How To Heart

By Vincent Hazenboom

Hi, I’m Vincent Hazenboom, and this is an introvert’s guide to being a man.

I share my journey of navigating porn addiction recovery, and finding soulful connections, even as a highly sensitive perso... more

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July 17, 2025 The F*cking Truth About Sex: Melissa Louise on Healing & Wholeness.
🎙️ Episode 44: The F*cking Truth About Sex: Melissa Louise on Healing & Wholeness
🦁 Hey Lions, ever felt like your sexuality was something to hide… or even be ashamed of?
In this episode of the HowToHeart Show, we dive deep into the power of sacred sexuality, masculine presence, and emotional reclamation with Melissa Louise — Founder & CEO of Jewil International, erotic blueprint coach, sexology specialist, keynote speaker, and fierce advocate for guilt-free sexual and menstrual education.
Melissa shares her raw, unapologetic story of surviving religious trauma, addiction, and sexual shame — and how those battles led her to reclaim her body, her truth, and her voice. Today, she helps men and women heal their connection to pleasure, intimacy, and their deepest desires in a world full of judgment and toxic conditioning.
🌟 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 🌟
✔ Why pleasure matters for your well-being
✔ How shame damages intimacy and connection
✔ Melissa’s story of healing through sexuality
✔ Masculine & feminine energy in real life
✔ How vulnerability leads to deeper love
✔ Why sex mirrors how you live your life
💬 “How we show up in life is how we show up in the bedroom. How we do sex is how we do life.” – Melissa Louise
✨ Claim Your Sacred Power
🎁 Learn more about Melissa’s work and offerings to reclaim intimacy, pleasure & truth
👉 Explore Now: https://melissalouise.mykajabi.com/opt-in-bc44226a-f0a7-4010-b3da-14c899977c9e
🦁 Connect with Melissa Louise🦁
🌐 Website: www.melissalouise.world
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepleasurestudio/
👥 Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1628484537465314
✍️ Substack: https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe
🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁
🎖️ Metals: https://www.7kmetals.com/howtoheart/share/dy94z
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
🐦 Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b
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🔥 Lead with strength. Live with your heart.
🚨 New Episode Every Friday! Subscribe & Start Your Healing Journey. 🚨
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2h 1min
July 10, 2025Conquer Video Game Addiction: My First Therapy Session.
🎙️ Episode 43: How Therapy Helped Me Face What Gaming Was Hiding
🦁 Hey Lions, ever felt trapped in your own escape?
What if the thing that numbs your stress is also what’s holding you back?
In this raw and honest episode of the HowToHeartShow, I open up about my personal journey through therapy—and how I overcame a long-standing addiction to video games. I share what led me to seek help, how gaming impacted my mental health, and how I began rebuilding my focus, energy, and self-respect.
We explore the fear of asking for help, time management, and the importance of making informed choices around mental health and medication. If you’ve ever used distractions to avoid real life—this episode is for you.
💭 Feeling overwhelmed and stuck in loops you can’t break?
💭 Wondering if therapy could help, but not sure where to start?
🌟 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How video game addiction became a silent trap in my life
Why therapy was the turning point
Tools I used to manage my time and energy
How to seek help without shame
Why you need to question — not fear — mental health treatment
What it means to take control of your healing journey
💬 "I realized that my video game habits had become a self-imposed prison. It became an all-consuming escape from reality, holding me captive." – Vincent
🦁 Connect with Vincent & Join the Tribe
🎖️ Metals: http://www.7kmetals.com/howtoheart/share/dy94z
🌍 Website: http://www.howtoheartshow.com
🍏 Apple Podcast: http://www.podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-heart/id1704895666
📲 TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
📷 Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
📘 Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
🐦 Twitter/X: http://www.twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
💼 LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b
🎬 Stream with: http://www.streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904
🔥 Lead with strength. Live with your heart.

✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow—a space for introverted men who want to break free from limiting beliefs, overcome challenges, and live a life led by their authentic heart.

🚨 New Episode Every Friday. Subscribe Now. 🚨
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9min
July 03, 2025 Healing Journey for Men: Accountability, Courage & Emotional Choice | Eleanor Hayward
🎙️ Episode 42 – The Healing Journey for Men: Accountability, Courage & the Power of Choice
What if healing isn’t about fixing yourself—but taking ownership of your emotional story?
In this episode, I sit down with Eleanor Hayward, a holistic facilitator and massage therapist, to explore how trauma, mindset, and emotional intelligence shape the way men heal. We talk about breaking old patterns, building emotional awareness, and leading from the heart.
💬 "Everyone needs to take accountability for healing themselves—and that’s not something we’re taught." – Eleanor
🎁 Free Gift: The Miracle Mindset Masterclass + Playbook
👉 https://www.drive.google.com/drive/folders/1d21xM9a-lOIeUWA_XxT1X1u51VlQqqmw
🦁 Connect with Eleanor
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/holisticeleanor8
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holisticeleanor
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleanorhayward/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@holisticeleanor3664
🦁 Connect with Vincent
Website: https://www.howtoheartshow.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b
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🔥 New episodes every Friday.
Lead with strength. Live with your heart.
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1h 28min
June 26, 2025 Say NO with Power: Set Boundaries & Live Authentically
🎙️ Episode 41: Say NO with Power — Boundaries, Self-Care & Authentic Living

🦁 Hey Lions, ever feel guilty for saying NO?
What if that simple word could change everything?
Episode Description:
In this episode of the HowToHeartShow, we explore the strength that comes from saying NO. I share five powerful lessons I’ve learned about boundaries, self-care, and emotional honesty—and how saying NO isn’t rejection, it’s self-respect.
Too often, we say yes to avoid conflict or please others. But when we suppress our truth, it builds up—and eventually it overflows. Saying NO is about protecting your peace and honoring your truth.
💭 Struggling to set boundaries without guilt?
💭 Ready to live more honestly and stop people-pleasing?
🌟 What You’ll Learn:
✔ Why boundaries = self-care
✔ How NO empowers growth
✔ Why honesty leads to authenticity
✔ Why peace follows healthy limits
✔ How saying NO sets you free
💬 "Those tears weren't a sign of weakness—they were a release." – Vincent
🦁 Connect with Vincent
🎖️ Metals: https://www.7kmetals.com/howtoheart/share/dy94z
🍏 Apple Podcast: https://www.podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-heart/id1704895666
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
🐦 Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b
🎬 Stream with: https://www.streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904
🔥 Lead with strength. Live with your heart.
✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow—a space for introverted men who want to break free from limiting beliefs, overcome challenges, and live a life led by their authentic heart.
🚨 New Episode Every Friday. Subscribe Now. 🚨

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9min
June 19, 2025Healing from Within: The Hidden Power of Emotional Awareness | Jean Border
Episode 40: Healing from Within | Energy, Emotions & Boundaries with Jean Border

In this episode, I sit down with intuitive holistic healer Jean Border to explore the powerful connection between emotions, energy, and physical well-being.
Jean opens up about her struggles with chronic migraines and how energy healing transformed her life. I also share my own story—how tuning into my emotional body helped me move through pain and finally feel free.
🌟 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How emotional imbalances impact your physical health
Jean’s journey of healing through energy work
Why self-awareness is the key to real transformation
How to set boundaries for emotional & physical protection
Simple tools to release emotional blockages
The power of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) & how to start
💬 "You don’t have to relive your trauma to heal from it. There are gentle techniques that allow you to find relief without going back to the pain." – Jean Border
✨ Claim Your Free Gift!
Start your healing journey with Jean’s free EFT guide:
🎁 https://www.jeanborder.com/vow
🦁 Connect with Jean Border:
🔗 Website: https://www.jeanborder.com | https://www.energyhealingfordogs.com
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JeanBorderHealing
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/focused-practical-dreamer
🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FocusedPracticalDreamer
🎙️ Podcast: https://www.focusedpracticaldreamer.com
🦁 Connect with Vincent & Join the Tribe
🌍 Website: https://www.howtoheartshow.com
📲 TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VincentHazenboom
🐦 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincenthazenboom
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🔥 Lead with strength. Live with your heart. 🔥
🚨 New episode every week. Subscribe & begin your healing journey. 🚨
#EnergyHealing #EmotionalBalance #EFT #SelfAwareness #MindBodyConnection
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1h 16min
June 05, 2025 Navigating the World as a Highly Sensitive Man.
🎙️ Episode Title: Navigating the World as a Highly Sensitive Man.
🦁 Hey Lions, ever feel like you sense everything on a deeper level?
Episode Description:
In this episode of the HowToHeartShow, I open up about my journey as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). From emotional overwhelm to energetic burnout, I share the reality of living with heightened sensitivity—and how it can become your greatest strength.
You’ll learn how I protect my energy, set boundaries, and use practices like nature immersion, visualization, and breathwork to stay grounded.
💭 Do you absorb other people’s emotions?
💭 Feel easily drained in social settings?
💭 Want to use your sensitivity as a superpower?
🌟 What You’ll Learn:

✔ The struggles & gifts of being HSP
✔ Boundaries, breathwork & emotional balance
✔ How to stop feeling like “too much”
✔ Why sensitivity is a leadership strength
💬 "If you're an empath or highly sensitive, don't see it as bad or good—see it as part of your life." – Vincent

🦁 Connect with Vincent & Join the Tribe

🎖️ Metals: https://www.7kmetals.com/howtoheart/share/dy94z
🌐 Website: https://www.howtoheartshow.com
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
🐦 Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b
🎬 Want to create live streams like this? Use StreamYard 👉 https://www.streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904
🔥 Lead with strength. Live with your heart.
🚨 New Episode Every Friday! Subscribe & Start Your Journey. 🚨
#HighlySensitivePerson #EmpathJourney #EmotionalAwareness #Mindfulness #EnergeticBoundaries #LeadWithHeart #HowToHeartShow
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9min
February 13, 2025Overcome Self-Doubt and Achieve Your Dreams | Mark Larsen
Episode Description: In this touching episode of the "How to Heart Show," host Vincent sits down with Mark Larsen for a deeply personal conversation about growth, resilience, and pursuing dreams. Mark opens up about his transformative journey from being a shy, introverted individual who faced and overcame bullying to becoming a confident podcast host and motivational figure.
He shares the evolution of his podcast from "Handyman for Your Life" to "Dream Catcher," illustrating the importance of taking bold action and embracing one's true self. Through candid stories and heartfelt insights, Mark and Vincent explore themes of overcoming adversity, practicing self-care, and harnessing the power of community support.
This episode is a powerful reminder that no dream is too big and no struggle too great when you dare to be yourself and have the support of a community that believes in you. Tune in for an inspiring conversation encouraging you to overcome challenges, chase your dreams, and uplift others.
🌟 Tune in to learn 🌟
Overcoming bullying and shyness.
How Mark is pursuing his dreams and aspirations.
The impact of self-care and recognizing burnouts.
Building confidence and confronting imposter syndrome.
The importance of community and connection.
Embracing your authenticity and individuality.
The role of our physical activity in mental well-being.

"Don’t let anybody bully you into thinking you’re not worth it. If I had to do it over again, I would never be quiet all those years because I wasn’t being me.' -Mark Larsen.
👇 Connect with Mark Larsen 👇
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markruddlarsen/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.larsen.5201
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dreamcatcherthepodcast888
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-larsen-4a697625/
Twitter: https://x.com/larsen62
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marklarsen5?
🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁
Metals: https://www.7kmetals.com/howtoheart/share/dy94z
Website: https://howtoheartshow.com/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b/
Welcome to the How To Heart Show.
🔥 Lead with Quiet Strength, Live with Heart! 🔥
True power doesn’t come from being loud—it comes from being real. As an introverted man, you have the strength to lead authentically and build meaningful connections.
🚨 Subscribe Today! Join me every Friday for tools and insights to help you live with purpose, connect deeply, and lead with your heart🚨
#OvercomingBullying #PersonalGrowth #DreamChasing #Resilience #SelfCare #PodcastHostJourney #AuthenticityMatters #CommunitySupport #MotivationalJourney #InspiringConversations #DreamCatcherPodcast #HowToHeartShow #MarkLarson #TransformationStories #UpliftEachOther #EmbraceAuthenticity #PursueYourDreams #HeartfeltEpisode #Empowerment #SelfDiscovery
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1h 7min
February 06, 2025 Why Inner Strength Will Stop Bullying in 2024.
Episode Description: Rise above the pain of bullying and embrace your inner strength! Join us in this powerful episode as I shares my difficult journey of forgiveness and self-love. Discover the devastating impact of bullying, self-esteem, and perfectionism, and learn effective coping mechanisms to reclaim your power. This is a journey of self-discovery, where you'll learn to unleash the transformative change of forgiveness and cultivate genuine self-worth. You are not alone in this journey. Together, let's break free from the chains of bullying and embrace a life filled with empowerment and joy. It's time to unlock your inner strength and rise above. Don't miss this empowering episode!
🌟 Tune In To Learn 🌟
• Overcoming the scars of bullying and reclaiming your self-worth.
• Navigating the impact of low self-esteem and perfectionism.
• Coping mechanisms that empower resilience and healing.
• Unleashing the power of forgiveness for personal growth.
• Cultivating self-love and embracing your true worth.
"The greatest act of strength is forgiving those who once made you feel weak."
🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁
Website: www.howtoheartshow.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b/
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Welcome to the How To Heart Show.
🔥 Lead with Quiet Strength, Live with Heart! 🔥
True power doesn’t come from being loud—it comes from being real. As an introverted man, you have the strength to lead authentically, build confidence, and create meaningful connections.
🚨 Subscribe Today! Join me every Friday for tools and insights to help you live with purpose, connect deeply, and lead with your heart. 🚨
#InnerStrength #StopBullying #OvercomingBullying #SelfEsteem #PersonalGrowth #Forgiveness #SelfLove #CopingMechanisms #Resilience #Healing #GenuineSelfWorth #RiseAbove #Empowerment #PersonalDevelopment #BullyingImpact #SelfDiscovery #EmotionalHealing #StrengthThroughForgiveness #BuildingSelfWorth #MentalHealth #TransformativeChange #EmbraceYourPower #HowToHeartShow #LifeLessons #PositiveMindset #BreakingFree #EmotionalResilience #ConfidenceBuilding #SelfCare #InnerPeace #OvercomingChallenges #GrowthJourney #EmotionalStrength #PersonalEmpowerment
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8min
January 30, 2025Reflecting on Growth: A Year of Healing and Lessons Learned
Episode Description: This past year has been one of my life's most challenging and transformative journeys. In this How to Heart Show episode, I open up about why I’ve been on and off with the podcast. Honestly, my healing journey and focus on self-growth had to take priority.
I talk about the trauma and anxiety I’ve worked through and the fear of rejection that’s held me back in the past. These struggles shaped my life and led to some of my biggest breakthroughs. From EMDR therapy to practicing self-care and letting go of perfectionism, I’ve learned much about healing and growing.
Balancing my podcast with everything else hasn’t been easy. I faced burnout and questioned how to keep going, but I found clarity and direction through it all.
This episode is more than just a reflection—it’s my way of sharing the lessons I’ve learned with you. I hope it inspires you to embrace your healing journey, no matter how messy or uncertain.
🌟 Tune In To Learn 🌟
My journey toward mental health and self-improvement
Overcoming trauma, anxiety, and fear of rejection
Experiencing therapy, including EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
How a traumatic incident shaped my mental health
"I was on the edge of admitting myself to a mental institution. The weight was unbearable—I felt like I couldn't go on. But then, my psychologist helped me understand how the mind truly works."
🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁
Website: www.howtoheartshow.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b/
Lions, want to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904

Welcome to the How To Heart Show.
🔥 Lead with Quiet Strength, Live with Heart! 🔥
True power doesn’t come from being loud—it comes from being real. As an introverted man, you have the strength to lead authentically and build meaningful connections.
🚨 Subscribe Today! Join me every Friday for tools and insights to help you live with purpose, connect deeply, and lead with your heart🚨

#HealingJourney #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #MensHealing #MensMentalHealth #OvercomingTrauma #FearOfRejection #SelfCareForMen #MindsetShift #BurnoutRecovery #MasculinityAndHealing #GrowthMindset #MenSupportingMen
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January 23, 2025Unlock Your Empathic Power and Transform Your Life! | Elana Davidson
Episode Description: In this enlightening episode of the "How to Heart" podcast, I sit down with empath-empowering coach Elana Davidson to explore the unique challenges and profound experiences of being an empath. Elena shares her personal journey, highlighting the emotional struggles and confusion that often accompany the recognition of empathic abilities. We discuss how these experiences can lead to depression and difficulties in social settings.
Elena introduces practical tools, such as questioning the ownership of emotions, to help manage heightened sensitivity and navigate the world more effectively. She emphasizes the importance of understanding empathic children and the societal pressures that impact empaths. We also delve into strategies for navigating relationships, setting boundaries, and the necessity of having supportive partners.
Throughout our conversation, we underscore the importance of self-acceptance, healing, and leveraging our empathic gifts for personal growth. Elena provides valuable guidance and resources for fellow empaths, offering hope and practical advice for embracing and thriving with these unique abilities.
Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that promises to inspire and empower empaths on their journey of self-discovery and growth.
🌟 Tune in to learn 🌟
Elana's journey as an empath.
The challenges before recognizing her empathic abilities.
Tools for distinguishing personal emotions from others.
What types of empaths are there?
Practical tools for managing empathic abilities.
Challenges in society and relationships.
Importance of boundaries, healing trauma, and mastering our empathic gifts.

"You're not broken, you're not screwed up, there's nothing wrong with you; you just haven't learned yet how to work with your empathic experience and your empath abilities." -Elana Davidson.

🎁 Claim Your Free Gift from Elana Davidson! 🎁
Unlock the secrets to managing your empathic abilities and embracing your true self. Visit www.findingyourownhappybook.com and receive exclusive access to Elana Davidson's invaluable resources designed to help you navigate the challenges of being an empath.
🌟 Discover practical tools for self-acceptance, healing, and personal growth.
🌟 Learn to set healthy boundaries and leverage your empathic gifts.
🌟 Gain insights and support from a community of like-minded individuals.
Don't miss out on this transformative opportunity! 🌟💖
👇 Connect with Elana Davidson 👇
Website: https://www.healingmindsandhearts.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elanamagic
🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁
Free Online Training: https://purewaterempowerment.com/
Website: https://www.howtoheartshow.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtoheartshow
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtoheartshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vincent.hazenboom
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HowToHeartShow
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vincent-hazenboom-46408123b/
Welcome to the How To Heart Show.
🔥 Lead with Quiet Strength, Live with Heart! 🔥
True power doesn’t come from being loud—it comes from being real. As an introverted man, you have the strength to lead authentically and build meaningful connections.
🚨 Subscribe Today! Join me every Friday for tools and insights to help you live with purpose, connect deeply, and lead with your heart🚨
#EmpathJourney #EmotionalHealing #SelfAcceptance #PersonalGrowth #EmpathLife #SupportiveRelationships #SensitiveSouls #HowToHeartPodcast #ElenaDavidson #EmpowermentForEmpaths #NavigatingSensitivity #EmpathResources #UnderstandingEmpaths #HealingJourney #BoundariesForEmpaths #ThrivingAsAnEmpath
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1h 32min

FAQs about How To Heart:

How many episodes does How To Heart have?

The podcast currently has 43 episodes available.