In this episode Scott and Patrick discuss the important distinction between hopes and expectations.

 

Group Questions:

1. Talk about a time when you had expectations that ended up in disappointment. Share a funny story if you have one.
2. What is the difference between hope and expectation? Why does that distinction matter?
3. Patrick said, “Expectation is pre-planned disappointment.” Discuss what this means and give a few examples from everyday life. How does hope prevent disappointment? What is the object of our focus when we have expectations? When we have hope?
4. Read Psalm 43:5. Discuss a time in your life when you had to  release a relationship or circumstance into God’s control and place your hope in God. Is there a desired outcome in your life right now that you need to let go of?
5. How does trusting in God’s sovereignty help us when certain expectations are not met in life?
6. What did Patrick say are some common coping strategies men use for dealing with unmet expectations? 
7. Read Habakkuk 3:17-18; John 16:33. What is Habakkuk experiencing here? How does he respond? What did Jesus say about trouble? What is the danger of the prosperity gospel? What might you be trusting in instead of God alone?
8. Read Matthew 7:1-6. As a husband, father, friend, or co-worker, are you focusing more on your own flaws or the flaws of the other person? How should you respond to the flaws of the other person?
9. What does the New Testament teach us about expectations? Patrick said, “It’s okay to receive love, but it’s not okay to require it.“ Discuss an area in your life where you can apply this.