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Why is anger after sexual betrayal so intense, unpredictable, and heartbreaking? Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck unpacks the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma anger for both the betrayed and the betrayer. You'll learn the S.C.I.P. protocol to manage anger and anxiety, the 7 phases of betrayal trauma anger recovery, and why sexual betrayal is like bullfighting. In the end, you'll leave with hope that grieving sexual betrayal can transform deep pain into even deeper healing.

Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Christian who believes every person is valuable. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a Florida State Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy, and a Certified Life Coach. Dr. H's approach to counseling and coaching is non-judgmental, caring, and solution focused. Dedicating her life to helping others as a therapist and coach is a result of post traumatic growth from her own personal life experiences. Learn more at crystalhollenbeck.com

Buy Crystal's book:
Betrayal Trauma Anger: You're not Crazy...You're Angry...And You Should Be! How to Process Complex Anger While Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal

Download Crystal’s SCIP Protocol PDF: https://crystalhollenbeck.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/SCIP-Protocol.pdf

Read Crystal’s journal article on betrayal trauma anger: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2024.2306940#d1e130

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When sexual sin and shame are exposed, how does Jesus respond? See how compassion overcomes condemnation in the story of the woman caught in adultery. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, September 27, 2026 at the Husband Material Fall Retreat in Colorado. 

Previous sermons from HM Retreats:

• Promised Land Sexuality (Deuteronomy 11:10-12)
• You Are Not Too Much (Mark 6:30-56)
• Excluded & Emasculated (Acts 8:26-40)
• David's Sexual Story (2 Samuel 11-12)
• The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)
• How Jesus Reverses The Curse (John 21)

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What is narcissistic personality disorder, and how does it interact with porn and sex addiction? For someone with NPD or narcissistic traits, what does healing and growth look like?

Dr. Alexandra Repke (CSAT, EMDR, C-PD) is a Christian psychologist who typically work with successful professionals facing challenges in their relationships or careers, often stemming from issues related to addiction, personality, or trauma. She is a lifelong learner, committed to understanding the complexities of mental health and advocating for practical, impactful solutions.

Learn more at repkepsychologicalservices.com

Books mentioned (these are paid links):

• Thanks for the Feedback, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
• A Game Free Life, by Stephen Karpman

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Have you ever thought about the fact that Jesus has a penis? What are the implications? Considering Christ's full humanity confronts us with a fresh, shame-free perspective on male sexuality. Licensed therapists Brannon and Tyler Patrick explore this important topic by highlighting the goodness of sex, how sexual self-rejection comes out sideways in addiction and secrecy, why radical self-acceptance leads to freedom, and what it looks like to harness sexual energy with purpose. 

Brannon Patrick, LCSW, and Tyler Patrick, LMFT, are brothers and licensed clinicians who help individuals and couples heal after infidelity, addiction, and the trust rupture that follows. With 20+ years each in addiction and trauma work, they bring both depth and straight talk, translating complex psychology into practical next steps people can use immediately. Together, they host The Therapy Brothers, a weekly call-in show where real people work through betrayal, shame, trauma, and addiction in real time. Their approach centers on heart work: healing the underlying trauma and shame so couples can rebuild trust with honesty, accountability, empathy, and healthy strength. Learn more at therapybrothers.org

If you're a man who has broken trust through infidelity or you're struggling with addiction to porn or sex, check out Tyler and Brannon's Rising Son Journey: online groups and in-person weekends at ⁠⁠risingson.org

NOTE: The views expressed by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of Husband Material Ministries. Featuring a guest is not an endorsement of their beliefs, methods, products, services, or any other content they may have created or promoted.

We believe in the practice of discernment —so as with any resource, we encourage you to listen thoughtfully, test all things against sound wisdom and your own convictions, take what's helpful, and leave the rest behind.

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What if at our very best, we are 97% honest with ourselves and others, and the 3% we withhold keeps us bound to shame, loneliness, and unwanted behavior? That's what Blake Roberts and Jamie Haigh discovered. In this episode, you'll hear their personal journeys through porn addiction recovery, the power of daily phone calls and radical honesty, and how to decide who has earned the right to hear your 3%. 

Blake Roberts and Jamie Haigh are best friends, licensed therapists, and co-creators of Three Percent. Three Percent is a men's mental health podcast and community turning emotional walls into deeper relationships with yourself, others, and God. Learn more at threepercentco.com

Listen to the Three Percent podcast at threepercentco.com/podcast

Read Blake and Jamie's work on Substack at substack.com/@threepercent

Join The Basement, a private paid ($10/mo) community designed for those who are ready to move beyond surface-level connection and engage their emotional lives with more clarity and courage: threepercentco.com/membership

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How do you distinguish between sexual secrecy and sexual privacy? Learn 3 key differences between secrecy and privacy: motivation (fear vs. love), intention (control vs. care), and protecting addiction vs. protecting people. This episode includes 6 real-life case studies and 1 simple strategy any couple can use to strengthen their relationship.

You don't have to share everything with everyone, but unlearning secrecy is the first step toward lasting freedom.

What questions or comments do you have about secrecy vs. privacy? Let us know in the Husband Material Community at husbandmaterial.com/community

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For decades, Jeff Johnson hid his sexual attraction to other men. This secret kept him trapped in shame and isolation until everything changed in an open conversation with his now-wife, Jourdan. Jeff's story is proof that same-sex attraction does not disqualify anyone from marriage, ministry, or male connection. In this episode, you'll hear Jeff share honestly about faith, friendship, and a freedom that does not require the absence of temptation. It's truly inspiring!

Jeff and Jourdan Johnson are worship leaders and pastors at Passion City Church in Atlanta, GA, with 25+ years of ministry experience. They've spent decades leading worship across the country, creating spaces where people can encounter God in a real and transformative way. Their journey has been deeply shaped by God's faithfulness—particularly through Jeff's decades-long experience navigating same-sex attraction while holding onto his faith. This led them to start Open Spaces, a podcast where they share their story and engage in honest conversations about faith, marriage, identity, and the power of living with vulnerability.

Learn more at theopenspacescollective.com

Listen to Jeff and Jourdan's podcast at theopenspacescollective.com/podcast

To connect with Jeff or Jourdan, email [email protected]

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Get ready for a wild conversation on the adventure of masculine initiation, spiritual formation, and life as a beloved son with Morgan Snyder. You'll hear what it truly means to be fathered by God, how unhealed emasculation ("castration") can leave parts of a man’s soul dormant, and why true strength is cultivated through total dependence on God rather than self-reliance.

Morgan Snyder is a grateful husband of twenty-five years to his wife, Cherie, and a proud father of two remarkable children. He serves as a spiritual director, strategist, teacher, writer, and speaker devoted to the formation of wholehearted leaders.

Morgan is the President and Founder of Become Good Soil, established in 2010 as a global fellowship and training ground for leaders who have consented to organize their entire lives around apprenticeship to God and His Kingdom. His passion is to apprentice men, women, and marriages into wholeheartedness, freedom, and maturity for the sake of faithfully carrying responsibility in the Kingdom of God. 

For more than twenty-five years, Morgan served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge at Wild at Heart, including as Vice President. Throughout those decades, he helped initiate men and participate in the spiritual formation of leaders around the globe, guiding sold-out events and leadership initiatives across the United States, the United Kingdom, South Africa, Australia, and beyond.

Morgan now shares a mission with Cherie, a clinical counselor and co-host of the Become Good Soil Podcast, as they intentionally transition into becoming second-half-of-life leaders. Together, they are devoted to serving the next two generations of leaders while helping their peers become sages for the generations that follow.

After turning fifty, Morgan and Cherie made the intentional decision to serve as full-time volunteers within their vocational space, offering their lives, experience, and leadership in wholehearted response to the invitation of God. Their work now centers on masculine and feminine initiation, resilient marriages, and Kingdom-hearted leadership for fully flourishing lives and communities. Whenever possible, Morgan still goes off the grid—whether bowhunting in the Colorado wilderness or pursuing the adventurous life with the people he treasures most.

Buy Morgan's book:

Becoming a King: The Path to Restoring the Heart of a Man

Listen to Morgan's podcast:

Become Good Soil

Learn more at becomegoodsoil.com

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Have you ever felt like a sexual fantasy was so irresistible that missing out on it felt like missing out on life itself? While fantasies promise satisfaction, they are ultimately symbolic attempts to rewrite reality—seemingly beautiful like a sunset, but cold and empty when you try to hold them.

In this episode, you'll learn why sexual fantasies will never satisfy you, how to decode what your fantasies are actually trying to tell you, and how to find true soul-level satisfaction. Whether your fantasies focus on specific sexual experiences, particular people, or potential relationships, this episode will give you wisdom and direction to discover what you truly desire.

Download the free PDF of Drew's list of 40 desires (and other helpful documents) at husbandmaterial.com/documents

Watch Husband Material's YouTube Playlist on Understanding Sexual Arousal, Fantasy, and Desire: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMrBq-rwRxSA

Related episodes:

• Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire
• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies
• How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy
• Introduction To Sexual Symbolism
• How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time

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What if my wife isn't doing "her work"? What if my inner child doesn't feel safe with her? What if I feel like she is controlling me? How can I be assertive without being selfish? In this episode, you'll get answers to some of the toughest, most common questions men ask while trying to rebuild trust after sexual betrayal.

Our guests today are James and Sam, co-hosts of the Ask The Unfaithful Podcast. Listen now at asktheunfaithful.com

James Annear is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), Certified Professional Coach, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist - Supervisor (APSATS), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) - Supervisor, and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. He and his wife, Sharon Rinearson, LCSW, own CORE Relationship Recovery and are known for their down to earth, practical and creative interventions and antidotes when it comes to helping couples heal from relational and sexual betrayals in relationships, as well as tackling developmentally damaging experiences in custom created intensives. Creating safe spaces for couples, unfaithful partners and betrayed partners to do work that can help free them from their old unhappy and unhealthy lives, James and Sharon use unique techniques based in neurobiology, addiction science, PTSD trauma techniques and their own methods of interpersonal therapies to create dramatic differences with their clients. Learn more at hopeforus.com

For over 15 years, Sam has been one of the leading content creators for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through Sam's Healing Podcast and Ask the Unfaithful, Samuel continues to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Learn more at samshealingpodcast.com

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