Uncover the silent emotional armor you've been wearing, hidden trauma, unresolved pain, and the dangerous cycle of emotional hoarding.

The host and writer, Shay Ruff, reveals how avoiding emotions for decades keeps us trapped, disconnected, and in 'survival mode.'

No filter needed. WE ARE BACK!

Can you believe that it's been three years since we last spoke?!

The "I Failed..." Podcast is back with a twist!

Since 2020, I have been writing this book about my personal journey of emotional hoarding, and now it is a best-selling book. But aside from that celebration, I want to share my story with you so that you can

• See where I've been
• How I'm adjusting
• How this "emotional hoarding" thing started

I believe that it's going to help you too.

Whew!! It was on my heart to do this impromptu podcast about my personal burnout.

Usually, when we experience something, someone else may have a similar experience. 

So this one is for all of my people who are feeling burned out and experiencing self-awareness. 

Thank you for listening!

If you've ever been in a dating relationship and/or marriage that ended, you've had a reflection moment afterward. 

You're trying to figure out what went wrong. Was it you? Was it them? How could have things been redirected away from a breakup? Most of us never realize that our upbringing usually plays a part in how we date. 

Today's guests, Rickey and Shalonda Schoonmaker share their moments of clarity after breakups and divorces. 

Origins: Detroit, Michigan

Expertise: Logistics, Non-Profit, and Business Management

Is it okay to "just in case" your marriage if things don't work out? Should you have a person of interest on standby should your marriage go left?   

While some of us think that this is crazy, it's very real for a lot of people. The "backup plan" has some people in divorce court or annulment highway. Ty and Tera share their wisdom about the matter.    

Origins: The Virgin Islands and Florida 

Expertise: Risk Management and Product Development

Commitment can be a forbidden word to some, while others crawl under their beds to hide from the challenge. But do we make commitment harder than it is? 

Today's guests, Joshua & Tasha Ikegulu, share how they are consciously working through commitment.  

Origins: Nigeria and New Orleans, Louisiana 

Expertise: Oil Industry and Psychology

Keep the connections. Long Distance Friendships can be hard but they are rewarding when everyone can work together.

Even in your waiting, make sure that you date yourself ALWAYS!

In case you're Single and tired, DON'T GIVE UP. 

Rhuneisha speaks about her experience and why it's important to keep going. 

When we think of friendships, we think of those who have been closest to us for a long time. We think of those that we can confide in, laugh, cry with, and share life with. BUT! We never consider being a friend to ourselves. In order to be a friend, you have to show yourself friendly even to thine own self. 

Today's guest, Dr. Heather James, shares the importance of befriending yourself and taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health. 

Origin: Lansing, Michigan

Expertise: Medical Doctor, Mental Health, Physical Health, Holistic Health