I Totally Relate!

We are honored to invite back, friend of the pod, Stephen Nibley. Stephen is a Certified Life Coach and meditation practitioner. He hosts workshops, meditation, and he coaches people one on one. We are really excited to share this conversation with you, Stephen is a well of knowledge and shares it in such a concise and simple manner, we know you are going to get a lot from this episode.

We sat down with Stephen to talk all about emotions. Through out the course of this conversation he helps us answer the questions: What are emotions? Where do they come from? And what are we supposed to do with them? In order to answer these questions we dip our toes into how many emotions there are as well as fascinating neuroscience. Stephen has put together his own theory on emotions by studying neuroscientists Candace Pert and Bruce Lipton. He also references some compelling new discoveries by German New Medicine.

Stephen walks us through the communication process between our brain and our body. He gives us examples of common and detrimental ways that we, as society, react to our emotions. We talk through the key to healing, processing, and understanding our emotions. We spend a good part of this conversation discussing fear, which is your perception of a threat, different forms of fear, and how to resolve and understand our fear.

Stephen gives us 3 important questions to ask when we find ourselves in emotional discomfort, and he also shares five steps on how to process your emotions. Stephen does a phenomenal job simplifying seemingly difficult thoughts and emotions. We know you're going to want to hear more from him, so check out episode 49 from season 2: To change you gotta wanna. Reach out to Stephen through email: [email protected] or call/text him at 801-427-0683.

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We are pleased to introduce you to Aubin Palmer. Aubin is a Certified Life Coach, and she helps women change their thought habits to create the life they desire. Aubin walks us back to when she had attained all the things and titles she thought she wanted: Nurse, wife, Mother, ect. when she realized that even with all these things, she still felt a lack of satisfaction in life. That's when she discovered coaching through podcasts she was listening to, and she was introduced to thought work. She is certified and uses the "Self Coaching Model" from the Life Coach School.

Aubin's niche is working with women who are Working Moms. We discuss the unspoken narratives that being a Mom and being a business owner are mutually exclusive, and to be good at one, means the other suffers. So yeah... we dip into mom-guilt quite a bit. If you've ever experienced that feeling, this episode is for you. Because, what Aubin shows us, is that both parts are an important and inspired part of you. You are a MomBoss. You can be your whole self, and in fact, being your whole self is what will lead to your success.

We walk through several personal examples on how our thoughts dictate our feelings, and our subconscious thoughts can run our life and belief system with out us even being aware. Aubin uses the CTFAR model, which we discuss in detail. Circumstances are neutral, our Thoughts about our circumstances is what creates our Feelings. Our Feelings dictate our Actions, and that leads to the Results we are getting in life. So, in order to create the life we desire, we must bring awareness and curiosity to our thoughts.

If you would like to connect with Aubin and get her free download to help you get your priorities right, follow her on the 'gram. She does one on one coaching, and also offers one free trial session to get you started in the right direction and see if it's a good fit.

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You probably already gathered from the title that this is a conversation meant for mature ears. Yes! We are continuing our conversation about sex and we use anatomically correct language and go into details on how to stimulate the pleasure centers and experience an orgasm. Listen responsibly, folks.

Find yourself a comfy seat and buckle up for an absolutely educational conversation that touches on moments of vulnerability, as well as lots of laughs. We sat down behind the mic's to talk with Bekah, a Masters Graduate candidate for Marriage and Family Therapy with a specialization in orthodox systemic sex therapy. She currently has her own coaching practice and she is trauma informed.

We kick off the conversation by discussing a few important terms, because the language we use is important. We also chat about how Bekah got to this profession and her path in life.

Bekah leads us through historical studies on how boys and girls interact, at what age we have internalized the patriarchy, and who's experience is valued. She shares incredible insight on the inaccurate narratives our cultures and orthodoxy's pass down, and how that impacts our development, including our sexuality.

We discuss in great detail how to talk to your kids about masturbation, specifically. We also dig into the important elements needed for healthy sexuality. Spoiler alert... Boundaries are key! She is impeccably intentional around inner child work in relation to sexuality and healing sexual trauma. She even helps walk us through how to start the conversations with our our children.

This conversation will not disappoint. We are stoked for you to check it out! You can learn more and connect with Bekah on her instagram.

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We are talking about sex! This is your heads up that we use correct anatomical language and talk about specific sexual acts, so, read the room... listen where appropriate or pop in your headphones, babe!

We are sharing our conversation with Tasha Diaz, a Sex Therapist from Covenant Sex Therapy. We are absolutely thrilled to be hosting and sharing this conversation with all of you. Tasha is a licensed marriage and family therapist, she graduated with her masters degree from BYU. She is an approved supervisor in the state of Utah, she works with clients at Covenant Sex Therapy, she has offices through telehealth and Provo Utah. She specializes and has a lot of experience in working with clients who have anxiety and trauma around sexual experiences, as well as sexual addictions. She has also worked with issues surrounding health and eating, body image, and self-esteem, particularly among women. So, Tasha is absolutely the woman that we want to be talking to as we continue to have conversations that help women to step into their own power. We are honored to invite Sex Therapist Tasha Diaz to the pod!

We jump right into the aspects of the shame that is involved in our collective and individual sexuality. We briefly touch on the role that the church plays, in that they groom women to be responsible for others experience, and they glorify the sexual experience of the male. We also discuss the historical overviews, the two extremes we tend to take it to, and the fact that women's sexuality gets lost in all this.

We talk about how to help our future generations develop a more healthy sexuality individually, we talk about context, masturbation, and how the idea of fun and exciting sex.

We know you're going to have important take aways from this conversation, and if you would like to connect with Tasha to grow abundance in your sexual experience, you can reach out to her here.

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We are excited to share our interview with Vanessa with you. Vanessa is a Health Coach and a Dietician, and she helps women heal their relationship with food. After spending some time living in Korea, her curiosity was peaked around food and eating habits, as she was able to identify a big gap in experiencing the two cultures, Korean and American. When she arrived back in America she went to school to become a dietician, and she is currently helping women who feel stuck.

More than just diet, Vanessa helps others work through limiting beliefs and change their mindset that blocks from eating and enjoying nutritious meals. In this conversation we talk about the morality of food. One of the most apparent things we do is label food good or bad, and then make judgements on our meals, our decisions, and our bodies. Vanessa works towards helping others reframe their goals away from weight loss and prioritize energy levels instead. We spend some time in this conversation discussing how much we are fixated on the outward appearance and we miss the opportunity to focus on our own experience.

If you would like to connect with Vanessa give her a follow on the 'gram or find her online!

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Welcome back to another episode of I totally relate, this is an interview with Shannon Ricks of Modern Eve. Shannon is an LMFT who focuses on eating disorders and faith transitions.

Ever since she was a young girl, Shannon knew she wanted to be a therapist. So after receiving her degree she gained experience working in a lot of different facilities, including with troubled teens and young adults. She needed more clinical hours after grad school and that’s when she began working at the Center for Change. She fell in love with the clientele and ever since has been helping people with eating disorders and body image work.

In junior high Shannon realized the difference between her experience and her peers. She has found that it builds and instills confidence to not get appearance based compliments, and to not build your worth around your appearance.

Shannon does a fantastic job with helping us understand specific terms and meanings, as well as helping us notice power dynamics at play and power structures. We discuss diet culture and tactics that keep women small within the power structure of the patriarchy, we talk about the messaging in the past that attracted women into the workforce and the messaging that pushed them back into “cute housewives”. We also dig into scarcity mindset and the competition between women.

Not only does Shannon do a fantastic job of helping us understand eating disorders empower structures, she also gives us some powerful tools to help walk us back from body hate to body gratitude. In this conversation we also share grief by talking through the love for our body that we miss out on because we experienced so much body discussed.

Shannon references the book “The beauty Myth” by Margo Maines. If you’d like to hear more from Shannon, follow her @Modern.Eve or contact her at ModernEve.org

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This episode is an interview with Delee Cox, the stylist next door. She has a passion for slow fashion. She helps women with their wardrobe, to dress how they like, to dress for themselves, and to be more conscientious about what they bring into their closets. 

We jump right into definitions and background information. Slow fashion is a mindset shift. It’s about being aware and intentional on where our clothes come from and where they go when we discard them. Delee drops some mind blowing facts on us about fast fashion and the energy we are working with when we consume clothes and products in this way. 

To be more intentional, the best place to start is right where you are. Delee will help you shop your closet. Some of the ways she helps you curate the look you are going for is by identifying what you are currently wearing, what you LIKE to wear, what is your lifestyle, make a need to style pile, and make a shopping list. She talks to us about how shopping with a list makes a big difference, because you know what you are looking for rather than being sold to. 

Your personal style really impacts so many facets of your life. We talk about weight fluctuations, our tendency to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves, our desire to fit in and how we can make our clothes fit us, shopping second hand, as well as shopping with our values. 

Delee knows her stuff. It was so fun and impactful having a conversation with her. If you would like to connect with Delee (we don’t blame you!) you can get in touch with her through her website: thestylistnextdoor.net or check her out on the ‘gram! @thestylistnextdoor_ut

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This is an interview with Pualei, the owner of EdynKei in Pleasant Grove. Pualei is an incredible entrepreneur who runs a clothing boutique, facilitates personal styling appointments, hosts local pop-up shops with "Inspiher", facilitates a local women's networking group called "Elevate", and is an overall supporter of female owned businesses. This woman is busy, and on a mission to make this world a better place and it was honor that she took time with us.

Pualei shares a little bit about the heartbreak and challenges that she faced as she started her own business here in Pleasant Grove, as well as her purpose and where she is headed in this chapter of her life. The day before the grand opening of her boutique, it became apparent to her that her marriage was over. As she watched a part of her life fall into shambles, she was also building her future and creating the foundation for the life that she desired. She shares how she navigated the difficulties of that first year, and how she discovered "thought work".

Her sister in law shared an episode of the podcast "Better than Happy" and Pualei began learning about the neuroplasticity of the brain, and the CTFAR model on how approach challenges in life. Circumstance, Thought, Feeling, Action, and Result helped her to improve her mental health and her relationships, most importantly... the relationship with herself.

We also spend some time on what it means to have confidence, how to lean into your personal strengths, how important it is to do your personal self care, and the power of feeling beautiful. Pualei shares monday magic each week on her instagram, and all the info you need to be a part of the events she is hosting.

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This episode is an interview with the Thrifting Queen, Angelique of lique'd. We kick it off by sharing how we met and the significance of the item that exchanged hands between Angelique and Carissa.

Angelique is an entrepreneur, she upcycles clothing, makes sick drips, teaches others how to do the process, and hosts incredible GNO events on her sick bus.

She takes us back to where her story really gets complicated and nuanced. As a young, married, 20 year old Mormon girl she felt like she was doing what she was "supposed" to be doing according her upbringing and religion. Yet, she was feeling worthless, lost, and suffering from a chronic pain that was misdiagnosed. She began to numb with alcohol, as she really wrestled with her worth as a woman, mother, and human being. She was leading a life for other people, and once she received the correct diagnosis, she started healing in one way and feeding addiction in another.

This conversation touches on addiction, religion, faith transitions, recovery, healing, and living a life as one's authentic self. Angelique is very inspirational and encouraging in this conversation, and we know you're going to love her just as much as we do. If you are interested in hearing more from Angelique about living in alignment, sobriety, and authenticity, you can find her at @iconically_angelique

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Season three has been all about exploring "Who is She?" meaning you! We have poured time into conversations discussing self discovery, we have been intentional with the activities and layout of our planner all leading you closer to yourself. This episode fits snug with this theme. We spent some time behind the mics with Teen Mental Health Coach Missy Allred.

Missy spends time one on one with teens who are struggling with anxiety and depression. She works with parents to help define goals, and change the way we "think and feel" about our life circumstances, as a parent and a teen. These are crucial years of self discovery, identity, and these years have a major impact of the rest of our lives. Dipping into "Who is she" as a teenager is crucial and game changing.

Missy shares her experience with anxiety and depression as a teen, what helped save her life, and how she is working to give back to the community in need. She shares "The Model" as described by Jody Moore: Circumstance - Thought - Feeling - Action - Result. She walks us through examples of how this impacts us when we aren't aware of it, and how we can change the results we are getting by bringing awareness to our inner thoughts and patterns.

We talk about brain development, and how parents can use this understanding to create better connections with their children, and use compassion to help teach them better decision making skills. If you are a parent, you'll love this episode, as we go into the dynamics at play between parents and teens.

We discuss the impact of social media on teens mental health, healing generational trauma, and how to help our children and each other navigate a life that will inevitably have pain.

To connect with Missy give her a follow on the 'gram. If you are interested in the Women's Networking group we are a part of, check out Elevate.

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