How To Be Real

This one’s for the people who are always doing the most…and finally asking, why?

In this episode, we talk about what we’re working on and working toward. We also share some of the funniest news stories of the week (because balance) and our personal red flags that let us know a tv show or movie is about to be trash.

And don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made it just for you!

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This is a love letter to the phrases that felt dramatic… until they didn’t.

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We live in a country where violence goes viral, grief becomes content, and policies are passed without care for the people most affected. Empathy these days feels like it’s on life support.

In this episode, we talk about the empathy crisis in America, how we got here, and why choosing to care is more necessary than ever.

💜Tap in for the conversation, stay for the reminders. And remember: we’re not therapists, we just have them!

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We’re sharing our top 3 biggest turn-offs and a few things that pissed us off this week—yes, we’re naming names (and behaviors). Then we got into the meat of the episode: attachment styles.

We discussed how they manifest in our relationships, how they influence the way we connect (or disconnect), and why it’s so challenging to relinquish control when we’re deeply invested in an outcome.

🧠 Curious about your attachment style? Take the quiz here

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This week we’re revisiting some of the most loved characters in TV and film who were actually the villains (don’t fight us, we have the receipts).

Then we turn to the current events of today that have us feeling like we’re in the Twilight Zone:• The Job Corps shutdown and what’s next• The Gaza flotilla that never made it• The LA immigration protests and how the people are pushing back

And finally, we hold space for a listener letter asking: how do you stay grounded when everything feels like it’s unraveling?

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Resources to get involved in some of the current happenings we discussed on the show:

Hope and Haven for Refugees

Supplies for Sudan

Other ways to get involved in LA (even if you’re not in LA)

NILC (National Immigration Law Center)

We’re tired, but we’re not turning on our people.In this episode, we unpack the term Black fatigue and our thoughts on this article that says the answer is walking away from “embarrassing” parts of our community.

Fatigue is real—but so is care, complexity, and choosing each other even when we’re tired.

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This episode is all about the moment we realized: no one was coming to save us, and it was up to us to do the saving.

From anxiety spirals to relationship red flags, we talk about the exact moments we knew we had to choose ourselves, and what it looked like to actually do that. The work wasn’t cute, but it was necessary.

Plus, we get into some of the random things we just don’t like: from trying to work in coffee shops to other icks we can’t unsee.

**As promised, HERE’s the clip of Leticia James delivering her powerful speech (mentioned at 00:02:30)

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Aging is inevitable. Growth is intentional. Let’s talk about what happens when people get older, but not better.

**SINNERS SPOILERS @ 6:57-25:25

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From the most random questions to the realest on-screen moments, we’re unpacking what’s been on our minds, on our screens, and in the headlines this month.

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Walking Meditation Storytime 

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Divorcing the struggle mindset + the fear of ease

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Walking Meditation Storytime 

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IG @howtobreal 

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Tasha's IG @thetashab
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