Kari and Brook Shelley talk about mommy/cat blogging/podcasting, going home again, travelling on other people’s dime, accents, sci fi lit by women, revisiting old hobbies, and whole other episodes.

Transistor.fm

Brook and Kari and 1000 of their closest internet friends went to this amazing art and technology conference

A couple NSFW slides in here. Why are you listening to this podcast at work anyway?

John Oliver brings the US up to date with the recent Canadian election. Features a stair-falling trick by our new illustrious leader.

Last episode, wherein Hilary posed a question for Brook.

Author of “Mermaid in Chelsea Creek” and more

Kari’s sci fi recommendation

Brook’s sci fi recommendation.

Brook’s book that she is in. Buy! Read!

Hilary (@theOtherHilary) is back to chat with Kari about hating yourself-in-other-people, respectful conversation, when and how we indulge ourselves, the statute of limitations on being mean, safe places for venting, and self-regulation.

Transistor.fm

Hilary’s previous appearance on IGWGUN, about civic politics.

Kari talks self-care.

Kari and her guest Aditi talk about international travel, local delicacies, Airbnb, Jackie Chan’s packing strategies, friend trips, community sourced trip planning, and neck pillows.

Kari’s old parenting podcast

This is the walking trip Aditi and Chris took across Spain.

Martin Sheen / Emilio Estevez movie about El Camino de Santiago

Local specialties at international franchises

Best way to stay.

A little bit of Canada in London.

Kind of defunct website for community sourced sightseeing routes

Jackie Chan says “pack two.” Aditi suggests three maybe.

Travel bras

Dr. Bronner’s soap

Voodoo Doughnut - The Magic is in the Hole!

Kari and Liz James discuss adult ADHD: definitions, advantages, getting diagnosed, strategies for thriving with it, fantastic metaphors, treatments, marrying well, accidental vacations, and black diamond people.

ADHD Is Different for Women — The Atlantic

Liz’s blog

Kari’s guest is Rebekah Bennetch and they discuss the horrors of public speaking, the formula for creating a great speech, how to practice and prepare, vocal delivery techniques, and whether you should drink before you do a speech.

New show theme music! Uncertain Future by Sun Channel Music

Kari at speech night when she was 9. Awwww. Nice shirt.

Sadly, the poem I recited, “My Cat Likes Milk,” is lost to the sands of time and not findable on Google.

Intro to the Three Rhetorical Appeals - YouTube

Taylor Mali Totally like whatever, you know - YouTube

Like, uptalking maybe?

Presentation Zen: Learning from Bill Gates & Steve Jobs

VendAsta’s Ideas On Tap - Barcamp Saskatoon presented by Kari Halsted - YouTube

Kari doing public speaking!

Rebekah on Unbelievable? That’s not a question. The podcast has a ? in the title. Mine has a hypen and an apostrophe so I am not judging.

Rebekah (@grrrlmeetsworld) on Twitter

grrrl meets world » a poster girl with no poster

Rebekah’s blog

Kari and Megan Cheesbrough talk about advanced parenting: collaborating with minors; de-escallating bad behavior without shame; showing your children you’re on their team; negotiating with teachers; and worrying that your kid’s a sociopath.

Megan’s reaction to the first few chapters: “Wow, this is depressing!”

Milgram experiment - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Teacher to parents: About THAT kid (the one who hits, disrupts and influences YOUR kid) - The Washington Post

“Ready for V. SRS blanket fort family meeting to discuss v. srs family issues. #childishmom #shenanigans”

Jeff Read joins Kari to wonder what midlife really is anyway, and to talk about middle-age parenting issues, getting worse at things, and how passion for what you do maybe helps you avoid the ol’ crisis.

Kari talks about the importance of self-care, how to recognize a personal crisis before it happens, what to do if it does happen, and how she shouldn’t be on your survival team.

On the verge of turning 40, an unhappy Manhattan yuppie is roped into joining his two friends on a cattle drive in the southwest. Billy Crystal, Daniel Stern.

Read this book to understand why we were talking about 42.

Sheesh, this game keeps getting mentioned on podcasts.

Hilary Nelson and Kari discuss being active in your community and its government, sympathy for city counselors, not being an a**hole, and why you should vote even if you haven’t done your homework.

Kari talks about the benefits of speaking out, and also the benefits of shutting up. And about potential future topics for I Guess We’re Grown-Ups Now.

It Gets Better Project

Speaking While Female - NYTimes.com

When a woman speaks in a professional setting, she walks a tightrope. Either she’s barely heard or she’s judged as too aggressive. When a man says virtually the same thing, heads nod in appreciation for his fine idea. As a result, women often decide that saying less is more.

I’m reading so, so much from women of colour on Twitter and my problems are nothing, my complaints infinitesimal in comparison. I am trying to support, to decenter myself in discussions and this is new territory for me to navigate as an opinion(ated) writer. I hate how much I use “I”. It’s always bothered me.

Part two of the conversation with Adam Clark. Should we even bother looking for meaning in our job? Searching for that feeling of Home. Regret. How does a person end up in a corporate job, and is that different from selling out?

I Guess We’re Grown-Ups Now #9: You’ve Just Got to Stop Thinking - Goodstuff FM

This episode’s acknowledgement to someone who inspires me is Sook Yin Lee and her fantastic radio show, Definitely Not The Opera.

Adam’s website, where you can subscribe to the reboot of his podcast The Gently Mad.

The Year of Living Biblically - Goodreads

Garden State (2004) - IMDb

I Guess We’re Grown-Ups Now #1: Scotch and poprocks

The Death of Adulthood in American Culture - NYTimes.com

tl;dr version of this episode, by Kramer and Jerry