What's your plan for outgrowing porn? The Five Circles tool will help you define what freedom looks like, why it matters, and how to set yourself up for success.

Download the Five Circles Of Freedom worksheet at husbandmaterial.com/freedom 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Tools For Healing: The Three Circles (blog)
• Staci Sprout (creator of the Five Circles Model)
• How To Reframe A Porn Relapse (podcast episode)
• Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (book; paid link)
• The Five Circles Of Freedom (worksheet)

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How can men protect women instead of complying with sexism and abuse? Dr. Andrew Bauman shares the results of his research with over 2,800 Christian women, and what men need to hear in order to advocate for change in our churches and communities.

Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental health counselor. Also formerly a pastor, Andrew now works with men and women to bring healing and wholeness to their sexual and spiritual lives.

Buy Andrew's books (paid links):

• Safe Church
• How Not To Be An *SS
• The Sexually Healthy Man
• The Psychology Of Porn
• Stumbling Toward Wholeness

Learn more about Andrew's 4-day men's workshops here.

Connect with Andrew at andrewjbauman.com.

Also mentioned in this episode:

• Dr. Christy Bauman
• Dr. Diane Langberg
• GRACE: Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment

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Am I abusive? How can I acknowledge the truth without beating myself up? What makes a good and safe man? Dr. Andrew Bauman explains two ways to be abusive, the difference between humility and self-hatred, and how to express clean anger and fight fair.

Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental health counselor. Also formerly a pastor, Andrew now works with men and women to bring healing and wholeness to their sexual and spiritual lives.

Buy Andrew's books (paid links):

• Safe Church
• How Not To Be An *SS
• The Sexually Healthy Man
• The Psychology Of Porn
• Stumbling Toward Wholeness

Learn more about Andrew's 4-day men's workshops here.

Connect with Andrew at andrewjbauman.com.

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When I watch porn, when I relapse, when I wander, when I make mistakes... in the middle of my sin, how does God really feel about me?

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Inheritance: Message by Graham Cooke (video)
• God Has A Name, by John Mark Comer (book; paid link)
• How Jesus Reverses The Curse (podcast)

Here are a few of the Bible passages we talked about:

• Matthew 3:13-4:11
• John 15:9
• Romans 5:8
• 1 John 2:1
• Psalm 103
• Luke 15

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What are the building blocks of a healthy relationship? In this episode, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith reveal the "Intimacy Pyramid" of what is required for trust and intimacy—especially for couples healing from sexual betrayal. Get wisdom from two people who rebuilt their marriage after porn almost destroyed it.

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors of the book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time (paid link). They have over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth.

Matthew is a Professional Certified Coach (ICF) with a background in pastoral leadership, while Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR practitioner, and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through APSATS. Both hold Master of Divinity degrees and have served together on multiple church leadership teams. Currently, they co-lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team, where they specialize in helping couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy.

Download the Raabsmiths' free check-in: The Honest Connection.

Get a copy of Building True Intimacy to dive into the Intimacy Pyramid.

Learn more and connect with Matthew and Joanna at raabsmithteam.com.

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Why do I feel so disconnected from other people...and myself? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci unpacks the reasons why many men struggle to emotionally connect. You'll learn about the talker, the fixer, the thinker, the nice guy, "Mr. Right," the runner, the distractor, and the flopper.

Mark your calendar for Drew and Eddie's upcoming workshop:

Emotional Connection Workshop For Men

Friday April 11, 2025 (replays available)

Learn more and register now here.

https://drew-boa.mykajabi.com/workshop

Related resources featuring Eddie:

• Why Men Struggle To Love (book; paid link)
• Becoming Emotionally Mature (podcast)
• How Do I Help My Hurting Spouse? (podcast)

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When did you first hear the word "sex" or "porn" or "masturbation"? The first time you ever hear a word has a disproportionate impact. This is called the power of first mention, and it is an extremely important principle for sex education.

Related resources and episodes: 

• TheSexTalk.com (online course for parents)
• Having The Talks: A Guided Conversation Game On Sexuality For Parents And Children (paid link)
• How To Teach Children About Sexuality (with Adam and Karissa King)
• How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex (with Rodney and Traci Wright)
• Healing With My Parents (with Yvonne Boa and Sandy Boa)
• The 2025 Husband Material Retreat (with a breakout session on sex education)

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Most of us were never taught how to be vulnerable when we’re sexually struggling. In this episode, Henry Brown shares a simple framework called “scratches, scabs, and scars” to help you decide what to share, when to share, how much to share, and who to trust. 

Henry Brown is the Director Of Operations & Support at Husband Material. He is nationally certified as a Life Coach, Recovery Coach, and Sex Addiction Coach. Henry is also a Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at henrybrown.net

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What is narcissistic personality disorder, and how does it interact with porn and sex addiction? For someone with NPD or narcissistic traits, what does healing and growth look like?

Dr. Alexandra Repke (CSAT, EMDR, C-PD) is a Christian psychologist who typically work with successful professionals facing challenges in their relationships or careers, often stemming from issues related to addiction, personality, or trauma. She is a lifelong learner, committed to understanding the complexities of mental health and advocating for practical, impactful solutions.

Learn more at repkepsychologicalservices.com

Books mentioned (these are paid links):

• Thanks for the Feedback, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
• A Game Free Life, by Stephen Karpman

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What if Every Man’s Battle is wrong? In this episode, I share how I recently chose to “bounce my eyes” (as Every Man’s Battle teaches) and why I later regretted it. You’ll learn 3 reasons why bouncing your eyes is problematic—and what you can do instead when you see a sexually attractive person or picture. 

Related Episodes:

• When You Get An Erection...
• What To Do When You See Attractive People
• Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

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