In this episode, Holly Toscanini discusses the emotional burden of being the default caretaker in relationships, particularly for women. She explores how this role is often unconsciously adopted and the hidden costs associated with it, such as chronic resentment and emotional burnout. Holly emphasizes the importance of recognizing this pattern and making small, self-honoring shifts to unweight in relationships. Holly provides practical strategies for navigating romantic partnerships, family dynamics, friendships, and work environments, encouraging listeners to prioritize their own needs and establish healthier boundaries.

If you’ve been feeling invisible in midlife, it might not be because you lack confidence—it might be because you’ve been self-editing. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini breaks down why smart, capable women often soften their opinions, over-explain their boundaries, and wait for the “perfect wording”… then wonder why they feel unseen.

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly sits down with Kathy Kwiatkowski—Licensed Mental Health Counselor, multidimensional healer,[...]

Holly Toscanini speaking about Unwaiting: why starting over provides relief but real change comes from one decision and one small action, encouraging listeners to stop living in “draft mode.”

As we step into a new year, the pressure to reinvent ourselves often looms large. But what if the real transformation lies not in starting over, but in cultivating a deeper relationship with ourselves? In this episode of How to Lose the Weight, host Holly Toscanini introduces the self-trust rule for 2026, urging us to stop making decisions that betray our true selves.

New Year’s resolutions often keep smart women stuck because they’re built on the belief that you must “fix yourself” before you’re allowed to feel confident or start living. In this episode, Holly Toscanini explains why waiting mode isn’t laziness—it’s a self-protection strategy—and shares what to do instead: replace resolutions with standards, build self-trust through small decisions, and create real momentum without pressure or perfectionism.

How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting: Clarity, Courage, and Self-Trust

Year-end reflection for midlife women: close 2025 with compassion and start 2026 with clarity, courage, and self-trust. Includes a guided ritual + confidence quiz.

Feeling stuck in “someday mode” in midlife?

Someday you’ll change careers. Someday you’ll feel confident. Someday you’ll finally do the thing you can’t stop thinking about.

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, intuitive living coach Holly Toscanini shows you how to get unstuck in midlife using tiny pivots, simple habits, and micro-actions that build real momentum over time.

You don’t need a massive life overhaul. You need movement.

What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year

Before you set a single New Year’s resolution, it’s time for an emotional declutter. In this episode, Holly guides you through a step-by-step process to release outdated identities, habits, and roles that keep you stuck, so you can create a true midlife reset that actually fits the woman you’re becoming.

Go from Panicked to Poised in Just 3 Minutes Wish you had a confidence reset button for those “Who am[...]