Hot Mess Therapy Podcast

This time on the Hot Mess Therapy Podcast "Who needs Tinder? Just grab their groceries."

We address the mysterious question of how to gain both self-worth and self-love.

We talk about accepting a compliment, not relying on other people for your self-confidence, and what's up with those dating apps?

The Challenge

So the first thing is accepting a compliment.

The second thing is not relying on other people to gain your self-confidence or not rely on others for your own self-worth.

And watch out for bad dating apps!

Are you experiencing SAD?

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that's related to changes in seasons — SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year. If you're like most people with SAD, your symptoms start in the fall and continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody.

Consider getting a Happy Light!

Grab a copy of  Zen as Fuck from amazon.

No Aw, sh💩ts so far.

Credits

Podcast recorded on Zoom

Transcription by Descript

Transcript editing by KB

Audio editing by Steven

Graphics by Steven

Bitmojis by Bitmoji

Final Audio production by Auphonic

Video production by Headliner

Podcast hosting by Libsyn

WordPress Transcript Plugin by Fusebox

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The group Steven talked about is the Global Healing Collective. Feel free to check it out. Everyone is welcome! 🔥

Steven looked forward to getting AC/DC's latest CD "Power Up".

Power Up!

Steven reminisces: Back in the day, there was a song called Everybody's Working for the Weekend.

Working for the Weekend by Loverboy

KB mentions going to the Hexenbar in Switzerland near The Matterhorn.

Hexenbar - basically witch bar

KB: I looked at a picture of me next to the Matterhorn.

Traveling and doing all these crazy things. Running off mountains with a parasail attached.

Here are a few choice bleeps from The Late, Late Show with Greg Ferguson

The Challenge

Have something to look forward to.

If you're married, if you've got kids, if you're married and have kids and have kids and kids and kids, you still need an hour or more, of course, but at least some way to have an hour to yourself to do the thing you like. To go to a spa, to get a massage, to go for a walk, to listen to music, whatever it is, find a way to get that into your life.

Have something to be grateful for.

What is the reason you do what you do?

Connect with Us

So besides doing the challenge, tell us about your wins of putting aside some time for yourself, what you did during that time. How did it feel being able to look forward to that time and how/if that changed things. We'd love to hear about it.

Steven: So share your wins with us people. Have a great week, take care of your mental health, take care of your physical health.

KB: Have something to look forward to.

Turns out "Zen the Fuck Out" is actually "Zen as F*ck". Whatever. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Zen as F*ck

Credits

Podcast recorded on Zoom

Transcription by Descript

Transcript editing by KB

Audio editing by Steven

Graphics by Steven

Bitmojis by Bitmoji

Final Audio production by Auphonic

Video production by Headliner

Podcast hosting by Libsyn

WordPress Transcript Plugin by Fusebox

Some links on this website are affiliate links. If you click on one and make a purchase, we may get a small commission at no additional cost to you. This helps us cover the cost to produce the Hot Mess Therapy Podcast. Thanks for your support!

Steven and KB talk about the Hot Mess versions of ADD, ADHD, taking on too much, Super Heros, overwhelm, and what the f*ck to do about it.

KB's school district decided not to go back to 100% teaching, so she dodged a bullet there! 😊

You can find Joy Kingsboroughs meditations on her YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/user/findingj0y

The other meditation course Steven took is "The M Word by Emily Fletcher" on Mindvalley. https://www.mindvalley.com/mword/

Try being more selective about your to-do list and what you try and accomplish on any given day.

Remember to spend some time being, not just doing.

The Challenge this week is to try meditation, mindfulness, Kirtan, or any other spiritual practice.

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." ~Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Be sure to leave a comment below about how your challenge went, or submit your Hot Mess story here.

No Aw, sh💩ts so far.

Steven gets out of his comfort zone in a risky way. KB gets an unexpected call just before Christmas. They discuss anxiety, panic attacks, therapy, crocheting, and embracing the strange.

Prescott Courthouse Christmas Lights 2016

Here are some meditation apps you might want to check out.

Insight Timer

Headspace

Chopra

Calm

Or just GTS.

If you're thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, the Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. Learn more 800-273-8255

Check out "Codependent No More" on Amazon.

Despite the shit storm of COVID, try and find the silver lining for your life.

Share your experience in dealing with the pandemic, and/or share what new cool thing you have done or learned during the lockdown.

Share your stories and struggles, and ways you cope or overcome your challenges. Use the "Submit a story" link or leave a comment below.

And finally, trust your gut.

No Aw, sh💩ts so far.

KB and Steven discuss anxiety, dating marines, dentistry (wtf?), childhood issues, and discovering the family secrets. Plus lot's more. You'll have to listen to the podcast to find out what. 😉

Here is your Challenge: for the next 3 days (or a week if you want) you can't complain or bitch, can't judge people, can't gossip, can't say anything negative about yourself or anyone else.

Whatever is happening now, good or bad, this too shall pass.

TMJ stands for:

The temporomandibular (tem-puh-roe-man-DIB-u-lur) joint (TMJ) acts like a sliding hinge, connecting your jawbone to your skull. You have one joint on each side of your jaw. TMJ disorders — a type of temporomandibular disorder or TMD — can cause pain in your jaw joint and in the muscles that control jaw movement.

The exact cause of a person's TMJ disorder is often difficult to determine. Your pain may be due to a combination of factors, such as genetics, arthritis or jaw injury.* Some people who have jaw pain also tend to clench or grind their teeth (bruxism), although many people habitually clench or grind their teeth and never develop TMJ disorders.

*How about stress, anxiety, or cocaine? Yep, that'll do it. 🤯

Nighttime Mouth Guard for Teeth Grinding, Bruxism, and TMJ on Amazon

Side effects from taking tetracycline while pregnant

Taking this medicine during pregnancy may affect tooth and bone development in the unborn baby. Taking tetracycline during the last half of pregnancy can cause permanent tooth discoloration later in the baby's life.

Steven called KB's date a loser and a jerk. And a 🍆. That's pretty judgemental. In the spirit of the challenge, we retract those comments. 😉

In our first episode, KB and I tell all about why we qualify as Hot Messes.

That there is me as a baby next to the freaking Devil car. Damn, I was cute!

Steven with the behemoth that ran his ass over.

I said the car weighed two or three tons. Mmm, nope! More like 2 or 3 thousand pounds. Still...