Ep37: We are in the Hot Seat with Licensed Therapist Julia Kristina, MA!

We recorded this episode LIVE on Periscope!

Their is no such thing as the "perfect couple". We are proof of that. People have said to us “Do you two ever fight?” the answer is yes! We are different people with our own thoughts, opinions and issues. In this episode we give you some ways to deal with that spouse of yours getting on your nerves!

This is a tough one. On todays episode we talk about some of the warning signs that we missed at first that our Marriage was in trouble. Thank God we caught it in time and we were both willing to work on our Marriage. It takes two.

        1.You two don’t disagree on anything- This may sound a little backwards but it is      true. You are uniquely you and no one is exactly like you. So if you and your spouse never have a disagreement, someone is not being honest. Arguments can be great for a relationship. Finding out how someone truly feels will help you understand them. This can be the beginning of fixing a problem.

Marriage missions;

Smile- 7 Things that will bring laughter to your Marriage

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In this episode we go over 7 (plus 3 bonus) things Every Mother should teach their son. Raising boys to be gentlemen can be a challenge. But there is a method that can help! Please take the time to listen and leave us a message or send us an email with your thoughts

Mama -7 Things Every Mother should teach their son(s)

1.Does your face light up when they walk in a room?

Smile when you see him. Dont look him up and down and tell him what he needs to fix about himself. Compliment him. Let him know how nice and put together he looks. If something needs to be adjusted let him know without sounding like you are insulting him.

2. Chivalry is not Dead! Since he could walk, we taught him how to open doors for me and his sisters. Let them order first. etc. 

“Treat every woman kindly – and treat her equally. Women can do everything you can do – they just might do it differently”.

3. It takes a real man to share his feelings and to cry. I allowed him an hour to be alone but it was mandatory that he shared how he was feeling.by the time he had his first heartbreak he knew how to express his pain. “His first heartbreak story”

4. Encourage sports, activity, Team sports built confidence and a sense of responsibility and discipline that is really difficult as a parent to just teach.

5. Go on “date night” Teach them young how to treat a woman. How to listen to the opposite sex. Look them in the eyes and be attentive    How to order at a restaurant. Start at a young age. Let them order, let them talk to the server, figure out tip etc.

6. Watch how you speak to your spouse in front of him. If you are treating your husband like a child, nagging, talking down to them, making fun of them. They grow up think, thats how a wife treats their husband. Let your husband lead. Make sure you back up whatever he is telling your children. If you disagree, talk about it in private. Do not disagree with a disciplinary action in front of him. Your son is watching and I promise you, he will look for that in a wife and the wife will be your DAUGHTER IN LAW!!

7. Show your son that you're confident in your body. Never ever say “im fat” or I need to diet. You'd be surprise how much a mothers opinion of their out ward appearance means to them. My son always comes to me first when he gets his haircut or a new outfit. If your obsessed with your weight, how is he going to feel about himself when he gets older and puts on some extra pounds. Focus on health, taking care of your body the best way you know how. You’re your sons woman roll model..like it or not. If you say you're fat and show how much that effects you..what in turn will he expect out of his wife, and what she needs to look like. Focus on Character, of a woman, not size. You want your son to choose someone who is beautiful in character…looks fade.

PLUS 3 BONUS LESSONS!!!

8. Encourage your kids to follow their passion, but help them with the steps to get there. (tell story of what Lyndan said on periscope)”Find what you have been put on the planet to do, how you can make a difference to others – Ask your self daily "how will I leave the planet a better place than when I arrived?”

9. Laugh with them. Theres a right time and place, but be silly with them throughout the day. Through daily routines. we would blare the music super loud and sing our favorite song at the top of our lungs, or play with them, get at their level on the floor, sword fight. My son in the worst of time has found something to laugh about, “See the light side of everything – don’t take yourself too seriously. Life is a long, hard road if you are not having fun along the way. Set goals and celebrate your successes”.

10. My consistent covering prayer for my son.. “Seek God with all of your heart, all of your mind, and all of your soul, and He will make your paths straight”

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