How I F*ck

Non-black people across the U.S. are responding to the recent Black Lives Matter protests by taking time to reflect on their own internalized prejudices. But what about dating and sex? Should we also be taking time to reflect on our dating and sex habits, whether that be porn or our dating bios?

In this episode of How I F*ck, we speak with Ekelle, a black pansexual woman who's experienced othering and discrimination on dating apps and in real life. Ekelle also describes to us why sexual liberation is especially important for black women and how seeing black people killed frequently on the news affects her dating life.

Noelle came out as trans just weeks before her wedding. For some, that may seem like bad timing, but for Noelle, it was the perfect opportunity to finally present as the woman she always knew she was. Noelle sat down with How I F*ck to talk about how masturbation helped her cope with not being able to present as a woman and how transitioning inspired her to explore her sexuality more.

Andrew Gurza is a disability awareness consultant and the creator and host of the award-winning podcast, Disability After Dark. Andrew, who lives with cerebral palsy, was in college when he realized that traditional dating wasn’t for him and that bringing himself to orgasm would mean rethinking his relationship with sex entirely. From representation in porn and sex education to hiring sex workers, Andrew tells HIF everything about what it’s like for him to have sex as a person with cerebral palsy. 

New episodes every other Wednesday starting June 17.