If I Speak

If I Speak episodes:

• 05.21.2024

  14. What does it mean to live authentically? w/ Oisín McKenna

  Ash and Moya talk to Evenings And Weekends author Oisín McKenna about living authentically, intense female friendships, and how financial precarity limits our self-exploration. Plus: compulsory heterosexuality and suspicious new boyfriends. Got a problem? Tell us: [email protected] *Gossip, elevated.* Music...

  
• 05.14.2024

  13: I’m the problem, it’s me

  What’s the difference between tactics and standards? Ash explains with a Big Theory about how we behave in relationships. Moya brings a dilemma from an anxious people-pleaser. Plus, Myers-Briggs. Got a problem? Tell us: [email protected] *Gossip, elevated.* Music by Matt...

  
• 05.07.2024

  12. How to be a good friend

  Moya and Ash get deep and meaningful on the subject of true friendship, and help a listener who’s feeling weird about dating a “normie”. Plus: blame game pass-the-parcel. Got a problem? Tell us: [email protected] *Gossip, elevated.* Music by Matt Huxley.

  
• 04.30.2024

  11. Help! My partner’s too posh

  Ash and Moya answer a Mystery Question about what they’ll do on the left-wing commune of their dreams, before helping a listener deal with class envy in their dating life. Plus: The Tortured Poets Department. Got a problem? Tell us:...

  
• 04.23.2024

  10: Do I have to be nice to my friend’s partner?

  Ash and Moya ask if honesty is the best policy when it comes to our friend’s partners, before tackling two dilemmas about unwanted friendship and non-monogamous marriage. Plus: an important new personality test. Catch Moya in conversation with Yomi Adegoke,...

  
• 04.16.2024

  09: Should you ever shag a Tory?

  Ash and Moya tackle the politics of sex appeal in response to the show’s first ever Mystery Question, and respond to a listener struggling with guilt after cheating. Plus: things not say in bed. Catch Moya in conversation with Yomi...

  
• 04.09.2024

  08: How to cultivate optimism

  Moya and Ash think about how to stay hopeful when the future looks bleak, and give advice to listener whose marriage is suffering from major communication issues. Plus: Cowboy Carter. Got a problem? Tell us: [email protected] *Gossip, elevated.* Music by...

  
• 04.02.2024

  07: What do straight men know about dating?

  Ash and Moya talk to Matt Kendall from The Love Cupboard podcast about how straight men perceive the women in their lives. Plus, a dilemma from a listener who’s been evicted by her friends’ parents. Got a problem? Tell us:...

  
• 03.26.2024

  06: Do you owe your parents anything?

  Ash presents her big theory about chosen families and what to do when your best friend is having a baby. Moya shares two listener dilemmas: can you live in a different city to your partner? And do you owe your...

  
• 03.19.2024

  05: Are we trapped in a fantasy?

  Moya is joined by a special guest, author and journalist Shon Faye, to work out the lure of political fantasies and advise a listener who’s feeling guilty about inheriting money. Plus: trust issues and love-bombing. Got a problem? Tell us:...

  
• 03.12.2024

  04: Can you teach an adult to have empathy?

  Ash and Moya tackle a Big Theory about how we punish criminals and respond to a listener who doesn’t know how to end a situationship. Plus: what the hell are ‘energy vectors’? Got a problem? Tell us: [email protected] *Gossip, elevated.*...

  
• 03.05.2024

  03: The dating trap

  Is there such a thing as a sexual marketplace? Moya and Ash debate the dating trap for straight women and respond to a listener who’s too tired from work to change their life. Plus, a quick round of Shag, Marry,...

  
• 02.27.2024

  02: Is my long-distance relationship doomed?

  Ash and Moya respond to a listener embarking on an LDR across the Irish border, and tackle Ash’s Intrusive Thought about her cat Moussa. Plus, Moya has the best way to lance an infatuation boil. Got a problem? Tell us:...

  
• 02.20.2024

  01: Should I give my mum an allowance?

  Ash and Moya respond to a listener who’s struggling to support her mum financially and wonder why people are being weirdly hyper-sexual online. Plus: the most common misconception about Moya, and the story behind Ash’s Twitter handle. Got a problem?...

  
• 02.19.2024

  Introducing: If I Speak

  On If I Speak, Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean tackle the world’s social dilemmas (and some of yours). Every other Tuesday we lay bare the weird stuff we can’t stop obsessing over, debate our wildest notions, and invite our smartest...