Join a crow, a fawn, and Luis on a morning walk to chat about the avoidant attachment style.  There is a myth that avoidant attachment style folks are narcissistic psychopaths. He challenges this through the lens of somatics, seeing the avoidant attachment style as a habit in bodies that don't have capacity for connection. Their lack of capacity for their own feelings makes connection feel repressive work. So they push connection away. Instead of processing the feelings they often soothe the big feelings they don't have capacity for with porn, cheating, and addictions.

 

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Today Luis chats with Dick Schwartz, developer of Internal Family Systems (I.F.S.). Dick started his career as a family therapist. Upon asking the question, "why isn't family therapy working?" he began to develop what has become I.F.S. He learned from being in the field, and from making mistakes, how to tend to the parts of us that are usually frozen in the past. Dick found that when we talk to the inner critic with compassion, the deep healing work unfolds.

Luis asks if Dick's work sprang from a spiritual or clinical place, and how he feels about it now. They discuss their views of "self sabotage", and they delve into the intersection of psychedelics and I.F.S. 

The cherry on top of this black bean brownie is the journey Dick guides Luis on to tend to his own inner critic. If you follow alongside Luis on your own journey, please drop us a comment below and let us know what, or who, you find. 

You can read more about Dick Schwartz, and the IRF Institute, here: https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phd

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

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You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigation

Questions? You can email us at [email protected]

On today's episode, Luis discusses navigating conflict through a somatic lens. As he speaks about conflict, he does not mean abuse or threat, but disagreement, disappoint and frustration.

Luis teaches about his "Tending To Rupture" method, and how he's been able to apply it to his client work, as well as his personal life. He discusses how the physiology of trauma response creates the conditions that make conflicts so difficult to resolve. 

Luis offers practical tips and guided practices to help you navigate uncomfortable situations and conversations with more calm, more embodiment, and more openness.

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Questions? You can email us at [email protected]

On today's episode, Luis speaks with Will Harris, a farmer, cattleman, and owner of White Oak Pastures. Will shares his personal story of how he inherited his family farm, and how he transitioned the farm from an industrial model to a regenerative one.

When taking an industrial approach to farming, Will had caused desertification on parts of his land from the use of chemicals and monocultural farming. His cattle were taking hormones and pharmaceuticals to make them produce more. Over time, he began to see that the focus of industrial farming is all about killing things, like pests and weeds. Knowing that every organism has a role in it's ecosystem, he decided to begin to make the transition to a more sustainable and Earth-focused approach. 

You can learn more about White Oak Pastures here: https://whiteoakpastures.com/

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

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Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-group

Use the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.

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Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new

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Questions? You can email us at [email protected]

Trevor is back for a second podcast episode with Luis to discuss parenting in the age of social media and screen prevalence.  The hard first question is, what social media and screen patterns do the parents model?  Do parents use their own free time to disassociate and isolate with the screen? Do parents use the screen as a babysitter for their child/ren, so that they have time to resource themselves? When parents live an authentic, meaningful and satisfied life, they can connect to their child with playfulness and curiosity. 

Trevor explains how to help break a child's screen pattern through what he calls wedging change. He gives several free, easy, and accessible ways to connect with children, and it's not through talking. Remember, perfection is not the goal, connection is. You do not need to figure out how to do this in isolation!

Rooted Futures information:

Website:
https://rootedfutures.org/

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/rootedfuturesmentoring?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

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Trevor Spring joins Luis for a tender discussion about masculinity, and how to tend our boys. Many boys and men have grown up, or are growing up, in isolation around their emotions and sexuality, with little to no physical or emotional attunement from caregivers and mentors. Porn becomes the de facto teacher prompting a chemistry shift in a frozen, dissociated body. Sexuality is learned with and from a screen, not body to body in a relationship of reciprocity. This pattern reinforces misattunement with self and partners, disconnection breeding disconnection. It also develops a habit of reliance on technology to regulate in a space where secrecy, thrill and taboo are needed as a turn on. 

This is not a matter of goodness, badness, or self discipline. What do we want outside of the porn narrative? What does this animal body actually enjoy? How can we nourish and soften into a place of self love and love-ability?  How can we connect to our feelings in a healthy way? If one can find connection and nourishment through self-relating, and partnerships, porn loses it's power. 

For those of you navigating raising boys Trevor also offers wisdom and advice on where to begin making changes. 

You can read and learn more about Rooted Futures through the links below:

Website:
https://rootedfutures.org/

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/rootedfuturesmentoring?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

You can register for the FREE Food Therapy session here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/events/food-therapy-supporting-adhd-with-nutrition

Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-group

Use the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.

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Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book

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In this episode, Luis continues the short series on male puberty by exploring parallel co-regulation, which is similar to parallel play -- meaning they're playing near or next to each other -- and how important it is for teenage boys. 

During puberty, many boys lose access to their feelings while stuck in a body overwhelmed by testosterone and transformation at every level. An increase in sensation added to a decrease in capacity for sensation leads to inevitable shut down and isolation.

Luis dives into how parents and caregivers can interrupt this isolation through inviting parallel co-regulation in simple ways: Your teen does the dishes while you make dinner. Bring them to the store to help grocery shop. Read separate books together in the living room. What other ways can you think of to bring "parallel play"/parallel co-regulation into your home? 

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In this episode, Luis dives into the developmental trauma of boys -- a continuation of Episode 279: This Is Why I Think P*rnography Is Traumatizing For Developing Boys -- and how they are generally unsupported through puberty.

There's a lot of discourse around "toxic males" and problematic men in our society, but not a lot of somatic discussion around how to support young boys in a new way so they can walk a different path: a more embodied one. 

Luis encourages community building for parents, which is something that's been lost from parenting in isolation, and offers ideas for meeting young male aggression in a way that works for them.  

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-group

Use the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.

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You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/

Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new

Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book

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Questions? You can email us at [email protected]

Register here for the upcoming August 9th webinar, "Supporting Boys Through Puberty: Navigating P*rnography, Hormones & Isolation".

Register for a weekend with Luis at Art of Living Retreat Center in Boone, North Carolina: https://artoflivingretreatcenter.org/event/faculty/luis-mojica/creating-safety-within/

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Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book

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Join Luis as he riffs about gender-affirming surgery, hormone therapy, and puberty blockers for minors. He looks to Marci Bowers, the first transgender female gynecologist and surgeon, who makes the case for not giving minors puberty blockers and hormone therapy.  

Children can safely explore who they are through temporary means, such as: make-up, fashion, roles, gender and stereotypes. The teenage years are inherently dysphoric, lets support kids to flow through these years with as much ease as possible. Once an adult their body can transition with much greater success. 

Being born fringe has the burden and privilege of suffering. Instead of erasing suffering let's consider supporting our children with tools to navigate the darkness. What has supported you through seasons of dysphoria? Drop us a comment below! 

Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here.

Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-group

Use the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.

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You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/

Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new

Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book

You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigation

Questions? You can email us at [email protected]