I Got Problems!

Have you ever felt you needed to date older because younger relationships were too immature?? Have you been given weird stares for not dating your age and treated differently? and why is it MORE okay when an older man is dating a younger partner than the other way around? According to statistics, the average age difference between partners has been between two and six years for quite some time. But the latest trends indicate that men and women are now choosing to embark on relationships with partners that are 15 to 25 years older or younger. Marriage records show that women are marrying men who are older than they are by about 3 years and its time to discuss what's "normal" and what isn't and why people tend to swing one way than the other. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs. therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Age Gap in Relationships: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.gq.com/story/age-gap-relationships/amp

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Will and Jada sat down this week to break down "entanglements" in their marriage and the dating triangle that has now become public. Coincidentally Doyin and I had been discussing why dating someone a friend dated was such a taboo. Since when do we have claims on another persons decisions simply because we dated them? Does loyalty go as far as friends respecting that Exes are OFF LIMITS!? Should that Ex you dated be canceled for the entire friendship group simply because one person dated them? Find out where we both stand because its on opposite ends. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Dating your friends: https://www.essence.com/love/when-okay-date-friends-ex/#42440

Dating your friend’s Ex: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a7093/dating-friends-ex/

Data on dating: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/03/21/its-not-just-you-new-data-shows-more-than-half-young-people-america-dont-have-romantic-partner/

Bustle article:https://www.bustle.com/p/the-most-popular-ways-people-are-meeting-their-significant-others-in-2018-8075828

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Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

On July 4, 1776, the 13 colonies claimed their independence from England, an event which eventually led to the formation of the United States. Since the 19th century, abolitionists, suffragists and civil rights activists have seized the Fourth of July as an occasion to protest injustices sustained by those omitted from the founding fathers’ vision. In the 20th century, the civil rights movement and Vietnam war brought to light legacies of slavery, imperialism and sexism that continue to challenge the narrative of ‘life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness’. 

Today, the potency of Black Lives Matter has established civil disobedience as an unwavering American tradition. 

Resources:

Reconsidering celebrating July 4th?  https://www.wbur.org/artery/2019/07/03/black-american-fourth-of-july

A history of July 4th Protests: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/gallery/2020/jul/03/july-4th-protests-history-in-pictures

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs. therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman

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Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Black Wall Street was an affluent black-owned neighborhood in Tulsa, OK, where Black people residing there were considered wealthy even in today's economy, and although there were two airports, 6 families owned their own airplanes. The Tulsa Race Massacre that happened on Black Wall Street was an historical event where a wave of racial violence destroyed that flourishing and affluent African-American community, because they were seen as a threat to white-dominated American capitalism. This episode touches on the specifics of this history in honor of Juneteenth and the BLM movement. 

Resources:

***A Program called “Tulsa Remote” is paying remote worked 10k to to relocate during this pandemic; A program called “Savannah Economic Development Authority” provides 2k in relocation to tech workers who move there.

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

**BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

History of Black WallStreet: https://daily.jstor.org/the-devastation-of-black-wall-street/

The Story of what happened: https://officialblackwallstreet.com/black-wall-street-story/

Quick History of Seneca Village: https://www.citymetric.com/skylines/new-york-destroyed-village-full-african-american-landowners-create-central-park-893

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Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

There are stereotypes that black children born in a one parent household or to unmarried parents must be fatherless and the reality is having unmarried parents does not make a child fatherless. It is unfair to stigmatize black men as being the only men having challenges as fathers and to assume most black fathers get placed on child support for being less than supporting. Statistics show that close to 70% of all births to black mothers are out of wedlock, giving rise to the common stereotype that portrays black fathers as being largely absent from their families. Yet while black fathers are less likely to marry their child's mother, many continue to parent through cohabitation and visitation, providing caretaking, financial, and other forms support. 

Resources:

The best kept secret: single black fathers, book written by Roberta L. Coles

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.blackenterprise.com/still-the-most-ignored-demographic-single-black-fathers/amp/

Myths about Black fathers: www.fatherhood.gov

Positive impacts of African American Fathers: https://www.ssa.uchicago.edu/ssa_magazine/understanding-positive-impacts-african-american-fathers

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs & therapyforblackgirls.com

Topicals skincare brand is teaming up with Therapy For Black Girls to offer free memberships to their virtual group therapy community. https://mytopicals.com/pages/therapy-for-black-girls

****BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. 

Guest Details: Bolade of "Bolade's rant"

About: Bolade is a father, host of Bolade's rant show, and also an event Emcee

Social media: @boladeolaojo on FACEBOOK, IG, YouTube, & Twitter

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Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Some experts say communicating online before meeting IRL (that's In Real Life) can actually foster strong relationships by helping those with similar interests come together over great distances. Potential lovers overlook superficial turnoffs, and people open up to each other faster and more deeply. The Web has only made it easier to date online and we will break down the pros, cons and stats associated with dating blindly and dating online, and most times, both of these go hand in hand. IS dating online more problematic or preferred???

Resources:

Is love blind? Based on a breakdown of the show : http://www.bu.edu/articles/2020/is-love-blind/

Facts about online dating: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-about-americans-and-online-dating/

Social Media Dating: https://www.cnn.com/2013/02/14/tech/social-media/online-love/index.html

Dating Apps: Black people meet, Christian Mingle, Tinder, Hinged, Bumble, Grindr

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp; IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US); Employee assistance programs; therapyforblackgirls.com

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Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems

Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Why is skin bleaching so popular amongst minorities? Why has Colorism or Shadeism dug deep into the world's view on beauty all stemming from Eurocentric beauty standards? Colorism is a huge disadvantage for darker-skinned people while it offers privilege to those with lighter skin. Research has linked colorism to lower incomes, lower marriage rates, longer prison terms, and fewer job prospects for darker-skinned people. This episode aims to increase your awareness of colorism by learning about the practice and its historical roots, the celebrities who’ve experienced it and how changing beauty standards might help us fight the discrimination being experienced.

Theres an Old Rhyme on skin colors/shades:

“If you’re black, stay back;

If you’re brown, stick around;

If you’re yellow, you’re mellow;

If you’re white, you’re all right.”

Resources:

Conversation on skin bleaching syndrome: https://theconversation.com/black-americas-bleaching-syndrome-82200

Root Causes of Colorism: https://www.thoughtco.com/what-is-colorism-2834952

Exploring Colorism and bleaching: https://www.thoughtco.com/exploring-colorism-and-skin-color-issues-2834979

Understanding your Race and privilege; https://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources-and-podcasts/diversity/social-justice/understanding-race-and-privilege

Therapy: PCP, IG/TW: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US)

Employee assistance programs. therapyforblackgirls.com

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Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems

Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Have you ever had someone touch your hair without your permission? Ever had someone joke about how messy or rough your natural curls are? Have you been asked to shave, trim or remove a hairstyle because it was seen as unprofessional, messy, or unkept? You are not alone.  Recently California and New York become the first states to ban discrimination on natural hair that disproportionately affects people of color; especially black people. This includes bans on certain styles, such as Afros, braids, twists, cornrows and locs. Join us as we dig deep into the many reasons why this law was needed in the first place and how we feel about the weaponizing of our natural hair. 

Resources:

The hair industry Black Women built: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.essence.com/amp/news/money-career/business-black-beauty/

Being African and having Natural Hair: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-33525254

The cost of maintaining Natural Hair: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffpost.com/entry/costs-natural-black-hair_l_5e441e19c5b6d0ea3811b813/amp

USA TODAY facts: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2019/10/14/black-hair-laws-passed-stop-natural-hair-discrimination-across-us/3850402002/

Natural Hair in Corporate America: https://www.byrdie.com/natural-hair-in-corporate-america

Natural Hair in the workplace: https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/09/19/more-states-are-trying-protect-black-employees-who-want-wear-natural-hairstyles-work/

Therapy: Primary Care, Betterhelp.com, Employee assistance programs, therapyforblackgirls.com

Sandra's Natural Hair Platform: IG: @Zolahairr and Youtube: https://linktr.ee/ZolaHair

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Guest Details: Habib

About: Doyin's Husband 

Social media: @suited_Gq

Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Women have been hyper-sexualized as early as the 1400s and Black women have been overly sexualized dating backwards to slavery. Why is this? Why are women seen as properties and not individuals? Why are Black women and other minorities seen as less "womanly" and more objectified than other races. Why do harassed, assaulted and raped women find it difficult to come forward and report these cases when hyper-sexualized in such a traumatic way? Join us this episode as we get deep into the facts and bring you up to date with the current DMV-rape Twitter page scandal Feat. Vanessa [Founder of Wribrand]. 

Resources: Educate yourself on the statistics & the matter

Info on sexual violence on women: https://now.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/Black-Women-and-Sexual-Violence-6.pdf

How the system has failed black women: https://www.aclu.org/blog/racial-justice/race-and-criminal-justice/legal-system-has-failed-black-girls-women-and-non

Article on poverty and inequality: https://www.law.georgetown.edu/poverty-inequality-center/wp-content/uploads/sites/14/2017/08/girlhood-interrupted.pdf

Stats on hypersexdualized Black women: https://psmag.com/social-justice/black-women-are-more-likely-to-be-objectified-and-dehumanized

Sexual assault statistics: Sexual Assault Statistics | National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)

Donate & support organizations that are bringing awareness to the matter: Blackwomensblueprint.org, rights4girls.org, sisterlove.org 

Therapy: Your primary care physician (PCP), betterhelp.com [@betterhelp on Twitter], Employee Assistance Programs 

Guest Details:

About: Vanessa .M is the founder of Wribrand and is in the business of elevating your brand [career, consulting, and academics].

Social media: [IG] @wribrand

Website: www.wribrand.com

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Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler](show host).

Second Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

A Fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. Fetishes are not as publicly discussed as other forms of sexual arousals and tend to be frowned upon depending on what kind they are or labeled as “weird.” Listen as we break down the different kinds of fetishes in a fun and laughable way to educate and break down the stigma. Get comfortable for this episode of IGP and let’s get kinky!

Resources:

46 sexual fetishes you may have never heard of: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sexual-fetish_n_4144418

Most common kinks people have: The Most Common Kinks (Sexual Fantasies/Fetishes Everyone Has)

Metro quiz to Identifying if you have a fetish: Sex quiz: Can we tell what fetish you're secretly into? | Metro News

Getting help for a problematic fetish: What Is a Sexual Fetish? When Are Fetishes a Problem?

Staying safe with your BDSM fetish: https://m.bpt.me/event/3730582

Therapy: PCP scheduled therapy, Online therapy (7 day free trial): https://www.betterhelp.com and Advocacy: https://www.advocate.com/sexy-beast/2017/4/21/22-terrifying-sexual-fantasies-must-be-talked-about#media-gallery-media-3

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Sandra's Featured Only Fans "Feet Fetish" page: https://onlyfans.com/footanonymous

Production notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler](show host).

Second Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]