I Choose Life

Have you ever had a moment where you knew you needed to do something? A moment when you knew something was off, something didn’t fit and you needed to take action. In this episode, Becky and Mel talk about why so many of us do nothing and react after the fact. Why so many of us are frozen? Why don't we trust ourselves and what can we do. When dephipering intuition, check your own knowledge, be curious, check on your feelings, and trust your gut ultimately.

Shame is an intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. It's an emotion that affects all of us and profoundly shapes the way we interact in the world. Becky and Mel talk about where shame comes from and the difference between healthy and unhealthy shame. Tips on how to reduce or eradicate shame are given in this episode along with sharing personal stories of their own shame stories. Furthermore, tips on how to spot a shame giver and what to do is also explored. Resources: Christine Caine “Unashamed” Unashamed: Drop the Baggage, Pick up Your Freedom, Fulfill Your Destiny https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310351359/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_CTJEQC9Z647HM2JS8144

Brene Brown Ted Talks on Shame: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Love is powerful and can change everything. Becky and Mel explore the modern day's version of love and what the bible says about love. You may have wondered how to love in a society that has conditions on love and essentially has a throw away attitude. Becky and Mel go into deep thought about loving different people, people who dont love you back & how Jesus loved people. Love Chapter in Bible:

1 Corinthians 13

New International Version

13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies,they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

How do you define yourself? Do you find value in being “something” to someone else? Some people find their value you in labels that have been put there by others or themselves. Today we examine how we think & feel about these labels. Join Becky and Mel as they talk about changing your narrative and rejecting any lies that were spoken over you.

On this episode, we have Robin Gorman-Guffy joining us. Robin is a visit supervisor whom makes sure kids are safe while visiting a parent that is CPS involved or currently cannot legally see their child without supervision. Robin is a Jesus girl who is passionate about living a full filling life with Christ. Living in Grace & Telling The Truth

In this episode, we seek to find answers to common issues when it comes to Grace and Truth. Why is it challenging to have grace and tell the truth? Why do people find this to be a paradox? Why it's important to have grace and truth?

Do you ever "give up" Grace or Truth?

Come join us on some grace and truth telling. You dont want to miss this one.💜

Are you going through a big life transition or about to go through one? Big life transitions are any transitions that seem challenging to you. We take a look into how to handle these changes as well as being empathetic to another person going through a change.

With bullying being a hot topic in today's climate....we had to do a second episode on this. Bullying happens more than we realize. Learn tips on communicating and how to set boundaries with bullying behavior.

Telling your story in regards to bullying is discussed in this segment. Also, why do bullies become bullies? I think we all wonder.. •••Talking Boundary••• * What do you hear or see? (Factual Information)

* What thought do you make up in your own head about what you saw and/or heard.

* How do you feel about this? (Ex: Angry, sad, anxious.)

* Resolution. What would you like done about this? •••Remember do not use the word YOU 💜.•••

We think of bullying only happening to kids and it happens to adults all the time so we don’t always take it seriously. We all have had those relationships that are hard, navigating them can be tricky. Know what & when, and how to make a boundary. Definitions:

Bully: a person who habitually seeks to harm or intimidate those whom they perceive as vulnerable.

Gaslight: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.

Although each of us is different, we are hand made by God. He has a plan & purpose for you. Your purpose is not attached to your productivity or bank account.

Asking God to show you & listen for His prompting. He will direct you & give you value.

What is a support system is and the importance of having one is explored in this episode. You may have wondered how to build a healthy support system based on your needs. Becky and Mellisa have you covered! This episode is for anyone who wants to beef up their support systems. Most of us could use this especially during these challenging Covid-19 times.

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Better Help online Counseling: https://www.betterhelp.com