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“Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”
Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we’re thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they’ve written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.
Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:
OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.
Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.
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Broad Collective
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If you’ve ever wondered why stories of women in midlife are so rare in movies and TV, you’re not alone. In a landscape where male-centered narratives often take center stage, Laura Fischer (Co-President of director Paul Feig’s feature film company Feigco) stands out as a force for change. In partnership with the iconic comedy director, Laura champions films anchored by funny women (think Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy and Leslie Jones) and helps showcase the work of diverse creators while balancing the complexities of family life and career with remarkable grace and determination.
Join us as we delve into issues impacting women today, from societal expectations to the untapped potential of stories about older women, all through the lens of Laura’s inspiring career. Laura’s journey underscores the power of authentic storytelling and the importance of defining your own priorities amid the many roles we, as women, navigate. Here’s what’s on the table:
OUR GUEST: Laura is Co-President of Feigco Entertainment, where she and Paul Feig oversee the company’s film and TV projects, currently including A Simple Favor 2 for Amazon. She also serves as CEO of Powderkeg, a content company dedicated to uplifting female, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC creators. Through Powderkeg, she has launched programs like Fuse, a short film initiative for emerging female directors, and Break the Room, focused on diverse writing talent. Previously, Laura led original series production at Yahoo! and worked on Emmy-winning projects at Disney-ABC. She is a member of the Producers Guild and the Television Academy.
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Ever wondered why some women experience low libido and what can be done about it? Or what orgasms look and feel like for different women? These questions often go unanswered, but Dr. Maureen Slattery—a board-certified OBGYN specializing in sex and menopause—is here to change that. A leading advocate for women’s sexual health, Dr. Slattery joins us in this episode to share her mission of empowering women through education and enhancing sexual well-being during perimenopause and menopause.
Join Erin and Dr. Maureen as they dive deep into the complexities of women’s sexual health, exploring how reclaiming pleasure and purpose can be a transformative experience in midlife. We discuss:
OUR GUEST: Dr. Maureen Slattery is a board-certified OBGYN with 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual health and menopausal care. An AASECT-certified sex counselor, she has contributed to AARP and Rochester Regional Health on topics like sexual health and hormone therapy. Maureen teaches medical students and professionals about menopause and sexual health in Rochester, NY, and at the University of Michigan. Her passion lies in helping patients rediscover pleasure and educating healthcare providers about sexuality. She is a sex-positive, kink-aware, and LGBTQIA+ ally.
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"I think our value and our values get all kinds of conflated and mixed up."
We often hear about self-love and its pivotal role in creating a joyful life. But defining self-love is subjective and multifaceted. It involves caring, self-respect, boundaries, and counteracting our harsh inner critic. Today, Erin delves beyond self-love to examine the societal and personal metrics we use to gauge our worth.
Join Erin as she questions the conflation of material wealth, career success, physical appearance, and external approval with our intrinsic value. She asks us to reconsider what true value means in our lives and how our values may have been skewed by societal norms.
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Broad Collective
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“Astrology is a tool, not a rule. And when you use it as a tool, it can expand your power, your consciousness, your awareness.”
Long-time listeners of Hotter Than Ever know Erin tends to be a skeptic when it comes to anything ‘woo’ (remember the episode “Woo Adjacent”?). So, it might come as a surprise that today’s episode dives deep into astrology. But after hearing from astrologer Ophira Edut, even the most doubtful minds might find themselves intrigued, if not completely converted. Ophira, along with her sister Tali, form the AstroTwins, the long-standing resident astrologers for Elle magazine, authors of over 20 books, and frequent faces on TV. Together, they’ve created a practical, digestible approach to astrology that goes beyond the stars and into your everyday life.
Join Erin and Ophira to learn more about how astrology isn’t just about horoscopes, but a powerful framework to help navigate life’s mysteries, challenges, and opportunities in the second half of life. We discuss:
Take the I*AM Quiz, find out if you’re an Innovator, Authority or Maven: https://astrostyle.com/astrology-advantage/iam-archetype-quiz/
OUR GUEST: Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are top astrologers and intuitive advisors, serving clients like Beyoncé, Dua Lipa, and Emma Roberts. As resident astrologers for ELLE Magazine and authors of over 20 books, they’ve guided CEOs, celebrities, and entrepreneurs worldwide. They've appeared on Bravo, MTV, Good Morning America, and the Today Show, and created the astrology-based dating show Cosmic Love (Amazon Prime Video, 2022). Their new book, The Astrology Advantage (Simon & Schuster, 2024), introduces their IAM System, which simplifies astrology into three archetypes. The AstroTwins have taught thousands through their platform and retreats.
Want more Ophira? Find her online at astrostyle.com and buy her book THE ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success
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“How much fun can we have and what is that going to do for us as we age?”
In this milestone 100th episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re celebrating not only the podcast's journey but also the incredible community it has built around redefining midlife for women. To mark this special occasion, we’re thrilled to present an extraordinary conversation with CJ. CJ isn’t just a kink and non-monogamy coach; she’s an inspiring guide helping Gen X women embrace erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. With certifications as a sex coach, life coach, and cuddle facilitator (!), CJ’s transformation from living a conventional life to embracing a kinky, non-monogamous lifestyle that meets her sexual and emotional needs is a great example of what is possible when we learn and pursue what we want.
Get ready for an eye-opening and liberating discussion on sexual expression, breaking free from conventional relationship molds, and reclaiming your desires in the second half of life. Tune in as we explore:
OUR GUEST: CJ is a kink and non-monogamy coach and mentor who is all about liberating sexual expression and cultivating new pleasure palates. She gets off on debunking the myths around female aging, desire and desirability as well as talking about the taboo. She loves welcoming Gen X women into alternative pleasures and lifestyles so that they can experience erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. She is a Certified Sex Coach, Life Coach and Cuddle Facilitator and has lived a transformational kinky, non-monogamous life for the past 8 years.
Want more CJ? Find her online at https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ and listen to her podcast ‘No Shame with CJ’
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It’s no secret that our culture often presents aging in a negative light, particularly for women, leaving many of us uncertain or even fearful about life beyond 40, 50 or (god forbid), 60. But one iconic sitcom has challenged these stereotypes with humor, heart, and authenticity: The Golden Girls. For Maria Carpiac, a professor of Gerontology at California State University, Long Beach, and an advocate for healthy aging, The Golden Girls offers a shining example of how we can view aging with optimism and a sense of humor.
In this episode, Erin and Maria explore the complexities of aging, highlighting the importance of community, jou, and adaptability in leading a fulfilling life, with insights from The Golden Girls. From Blue Zones to finding purpose as we age, this conversation reveals how we can all live longer, healthier, and more meaningful lives—no matter what stage we're in. Tune in as we explore:
OUR GUEST: Dr. Maria Carpiac is a Professor of Gerontology and Director of the Gerontology Program at California State University, Long Beach. She holds a BA, MSW, and PhD in Social Work from UCLA, specializing in Older Adults. A Fellow of the Academy of Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Dr. Carpiac teaches courses such as Social Policy & Aging and Women and Aging. Her research focuses on holistic health programs for assisted living and Age Friendly Universities (AFU). Under her leadership, CSULB joined the AFU Global Network, and the Gerontology Program received Program of Merit distinction in 2020.
Want more Dr. Carpiac? Learn more about her Gerontology program at www.csulb.edu/gerontology
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As “Hotter Than Ever” nears its 100th episode, we’re reflecting on the impact this podcast has had since launching a year and a half ago, and the steps needed to elevate its vision to new heights.
Join Erin as she candidly shares the realities of transitioning from a financially stable corporate life to the entrepreneurial hustle. This episode is about peeling back the layers of how Erin is supporting the show, the internal struggles she faces as an entrepreneur, and the financial realities that come with following your passion. We dive into:
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If you’re searching for proof that our most successful chapters can unfold in midlife, look no further than Melissa Palmer, co-founder and CEO of the skincare brand Osea. While Melissa and her mother launched Osea 28 years ago, it wasn’t until year 20 that their business truly skyrocketed. And as her career soared, Melissa also found the most significant relationship of her life, showing us that midlife can truly be a time of profound rewards and joy.
In this episode, we dive into Melissa’s unique entrepreneurial path and the empowerment that comes with embracing change. It’s a reminder that age doesn’t put a limit on reinvention, personal growth, or love. Tune in as we discuss:
OUR GUEST: Melissa Palmer is the Co-Founder and Chief Executive Officer at OSEA. Melissa was previously CEO of Hoopnotica, the industry leader in hula-hoop fitness. Since 2016 she’s been the CEO of OSEA and continues to lead the company today. Melissa was recently named EY Entrepreneur of the Year 2024 Greater Los Angeles. If you can’t reach Melissa she’s most likely swimming in the ocean.
Want more Melissa & Osea? Check out Osea online at https://oseamalibu.com and use code “Hotter Than Ever” on oceamalibu.com to get 10% off of their amazing products.
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“I’m in a phase of my life where I want to f*cking shine. I do not want to shrink.”
Sometimes we just need to admit we’re mad. While society may not always make space for women's anger, when we reflect on the challenges we face today, it can be hard not to feel it. Why do women still carry the heaviest load of care in relationships? Why are we still criticized for our ambition and judged for maintaining our independence?
In today’s conversation, producer Erica joins us as we dive into these questions and more. We’re not holding back, and we’re definitely in our feels. Here’s what we’re unpacking:
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