019 to today. Marijuana sales and online deliveries have also increased. The World Health Organization has warned that alcohol use will potentially exacerbate health concerns and risk-taking behaviors. Today, the challenges facing American families and the workforce is enormous based on the increasing numbers of folks who are looking for solace in mind altering substances. Not a day goes by where clinicians do not receive a phone call from a mom, dad, husband, wife, partner, child etc worried about a loved one.

As you know, the world is filled with men who struggle to connect emotionally, leaving many women feeling disappointed in relationships. But why are some men like this? What happened that they cannot emotionally engage in a healthy way? Today, Dr. Eddie Capparucci, talks about what he believes is going on inside of men who suufer from sexual compulsivity or with men who are in recovery but havin't work out their deeper issues.The reason goes back to a lack of nurturing required in the early stages of childhood development, where kids learn to attune, regulate emotions, trust, be empathic, and self-soothe. His new book, entitled "Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots"explains how men who possess low emotional IQs struggle to thrive in relationships and how they can change. It also shows how they may be prone to addictive behaviors such as sex and addictions.   Dr. Eddie Capparucci, LPC, C-CSAS, specializes in the treatment of sex/ addiction. He is the creator of the Inner Model for treating this disorder and the author of the popular book “Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction.” I refer so many men to Dr. C. because he helps them understand their core wounds and attach more successfully to their wives!

Carl Thomas wrote a book called When Shame Gets Real: A new way to talk about sex, , and masturbation and so together we delve into why he wrote this book on  sexual shame? He believes that may things need to change in this culture and has some strong feelings that if we can can’t change the conversations about sex and sexuality in our culture, our families, and our churches we won't see things improving in regards to the epidemic of use and sexual brokenness in our society. This is the real and intimate conversation with the man, his addiction and how it impacted everyone whom he shared his life.

Today ,Carol the Coach interviews Roane and Eva Hunter who have written a best-selling book called Sex, God, amd Chaos of Betrayal The Couples Roadmap of Hope and Healing - Recovery from Infedelity, Affairs, ography and Sexual Addiction. This couple has lived it, healed from it and now offers services to addicts and partners. They developed this roadmap to help you navigate the crisis and the pain!

Carol will be talking to a  visionary and pioneer in spiritual growth and transformation, who will be sharing life-changing experiences and insights with clarity and humor.She has developed the Blueprint for the Human Spirit®, her holistic model for conscious, compassionate living. She is uniquely qualified to talk about the Blueprint since it evolved in harmony with her transformation. She is an architect for the human spirit.These Spiritual Blueprinting sessions get to the heart of core issues and an individualized approach for you to transform your life through a holistic process. She is also a best-selling author of several books, including The Dance of Ego and Essence: Confessions of a Divine Diva. This book and its companion journal can help you to get real with yourself. Through radical honesty, you can release negative behaviors, emotional baggage, and old beliefs that keep you trapped in addiction and victimhood. She will inspire both addicts and partners to acknowledge how the tragedies that they have experienced can be a catalyst for post-traumatic growth.

Today Carol the Coach, interviewed Matt Sinkovitz who is helping men work through their addiction. Matt began his studies in Buddhism and New Thought as a young adult, seeking resolution to his own personal life dilemmas. Overcoming his 20+ year compulsive relationship with , Matt was inspired to share his journey and support other men in their path to liberation.  Through his online Facebook support community, ‘ to Purpose’, Matt currently runs the ‘90-Day Liberation Boot Camp’, as well as the ‘7-Day Abstinence Challenge’.  Matt is passionate about the community’s commitment to support committed fathers and husbands in ending their toxic relationship with , so they can reignite that passion in their relationships and be better role models to their children."

It happens to everyone! Recovery stalls out and you are bored. What do you do to avoid this stage in development?  Call Carol the Coach!

Carol the Coach will be discussing her new book that is coming out called Help Them Heal to assist clients in doing the work that is necessary to help couples heal together.