How can sane, educated, successful, people of African Ancestry support Trump so vehemently, regardless of the slander and backlash? How do they get to the point where they are regurgitating White Supremacy rhetoric that has been passed down since slavery began. Better yet, how do we engage with Black Trump supporters in a way that doesn’t aggravate us? 

This week, Dr. Venus discusses why we still have White Supremacy in Blackface, and gives a historical context from the days of slavery up until our current climate in media and society. She shares three of the key terms that have been used to oppress Black Men and Women in our language, and what we can learn from Black Trump supporters to strengthen our own power and healing. 

Key Takeaways: 

[5:51] After Emancipation and moving into the Reconstruction era, the only model that Black Men had for masculinity was the power and obedience they saw from White Supremacy. In today’s modern age of politics, Trump’s supporters view him as a type of savior, with a level of masculinity and strength that is rooted in Patriarchy.

[9:21] Black Trump supporters tend to relate to Trump as the image and persona he has created for himself as a star and someone who is rich beyond belief. They view him as the chosen candidate for a free thinker who isn’t part of the herd. 

[17:26] It’s brilliant marketing, so learn from it instead of getting mad at it. Notice how they use the imagery that our society has gone awry, and what we are needing more than ever is to get back to traditional values. It’s not about convincing us 100%, it’s about planting the seeds to create reasonable doubt. 

[19:10] Trump supporters bring it back to religion and good old family values as a way of saying that what Biden/Harris represent is too progressive, and will be against people’s value systems of a safe and successful two-parent home. 

[21:39] Another argument is that Democrats have failed them, forgotten about Black people, or think of them as lesser humans that won’t notice they aren’t tending to their cities. 

[23:23] Some key terms from history that still get used today: “coon” is a Black person that is seen as dimwitted, slow, and a caricature of Black culture. An “Uncle Tom” comes from a Black house slave who became his Master’s yes man so much that he was loyal to his White Master above all else. “Slave Catchers” were Black Men hired to track other Black people trying to escape from slavery. Not only did they do what the White people told them to while thinking it would make them a free thinker, but they enjoyed it. 

[32:04] If you listen to the words of a Black Man or Woman that supports Trump, you will hear the same regurgitated rhetoric that White Supremacy has said about Black Culture throughout history. You will start to hear the value system that is rooted in self and individuality, which is White Supremacy at it’s finest. 

[35:32] It isn’t easy to disengage with the Black Trump supporters who want to fight you and get a response, but it’s important not to let them manipulate you. Don’t try to change it, don’t engage it.  

Quotes:

• “I have yet to see a historical Black school acknowledge Trump for giving them a dime.” 
• “If you have the type of constitution where you want to be accepted, well thought of, and you affiliate power with winning, that means you are more easily manipulated by people who actually understand how to make it look like it’s your idea.” 
• “Everything they are talking about is the bare minimum. It’s a step above slavery.”
• “I’m not fighting White Supremacy. I’m yielding to it. That gives me room to say what I mean.” 

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ARTICLES

•  Trump’s Black supporters bring attacks from the Internet to convention prime time, in answer to diverse Democratic ticket

• Here’s What Trump’s Black Male Supporters Say They See in Him

• Black Celebrities And Influencers Who Still Support Donald Trump

• Black Voices for Trump coalition praises President Trump's support for African Americans

• Nightmare: Black Trump Supporters March in Los Angeles, Champion #BlackLivesMAGA

BLACK TRUMP SUPPORTER VIDEO

• We are going to take our country back! By any means necessary!!! (NYC—Black Paint on BLM)

• Oakland, CA Congress Woman Kamala Harris rep this area! 

• There are two types of black folk in this world Black people and N*$$@s #TellTheTruthAndShameTheDevil

This subject may make you feel a little tense, maybe even a little frustrated. And that’s okay. For Black Women, it’s a conversation we need to have to grow and heal the historical wounds that keep us from taking care of ourselves. This week, Dr. Venus starts a conversation on how White Supremacy set up a system that deprived Black Women of their femininity, where many Black girls and Women get called liars when they speak up for themselves. She gives historical context of how slavery created a dynamic where Black Women speak up for Black Men no matter what, even when one that we know performs an act of violence against us. She gives a current example of this as Megan Thee Stallion withheld the name of her shooter to the police because she didn’t want HIM to be shot. Why do we, as Black Women, protect wounded Black Men who hurt us? Who stands for our safety at home and in society? Listen in for some answers.

Key Takeaways: 

[1:54] Rapper Megan Thee Stallion recently suffered gunshot wounds and was too scared to tell police she got shot, for fear of what they may have done to him as a Black Man. This is one of many examples of Black Women and girls continuously protecting the wounded Black Men that hurt them.

[3:38] Slavery in North America was structured in a way where Black Men saw that the way to get control through White Supremacy was through violence and power. Historically, Black Men couldn’t protect Black Women, as they had even less power than White children. Black Women have a history of protecting them, and even putting them above our own safety and security. 

[8:22] The institution of slavery turned Black Women into a commodity, whose body is just there for labor. While White feminine energy is seen as pure and delicate, Black Women get a lack of compassion from the world and are perceived as tough and “able to handle it”. 

[11:34] Black Women so want Black Men to win that we repeatedly give them the benefit of the doubt.

[12:50] Until we take on healing our wounds, patriarchy within our own culture will keep us divided, especially in times of crisis when we need each other the most. Black Women need to feel heard, and Black Men need to feel respected.

[19:05] Any time you get upset, take it as a reminder of something that hasn’t been resolved, a historical artifact. We also have the power to organize ourselves and leave situations that are harmful, toxic, or dangerous.

[28:12] You have to love yourself more than the hope he will change.

Quotes:

• “Most Black Women who love Black Men, we know that the cops are on them. We don’t want to be part of the problem so we don’t say anything.”
• “They totally have to annihilate our feminity in order to actually have the institution of North American slavery.”
• “Freedom isn’t punishing or cutting people off. Freedom is when you can let someone be exactly the way they are or are not with no loss of power. When you are not a slave to their wounds, that is freedom.”
• “Once you are whole, you will attract people that are right for the journey. The rest will fall off.”
• “You have to love yourself more than the hope he will change.”

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Articles:

Incident 

• Megan Thee Stallion's shooting exposes how the police doubly fail Black Women

• Megan Thee Stallion had a gunshot wound needing surgery after she says Tory Lanez shot her

• Bun B supports Megan Thee Stallion after shooting incident, Boosie is staying out of it

Commentary

• What Is The Prize For Black Women’s Loyalty To The Black Men Who Harm Us?
• The Deafening Silence Around Police Violence Against Black Women And Girls
• 'Protect Black women': Halle Berry, Michael B. Jordan show support for Megan Thee Stallion

President Obama, Halle Berry, & Tiger Woods are mixed race, yet we have cheered them on and celebrated their wins at almost every turn. However, ever since Senator Kamala Harris agreed to be Joe Bidden’s running mate for the 2020 presidential election, BLACK PEOPLE, especially wounded Black Men, have been blowing smoke because her momma is not African American. This week, Dr. Venus breaks down why we can’t afford to let our feelings get in the way from voting in this election, and why we have to vote like our lives depend on it. She explains why Race is not about skin color, but instead is a social positioning to keep White Supremacy alive and others oppressed. The Democrat party may have its flaws, but it’s our best shot at saving Democracy. 

Key Takeaways: 

[2:05] Dr. Venus has no interest in your politics, but rather an interest in her life and your life.

You have every right to your point of view.

[5:17] When we get mad, especially Black Men, we tend to squabble, argue, and withhold our vote. We can’t afford to do that this year, because there are another four years of White Supremacy still at stake. If we withhold our vote or dilute it by voting socialist or independent, it will water down the votes for Biden/Harris, and Trump will win again.

[6:34] Race is not about skin color. It is a social positioning that makes a group of people easily identifiable so they can be held down by the system. Why else would they ask you your race when it came to filling out questions for loans and to purchase a home? This is White Supremacy at it’s finest, a system designed to identify and oppress others to keep themselves at the top.

[8:59] When we argue over Senator Kamala Harris’s heritage and whether she is Black or not, we are squabbling over our misunderstanding of race. Kamala represents the melting pot that we say America is, with her mother being Indian and both her parents serving as Activists. She attended Howard rather than Harvard and knows first hand what it is like to come from different bloodlines.

[14:28] We can align with the common good for the greater good, even if it doesn’t fit our personal perfect picture. There is no perfect candidate. Harris is flawed, Biden is flawed, and the Democratic party is flawed, but right now this is our best option. Once we have won the election, that’s when we can flex our rights as civilians and hold our politicians accountable for their word.

[22:24] White Supremacy is designed to keep us apart and divided. In the time when we should come together most, we can’t afford to divide and let them win. It ends up costing us for generations beyond our own.

[24:48] If Black Women can heal the wounds around not feeling heard, they can create a space for Black Men to heal their wounds of feeling disrespected. So often, a Black Man will feel disrespected and all of a sudden hell breaks loose, which can cost him not only his well being or life, but that of those around him. This is the intention behind the Healing History Masterclass Series that Dr. Venus invites you too.

[31:04] Voting Democrat in this election doesn’t mean you have to like everything about the party. It means that as flawed as our system is, this is our best shot at saving Democracy.

Quotes:

• “Race is not a matter of skin pigmentation, it’s a social position designed specifically to keep you oppressed.”
• “You don’t have to agree with someone in order to align with them for a common goal.”
• “ I want us to win, and we can’t win divided.”
• “I’m committed that we live, and live in a country that allows us to be who we are without killing us.”

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Articles:

• Kamala Harris, a Political Fighter Shaped by Life in Two Worlds

• ‘Top Cop’ Kamala Harris’s Record of Policing the Police

• Harris’s wooing of Black activists paved a path to the ticket

• Where Kamala Harris stands on the issues

• What Kamala Harris believes: Key issues, policy positions and votes

• Kamala Harris Did What She Had To

• What Are Kamala Harris’s Policies?

Now that the news is out and Joe Biden has announced Kamala Harris as his running mate, the feeling of pure possibility is higher than ever before, at a time where we need it most. This week it’s not about finding faults or promoting more hate, but instead celebrating a huge move for Black Women and the nation as a whole. Dr. Venus holds a conversation about the seven women that were potential running mates for Biden and the different reasons we can both celebrate them and hold each woman as a model of what we can become. 

Key Takeaways: 

[2:19] Of course Black Women would be able to run the White House, and run it well. There is no doubt, and this is a conversation that couldn’t have happened 50 years ago, but the possibility is here today.

[4:44] This conversation is here to celebrate Black Women, how far we’ve come, and how far we are going. Yes, the structure has failed us and the Democratic party is flawed, but we are writing history and the message now needs to be one of hope and possibility.

[14:44] If you don’t vote, Trump’s base will. We don’t have the luxury of splitting votes when there is so much White Supremacy in the House today.

[18:39] #1: Chosen as Joe Biden’s Vice President, Kamala Harris. 

Bio: Senator from California, former Presidential candidate, served as District Attorney in San Francisco and State Attorney General. 

Signature Issues: Proposed cutting middle-class taxes, recently advocated policing reform, pushed a Senate bill to make lynching a federal crime, played a high-profile in the confirmation hearings of Justice Brett M. Kavanaugh. 

[19:39] #2: Susan Rice.

Bio: National security adviser and ambassador to the United Nations under President Obama.

Signature issues: Closely identified with the Obama administration’s foreign policy breakthroughs, including the Iran nuclear deal and the Paris climate agreement; recently called for statehood for Washington, D.C.

[20:50] #3: Karen Bass.

Bio: Representative from California since 2011; chair of the Congressional Black Caucus; former speaker of the California State Assembly.

Signature issues: Has been a prominent figure in the House debate over police reform; introduced legislation on public health, student debt and foster care; leads a House subcommittee on Africa, global health and human rights.

[21:48] #4: Val Demings.

Bio: Representative from Florida since 2017; served as police chief in Orlando after a long career there as an officer.

Signature issues: Has been an outspoken voice in the House on issues related to gun control and law enforcement; served as an impeachment manager in the Senate trial of President Trump.

[23:00] #5: Tammy Duckworth.

Bio: Senator from Illinois since 2017; served two terms in the House; former director of the Illinois Department of Veterans Affairs; a retired Army lieutenant colonel and helicopter pilot who lost both legs in combat while serving in Iraq.

Signature issues: Has been a prominent spokeswoman for her party on national security and the concerns of veterans and military families; championed policies to protect people with disabilities.

[25:00] #6: Keisha Lance Bottoms.

Bio: Mayor of Atlanta since 2018; served two terms on the Atlanta City Council.

Signature issues: Among the most prominent city leaders grappling with the coronavirus pandemic and answering the calls for police reform and racial justice; quickly called for the firing of the officer who fatally shot Rayshard Brooks and then announced new restrictions on the use of force by police; made criminal justice reform a major priority, including strictly limiting the use of cash bail.

[27:12] #7: Stacy Abrams. 

Bio: Former Democratic leader in the Georgia House of Representatives before narrowly losing a race for governor in 2018; the leader of an advocacy group, Fair Fight Action, focused on voting rights.

Signature issues: Has championed voting rights; advocated for expanding health care at the state level during her time in the legislature and worked with then-Gov. Nathan Deal, a Republican, on criminal justice reform.

[28:53] These women each deserve to be celebrated for the amazing individuals they are. Also, Dr. Venus invites each woman listening to see themselves as these women and to witness the power and purpose we are each capable of.

Quotes:

• “This is not about politics. This is about possibility.”
• “As Black Women, we make this stuff look easy, and the world follows.”
• “We can change things that historically have never moved, but if we don’t own that, it won’t.”
• “When we believe in something, we do not back down.”
• “My prayer for us is that we start to see ourselves as the healers, and way makers for the future, even as the Vice President of the country.”

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Articles:

1. A Black Woman Vice President Can’t Save a Nation from Itself (READ THIS ONE)

1. Joe Biden says he is considering four Black women to be his running mate

1. Meet The Black Women Joe Biden Is Considering To Be His Vice Presidential Running Mate

1. Joe Biden Needs to Trust a Black Woman to Become His Vice President

5. Biden must choose a Black woman for vice president

There has been so much negativity surrounding Black Men in the media lately, so Dr. Venus wanted to take this episode to celebrate and honor the Black Men that love us. When we commit to healing and uniting, we will be one step closer to slaying White Supremacy. Dr. Venus discusses the top three reasons Black Men rose to middle and upper class from 1960 to 2016, how we can set up personal boundaries to show up in power and not take the actions of others personally, and the real conversations we must have for peace, prosperity, and partnerships with the Black Men who we love, and who love us back. 

Key Takeaways: 

[9:08] Between 1960 and 2016, Black Men made great headway into the middle and upper class. The three top reasons that helped them move up were: education, work, and marriage. (Source: Decennial census 1960-2000 and American Community Surveys 2010,2016 (IPUMS))

[15:20] This conversation is not coaching for just romantic relationships, but instead open to all the Black Men that love us as friends, brothers, cousins, sons, and beyond.

[19:54] We expect Black Men to invest in us purely based on gender dynamics, but we must take a hard look at our expectations and what it looks like to really be loved and protected by Black Men.

[23:13] When Black Men feel disrespected or challenged, the triggers, tripwires, and unspoken emotional debit accounts can become activated. This can then look like someone leaving, lashing out, removing themselves or punitive damage. Black Women are left feeling hurt and confused, while the Black Man feels as though he is being talked down to.

[30:47] Society has created a cycle for men to keep going and never have critical conversations to heal the wound. To really love the Black Men in your life is to have awareness and not let your expectations get in the way.

[32:09] Nurture and invest in the relationships with the Black Men who have the emotional maturity to feed you in your life. If they demonstrate they don’t have it, don’t get mad at them, but instead realize it is a historical wound and not something for you to take personally.

[41:02] If someone chooses to act out or leave, their actions are for them, not for you. Your connection to yourself and source energy is what will truly heal you and make you feel your best.

Quotes:

• “There is a historical wound for Black Men because of the history of slavery in North America that has never been tended to or healed.”
• “When you are contending with triggers, tripwires, and internal emotional debit accounts, you have to take on personal accountability for yourself, not for him.”
• “I’ve had people say bad things to me on a regular basis, and I’m clear that when they say it they are not talking to me, they are talking to a historical idea I represent.”
• “If someone says they are leaving, let them go.”
• “You can spit your truth and live it and never have an agreement.”

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ARTICLES

1. 9 Stereotypes Of Black Men That Aren’t Always True

1. Black men are succeeding in America

1. Black ‘MENtors’ Inspire Young Black Men

RESOURCES

1. The 100 Black Men of America, Inc. is recognized as the nation’s top African American led mentoring organization.

1. Positive Black Brothers

(Everything from education on the political system to fixing your credit to education, this site is a TREASURE TROVE of resources for and focused on empowering Black Men.)

1. Focused On Celebrating, Educating, And Inspiring Boys And Men Of Color.

1. BLACK MEN MAKING IT IN AMERICA: The Engines of Economic Success for Black Men in America

VIDEOS

1. Brotha (Angie Stone)

1. Will (Joyner Lucas)

1. The Truth (India Arie)

1. He Is (Heather Headley)

1. JAY-Z - Family Feud ft. Beyoncé

Why is it that we march, protest, even riot for George Floyd, Rodney King, Michael Brown — but not for ANY Black Woman killed by the police? Who speaks up for Breonna Taylor beyond the grave? Where are the champions of Sandra Bland, found hanging in her jail cell & called a suicide? This week, Dr. Venus discusses if Black Lives Matter is code for Black “Men’s” Lives Matter, and if this means going back to the historical positioning of Black Women as less valuable than Black Men in terms of social change. This episode is not about blame or divisiveness, but realizing that police murder is not good for ANY gender or race. There is no hierarchy in pain, but there is a purpose. All Black Lives matter, and it’s not equal if everyone doesn’t get the same fight. 

Key Takeaways: 

[2:48] The police officers who have killed Breonna Taylor have still not been brought to justice. 

[4:51] We are dealing with the historical wound where Black Female bodies have been disposable and seen as having little to no value. 

[9:20] When we say Black Lives Matter, what is conjured up in the psyche of American character is Black Straight Cis Men, and not the subcultures that have not been automatically accepted, such as trans or queer. Black Men have become marketing for the movement, but we need to realize that all Black Lives Matter. 

[13:01] Intersectionality is the conversion of gender, race, sexuality, and class.

[14:39] Black Women have been fighting and marching and mobilizing in major ways all along. We have been right there on the front lines.

[15:55] Black Women often find it so much easier to fight for others than for themselves, when really we should all get the equal fervor and energy of the movement.

[18:20] Historically, Black Women were not considered human, and were to be detained and used to create free labor, savage beasts to be tamed and used. The slave woman was seen as a workhorse, scapegoat, cash cow, or beast of burden. The social positioning of Black Women had these roles, which took away their credibility and painted them as angry, too strong to feel pain, or sexually promiscuous.

1. Mammy (heavy set/caretaker)
2. Tragic Mulatto (close to white/prize)
3. Jezebel (ho’)
4. Sapphire (Angry Black Woman)

[25:40] If we took Black women out of this world, we would fail. We need them in every institution.

[27:50] If we don’t value and fight for us, then how could the world value and fight for us?

Quotes:

• “If you don’t know what’s happening then you are only looking from a heterosexual normative straight Black Male lens, even if you don’t know it. Then, anything that doesn’t fit that lens looks like a problem.”
• “When a Black woman gets dead by the police it’s like she isn’t even important enough to investigate.”
• “We relate to Black women like we are disposable. Like we are not precious. That we are replaceable.”
• “ If we don’t value and fight for us, then how could the world value and fight for us?”

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ARTICLES

1. Here’s What You Need to Know About Breonna Taylor’s Death

1. The FBI has opened an investigation into the shooting death of Kentucky EMT Breonna Taylor

1. The Cops Who Killed Breonna Taylor Are Still Free (IMPORTANT 4 MINUTE VIDEO!!)

1. Death Of Tanisha Anderson, Mentally Ill Woman In Police Custody, Ruled A Homicide

RESOURCES

1. Say Her Name: The Life And Death Of Sandra Bland Documentary

1. #SAYHERNAME CAMPAIGN, FILL THE VOID. LIFT YOUR VOICE. SAY HER NAME.

1. The African American Policy Forum

1. Say Her Name: Resisting Police Brutality Against Black Women (MUST READ)

ALL BLACK LIVES MATTER

Black Trans Women Murdered By Police

1. Two Black Trans Women Were Killed in the U.S. in the Past Week as Trump Revokes Discrimination Protections for Trans People

1. Two Black transgender women were killed last week, thousands showed up to protest

1. Police investigate 11th murder of a black transgender woman this year

1. Black trans women want the media to show them living, not just dying

HISTORICAL REFERENCES

1. The Deafening Silence Around Police Violence Against Black Women And Girls

1. Not just George Floyd: Police departments have a 400-year history of racism

1. Black Women, Slavery, and Silences of the Past

1. Sexual abuse of black women during slavery in America

This week’s conversation is a very tender and real one, so Dr. Venus goes in with a safe, soft, and slow approach. To fully heal and move forward, we must understand that domestic violence, as it pertains to Black masculinity, is a re-enactment of White Supremacy. Dr. Venus provides resources to advocate for yourself and others who may be suffering from domestic violence and then discusses how respect, the safety net of forgiveness and obedience are all part of the cycle of abuse. She also discusses why the tripwires seem to get set off even more during sensitive and high-stress times, and how we can show up in our power to help break the chains of abuse and division. 

Key Takeaways: 

[12:24] We are not talking about one specific person or instance here, but instead about a historical wound and particular behavior that gets triggered with a Black man and the woman he loves and who loves him. 

[14:08] When a Black Woman challenges a Black Man and it is seen as disrespect, historical wounds get triggered and set off. 

[15:35] The historical dynamic in a plantation household of Master (White Man), Mistress (White Woman), Slave (Black Man), and Maid (Black Woman) were rooted in survival. White Supremacy was built into the Bible, the law, and stated that their ownership even included their wives and children. Black Men watched and saw that power was rooted in force, and that behavior then got built inside their own paradigm. 

[18:52] Black Men learned that manhood looked like domination, violence, and punitive consequence, especially for those that loved them and held an important role in their own actualization and sense of self. 

[23:24] Historically, respect was rooted in White Supremacy, and obedience meant the man had the right to do whatever they wanted to women’s bodies because they had ownership over them. When respect is threatened or jeopardized, it can feel like an attack on identity and self-worth. 

[27:03] When Black Masculinity gets triggered, it is taken out on the people that love them the most. There is an assumption that love is kind, forgiving, and patient, so there’s an assumption that he will be forgiven. 

[35:05] Just like a tripwire is used to set off explosives, domestic violence is even more likely to go off and have damaging effects in times of high stress and fear. 

[40:38] It seems even crueler that this happens during a time during which what we need most are understanding and unification, but it is a divisive tactic that is rooted in the nature of White Supremacy to keep us down and apart. 

[44:02] Think of an example in your own personal life where you lost your temper and couldn’t help it. The more aware you are of your own triggers, the more you can choose to deal with them and grow. 

Quotes:

• “Until we start to contend with the power of White Supremacy and how we relate to each other, we will live at the effect of a survival strategy.” 
• “If a Black Man is a slave, the Black Woman is a slave times two, a slave to White Supremacy and a slave to Black Masculinity.”
• “When we need each other the most, Black Men who are loved by Black Women, that is when they beat us and when we break apart, and the bond of love is no longer big enough to handle politics and the weight of change.”
• “We are fighting each other when we need to be focusing on standing for ourselves.” 

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HISTORICAL RESOURCE

8 Most Horrific And Inhuman Black Slavers Punishment In The History of Slavery

STATISTICS

1. Statistics — National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

1. Domestic Violence In the Black Community

1. 30 Shocking Domestic Violence Statistics That Remind Us It’s An Epidemic

SUPPORT

1. National Domestic Hotline

1. Safe Horizon

1. Healthy Place (shelter)

IMPORTANT

The Trump Administration Quietly Changed the Definition of Domestic Violence and We Have No Idea What For

In this week’s episode, Dr. Venus goes in on what it means to love Black Men who wear the wounds of White Supremacy, Slavery, Bigotry, and Racism like emotional armor. She sets the historical and emotional context between White Supremacy and Black Masculinity, and why understanding the dance between these two can help Black Men and Women relate and care for one another. Dr. Venus then discusses how Black Women can hold space for Black Men in a way that is protective, supportive, and real.

Key Takeaways: 

[3:39] Dr. Venus opens the show with a reading of her poem, “Please”, which explores what it means to love a Black Man that wears the wounds of history like armor.

[6:15] There is a historical wound in Black Men that is rooted in the history of White Supremacy, from 1619 to 2020. This shapes how they relate and react to Black Women and the people that love them. 

[7:01] In the plantation household with Chattel slavery, there were four players: Master (White Man), Mistress (White Woman), Maid (Black Woman), and Slave (Black Man). That institution was rooted in survival, and because the White Slave Owners were outnumbered, there was always this unspoken fear of an uprising. This made White people even more vicious, which is something we are seeing today in this time of growth and upheaval.

[8:26] White Supremacy is an ideology and power dynamic to try and keep Black people in a lower social position so that white people can feel superior and alive. Black masculinity is the biggest threat to White Supremacy.

[10:18] Black Men look for their self worth and identity in Providing, Protecting, and Procreating. Their sense of self is centered outside of their own sense of self, looking to the world around them, including their wife or partner. Falling short in these categories can mean he feels like a failure, instead of looking at the faulty structure in the institution.

[18:59] When a Black Woman feels like she is not heard, she may get loud or need to have the last word. The more she speaks up, the more he feels like she is talking down. Black Women have historically been unheard and taken care of. This can look like a betrayal and set off a feeling of being triggered over past and ingrained trauma.

[25:08] White Supremacy has impacted Black Men in a way that is different from Black Women. The most violated, abused and tormented in human history is the Black Male body.

[26:50] Instead of quickly reacting or becoming angry, we can empathize that Black Men have not had the time and space for much self-reflection.  We can create a safe space for Black Men to tell the truth without judgment or condemnation, request, or demand. 

[29:42] We have a gender bias against Black Men, expecting them to take care of us when they have never been taught. If we provide a safe space, they can learn and begin to heal. 

Quotes:

• “White people need a slave to know themselves as a Master.”
• “Black Men have historical wounds that are so rooted in White Supremacy that it’s invisible for them because it looks like it’s a character trait.”
• “I’m going to set aside my pain to take care of your wounds.”
• “You have to love somebody enough to grow with them when they are wounded.”
• “Until you take on you, he won’t have any space to heal him.”
• “It will be the healed Black Woman that transforms the world.”

Mentioned: 

Dr. Venus Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram 

“Hot Mess Millionaire” Amazon Series 

Free Gift When You Join The Truth Tribe

The Black Woman Millionaire Hot Mess Edition 

Join the conversation! Hot Mess Millionaire Facebook Group

ACTIONS TO TAKE NOW!!!

1. Register to Vote Online

https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/

PLEASE CHECK THAT YOU ARE REGISTERED.

Can A Felon Vote? – Felon voting rights by state

by Robert Gomez

1. https://felonyfriendlyjobs.org/can-a-f…/

RESOURCES

1. Call a Thing a Thing, by Charles M. Blow

1. How America perfected the ‘art of demonizing Black men’, by Quentin Fottrell

1. The problem is white supremacy, by Barbara Smith

1. Makes Me Wanna Holler: A Young Black Man in America, by Nathan McCall

1. One Way To Be An Ally Right Now? Support Black Mental Health, by Jillian Wilson

1. When Black Men Are Harassed, by Adia Harvey Wingfield 

1. White Rage: The Unspoken Truth About the Racial Divide, by Carol Anderson

MOVIES

1. Glory (Denzel Washington)

1. I’m Not Your Negro (James Baldwin’s words/Samuel L. Jackson’s voice)

POETRY

“Whole”, by Dr. Venus Opal Reese

“All Lives Matter?”, by Dr. Venus Opal Reese

God meets us on our own terms, and however you honor that — be it traditional, spiritual, or Universal, there is a power bigger than you at work in life.  But, in the midst of police brutality, publicly televised executions, and a virus that feels like a plague, it’s easy to feel energetically exhausted and question where God is, and how this could all be happening. 

This week, Dr. Venus focuses on how to activate faith when you are feeling attacked and oppressed. She talks about making sure you are praying for the right things, accessing peace and divinity on the road to joy, and arming yourself with the language of real social and spiritual change. She focuses on three questions about God’s love, trusting the Bible, and activating faith and joy when you feel lost and forsaken. 

Key Takeaways: 

[3:07] Dr. Venus is steeped in Biblical principles, but whether you consider yourself a Spiritualist, Universalist, or something in between, all are welcome here in this conversation. 

[6:10] It is important to process grief and get it out in a safe way, whether it’s immersing yourself in books, writing, speaking to a therapist, etc. 

[14:27] Question 1: If God loves me, why would a loving God let the police kill us for SO LONG? 

Every action has a reaction, and what we are seeing now is the fall out from our Puritan values that have been planted in the very fabric of America. Instead, we should be praying the right prayers, asking God “What will it take to uproot this tree and set us on a new path to generate new and different seeds (outcomes)?”

[20:14] How can I trust the Bible when it has been used to oppress me & mine by White Supremacy for over 400 years?

It’s not as much about trusting the Bible as it is about knowing that the Bible can be manipulated. The Bible is a road map and you have to execute it in the way that you believe. A person, any person, can use it as a weapon or healing bond. Humans justify the Bible for what they want to use it for, so you must be aware of the element of free will in there. 

[22:40] How do I activate my faith, love, and trust in you Lord, when I feel like you have forsaken me? 

If you are reading this or listening along, it means you are alive, you are here, you are whole, and that God is with you. Black men and women are anointed to keep moving forward and get up even when life has generationally knocked us down. 

[26:31] From the rotten seeds of hate and bigotry, the world is unifying and transforming because of our pain. We are the chosen ones.

[29:20] Even if your body has been wounded and tarnished, we must remember that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. You can practice moving from flesh to spirit with meditation, writing, movement, or whatever makes you feel connected with your divinity.  

[34:11] One of the biggest ways to fight and take on spiritual warfare is to stay peaceful and hopeful. 

[38:00] Get peaceful with God, whatever way you can get on the same page. Process your grief. Trust that even if you can’t see the whole picture you can know it’s in divine order and working for the good in everyone. Create some joy. You are here. 

Quotes:

• “As human beings manipulate the Bible for their self-interest, I stop blaming God.”  
• “A person can use the Bible as a weapon, or a person can use the Bible as a healing bond.” 
• “When you are chosen, you are given a level of power and skill that has you model for the world what it looks like to walk in faith and be touched by God.” 
• “As a spirit connected to spirit, we can move anything.”

Mentioned: 

Dr. Venus Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram 

“Hot Mess Millionaire” Amazon Series 

Free Gift When You Join The Truth Tribe

The Black Woman Millionaire Hot Mess Edition 

Join the conversation! Hot Mess Millionaire Facebook Group

ACTIONS TO TAKE NOW!!!

1. Register to Vote Online

https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/

PLEASE CHECK THAT YOU ARE REGISTERED.

1. Can A Felon Vote? – Felon voting rights by state by Robert Gomez

AMAZING BOOKS TO HELP YOU PROCESS LOSS

1. When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner

1. On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss, by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler

BIBLE USED TO OPPRESS & JUSTIFY SLAVERY & WHITE SUPREMACY

1. White Supremacist Ideas Have Historical Roots In U.S. Christianity, by All Things Considered, NPR

1. How Christian Slaveholders Used the Bible to Justify Slavery

1. Donald Trump, the Bible, and White Supremacy

(BONUS)Policing Is the Glue of Whiteness, by Howard Bryant

Biblical Strategies 

1. 100 Bible Verses About Spiritual Armor

1. David: 90 Days with A Heart Like His (Personal Reflections Series) Hardcover, by Beth Moore

1. Redemptive Names of God by Joyce Meyer on 12 Audio Cassettes Audio Cassette, by Joyce Meyer

SPIRITUAL STRATEGIES

1. Life Visioning Kit: A Step-by-Step Process for Realizing Your Highest Potential, by Michael Bernard Beckwith

1. Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life, by Iyanla Vanzant

3. Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything, by Iyanla Vanzant

White Supremacy is more than an ideology. It's a cult. A disease. A sickness that is so ingrained in the sense of self of those who drink of its poison that it will go to extremes — including suicide, murder, genocide — you name it, in order to keep itself in existence.

 In this episode, Dr. Venus breaks down the logic of White Supremacy through the lens of “perceived violence” vs “proven violence.” She discusses why whites always seem to steal from cultures and take everything except for the pain. Dr. Venus then gives tangible ways we can work to win the battle, such as voting in this upcoming election and encouraging others to vote. When we stop seeing White Supremacy as a personal attack and the ideologic disease it really is, we lessen their power. 

Key Takeaways: 

[6:03] You may think you are already registered to vote, but please double-check and confirm that you are and let those around you know how important it is to vote. Please don’t take it for granted.

[10:11] An ideology is how people know who they are and self identify. White Supremacy is an ideology, while racism is a series of actions that keep the status quo in place. When the ideology is one where people view themselves as superior over everyone and everything that is not white, it becomes a disease and sickness. 

[13:50] When you are dealing with people who truly believe that God has made them better, you have to contend with the lack of rational thought.

[15:15] When white became the path to prestige and purpose, culture and identity were surrendered. This is why white people can feel as though they have the right to take other cultures and energy without apology because they gave all of that up for the “power” of whiteness.

[23:38] It’s a challenge to be present to the attacks and violence, and you have every right under the sun to be livid and feel your anger. However, you have to plan and strategize to be effective. Each time they escalate it shows that they are losing power and know it.

[27:48] It is crucial to stay in your power so you can move forward, and that means voting, even if you have to mail your vote. In this season, your vote DOES matter in a way it never has before.

[31:25] Racism can be undone, but ideology — good luck.

Quotes / Tweetables:

• “Knowledge is power, and if you don’t know who you are fighting against, you are going to lose.”
• “You can’t be rational and a White Supremacist at the same time.”
• “You want everything about Black culture, but the pain.”
• “Don’t react, speak back.”
• “The way to win this particular war is having us vote.”

Mentioned: 

Dr. Venus Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram 

“Hot Mess Millionaire” Amazon Series 

Free Gift When You Join The Truth Tribe

The Black Woman Millionaire Hot Mess Edition 

Join the conversation! Hot Mess Millionaire Facebook Group

1. Register to Vote Online — PLEASE CHECK THAT YOU ARE REGISTERED

https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/

1. Can A Felon Vote? – Felon voting rights by state by Robert Gomez https://felonyfriendlyjobs.org/can-a-felon-vote/

RESOURCES:

• Sociology Professor Alex Vitale Says Police 'Reform' Won't Work
• Jane Elliott — All White People Are Racist. Here's how it can be fixed
• The Birth Dearth (Important) 
• White Supremacy Culture 
• 10 Things Everyone Should Know About White Supremacy - Written by Chauncey DeVega / AlterNet April 23, 2014
• The Language of White Supremacy - Narrow definitions of the term actually help continue the work of the architects of the post-Jim Crow racial hierarchy. - VANN R. NEWKIRK II  - OCTOBER 6, 2017
• With Hate in their Hearts: The State of White Supremacy in the United States