Her Empowered Divorce

DATING AND ONLINE DATING AFTER DIVORCE EP 107 

HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach 

GUEST: Bela Gandhi, Dating Coach and Founder of Smart Dating Academy 

SUMMARY: 

Dating and online dating after divorce can be a transformative and sometimes daunting experience. After the dissolution of a marriage, many women may find themselves venturing into new relationships without taking the time for self-reflection and growth, potentially repeating past mistakes. Healing and self-discovery are integral to successful post-divorce dating, and it’s essential to approach this journey with self-awareness and caution. While it may take time to fully embrace this new chapter, dating after divorce can lead to a fulfilling relationship and personal growth. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Bela Gandhi, Dating Coach, Founder of Smart Dating Academy, and host of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast. Together, they discuss dating and online dating after divorce, smart dating, and the precautions to take when doing online dating. 

Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation. 

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• How soon should I start dating after separation/divorce? It’s not the number of months or years that determines how soon you can start dating; it’s the amount of work you have done on yourself. 
• To be the kind of person you want to attract, you need to ask yourself the hard question,” Am I negative about myself?” and take action because it is the inner critic that becomes the outer critic. 
• Does online dating work? Online dating can work and be effective, but it’s not easy. You have to be very cautious and swipe left a lot. 
• If you are entering the dating world for the first time after being married for a long time, be optimistic, be smart not to get bamboozled, and if you need help, seek it out. 

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• People show us who they are; it is up to us to believe them. (Bela) 
• So often, we are focused on them rather than on ourselves, and we keep thinking about who our ideal partner is, but we need to think about who we need to become to be the kind of person that will attract that ideal partner. (Beverly) 
• Oxytocin is what allows us to form attachments to people. To keep yourself in safe harbors as a woman, know your powers and remember that oxytocin should only be given to people who deserve it. (Bela) 
• Infidelity relationships don’t stand the test of time, and the unfaithful person often repeats the same behavior when they get into another marriage. (Bela) 
• Be smart; don’t agree to meet somebody in a place you’re not familiar with even if they seem lovely, don’t have them pick you up, always get yourself on the date, and don’t give your personal information. Slow it down online. (Bela) 
• The most important decision you will ever make in your life is the person that will become rid of your pot, your husband, wife, or partner, and it’s worth investing in. (Bela) 

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS: 

Beverly’s personal Facebook page can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyprice365/

Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion available at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerecovery

Her Empowered Divorce YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HerEmpoweredDivorce1

Find Your Divorce Coach: https://herempowereddivorce.com/?divorcecoach

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Bela’s gift of helping people find love didn’t emerge until she was in college. She went to a party and met a guy who was PERFECT for a roommate, and she knew at that moment that they would get married, move to the suburbs, and have beautiful children. It took them a bit longer to be convinced, but by the end of their first week of dating, they knew it was ‘it’ and got married two years later, and now they have beautiful kids and live in the suburbs.

Bela finished college with two degrees, in Finance and German – and worked in Mergers and acquisitions for one year, and then joined her dad’s business (he made Teflon for pots and pans). In 2001, the company was bought by Akzo Nobel (the world’s largest coatings company) – and the rest of her family happily retired. She loved her work there, and they wanted her to stay forever. However, Forever ended in 2006 because she couldn’t shake the idea of building a NEW process to help people find love.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Bela Gandhi

Website: http://smartdatingacademy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Smart Dating Academy podcast: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/podcast

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.Soberlink.com/empower.

WHAT FINANCIAL ABUSE IS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT EP 109 

HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach 

GUEST: Rhonda Noordyk, Founder and CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center

SUMMARY: 

Financial abuse can take various forms, including restricting access to money, withholding financial information, or coercing the victim into making financial decisions. Recognizing financial abuse before and during divorce can be challenging, as it often operates covertly. However, there are warnings that can help you recognize financial abuse in your relationship and the divorce process. If you suspect financial abuse, it's crucial to seek support from a qualified professional who can help you navigate the legal system to protect your financial interests and ensure a fair settlement. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Rhonda Noordyk, Founder and CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center. Together, they discuss financial abuse, what it is, how to recognize it, and what you can do about it. 

Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation. 

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• Am I going to be okay? Yes, certainly! But you must define what “fine” means to you; don’t just take it from your attorney or others.
• You can use ABUSE as an acronym to help you recognize financial abuse. A-Alienate you from finances, B-Beliefs marital money is theirs only, U-uses the legal system to control you, S-Seems like the victim, E-Evades financial accuracy and transparency. 
• Divorce happens in three parts simultaneously: legal, financial, and emotional, and you need a core divorce team, coach, CDFA, and legal representative to help create the best results for you.
• Whatever stage you are in your divorce process, don’t allow anyone to coerce you into making financial decisions that will sell you short. Invest in what you need to protect your financial interests and ensure a fair settlement.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• The first biggest challenge women face is confidence around money and finances because of a lack of knowledge and experience in managing finances; financial knowledge and confidence ultimately lead to confidence. (Rhonda) 
• You need a core divorce team consisting of a coach, CDFA, and legal representative, and these three don’t compete with each other. They complement each other and come together to create the best results for you. (Beverly) 
• The second greatest financial challenge for women is understanding the financial aspect as it relates to the divorce process, what questions to ask, how to gather and organize information, how to access information, how to analyze it, and how to negotiate. (Rhonda) 
• When you have a team of people working on your behalf, the process is better, and the people are better. (Rhonda) 
• If you are thinking about divorce, don’t sell yourself short on investing in what you need to ensure this process goes as smoothly as possible for you: be open to making sure you have the right team of professionals, and don’t wait. (Rhonda) 
• Women become good private investigators when they have to be; you can be extra aware by getting an app such as Tiny Scanner to help you start building a respiratory of the things you might be finding; it can be tricky if you are on the same plan, so you have to monitor that. (Rhonda) 

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS: 

Beverly’s personal Facebook page can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyprice365/

Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion available at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerecovery

Her Empowered Divorce YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HerEmpoweredDivorce1

Find Your Divorce Coach: https://herempowereddivorce.com/?divorcecoach

Rhonda Masterclass for Women in Divorce: https://www.rhondanoordyk.com/webinar-opt-in-masterclass

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, is a well-respected divorce financial strategist and podcast host. She is known internationally for her work in pioneering a path for women to navigate through the financial aspects of the divorce process. As a strategist, Rhonda helps her clients determine their next best financial move. She has been featured in several online publications: SD Voyager, Better After 50, Thrive Global, and Medium. She has also been a featured expert on several divorce podcasts: Should I Stay or Should I Go, How to Split a Toaster, The Divorce Hour, Divorce Stories, and The Divorce Rehab.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Rhonda Noordyk

Website: https://wfwcdivorce.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhondanoordyk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rhondanoordyk/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rhonda.noordyk/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RhondaNoordyk

Twitter: https://twitter.com/RNoordyk

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

 🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

PERSONALITY DISORDERS AND HIGH CONFLICT BEHAVIORS IN DIVORCE

GUEST: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California

SUMMARY: 

Personality disorders can significantly complicate the already challenging process of divorce. Individuals with personality disorders, such as borderline, antisocial, or narcissistic personality disorder, often exhibit traits that can fuel conflict in divorce proceedings. Their intense emotions, impulsivity, and difficulty regulating behavior can lead to erratic and volatile interactions with their soon-to-be ex-spouse. Additionally, individuals with these disorders may have a distorted sense of self-worth and a strong need for control, making negotiations and compromise more challenging, and learning how to deal with the situation is critical. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. Together, they discuss personality disorders, how they present themselves in relationships and the divorce process, and how to deal with the resulting conflict behaviors.

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• What are personality disorders? Personality disorders are a significant part of the population but are not obvious except in close relationships. They manifest as extreme behavior that repeats even when they are self-defeating and often end up in conflict. 
• Why is he doing this to me, and why is he acting that way? Early on, you get along well because you are flexible, they are getting what they want, and have little demands, but suddenly, when you stop giving them what they want, the borderline switches to the all-negative. 
• What is the most difficult part of working with high-conflict individuals? You will not persuade them to move things, so instead, focus on what your choices are and give them choices. 
• Are personality disorders genetic, environmental, or upbringing? All the above. Genetics and upbringing are the biggest factors, but the good news is that these people can be treated or helped to achieve balance and control over their behavior.
• Whether living with a partner with a personality disorder or in the divorce process, the most important thing you can do is get a support system for yourself and cultivate your self-worth.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• High conflict behavior is a preoccupation with blaming others and not taking responsibility, a lot of all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions that take over, and extreme behavior. (Bill) 
• One of the most important conversations is that first conversation with your spouse, telling them you want a divorce; it can set the tone for the divorce process and co-parenting. (Beverly) 
• You get back what you put out, so if you can put out calm, meta facts and reason, you are more likely to get that back; however, some people start off aggressively, which ends up escalating things unnecessarily. (Bill) 
• Courts often adopt the first story, and anti-social are quick with their stories of how the other person is a terrible person, and even when it’s not true, it’s hard to recover from that once the story is out there, but you have to counter that with reality. (Bill) 
• Personality disorders have a sugar coating; when you first meet these people, they are super wonderful. So when you start seeing little boundaries being violated, it is a sign this could get bigger. (Bill) 
• If you are dealing with someone who has been violent, there’s a higher risk that they will be violent when they get bad news, so you want to deliver bad news in a therapist's office where there is someone who can help talk about it or have your lawyer deliver the news when you are in a safe place. (Bill) 

BIFF for co-parent communication: https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Co-Parent-Communication-Difficult-Conflict/dp/1950057100

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high-conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist with twelve years of experience.

Bill serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 35 U.S. states and 13 countries. He is the author or co-author of over 20 books, manuals, and workbooks. He is co-host of the podcast It's All Your Fault, which he co-hosts with Megan Hunter, MBA, and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with millions of views.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Bill Eddy

Website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bill-eddy-bba98a1b/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highconflictinstitute/?hl=en

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPDugfElJEgWCHbZhMGttw

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-all-your-fault-the-high-conflict-institute-podcast/id1589280156

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight: 

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycle

Legal readiness for domestic violence victims preparing to go to court is paramount, as it plays a pivotal role in safeguarding their safety and getting justice. The legal process involves a multifaceted approach, and being prepared emotionally, gathering evidence, and understanding the legal process, and th potential challenges that come with it is an essential first step in legal readiness. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Joni Jones and Lawrence Jones, experts in domestic violence, on both the emotional and legal issues. Together, they discuss the legal readiness of domestic violence victims for court to equip you with the tools you need to navigate the courtroom effectively, protect your rights and credibility, and ultimately break free from the cycle of abuse. 

Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation. 

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• Domestic violence can be both a civil and criminal proceeding. However, each state has its statutes and laws, and it’s essential to learn the domestic violence statutes in your state.
• Legal readiness starts with the awareness of the court's requirements and expectations in a case, which can help you better prepare for the process. 
• Are there pro bono resources for domestic violence victims? State laws and resources differ from state to state, but you can get pro bono attorneys, recoupment, and organizations’ legal aid in most states. 
• Your conduct in court, no matter which part you are in, matters. You are always being watched, even when not on the stand. Be respectful and polite, and don’t undermine your own credibility.
• Can I win a case without witnesses? A lot of domestic violence occurs with no witnesses, but this doesn’t mean you can’t win the case. You can win the case by being more credible. The court has every right to decide which side they believe based on the evidence.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• The court system in domestic violence can be overwhelming if you are not familiar with it; being a little cognizant of what the laws are is an important first step in the legal process. (Lawrence) 
• If you are going to bring any witnesses to court for any particular reason, it’s important to Subpoena them so that they are required to be there, and you are not just hoping they will be there and they don’t show up. (Lawrence) 
• Domestic violence courts are pretty busy, and you can’t constantly be stopping a proceeding to accommodate the documentation you have on your cell phone, so it’s very important to have copies of whatever you’re coming in with available in your cell phone so it can be used as evidence. (Lawrence) 
• Knowing some basic evidence laws, even if you are not an attorney, is helpful because even if you are representing yourself, you are still bound by the same laws as someone being represented. (Lawrence) 
• Having an attorney or an advocate can be helpful rather than trying to do it all by yourself because if you have never done it before, the risk of messing it up along the way becomes greater. (Lawrence) 
• If you are going to court with an advocate, it’s important to know how the judge makes decisions and alert the court in advance of any issues such as autism because you can be misinterpreted on your character based on your presentation because that is all the judge knows. (Joni) 

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Lawrence R. Jones

Lawrence R. Jones retired from the New Jersey Judiciary in 2017 after serving the public as a Superior Court Judge. During his time on the Bench, he served as the President of the New Jersey Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges and authored over 60 opinions on novel issues of law, including significant published and unpublished opinions on issues of domestic violence and dating violence (IPV). Judge Jones also served as a member of the faculty of New Jersey’s Judicial College and was the creator and co-presenter of the Judiciary’s 2016 program, “Harassment: Drawing the Line between Domestic Disagreements and Domestic Violence.

In 2020, Professor Jones was one of the featured speakers at the New Jersey State Bar Association’s presentation on “Economic Abuse as a Form of Domestic Violence.” During National Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2022, he appeared as a guest speaker on the television program New Mexico in Focus, presenting on issues concerning domestic abuse and legal/social aspects of Congress’s reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA 2022). In 2022, the New Mexico Supreme Court appointed Jones as the Vice Chair of the statewide Commission on Alternative Dispute Resolution. 

Jones is also a certified economic mediator in New Jersey in matters with active restraining orders in place. He presently practices mediation and dispute resolution and now resides with his wife in Albuquerque, New Mexico, where he will be teaching at the University of New Mexico this fall.

JONI JONES 

JONI JONES is a registered nurse, board certified in psychiatric and mental health nursing, who retired from the New Jersey Board of Nursing. In 2013, Joni was the recipient of the Elizabeth Kellogg’s Award for Excellence in 5 Nursing. Joni presents extensively on various social issues, including mental health, domestic violence, and children with autism spectrum disorder. 

Joni is one of the original founders of Parents of Autistic Children (POAC) and has presented before the Autism Society of America and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts on autism-related issues. She is also a former certified developmental disabilities nurse. From 2002-to 2009, Joni worked with multiple major league baseball teams to create the first-ever "Autism Awareness Day" games hosted by the New York Yankees (the Florida Marlins, the Pittsburgh Pirates, and the (then) Montreal Expos. She was previously a certified instructor in Mental Health First Aid, has authored numerous published articles on mental health-related issues, and received a New Jersey certification in crisis intervention.

Joni is the co-author of “10 Basic Principles of Cultural Competency (BCPP): A Starting Point for New Mediators”, which was presented at the 2021 Academy of Professional Mediators program on Mediation and Autism Spectrum Disorder and at the 2021 New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators’ inaugural forum on cultural competency. She is also the author of a new children’s book, “The Invisible Hurt,” which addresses the relationship between a young child and a parent with mental health challenges. Joni recently relocated with her family to Albuquerque, New Mexico, and has been appointed to U.S. Senator Ben Ray Lujan’s Mental Health Consortium.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Lawrence Jones and Joni Jones

Link to Guests’ recent TV appearance on New Mexico in Focus, discussing issues relating to domestic violence (October 6, 2022): https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=wUQY7Gqv3FA

Point C video on YouTube: htps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4eNVDtGdTs

Link to the Point C Website: www.pointcdivorce.com

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight: 

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle  

There is a lot of trauma, shame, and mixed emotional response that comes with domestic violence, and emotional and legal readiness for court is paramount for domestic violence victims seeking justice and protection. Being ready to accept domestic violence, whether emotional or physical, as abuse is key to confronting trauma, guilt, shame, and anxiety associated with court proceedings. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Joni Jones and Lawrence Jones, experts on both the emotional and legal aspects of domestic violence. Together, they discuss the emotional readiness of domestic violence victims for court to provide you with the tools you need to emotionally and legally advocate for yourself and get the protection and justice you deserve. Do not condone domestic violence by your silence. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• Why didn’t you just leave if you were being abused? This question often demonstrates a real misunderstanding of domestic violence; people are not always in a position to leave.
• The gaslighting effect is very prominent in domestic violence, and often, things don’t get better even when we stay hoping they would; these situations don’t fix themselves and often escalate into a cycle of domestic violence.
• The top form of domestic violence is not physical or assault; it is harassment. You can be abused without being laid a hand on, such as through threats, cyber harassment, or posting embarrassing things online. This is far more traumatizing than physical.
• Whether the domestic violence is physical or emotional, emotional readiness is recognizing and accepting it as abuse without making excuses for chronically abusive behaviors by an abusive partner. 

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• Everybody has individual emotional responses, but there are so many mixed emotions when you’re going through domestic violence. You can feel confused, lost, and anxious, which can be stifling and traumatizing. (Joni) 
• Victims of domestic violence are not always in a position to leave because there could be children involved, financial dependency, fear, and emotional shame. There could be legitimate reasons why somebody stays in an abusive relationship even when they know it’s unhealthy for them. (Lawrence) 
• Sometimes, when victims of domestic violence stay and hope things will get better, the other side can use that against them in court with the myth that “If I were a bad person, they would have walked out” to justify themselves. (Lawrence) 
• If you are a product of domestic violence as a child, you could adopt that as the norm because that is what you have been shown and grown up in. (Joni) 
• A lot of people feel like they are staying in a relationship for their children because they think they are providing stability for the children, but often, they also end up being victimized. (Joni) 
• Children, even if they are not the target of domestic violence, just growing up seeing parenting domestic violence heightens the risk of becoming victims or abusers themselves. (Lawrence) 

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS: 

Beverly’s personal Facebook page can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyprice365/

Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion available at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerecovery

Her Empowered Divorce YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HerEmpoweredDivorce1

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Lawrence R. Jones

Lawrence R. Jones retired from the New Jersey Judiciary in 2017 after serving the public as a Superior Court Judge. During his time on the Bench, he served as the President of the New Jersey Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges and authored over 60 opinions on novel issues of law, including significant published and unpublished opinions on issues of domestic violence and dating violence (IPV). Judge Jones also served as a member of the faculty of New Jersey’s Judicial College and was the creator and co-presenter of the Judiciary’s 2016 program, “Harassment: Drawing the Line between Domestic Disagreements and Domestic Violence.

In 2020, Professor Jones was one of the featured speakers at the New Jersey State Bar Association’s presentation on “Economic Abuse as a Form of Domestic Violence.” During National Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2022, he appeared as a guest speaker on the television program New Mexico in Focus, presenting on issues concerning domestic abuse and legal/social aspects of Congress’s reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA 2022). In 2022, the New Mexico Supreme Court appointed Jones as the Vice Chair of the statewide Commission on Alternative Dispute Resolution. 

Jones is also a certified economic mediator in New Jersey in matters with active restraining orders in place. He presently practices mediation and dispute resolution and now resides with his wife in Albuquerque, New Mexico, where he will be teaching at the University of New Mexico this fall.

JONI JONES 

JONI JONES is a registered nurse, board certified in psychiatric and mental health nursing, who retired from the New Jersey Board of Nursing. In 2013, Joni was the recipient of the Elizabeth Kellogg’s Award for Excellence in 5 Nursing. Joni presents extensively on various social issues, including mental health, domestic violence, and children with autism spectrum disorder. 

Joni is one of the original founders of Parents of Autistic Children (POAC) and has presented before the Autism Society of America and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts on autism-related issues. She is also a former certified developmental disabilities nurse. From 2002-to 2009, Joni worked with multiple major league baseball teams to create the first-ever "Autism Awareness Day" games hosted by the New York Yankees (the Florida Marlins, the Pittsburgh Pirates, and the (then) Montreal Expos. She was previously a certified instructor in Mental Health First Aid, has authored numerous published articles on mental health-related issues, and received a New Jersey certification in crisis intervention.

Joni is the co-author of “10 Basic Principles of Cultural Competency (BCPP): A Starting Point for New Mediators”, which was presented at the 2021 Academy of Professional Mediators program on Mediation and Autism Spectrum Disorder and at the 2021 New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators’ inaugural forum on cultural competency. She is also the author of a new children’s book, “The Invisible Hurt,” which addresses the relationship between a young child and a parent with mental health challenges. Joni recently relocated with her family to Albuquerque, New Mexico, and has been appointed to U.S. Senator Ben Ray Lujan’s Mental Health Consortium.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Lawrence Jones and Joni Jones

Link to Guests’ recent TV appearance on New Mexico in Focus, discussing issues relating to domestic violence (October 6, 2022): https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=wUQY7Gqv3FA

Point C video on YouTube: htps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4eNVDtGdTs

Link to the Point C Website: www.pointcdivorce.com

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight: 

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

Her Empowered Divorce Episode 105

COERCIVE CONTROL AND ITS IMPACT ON WOMEN AND CHILDREN.EP 105 

HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach 

GUEST: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, and head of Survivor Coercive Control Consulting, LLC 

SUMMARY: 

Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse that exerts power and control over victims, leaving lasting scars, especially on women and children who are the most vulnerable. This insidious pattern of behavior involves manipulation, isolation, intimidation, and surveillance, where abusers seek to dominate every aspect of their victims' lives. For women, this can lead to a profound erosion of self-esteem and independence, trapping them in a cycle of fear and dependency. Children who experience or witness coercive control within their homes can suffer from emotional trauma, which can affect their well-being and development. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to  Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, survivor, founder, and CEO of Coercive Control Consulting, LLC. Together, they discuss what Coercive Control is, how it manifests in real life, and its impact on women and children.

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• What is Coercive Control? Coercive Control is harm inflicted on all humanity; it’s all about exalting power over a person, and the most vulnerable are women and children. 
• Coercive Control in a relationship encompasses many things, including psychological abuse, legal abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, use of the children, and separation abuse. 
• Are there characteristics of an abuser that we could look out for? Yes, definitely! Alarming love, excess check-in talks and texts, using your vulnerabilities, lack of true authentic relationships, and not liking your friends. 
• Whether you stay or leave an abusive partner, there is no shame in it, but when you stay, you should always keep “a clarity list” with you to remind you of the pattern of behaviors so that whenever you are in doubt, you don’t diminish your pain. 

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• Just like all of us fall into line very quickly when we think someone has power over us, people in intimate relationships also fall into line and follow what they are expected to do. (Marie) 
• The number one indicator of being in a relationship that is ‘Coercive controlling’ is when someone uses your vulnerability against you. (Marie) 
• All domestic abuse is Coercive Control; however, when someone exerts power and control physically, this is the most violent and deadly form because when you leave, the person can see it as abandonment, and they have to get revenge. (Marie)
• Victims and survivors are the strongest people there are. (Marie)
• If someone is trying to exert power and control over you, they are not healthy, and if they are doing that to you, they are most certainly doing it to your children. (Marie)
• We all need to heal, and we need a trauma-informed therapist to support us, but if they are not informed about Coercive control, they can diminish victims' experience, which is problematic, especially for children. (Marie)

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, a college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years, has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, actively supporting codifying coercive control via written policy briefs. 

Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on children through her own clinical expertise as a trauma-trained therapist, a researcher, and a protective mother. She has created programming to educate protective parents, including The Protective Parenting Program, which offers support for parents who have children who have been coercively controlled. Additionally, she offers training for attorneys, court professionals, and other allies seeking to support these vulnerable populations.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola

Website: http://wwwiknowyourheart.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-christine-marie-cocchiola-443a58204/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/?hl=en

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/dr.cocchiola.coercivecontrol/?_rdc=1&_rdr

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight: 

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND

🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

Domestic violence is a deeply troubling and pervasive issue that affects countless individuals and families worldwide, and you don't have to go through it. Legal measures, support systems, protection orders, and domestic violence agencies and centers are set up to provide you with the support, protection, and peace of mind you deserve. Recognizing that help is available and reaching out to these resources can be a powerful step towards breaking free from the cycle of abuse, regaining control of your life, and rebuilding your life in safety and dignity. You are not alone. There are people and organizations ready to stand by your side and help you on your journey toward a life free from violence. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Uswah Khan, an Assistant Attorney General. Together, they discuss domestic violence, steps to take if you are in an abusive relationship to get support, and how protection or restraint orders work.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

●     There are Justice legal centers set up all over the country and domestic violence agents, so if you're in an abusive marriage, seek help. This will help you understand what you need and the mindset you need to have to execute a safety plan.

●     What do I need to tell my attorney about my domestic violence history? You should tell the entire history and be truthful in everything. Don’t just show the video or audio of you being mangled. The precursor to that should also be there.

●     What is a protection and restraining order? Restraining or protective orders are Identical and protect a person the same way. The protective order comes from the criminal law, and it’s issued when the police arrive at a criminal scene, while for the protective order, you have to go into civil court and apply for it.

●     Are restraining orders effective? Restraining orders at 100% effective. It becomes less effective when one party chooses not to use the protection to their advantage by allowing the abuser back in their life.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

●     It is very important for judges to know that women who have domestic violence in their divorce have gone through a trauma, and anytime we have a trauma, it is hard to talk about it; things get fragmented in our mind, and we may want to forget about some parts, and it might come off like not truthful. (Uswah)

●     If you are living with an abuser, do not live without expert domestic violence support and a safety plan because so many women are murdered when they leave an abuser without a safety plan. (Beverly)

●     It takes tremendous courage to speak up and take that step to go and talk to somebody, so as a practitioner, you want to make sure that their finances and housing are not a problem because these are the things that make them scared and go back. (Uswah)

●     For two people who are just together and not legally married, there is nothing on paper about how things will be divided out, and there is nothing one can do to be compensated financially. (Uswah)

●     Just as children don’t make up lies about abuse, most of the time, victims don’t make up lies about their abuser either. (Uswah)

●     If you want to leave an abuser, start by calling a domestic violence hotline. It’s not scary; they will just do an intake of your information and refer you to a nearby center, where you can meet with a counselor who will help you create a plan and a goal. (Uswah)

US Domestic Violence Hotline: 8007997233

ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Attorney Uswah Khan practiced family law in the State of CT for 18 years. Currently, she is an Assistant Attorney General, no longer engaged in private practice. During much of her career, she worked with all types of family law cases, including victims of domestic violence. She served as a staff attorney for two years at the Center for Family Justice. Additionally, she was a Hearing Officer for Special Education for the Connecticut State Department of Education.  She received her B.A. from Columbia University, Barnard College, a J.D. from Pace University School of Law, and an MBA from the University of Connecticut School of Business.  She is also admitted to the U.S. District Court, District of Connecticut, and to the United States Supreme Court.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST:

Website:http://www.diaryofadivorcelawyer.org/

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight:

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

 🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. We will be doubling up on our episodes to bring you the most comprehensive view of domestic violence possible. To learn more about Domestic Violence you can go to https://www.divorcecoalition.com

Many women endure the agonizing ordeal of toxic relationships in silence, their pain hidden beneath smiles and brave faces. It's a harrowing reality that no one should have to endure alone. You don't have to suffer in silence. Seeking support, confiding in friends and family, and reaching out to professionals can save your life and enable you to get the support you need. You deserve love, respect, and happiness, and there is always a path to safe liberation from toxicity. Your voice and your well-being matter, and there are people ready to stand by your side as you break free from the chains of a harmful relationship. Together, they discuss Victoria's recent experience with a client who tragically lost her life due to an abusive relationship, Victoria's own personal experiences, and the valuable lessons she has learned along the way to shed light on the importance of seeking help and support when faced with toxic relationships.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

●     We have this amazing capacity as women to be mothers, and when we are able to tap into that and raise our children, we are so powerful but when we have unscrupulous actors that activate that fixer mechanism within us, it can be exploited dramatically and it might even end up in your death.

●     When you are in an abusive relationship, you have to be aware of how your biology and love hormones are keeping you there. You are chemically attached to the individual terrorizing your life and you need to go even when your brain says otherwise. 

●     Love bombing works because we feel incredibly heard, seen, and loved, but the moment they have you and have entrapped you, that is when it all goes away and you are left with the shell of a human being and personality disorders.

●     Strangulation is one of the most dangerous behaviors because it’s a range-driven action and is very personal. A lot of people think that if you are strangled you die right then, but you can pass anywhere from a few hours to a few days which enables your perpetrator to get away with this crime.     

●     Never tell your abuser that you are leaving them until you have the support of a domestic violence expert. Friends and family are not trained to help in this dangerous situation.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

●     A lot of us ignore red-flag behaviors in the early stages of the relationship and these behaviors often lead to an abusive relationship. (Victoria)

●     We have to stop jumping from one relationship to another before we even leave the first and learn about ourselves, what motivates us, what attracts us, and what attracted us to that unhealthy marriage because that will be the key to what we will be attracted to again if we don’t do something about it. (Beverly)

●     A lot of times domestic abuse perpetrators are driven by control and the number one mechanism of control in most relationships is money; if you are emotionally dysregulated in your relationships you are going to be emotionally dysregulated in how you use your money. (Victoria)

●     As human beings we want connections, that is the thing we survive and thrive on and it can be so hard to see our actual essence as greater than a relationship that is not serving and is distracting us from who we should be; choosing yourself as a woman is the hardest thing but you deserve it. (Victoria)

●     You should never leave or tell an abuser that you are leaving them without having talked to an expert in domestic violence and particularly having a safety plan because this is when most murders happen. (Beverly)

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS:

US Domestic Violence Hotline: 8007997233

ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA®, NCPM®, CDS® was at a crossroads; she could not stay married but did not know how to leave. Victoria’s decade-long partnership had far exceeded its expiration date, but they were deeply financially entwined. Searching for a pathway to freedom, Victoria went back to her roots of financial analysis and report writing (which is how she got her first horse). Victoria created the first Divorce Impact Analysis report, which laid out the marital financial facts and different settlement ideas. After a shockingly productive conversation, Victoria and her former partner came to a resolution and peacefully separated. That’s when a lightbulb went off in Victoria’s head! Victoria realized that she could not only help others leave their timed-out marriages but also guide them to becoming financially empowered in the process.

Determined to bring a modern peaceful approach to the divorce process, Victoria founded Divorce Analytics. Divorce Analytics focuses on bringing financial clarity and transparency to the divorce process and illustrates the real-world impact of proposed settlements. By concentrating on the financial facts, Victoria shifts the divorce process from destructive to productive. Victoria recently released an 8-part Divorce Planning Kit and more information can be found at DivorceAnalytics.com/shop.

Victoria is a lifelong learner and spends most of her free time increasing her knowledge base. In addition to being a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® and a Certified Divorce Specialist®, Victoria holds seven other different financial services licenses and designations.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST:

Website: https://www.divorceanalytics.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vkirilloff/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceanalytics/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyDivorceAnalytics

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight:

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

 🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. We will be doubling up on our episodes to bring you the most comprehensive view of domestic violence possible. To learn more about Domestic Violence you can go to https://www.divorcecoalition.com

Legal issues in divorces involving domestic violence can be complex and sensitive, requiring careful consideration by both the legal system and the victims. One of the primary legal concerns is ensuring the safety and protection of the victim and any children involved. This may involve obtaining restraining orders or protection orders to keep the abusive spouse away from the victim. Child custody and visitation rights can also be contentious, as the court must determine what is in the best interests of the children while ensuring their safety. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Angela Sarabia, an attorney who has spent most of her career prosecuting crimes, especially violent crimes against women. Together, they discuss domestic violence, Legal issues involved in divorces that include domestic violence, and how to seek support.

●     What happens once law enforcement has been called? Once law enforcement has been called, it’s determined to be an actual domestic violence situation; law enforcement officials must follow a mandatory arrest policy.  

●     States define domestic violence differently, but it generally includes physical and emotional violence, people who live together or share a child in common; if there is violence between them, that is considered domestic violence.

●     Isolation can make you feel helpless in domestic violence situations when it’s time to leave, but you are not alone. There are all kinds of organizations and support programs, and you need to go to these outreach programs to get support. 

●     Regardless of how you feel, if you are a victim going through a divorce, follow the advice of your attorney, cease all communication with the battler, and obtain a restraining order to keep yourself and your loved one safe.  

NOTABLE QUOTES:

●     Women in a domestic violence situation tend to face a risk of fatality if they don’t exist that violent circumstance. (Angela)

●     Oftentimes, the abuser, as much as they are a source of risk for women, they are their source of security and support, and a lot of time, it’s financial support. (Angela)

●     Domestic violence itself is isolating because as much as we have progressed as a society, there is still a huge stigma attached to it. (Angela)

●     A safety plan is strategic and smart; it’s having all your documents in a place where they are easy to grab, people you know you can confide in and give a call to pick you up and have reached out to the domestic violence organization. (Angela)

●     We often think of domestic violence as something that occurs in uneducated communities, but it cuts across every socioeconomic status and education level, so let's stop seeing it as isolated to one type of community and see it as something that we all struggle with and remove the stigma. 

●     Violence is not an outburst of somebody who has lost control of themselves; it’s an outburst of somebody who is trying to gain control of the situation.

●      If you are isolated, find your sources of support, and don’t be afraid to call law enforcement and reach out to organizations and support programs. There is overwhelming support for you out there.

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS:

US Domestic Violence Hotline: 8007997233

ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Angela Sarabia is an attorney who has spent most of her career prosecuting crimes, especially violent crimes against women. While she was a prosecutor, Angela won awards from two local domestic violence organizations: Sunrise of Pasco County and Salvation Army Domestic Violence Program. She is also an actress in her spare time and has participated in community theatre her entire adult life. During the pandemic, she was inspired to write her first play, Duress, which focused on the ways in which violence is often used as a tool of manipulation against women. The play also addresses the unique issues women face when they become victims of crime. Duress was selected to be performed at Stage West Community Playhouse in Spring Hill, Florida, and was selected to be featured in Powerstories Tampa's Voices of Women Theater Festival, where it won the Female Empowerment Award. Duress can be viewed on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFRDzS58Ous&t=3809s

FOLLOW OUR GUEST:

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/watch/?v=1279566532928568&ref=sharing&_rdc=1&_rdr

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT YOUR HOST:

Beverly Price is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself. In her 30 years of divorce coaching experience she has help thousands of women move through divorce, fully prepared with skills that enhance the results of their divorce process.

Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: 

https://Beverly-Price.as.me/ConsultationCall

CONTACT YOUR HOST:

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/

Facebook Group: Her Empowered Divorce Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herempowereddivorcetribe

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce1/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered

🌟 Special Highlight:

Have you discovered the "Divorce & Beyond" podcast with Susan Guthrie yet? With over 30 years as a leading family law attorney and mediator, Susan combines her wealth of expert insights with advice from the nation's top divorce specialists. Whether you're navigating the tumultuous currents of divorce or looking to thrive in your radiant BEYOND, "Divorce & Beyond" is your companion for the journey. Dive deeper and let Susan guide you to a brighter tomorrow. Listen to "Divorce & Beyond" wherever you enjoy your podcasts or on the website https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, and step into your beautiful BEYOND. 🌟

 🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle 

 🔊 Check Out the Divorce Coalition🎉

I'm proud to share that I am now a part of The Divorce Coalition, a united front aiming to "Break the Silence. Break the Cycle." Our mission is to bring understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time.

🔗 We're here to bridge the gap between silence and strength. Through education and awareness, we aim to enlighten legal experts and uplift survivors, ensuring safer homes for all.

Join us on this transformative journey. Follow [@DivorceCoalitionPage] on social media and learn more at 👉 divorcecoalition.com.

Let's come together, break the silence, and champion a brighter future! #divorcecoalitioni#breakthesilencel#breakthecycleCycle

The Intersection Between Menopause and Divorce 

HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach 

GUEST: Claire Gill, The founder of the National Menopause Foundation

SUMMARY: 

Whether you are facing divorce before, during, or after menopause, there is an undeniable link between the two. The interplay between the emotional and physical changes that accompany menopause can significantly impact one's thoughts, decisions, and experiences during a divorce. Hormonal fluctuations, menopausal symptoms, and the onset of new health concerns during menopause can amplify the challenges associated with separation and lead to a profound reevaluation of life's priorities. Understanding this connection and seeking the right support is crucial for navigating this complex intersection of life changes. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, your Host, Beverly Price, talks to Claire Gill, the founder of the National Menopause Foundation. They discuss how menopause and divorce intersect, the impact of the menopause transition on women physically and psychologically, especially in marital relationships, and how you can empower yourself to navigate this unique journey.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation. 

Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate, and review our show! 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• “This is my experience; is this menopause?” This is the most FAQ about menopause. When women younger than the average age of entering menopause (51) start exhibiting symptoms, they are often very confused. Perimenopause can start 7-10 years before you have your final periods.  
• If you are thinking about ending your marriage, you need to get the support you need with both the issues in your relationships and your health, whether it’s night sweats, insomnia, irritability, or anxiety. These experiences can impact your thoughts about divorce and how you manage that process. 
• What can you do if you are in menopause with the loss of libido? There are things that can be done, such as Hormone replacement therapy, that help the woman and the relationship, but you need to be very mindful of what is happening to you and what is happening in your relationship.
• How to prepare for menopause: The things that we need to do to prepare for menopause are the things that we need to do for our overall health. Diet and exercise are important for us throughout our life span, but particularly as we reach middle age. 
• Take stock of your own health, write down any of those symptoms that you're having to have a better sense of what is happening to you, talk to your health provider about your stage of life and what your risk factors might be for any of the conditions that come in mid-life, and research and help educate yourself about menopause.

NOTABLE QUOTES:

• Menopause is when your periods stop consistently for 12 consecutive months; everything before it is perimenopause, and everything after it is post-menopause. (Claire)
• Even if menopause is going on and the symptoms are happening, that doesn't mean it is your fault because, as women, we create a lot of guilt, shame, blame, and comparison. It is not your fault. (Beverly)
• All issues around divorce might not be menopause-related, but they are going to be amplified at the end of life. (Claire)
• Anxiety increases for women, and women who have never been anxious before can develop anxiety during menopause, which might impact their thoughts about divorce and how they manage that process. (Claire)
• We are often worried about being normal, and menopause is a normal, healthy stage of life; we should be grateful that we have lived this long and get to experience menopause. (Claire)
• Knowledge is power, and once we know what to expect, we can make a plan to address it. (Claire)

FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS: 

Beverly’s personal Facebook page can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyprice365/

Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion available at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerecovery

Her Empowered Divorce YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HerEmpoweredDivorce

Women Health organization and government resources: https://www.hhs.gov/

Menopause Society: https://www.menopause.org/

ABOUT OUR GUEST: 

Claire Gill launched the National Menopause Foundation in September 2019. Its mission is to be a trusted and relatable resource to raise awareness and understanding of menopause through education, activism, and community building. Previously, Ms. Gill spent 20+ years in public relations and marketing for national nonprofits and public relations firms with Fortune 500 clients. A respected leader in women’s health, she serves on a variety of coalitions and working groups promoting the needs of women at midlife. She also hosts The Positive Pause podcast, featuring interviews with experts on a variety of topics impacting women’s health and well-being. In addition, Ms. Gill is the Chief Executive Officer of the Bone Health and Osteoporosis Foundation, an organization dedicated to improving Americans' bone health and preventing osteoporotic fractures.

FOLLOW OUR GUEST: 

Website: https://nationalmenopausefoundation.org/

 https://www.bonehealthandosteoporosis.org/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/clairebgill/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nationalmenopausefoundation

Instagram: https://instagram.com/nationalmenopausefoundation

Twitter: https://twitter.com/menopausefnd

Email: [email protected]

ABOUT YOUR HOST: 

Beverly Prices is the empowering divorce coach who guides women on their journey before, during, and after divorce to eliminate pain, overwhelm, sadness, and anger and create more knowledge, skill, and peace that she experienced herself.

CONTACT YOUR HOST: 

Website: http://www.herempowereddivorce.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_empowered_divorce

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herempowereddivorce/ 

Facebook Personal: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyprice365

Facebook Group: Women’s Divorce and Empowerment Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerecovery

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7kIcMXrj1tIWBOmaXBBn1U

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@herempowereddivorce/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverly-price/

Email: [email protected]

 CHECK OUT MY FREE EBOOK:12 Steps to Empowerment https://herempowereddivorce.com/12-steps-to-empowerment-1

A Warm Shoutout To Our Amazing Sponsor: SOBERLINK

Navigating the world of divorce and empowerment involves prioritizing the safety and well-being of your children, especially during co-parenting. In today's climate, where alcohol-related concerns are on the rise, countless co-parents are embracing a solution dedicated to providing assurance, protection, and tranquility. Enter Soberlink's cutting-edge alcohol monitoring system – your ultimate partner in assuring a substance-free parenting environment.

With Soberlink's advanced features like real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection, every test maintains its authenticity, granting you the peace of mind that your children are in the care of a responsible, sober parent. Judges can rely on Soberlink to ensure the child's safety, attorneys can access court-admissible proof of sobriety, and both parents can experience empowerment and serenity.

Unveil the hidden intricacies of parenting in the modern age and put your trust in The Pioneers of Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™. Stay informed and rest easy knowing that your children are safeguarded. For a comprehensive addiction and children resource page crafted in partnership with Soberlink, feel free to visit www.soberlink.com/empowered