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What is Church Hurt? The term, refers to the pain sometimes inflicted by religious institution — a pain that distances sufferers from their communities and from God. Every year, about 2.7 million church members drop from church membership. One of the main reasons is attributed I’m leaving as hurt and wounded victims after experiencing some form of abuse, disillusionment, or from feelings of abandonment and neglect. 23% Of Pastors Deal With Mental Illness...and 35% Of Americans Believe Bible Study Cures Mental Illness and that is not entirely true, especially if you are not religious so let's break it down with some facts and personal stories. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS:

www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2017/03/08/amid-a-wave-of-church-hurt-one-boston-pastor-tries-to-repair-christians-relationship-with-god/?outputType=amp

https://reachrightstudios.com/church-statistics

https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Children don't ask to come into the world. No one who has consensual sex is oblivious to how babies are made yet the statistic for single motherhood continue to climb up, especially in the Black community. MGTOW, Red Pill & SYSBM are acronyms for a group of men with mentalities that are anti-feminist, misogynistic, and mostly an online community advocating for men to separate themselves from women and from a society which they believe has been destroyed by feminism. To top it off, Senetor Tom Cotton of Arkansas stated that he wants to increase child support payments to the custodial parent. This led to a lot of men on Twitter (mostly Black) complaining about it being unfair. Let's discuss why this is such a problematic issue. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Other Links: 

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=SYSBM&=true

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_Going_Their_Own_Way

https://www.amiethedatingcoach.com/five-reasons-most-relationships-end-in-less-than-5-months/

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/vasectomy/how-do-i-get-vasectomy

https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

In a survey on love and finances conducted by Money and SurveyMonkey, a whopping 78% of respondents said they think men should pay for the first date. And, perhaps surprisingly, 85% of men were even more likely than women (at 72%) to think that men should foot the bill as well. Even after the first date, men tend to pick up the majority of expenses and report feeling guilty taking money from women. Should this be the normal dating etiquette??

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Who should pay for dates: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2020/02/12/who-should-pay-for-dates-how-chivalry-contributes-to-the-gender-pay-gap/?sh=4728c9bb3fa3

Etiquettes on paying for dates: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/money-diaries-date-paid-for-dinner

Charming your date: https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-dating/guy-always-pay/

Financial dating etiquette: https://www.moneycrashers.com/dating-etiquette-rules-women/

https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health

Guest #1 Details: Jesse (aka Marquis Music Artist)

About: Singer/Rap Artist with music on various platforms

Social media: @jesseoldellimusic

Link: www.linktr.ee/jesseoldellimusic

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

According to WHO: Female genital mutilation (FGM) involves the partial or total removal of external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. The practice has no health benefits for girls and women; FGM can cause severe bleeding and problems urinating, and later cysts, infections, as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths. Even though male circumcision is considered by many as a form of genital mutilation, it cannot be evenly compared to FGM due to the heavier negative adverse events associated with FGM. The worst forms of female genital cutting are unquestionably worse than the usual form of Western male circumcision, but the worst forms of male circumcision are also far worse than the lesser forms of female cutting so its a long standing argument we won’t touch on today. Let's break down the history and facts on FGM and why its obviously problematic. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

The realities of FGM- Personal Story: https://www.mcgilldaily.com/2011/10/the-reality-of-fgm/

WHO fact sheet for FGM: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation

UNICEF statistics data: https://data.unicef.org/topic/child-protection/female-genital-mutilation/

Circumcision: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/05/male-circumcision-vs-female-circumcision/392732/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Feeling masculine or manly is part of a majority of men’s identities in 2018: When asked how masculine or “manly” they generally feel, 83 percent of men said they felt “very” or “somewhat” masculine. But many fewer, 53 percent, said it was very or somewhat important that others see them that way. A majority of men, 64 percent, said their father or a father figure was a source of their ideas about what it means to be a good man. Toxic masculinity vs Masculinity: Masculinity- Positively characterized as qualities that are; strong, community building, utilitarian, practical. It also suggests that men who act too emotional or maybe aren’t violent enough or don’t do all of the things that “real men” do, can get their “man card” taken away.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

What it is to be a man: https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/what-do-men-think-it-means-to-be-a-man/amp/

Mental health: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health

What women find attractive: https://www.toolsofmen.com/what-do-women-find-attractive/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Has the word female replaces a bitch? Is it now derogatory like bitch? Why are so many women against it? Why are so many men not getting it? "Female" as a noun erases the subject—making "female" the subject of the sentence. In the most technical sense, it's correct, but by employing this word that is usually an adjective as a noun, you're reducing her whole personhood to the confines of that adjective. It's calling someone "a white" instead of a white person, or "a black" instead of a black person, and so on. "When you refer to a woman as a female, you're ignoring the fact that she is a female human, not an animal." But are we thinking too deep about this word? Let's ask our guest. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just A week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Why you should stop using Females: https://www.buzzfeed.com/tracyclayton/stop-calling-women-females?utm_term=.qyLbLk1kD#.ya1Raq1qx\

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Taiwo

About: Reoccurring guest feature

Social media: @King_taiwo

Guest #2 Details: Amiri

About: New guest

Social media: @theprinceishere

Business: THC infusions - @higherspiritz

There is this mentality that when a man buys you a drink at the club, takes you on a date, or flies you out of state/country on a trip - sex is owed as a form of gratification or an unspoken payment from the woman in heterosexual relationships. Is this a mentality that a lot of men actually share or is this societal standards that's falsified and overhyped? Why do so many women complain about the pressure to have sex when a man pays for anything and why do so many men pressure women for sex or some type of sexual activity once they spend a little of money on a woman?

***Video used in discussion is located on the IG page for relevance: https://www.instagram.com/p/CHQdUBepXP3/

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Elite Daily: https://www.elitedaily.com/p/do-people-care-about-who-pays-on-a-date-heres-what-experts-have-to-say-17015596

Twitter Mentions: www.twitter.com

#ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html

Mental health tip: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Taiwo

About: Reoccurring guest feature

Social media: @King_taiwo

Guest #2 Details: Amiri

About: New guest

Social media: @theprinceishere

Business: THC infusions - @higherspiritz

If all you date are women/men the shade of paperbags and women/men under 160 pounds, with no variety or history or attempt at even trying something outside of that box, can you still call that a simple preference of is it plain discriminatory? Being plus-sized creates an unwelcoming environment that reinforces the idea that bodies that don’t meet certain standards are undesirable. This issue can even extend to people with disabilities and how they may be treated when dating and in other institutions. So when does one cross the line from having a preference over into discrimination against everything and everyone else that does not fit within your box?

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Dating preferences: http://www.jackcentral.org/opinion/pillowtalk-are-your-dating-preferences-discriminatory/article_e86c5be9-5f23-5dfd-af78-21a9ec5c0d7b.html

Time: https://time.com/4512430/colorism-in-america/

Weight discrimination: https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/weight-discrimination-is-rampant-yet-in-most-places-its-still-legal/2019/06/21/f958613e-9394-11e9-b72d-d56510fa753e_story.html

Is weight discrimination illegal? - https://hrdailyadvisor.blr.com/2019/07/08/is-weight-discrimination-illegal/

#ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Urban Dictionary definition of Thot: It can stand for 'That Hoe Over There'; "A thot is usually active on social media especially instagram and Snapchat (and now only fans). On instagram she can be found in pictures of her in the dog filter and is usually half naked. On Snapchat she is most likely posting videos of her obnoxiously lip syncing to rap songs, while playing with her hair, thinking she looks like Kylie Jenner." These type of definitions have been associated with women who have chosen to publicly embrace their sexuality which makes them vulnerable to judgements and maltreatments, meanwhile these same actions exhibited have been welcomed in the hip-hop community amongst male rappers without much pushback. Let's touch on the double standards real quick and dissect some raunchy lyrics. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Derogatory Rap lyrics: https://www.complex.com/music/2013/03/the-50-grossest-rap-lyrics/king-gordy-mr-187

Psychology today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/catching-homelessness/201806/prostitution-exploitation-not-work?amp

Mental health: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health

#ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Acting White is one of the most negative accusations one Black adolescent can hurl at another. Embedded in ethnic/racial identity (ERI), acting White has nothing to do with wanting to be White and everything to do with what does it mean to be Black. This unknowingly is labeling Black vernacular as ghetto, unrefined and improper while labeling proper and clear English as cleaner, good and more acceptable. In popular culture, it is largely misunderstood, and thought of as "bad English," "ebonics" (originally coined in 1973 by someone with good intentions, from "ebony" and "phonics," but now starting to become a slur), "ghetto talk" (definitely a slur), and the "blaccent”. It's time to break the stereotype that sounding proper or speaking clearly is sounding "White."

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

What is AAVE: https://www.languagejones.com/blog-1/2014/6/8/what-is-aave

Sounding White: https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-12228-7_26

Code-switching: https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/04/13/177126294/five-reasons-why-people-code-switch

Mental health tip: https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]