In this episode of High Performance Parenting, Greg and Jacquie Francis teach biblical communication principles for resolving conflict without breaking connection. Learn the rules that protect your marriage and family from cycles of disconnection — and why winning arguments never builds intimacy.

You’ll Learn:

• The 24-hour rule for healthy reconnection
• How “I-statements” create safety and honor
• Why defensiveness kills connection and how to stop it
• How to break hurtful speech habits (like “never” and “always”)
• How prayer and perspective soften your heart after conflict
• Why connection is a covenant — not a feeling

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00:00 – Intro: The Power of Pausing

00:30 – 24-hour Rule for Reconnection

01:00 – How to Start a Repair Conversation

01:45 – Rules of Engagement: No Yelling or Belittling

02:00 – Using “I-Statements” Instead of Accusationsjacquie-greg (9)

03:00 – How Defensiveness Blocks Connection

04:15 – Why Perspective Matters Before You Talk

05:00 – Letting Your Spouse Speak First

06:00 – Handling Strong-Willed Kids in Conflict

07:15 – Teaching Children Boundaries & Respectful Speech

08:30 – How Prayer Transforms Your Heart

09:30 – Reconnection as a Covenant Choice

10:45 – Final Encouragement: Fight for Peace, Not to Win

In this episode, Greg and Jacquie Francis unpack how to stay connected through the hardest moments of marriage and parenting. They reveal the surprising truth: the goal isn’t avoiding conflict—it’s staying connected through it.

You’ll learn how fear creates distance, why connection always involves risk, and how covenant love gives you the courage to stay close even when it’s uncomfortable.

You’ll Learn:

• Why connection often triggers fear of being hurt again
• The “distance cycle” that keeps couples apart
• How to reset your mindset from defense to connection
• What healthy conflict looks like in a covenant marriage
• Biblical strategies for rebuilding unity after disagreement

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00:00 – Greg’s “sophish-ticated” dad joke 🤣

00:45 – The covenant philosophy: distance vs connection

01:15 – Fear of closeness after hurt

02:20 – The “grenade” pattern that keeps couples apart

03:10 – Grace in connection: forgiveness and realism

04:00 – Choose your hard—connection takes work

05:15 – The danger of bad counsel and why you need godly mentors

07:10 – Teaching your kids that home is “connection base”

08:20 – Brain science of conflict: why logic and emotion shut down

10:40 – The power of pausing before saying something harmful

13:00 – Redefining success: maturity over victory

14:15 – Protecting your covenant through small wins

15:20 – Closing encouragement: unity is holy work

In this High Performance Parenting episode, Greg and Jacquie Francis unpack how to build and maintain real connection in your marriage and family—even when emotions run high or opinions clash.

Through biblical wisdom, practical tools, and their own stories, they reveal how God’s design for covenant love keeps families strong, secure, and united.

You’ll Learn:

• How to define a God-centered goal of connection in your marriage
• Why healthy arguments can strengthen your bond
• How to model reconciliation and grace for your kids
• The difference between a relationship covenant and a connection covenant
• Biblical principles to restore peace and unity in your home

🙌 Watch now and learn how to build a connected, faith-filled family that lasts.

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00:00 – Welcome & funny family intro (Abby’s new puppy story)

01:00 – Why connection is the real goal in marriage and parenting

03:30 – The difference between business, financial, and marriage goals

04:45 – The “binary choice” of connection vs. distance

06:00 – Breaking unhealthy habits of emotional disconnection

07:20 – When one spouse wants connection and the other doesn’t

08:10 – Modeling healthy conflict and forgiveness for your kids

09:30 – How arguments can actually strengthen family trust

10:50 – The covenant of connection vs. the covenant of relationship

11:45 – Teaching kids it’s okay to disagree—without disconnecting

12:30 – Why connection takes consistent, intentional work

13:45 – Building godly strategies for reconnection

14:30 – Final thoughts: choosing covenant love every day

In this heartfelt episode of High Performance Parenting, Greg and Jacquie Francis open up about the unseen pressures parents carry—especially dads who feel the constant weight to protect and provide.

They discuss the difference between healthy responsibility and toxic guilt, how God’s design actually relieves pressure, and why giving your kids a childhood full of peace is one of the greatest gifts you can offer.

You’ll Learn:

• How men experience “provider pressure” and how to release it to God
• Why moms often carry emotional guilt and how to find peace
• Practical ways to balance protection, provision, and presence
• How to let your kids stay kids in a world that rushes them to grow up
• The importance of family unity, gratitude, and God’s timing

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Questions: How do you share the load as a couple?

00:00 – Welcome back to Part 3: Managing Guilt & Stress

00:30 – Greg shares the “protector’s pressure” dads feel daily

01:15 – The never-ending need to provide and how it shapes men

03:00 – Financial and emotional realities of raising six kids

05:00 – Why saying “no” is hard for parents who want to give

07:00 – Balancing work, kids, and mental breaks

08:15 – Jacquie’s praise for Greg’s covering & God’s design for family order

09:00 – The unseen load of fatherhood and gratitude in marriage

11:00 – Funny story: their kids realizing how blessed they are

13:00 – Letting kids be kids—and why that’s biblical

14:00 – Final thoughts: trading guilt for grace

Parent guilt doesn’t define you — God’s grace does.

In this heartfelt follow-up episode, Greg and Jacquie Francis dive deeper into what it means to release guilt, comparison, and unrealistic expectations in parenting. They discuss the importance of supporting one another as husband and wife, finding replenishment, and learning to parent from peace — not pressure.

You’ll also hear practical, faith-centered advice on how to:

✨ Recognize and overcome comparison traps

✨ Honor God’s unique design for your family

✨ Build emotional health and balance as parents

✨ Create peace through communication and unity

✨ Find your identity in God, not in perfection

📖 “You were handpicked by God for your children.”

Let this episode remind you that you are called, capable, and chosen for your family — just as you are.

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Parent guilt is real — but it’s not God’s design. In this heartfelt episode, Greg and Jacquie Francis open up about their own struggles with guilt, stress, and balance as parents. From mom guilt to emotional burnout, they unpack the truth about how men and women are wired differently by God—and how understanding that design leads to peace, grace, and strength in the parenting journey.

You’ll hear practical ways to release guilt, set healthy boundaries, and let faith lead the way as you raise your family in today’s world.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Why moms carry guilt differently than dads
• How God’s design equips parents uniquely
• Setting boundaries without feeling selfish
• The power of communication in family balance
• What replenishing your soul really looks like

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In this powerful and heartfelt episode, Greg Francis sits down with his daughters to unpack what true discipline and mindset look like — both in sports and in life. From varsity golf lessons to real talk about frustration, failure, and teamwork, this episode shows how daily consistency and faith shape champions from the inside out.

They discuss the difference between distress and eustress, the importance of structure and choice, and why discipline isn’t punishment — it’s preparation.

💡 You’ll learn:

• How to turn daily habits into long-term confidence
• The difference between distress and eustress
• The “Rule of Thirds” for training days
• How family unity strengthens performance
• Why your words shape your mindset

🎧 Tune in for real, relatable family conversations that reveal how mindset and faith can transform your child’s approach to life.

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In this inspiring episode of Redwood Parenting, Greg Francis sits down with his triplet daughters to unpack what it really takes to develop a champion mindset — on and off the course. From varsity golf pressure to emotional control, the family dives into what happens when you let your thoughts define your performance.

They explore the difference between distress and eustress, how to build mental resilience, and why excellence is a process — not a result. Whether your child is an athlete, musician, or student, this conversation will help you guide them toward emotional stability, confidence, and daily excellence.

🎧 Key Takeaways:

• How mindset determines performance outcomes
• Emotional control in high-pressure situations
• Turning “what ifs” into growth
• Focusing on process over perfection

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Join Greg and Jacquie Francis — a powerful conversation about building unity, joy, and intentional connection within the family.

From board games and art fairs to serving together and leading with love, Greg and Jacquie share practical ways to help your children learn how to support, encourage, and celebrate each other.

They also open up about the importance of discipling kids, guiding them toward maturity, and creating a home culture that reflects love, respect, and teamwork.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• How to nurture healthy sibling relationships
• Why intentionality matters more than luck in family connection
• Teaching kids to serve and support each other joyfully
• Practical activities that build family unity
• The power of mentorship and modeling in parenting

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In this inspiring episode, Greg and Jacquie Francis share how to intentionally shape what your family is known for — through consistent training, love, and biblical standards.

They reveal how everyday preparation and modeling faith can raise kids who carry confidence, respect, and godly character into every space they enter.

💡 You’ll learn:

• How to build a confident and respectful family culture
• Why role-playing and preparation build self-assurance
• How to correct with love, not embarrassment
• Why modeling faith and unity shapes identity

🎧 Listen in and discover how to intentionally raise children who reflect God’s light at home and in the world.

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