In this episode, Cat Dupree breaks down why the question “when do I tell someone I have herpes” is actually the wrong question to be asking and what really determines how that conversation goes. Instead of focusing on timing, Cat explains why waiting for the perfect moment creates more pressure, what’s driving that need to delay, and why that moment you’re waiting for doesn’t exist.

You’ll also hear how the “illusion of control” keeps you stuck, why waiting doesn’t change how you feel about your herpes diagnosis, and what shifts when you stop trying to manage someone else’s reaction. Cat shares how confidence and self-acceptance change the entire dynamic of disclosure, what it really means to be ready, and how to approach the conversation without overthinking, overexplaining, or second guessing yourself.