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Black women are the most imitated yet the most disrespected (e.g. white women’s surgical enhancements) and voluptuous features. Urban Dictionary defines Blackfishing as being commonly perpetrated by females of European descent (white) which involves artificial tanning (spray tanning and tanning booths) and using makeup to manipulate facial features in order to appear to have some type of Black African ancestry. The general point of blackfishing is for a female of European descent to appear of African, Arab, or Hispanic ancestry. Some consider it to be equivalent to modern day “black face” because it capitalizes off the looks of historically oppressed groups of people by people who come from more privileged backgrounds.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

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Black-fishing: https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings

Dear white women: https://www.yesmagazine.org/opinion/2018/11/21/dear-white-women-try-on-our-struggle-instead-of-our-looks/

CNN: https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2020/09/03/us/jessica-krug-gwu-black-trnd/index.html

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Why do female-male sexual interactions produce less sexual satisfaction and orgasms? Do women really do it better because we know how to please our bodies more? Why is the male orgasm reported as satisfactory more often than female orgasms and does this mean way too many men out there are more focused on having an orgasm more than pleasing the woman? Should we all become lesbians and give up on bad heterosexual sex? For women, the rates of orgasm recorded in various studies gives the following results: Just intercourse: 50 percent of the women reported orgasms; Hand massage and intercourse: 71 percent; Hand massage, cunnilingus, and intercourse: 86 percent. Let's break this down - this will be a harsh conversation so brace yourself. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201602/why-so-many-women-don-t-have-orgasms

Sex facts: https://www.bustle.com/articles/175577-11-charts-graphs-that-show-the-female-orgasm-by-the-numbers

Make her Cum, Finally!: https://www.everydayhealth.com/mens-health/female-orgasm-secrets.aspx

Managing your health during during COVID-19: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-00933-5

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Jordan Peele and Donald Glover are two men who have made strides in the entertainment industry showcasing Black experiences and allowing for audiences to view Black people in a different light than what we typically see in the media, yet they faced backlash from the Black community because they are married to white women....why do you think that is? Dating is notoriously difficult for Black women; in 2014, an OkCupid study found that Black women and Asian men get the least amount of matches, compared to other demographics. Research reveals that the more educated Black women are, the less we’re getting married. Black women with a college degree who are between the ages of 35-45, are 15% less likely to get married than White women. Is it problematic that there are Black people getting married to White people but still profiting from the Black community without repping it fully behind closed doors? Should more black women date more Interracially?? 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Marriage in America: https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/

Interracial dating: https://sorellamag.org/why-do-black-women-get-so-much-flak-for-interracial-dating/

Rise of interracial marriage: https://amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/feb/21/whats-behind-the-rise-of-interracial-marriage-in-the-us

Mental health tip: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-00933-5

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Why is it so hard for men to accept equality in the bedroom when it comes to sharing partners and why do women tend to have the shorter end of the stick when threesomes/trains come into play while the man gets pleasured by various women and its highly fetishized. Is it homophobia or just more heterosexual norms in play? if you are a heterosexual girl or young woman, you are damned if you don’t and damned if you do. If you refrain from any expression of sexiness, you may be written off as irrelevant and unfeminine. But if you follow the guidelines, you run the risk of being judged, shamed and policed. If you have orgies and threesomes and are in-tune with your sexuality, you are seen as a hoe, too many bodies or even dirty and not worthy of marriage. But a man can have various sexual partners or participate in a train, and still get the best pick to bring home to mom. Is it a form of slut shaming or just terrible double standards? 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Cosmopolitan: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sexopedia/a8244294/threesome-sex-definition/

The difference between a 3-some, an orgy and a train: https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-orange-county/personal-space/threesome-orgy-sex-train-definition

Slut-shaming: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-truth-about-slut-shaming_b_7054162

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About: Taiwo aka Tai

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Website: https://www.instagram.com/king_taiwo/

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Why do Black women have to go above and beyond to prove our victimization when the perpetrator is a male or Black male specifically? Why is it treated as a joke like our lives don't matter?? About 22% of Black women in the United States have experienced rape and 40% will experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime. Black women are killed at a higher rate than any other group of women. If you consider the fact that Black women date & marry mostly within their race, you can gather that a vast majority of these acts are carried out by Black men. 

Probematic? Let's break it down!

Winner of 20th episode giveaway: IG: @stayslepzzz

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Nature articles: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-00933-5

ACLU stats: http://aclu.org

Funders for Justice: www.fundersforjustice.com

Institute on Domestic Violence in the African American Community: http://idvaac.org

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Gaslighting is a manipulative technique used in order for one person to make the other question their perception of reality, and there are a variety that can used; it’s not limited to repetitive denial. It tends to happen gradually in a relationship between people, what starts off as little harmless discrepancies and indiscretions at first can quickly snowball into an abusive pattern that can lead the victim to feel anxious, isolated, unheard, and depressed.

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Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Emotional abuse: https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/gaslighting-definition-techniques-and-being-gaslighted

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Production Notes:

Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

Edited by Sandra [IG: coitraveler]

Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

Research has shown marijuana has its benefits and negatives and it causes less harm than liquor, yet, it is still criminalized in the country while liquor is legally sold on every corner. Problematic? Indeed! Marijuana is the most commonly used psychotropic drug in the United States, after alcohol and more than 11.8 million young adults reported marijuana use in the past year. Its use is more prevalent among men than women.  About MJ: Indica, which originates from the Hindu Kush mountains of India, is believed to have a relaxing effect on the user. Sativa has a more energizing effect, while hybrid is a combination of the two. Lets break down some details about this drug, why it isn't legalized and our experiences with it (crazy story time at the end). 

*** If addicted to any drug, including MJ, please get help with any of the links below or call recovery hotline: 855.845.2699 ***

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours.  https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Drug Stats: https://drugabusestatistics.org/marijuana-incarceration/

Drug abuse: https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/what-scope-marijuana-use-in-united-states

Types of Marijuana: https://www.healthline.com/health/beginners-guide-to-marijuana-strains#1

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

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Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]

**Warning** The use of the "N-word" will be used for educational purposes during this episode so please listen with caution.

The word "n*gger" carries with it much of the hatred and repulsion directed toward Africans and African Americans. Historically, n*gger defined, limited, and mocked African Americans. It was a term of exclusion, a verbal justification for discrimination. Whether used as a noun, verb, or adjective, it reinforced the stereotype of the lazy, stupid, dirty, worthless parasite. “N*gga” is a word that is used 500,000 times a day on Twitter while “bro” and “dude” — two of the terms with which the n-word is synonymous to many people younger than 35 — are used 300,000 and 200,000 times, respectively which means not only Black people use this term, which brings up the concern if anyone should be using it at all.

A few definitions of the use of "N*gger*:

N*ggerish, adj. Acting in an indolent and irresponsible manner.

N*ggerlover, n. Derogatory term aimed at whites lacking in the necessary loathing of blacks.

N*gger rich, adj, Deeply in debt but ostentatious.

N*gger stick, n. police officer's baton.

N*gger tip, n. leaving a small tip or no tip in a restaurant.

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours. - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Huffington post: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/nigger-vs-nigga_b_10602798

Jim Crow: https://www.ferris.edu/HTMLS/news/jimcrow/caricature/homepage.htm

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According to Quora.com: When slavery was abolished in the US, it somehow coincidentally (it was not a coincidence) happened that all the positions taken by freed black people somehow became tipped positions. This allowed white people in the South to basically not pay black people for their work while still pretending it was because the service was not up to par. Tipped positions are traditionally black position: waiter, bell-boy, porter, hotel maid. These people are paid extremely low base salaries and the rest of their pay is at the whim of the customer. And bringing Jim Crow into the modern day, it is still true that the lowest tips go to black and female workers in these positions. 

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com

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Forbes:  https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/08/15/why-americas-tipping-culture-is-actually-bad-for-restaurants/#7eb20b9e13d1

Rethinking tipping:  is-it-time-to-rethink-the-rules-of-tipping-etiquette

USA Today: https://www.usatoday.com/story/travel/advice/2020/02/14/tipping-while-traveling-why-gratuities-may-going-out-style/4748441002//

Hate Tipping? Check this out: https://www.businessinsider.com/hate-tipping-here-are-12-countries-where-you-dont-have-to-2014-4

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Being an unmarried 30+ year old tends to be frowned upon by the society and there’s no real explanatory reason why but it causes a lot of young adults to feel rushed and sometimes make the wrong decision due to pressure. A lot of people are waiting to marry because they can’t afford it (or feel like they can’t afford it) due to wage stagnation. People now need more work experience to make the same wages, so they delay tying the knot. 

Also, every 13 seconds, there is one divorce in America. 

That equates to 277 divorces per hour, 6,646 divorces per day, 46,523 divorces per week, and 2,419,196 divorces per year. That means: There are 9 divorces in the time it takes for a couple to recite their wedding vows (2 minutes). 1,385 divorces happen during the average wedding reception (5 hours). There are 19,353,568 divorces over the course of an average first marriage that ends in divorce (8 years). Over a 40 year period, 67 percent of first marriages terminate. So why are you rushing us ??!

Resources:

How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter

Therapy: PCP, IG: @Betterhelp, IG: @HelpingMindsOnline (AUS and US), Employee assistance programs. therapyforblackgirls.com

BetterHelp is free for 1 month now. Once u sign up you will be linked with someone within 24 hours - https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/

Divorce statistics: https://www.mckinleyirvin.com/family-law-blog/2012/october/32-shocking-divorce-statistics/

American Rate of Divorce: https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

Married by 30: https://blog.ons.gov.uk/2019/04/01/married-by-30-youre-now-in-the-minority/

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201606/these-are-the-best-and-worst-ages-get-married

Learn more about FGM or female genital mutilation: https://www.endfgm.eu/female-genital-mutilation/what-is-fgm/

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Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast

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Co-Host: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay ]