It's easy to say we know God is good. It can be much more difficult to 'know' in the midst of turmoil, chaos, and even pain, that these things aren't happening to you - they are actually for you. It is a difficult truth to accept that adversity is, objectively speaking, both good and necessary for something to reach its full potential. Think of a tree that has survived a hundred years in a forest... what stories of trials, storms, and struggle can he tell? But also - what stories of beauty, grace, and glory? And even more so, what a glory it is to even behold a tree of such prominence...
This is what He knows to be true about you. That the 'acorn', His incorruptible seed mixed with your exact personality, gifts and desires, is growing into such a tremendous 'Oak of Righteousness'. So with patience and grace for ourselves and with Him, we can rest in knowing that this all is part of our story of glory. He's not waiting every time you make a mistake to 'punish' you - He is delighted as His child learns to take their first steps. Or tries to clean their room. Or attempts to ride a bike. And if you can learn to lean in, to "let the Spirit have its way with you," you will have considerably less pain, anger, and resentment of this 'meantime' of adversity.