I Got Problems!

You’re in a relationship, situationship or entanglement. Suddenly, and maybe without any warning at all, your partner seems to have disappeared. No calls, no text messages, no connection made on social media, no responses to any of your messages. Odds are, your partner hasn’t unexpectedly left town because of a family emergency, and isn’t lying dead in a ditch somewhere but, rather, has simply ended the relationship without bothering to explain or even let you know. You’ve been ghosted. 

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

When you’re not legally bound to another person, you have the freedom to learn, grow, and explore, without any of the guilt associated with taking time for self-care. And the payoff there is that if you do decide you'd like to pair off with someone, you know exactly who you are and what you want. The reality is, 110.6 million Americans ages 18 or older (or 45.2 percent) are single, according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau—a number that’s been rising since 2015. And people are staying single longer than ever before; in 2018, the highest median ages ever for a first marriage were reported: 30 years for men and 28 years for women. So why does everything somehow revolve around finding "the one?" and why does it seem like people are obsessive over finding love. Why isn't being single enough? 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS: 

https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a27790346/benefits-of-being-single/

https://inspiringtips.com/reasons-to-enjoy-being-single-in-your-20s/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them. The study of victimology seeks to mitigate the prejudice against victims, and the perception that victims are in any way responsible for the actions of offenders. What we attempt to do, when victim blaming, is find a cause or a blame for the event happening which then makes the event somewhat controllable or avoidable and therefore enables us to protect ourselves from it. It suggests that if we think of a reason as to why a rape has been experienced by someone else, we could simply not do that one thing that caused it and we will be safe. The show 'Bridgerton' will also be discussed because a rape scene no one noticed was actually aired. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_blaming

https://www.starsdorset.org/blog/why-do-we-victim-blame

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/recognizing-the-distinction-between-blame-and-responsibility.html

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

According to PubMed: It is estimated that autism spectrum disorders (ASD) affect 1 in 500 live births per year. However, due to varying techniques for diagnosis and treatment, the disability remains the subject of debate. African Americans tend to suffer disproportionate rates of disability and disease when compared to other racial and ethnic groups due to access to preventative and curative care. As a result, African American children may require longer and more intensive intervention.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS:

http://www.autisminblack.com

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/disabilityandhealth/materials/infographic-disabilities-ethnicity-race.html

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4919210/

https://www.aaihs.org/disability-whats-black-people-got-to-do-with-it-angel-love-miles/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21707353/

https://www.openaccessgovernment.org/black-autism/91621/

http://dhss.alaska.gov/dph/wcfh/Pages/autism/spectrum.aspx

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Antonio Meyers 

About: Autistic child prodigy, brilliant adult, and a talented Black man. 

Social media: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4 (TonioTimeDaily podcast)

https://www.instagram.com/highlypraiseworthygracemayor/ (Instagram page)

Diaspora conflicts usually derive from perceived insults or disrespect from someone from a different ethnic group or nationality towards another group of African descendants from a differing ethnic or national background. Most conflicts are inflamed due to mass generalizations and stereotypes of a negative context applied to varying groups. These conflicts can range from feelings of cultural superiority, feelings of disunity or abandonment, and or feelings of disrespect. Many African Diaspora Conflicts derive from misunderstandings due to cultural perceptions and usage of language. So why are Africans and African Americans still fighting this invisible war? Our enemy is not each other; our enemy is always white supremacy, capitalism, colonialism, and imperialism.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER SOURCES

https://wearyourvoicemag.com/colonialism-diaspora-wars/

https://www.okayafrica.com/amp/the-diaspora-wars-of-shes-gotta-have-it-2638530478

Black Ethnics: Race, Immigration, and the Pursuit of the American Dream.

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/good-mental-health

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Arneka Berkeley

About: Owner of various hair and hair product businesses. 

Social media: @afrocentricity_92

When you think about the science behind why it matters if a guy was taller than you or not, there are likely evolutionary reasons women want to be shorter. For the survival of the species, men should be the hunters and women the gatherers. But, it isn’t just about bringing home dinner, it is about protecting their family. For the same evolutionary reason, men tend to like women shorter than them. Wanting to be the stronger sex because that is the way that the genders were designed, men usually seek out shorter women because they have a height advantage over them. It makes them feel more powerful. So does height matter? Only you can answer that question for yourself. If you love someone for who they are on the inside, it makes no difference how tall or short they are.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Black Owned Self Defense Products: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/mind-the-gap-does-height-really-matter-when-youre-dating_uk_5c6ab7c1e4b01757c36de6ea/

https://www.verywellfit.com/average-height-for-a-man-statistics-2632137

https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/relationships/does-height-really-matter-in-a-relationship

https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/everyday-mental-health-tips

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

When you meet someone, they usually dont show their true colors for another 2-3 months because all the facade fades after 6-8 dates and you get to see who you might be spending the rest of your time with and if it is worth it. Whether you’re dating someone, adopting a dog or taking a new job, it takes three months to figure out what you’ve gotten yourself into. But do you have to wait that long to know for sure very single time?  According to a CNN article: The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. We think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are but you might not feel the same. Let's break it down. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.sarahgrat.com/3-month-rule/

https://socialunderground.com/2016/11/3-month-rule-relationships/

http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/03/tf.three.month.dating.rule/index.html

138920-this-is-how-many-one-night-stands-turn-into-relationships

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19545154/how-to-turn-a-one-night-stand-into-a-relationship/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

From Jay-Z's album 4:44, the title of the episode was borrowed to shed light on IGP for discussions on why and how the Black community continues to create division amongst ourselves in various ways. From the FBI's Universal Crime Report in 2014; 90% of Black people killed were killed by other Black people. Black women are killed every 19 hours by a man. Black girls are being deprived of their innocence due to the over-sexualization of their existence. During the slave-era in the U.S., Black women were referred to as Jezebels. The term was used to suggest that Black women were innately promiscuous and sexually predatory. It was conceived that Black women had an insatiable appetite for sex, which slave owners used as a justification for rape. We will touch on a few current events as examples of the division created that further separate Black people from succeeding together. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net

OTHER LINKS:

https://abcnews.go.com/amp/US/black-black-crime-loaded-controversial-phrase-heard-amid/story?id=72051613

https://marquettewire.org/4041391/featured/moses-oversexualization-of-black-girls-women-must-stop/

https://archive.thinkprogress.org/what-happened-when-scientists-put-african-americans-on-an-african-diet-and-africans-on-an-american-5b5c5aec6e1e/

https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/everyday-mental-health-tips

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Even if you don’t have children, the newness of the relationship wears off after 3 or 4 years together. Typically, this is when sex becomes more routine. “Intimacy breaks down at this stage because couples don’t talk about their sex life,” According to a John Hopkins Article: “Couples aren’t as intentional about connecting with each other as they were earlier in the relationship." Besides the age of a relationship, other factors can lead to less intimacy, too. Career and family pressures can take up your time and kill your energy. Relational resentments can develop over time as well. If you find yourself avoiding sex, you’re not alone: Approximately 1 in 10 women experiences a decrease in her sex drive at some point in her life. Let's break down some ways to please your partner whether you are having an adventurous sex life or a mildly boring one.

Guest details:

Charity Barksdale

CEO of Lavish Seductions L.L.C

IG:  lavish_seductions

http://www.LavishSeductions.com

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/keep-the-spark-alive-in-your-marriage

https://www.becausehealth.com/blog/7-ways-to-please-your-partner-lockdown

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sex-and-pleasure/sex-toys

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Nearly 1 in 5 women have experienced completed or attempted rape during her lifetime. 1 in 3 female rape victims experienced it for the first time between 11-17 years old. 1 in 8 female rape victims reported that it occurred before age 10. Nearly 1 in 38 men have experienced completed or attempted rape during his lifetime. About 1 in 4 male rape victims experienced it for the first time between 11-17 years old. About 1 in 4 male rape victims reported that it occurred before age 10. EX. Stealthing, Urban Dictionary describes it as "When a man removes condom during sex without his partners knowledge or consent. Legally considered a form of rape or sexual assault in some places. Considered a shitty thing to do everywhere else."

**Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

OTHER LINKS:

https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/rape/types-of-rape-the-different-forms-of-rape

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Types_of_rape

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_rape

https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline

https://www.cdc.gov/injury/features/sexual-violence/index.html

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Stealthing

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Guest #1 Details: Taiwo Ajayi 

About: Re-occurring Guest 

Social media: @king_taiwo