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In an article titled: Brazilian butt lift - behind the world's most dangerous cosmetic surgery, it has been reported that- Since 2015, the number of butt lifts performed globally has grown by 77.6%, according to a recent survey by the International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery. It is the fastest-growing cosmetic surgery in the world. The "slim thick" description is similar to the "Thicc" and "Bootylicious" body descriptions, which refer to a curvaceous body figure with a bigger booty. The "Slim" refers to the flat belly and the "Thick" refers to the toned thighs and large, or plump booty. Let's dissect. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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https://www.quora.com/Does-rap-music-contribute-positively-to-womens-body-image

https://www.theguardian.com/news/2021/feb/09/brazilian-butt-lift-worlds-most-dangerous-cosmetic-surgery

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Nowadays, people expect their spouses to be their soulmates—the one and only person who will fulfill all their emotional needs. While the soulmate marriage may be a noble ideal to strive for, most of us find it impossible to live up to such high expectations. When we fail to meet our spouse’s needs or don’t get ours met, we despair that our marriage isn’t as good as it’s supposed to be. Infidelity is a leading cause of divorce and one of the most common reasons why couples seek counseling. Surveys suggest that infidelity occurs in upwards of 20% of marriages.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/202004/are-open-marriages-happier

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/rules-for-successful-open-marriage/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Taiwo aka 'Tai'

About: Re-occurring Guest 

IG: king_tai

A disorder in which a person has an inflated sense of self-importance. Narcissistic personality disorder is found more commonly in men. The cause is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. About 1% of the population suffers from it (and for some reason I happen to run into all of them). Symptoms include: grandiosity, callous and unemotional traits, disregard for others' feelings, excessive need for admiration, or social isolation.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/9-tips-for-narcissistic-abuse-recovery#support

Narcissistic personality disorder https://g.co/kgs/E7T2kP

https://www.rosglasrecovery.com/signs-and-symptoms-of-narcissistic-abuse-syndrome/

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

The 'token black girl' is a concept with which we’re depressingly all too familiar, and have been for too long now. We are often the representative woman of colour. With that has often come an underlying expectation to be 'the black one' – to live the sassy, loud, eye-rolling, punchline-delivering, surface level stereotypes afforded to the black women we see in the white TV and film world. We understand that the consequence of messing it up is messing it up for everyone who looks like us in the future and that is a heavy burden to carry.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health

https://blavity.com/black-women-cannot-be-all-things-to-all-people-at-all-times?category1=opinion&category2=news

Audible Book: B00LEUADLQ Confessions of a Token black girl

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https://www.thoughtworks.com/insights/blog/tokenism-double-sided-coin

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Guest #1 Details: Nesha Taylor

About: Owner of TACT Therapy, LLC

IG: nesha_taylor

SC: nesha_taylor

Black femicide: @blackfemicideus @blackfemicideamerica

CDC states: Black women experience highest rates of homicide of any racial group in the United States. The overall homicide rate for women was 2 per 100,000 women. When researchers reviewed the statistics for Black women, the homicide rate increased to 4.4 per 100,000 women. African-American women are less likely to contact domestic violence service providers or call police when they’re abused, thus increasing their risk of being killed….African-American women are often fearful of reinforcing racial stereotypes the black community is violent. 

So why does this keep happening? How did we get here and how do we stop?

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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https://www.news5cleveland.com/news/local-news/investigations/cdc-black-women-experience-highest-rates-of-homicide-of-any-racial-group-in-the-united-states

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

It is a one-sided experience that can leave us feeling pain, grief, and shame. You may think it would be easy to tell if love is unrequited but it isn't always clear and can cause a lot of confusion and emotional turmoil. It can feel like you’re always trying to prove yourself to them. And it feels like you’re never winning. Deep down in your heart, you know you’re trying too hard to love or be friends with someone who doesn’t care to reciprocate. Listen to find out if you have been a victim of unrequited love; you may find yourself nodding in agreement to this whole episode. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://amp.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/there-are-ways-to-deal-with-the-sting-of-unrequited-friendship-20190129-p50ucj.html

https://thoughtcatalog.com/kovie-biakolo/2014/01/18-heartbreaking-signs-you-are-in-an-unrequited-friendship/

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/seven-tips-on-how-to-improve-mental-health/?utm_source=AdWords

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Lust is looking at a person and feeling both a strong sexual attraction and a pull toward imaginative details that the relationship could one day possess. Love is a feeling of commitment and adoration for a person that you've put effort into and began to build a life with. It is a feeling backed by action and a desire to grow with and do your best for the person you're with. Lust tends to get a bad rep in most situations but it is part of a healthy relationship in most cases, but lust alone can cause some issues that will be discussed today so let's break it down, which side are you on?

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/intimacy/what-is-the-difference-between-lust-and-love-lust-vs-love/

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-freedom/201108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

'Waiting for your Best Yes' with our Guest: Rob Kowalski. 

Emotionally and mentally, things change, sex is a spiritual ritual. Energy and fluids are exchanged during sexual intercourse and when you get married, the marriage is confirmed with consummation. Only weak people are controlled by sex. Your self esteem should not be based on how many people you can bed. The book 'Why Waiting Works' Is available for free on Rob's website (pay for shipping only) so pick up your copy and read the story of the Stripper turned Christian and hear his reasoning for why waiting for the right person works from BOTH sides.  

Resources for City Fam and Rob's Book: 

https://www.whywaitingworks.com/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/waitingworks

https://www.facebook.com/groups/cityfam

https://linktr.ee/robbkowalski

General Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

There are many people you can choose in your life and get rid of if needed. You can pick your friends, and if there's a problem, you can always choose to part ways. However, you can't pick your family, and you can't leave them if you're a minor, or if they're your only source of living. Sometimes, your family can have qualities that you don't like, and it can be hard to deal with them. Other times, you're unsure whether you live in a toxic family situation or not. Being in a toxic family can be draining and detrimental to a Childs growth and can most times affect and shape a young adults view on future relationships they build.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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https://www.regain.us/advice/family/toxic-family-dynamics-the-signs-and-how-to-cope-with-them/

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

A lot of women who cape for men are usually the ones who are deemed unattractive by the majority of them according to various online articles, thus the need to cater to their messed up viewpoints to get their attention. They are usually negatively competitive, jealous and man-obsessed.

'Staying on code': Support and encourage one another. Be affectionate and create a sisterhood, FOLLOW GIRL CODE (unlike like Portia). Stop being jealous and assuming everyone is a hater. Be open and friendly. Stop giving boyfriends husband benefits and dropping your friends for them (a few examples that may make a woman seem like her life revolves around male attention).

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

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Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems

Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]