Hey, Var!

We’re live inside Tabatha’s new group, Build Bold Branding Co Marketplace Revival, and this one’s for the women ready to chart new territory. Stacey and Tabatha talk about the adventure of finding your voice in business, the evolution of that voice, and why your voice is your authority.

This isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about stepping onto solid ground, not shaky footing, and daring to blaze a trail with confidence, expertise, and Spirit-led creativity. We’ll explore how branding can launch you, the crossover between marketplace and mental health, and the freedom, faith, and fun of being Confidently Original. 

In this live conversation from the Release the Runners Crusade closed group, we talk about the beauty—and the challenge—of dreaming the same dream as friends and ministry partners. How do you stay united when you each carry different perspectives? What keeps you running together instead of pulling apart?

Here’s the truth: when God’s hand is on it, you don’t have to struggle or strain. He goes before us, and we get to ask, Where is the burden light? That’s where the fun, faith, and freedom are found—the space to push the envelope, follow the fire of the Lord, and run farther and faster together.

And at the heart of it all is friendship—the reminder that you do have freedom, joy, and connection, even in ways everyday life as women doesn’t always allow.

This week on Hey, Var! we’re letting you in on our live conversation from the Release the Runners Crusade Facebook group as we get ready for our New Hampshire crusade this November. We’re talking about why the middle of a mission matters more than the ending—and how real success is measured in the way we work together, not just how perfect the event turns out.

In the Havar way, leadership isn’t about one person giving orders—it’s about moving as a circle, pulling in the same direction, and keeping connection strong long after the crusade ends. It’s all about we over me.

High Stakes: Where Do I Put My Stake in the Ground?

Every woman comes to a moment where she has to pause, lean in, and decide: Where will I put my stake in the ground?

In this episode, we explore what it means to choose your ground—the places where your pain and passion intersect, and where God might be inviting you to build something lasting.

Like the pioneers who rode into new land and marked it as their own, there’s something powerful about saying, “This is where I stand. This is what I’m called to.”

We’re revisiting a moment from Episode 87: Trust Fall, thanks to a listener who asked us to go deeper.

Sometimes, putting your stake in the ground is simply about saying yes—even when the next steps are still unfolding.

We did it! FriendTrip 2025—our first-ever getaway with two other friend duos—is officially in the books, and today’s guests are living proof that you can roll with us and live to tell about it (mud, meltdowns, and all).

From deflated inner tubes in murky waters to soul-soaking conversations in the hot tub, we unpack what it looked like to let go, lean in, and laugh a lot. There were definitely moments we thought we’d lost them—but spoiler alert: both women said they’d do it again. That, friends, is a certified Var Land victory.

This episode is full of humor, heart, and holy moments. If you’ve ever craved adventure with meaning, deep connection, or a trip that changes more than just your scenery—this one’s for you.

Listen in. Get inspired. And maybe start packing for the next one.

We’re gearing up for our first official Friend Trip Getaway! 

We’ve dreamed about this for years—and now it’s finally happening. Four women, two duos, have said yes to the call (and somehow trusted us with their friendship, their time, and possibly their lives for 24 hours). In this episode, we unpack what these Spirit-led adventures mean to us, how they’ve become altars of becoming, and why we believe they’re worth everything. These aren’t just getaways—they’re where friendship is forged in fire, laughter sounds like worship, and the Holy Spirit meets us in the wild. We wouldn’t trade them for anything.

It’s easy to say we trust our friends—until they ask us to prove it in ways that don’t make sense! If you’re someone who needs the full picture before you move, this one’s for you.

What happens when we freefall? When you trust a God-given friend before you fully understand, it doesn’t just build the relationship—it builds something inside them too. Your trust becomes fuel, and the confidence you show in her becomes the confidence she carries into the world.

We’re not talking about blind trust or ignoring red flags—we’re talking about the kind of faith that moves before it all makes sense. Let’s talk about what it really means to trust, to move with faith, and to walk the wild adventure of God-ordained friendship.

We’re breaking alone.

But shame and abandonment run deeper—convincing us connection isn’t safe, needing others is weakness, and hiding is survival.

We call it strength. God calls it stolen communion.

This episode uncovers the spirit of abandon—the lie that says you’re on your own—and how shame turns it into a lifestyle of silence and mistrust.

💥 In this episode:

– We name wounds that shaped your independence

– We break shame’s agreement that you must be okay alone

– We explore how God uses friendship to rebuild what trauma guarded

– And we remind you: you’re still worthy of being held

Healing isn’t just personal—it’s relational.

The rubble in your heart is real.

But so is the friend who won’t quit.

Who shows up.

Who stays to help you rebuild.

That’s covenant. That’s Kingdom friendship.

And that’s how you rebuild.

HEY VAR PODCAST – SEASON 3.0 EPISODE 85

Welcome back to HEY, VAR!- Outfitting Women for Kingdom Friendship since 2011.

This is Season 3.0, and we’re pressing deeper into the power of friendship forged in fire and anchored in purpose.

On this episode, we’re diving into how we’re exploring friendship through the Havar anointing—being joined together in friendship for a heavenly task.

We’re talking covenant, calling, and company.

And this season? We’re not just recording—we’re building.

🔥 Launching our new shop: Friendship Outfitters — gear + goods for the ones you’d ride into battle with.
🔥 Rolling out Friendship Adventure Getaways — because some friendships are meant to be formed in the wild.
🔥 And every episode is stirring up courage, connection, and the kind of friendships that carry Kingdom weight.

So grab your bestie, hit play, and pull up a seat at the fire.
Let’s break alone, link arms, and run this trail together.

How do you know when you're running with the right people?

It's time to take an assessment and learn 3 markers of health.

Join us as we upgrade into Havar 3.0 where two besties are learning to navigate the in's and out's of true Kingdom community and connection the healthy way!