* We’ll be at Crossed Wires festival in Sheffield on 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

‘Tis the season! Moya and Ash explore the etiquette of the modern wedding, from cringey hen do to lavish ceremony to nightmare groupchat. And how does anyone afford it?! Plus: are we expecting too much from single straight men?

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* We’ll be at Crossed Wires festival in Sheffield on 4th July! Final tickets: https://crossedwires.live *

Moya has a big theory about why wealthy elites seem to have stopped caring about culture, which leads to wondering if addiction and dependency are the best framework for understanding modern society. Plus: when you’re body-shamed by a much younger hook-up.

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* Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! https://crossedwires.live *

Moya tunes into the background hum of money worries. Does our upbringing predict our attitude to finances? And does more money always equal more freedom? Plus: when to let go of a long-term romantic hangup.

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* Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! https://crossedwires.live *

Ash talks to Moya about falling birth rates and the ‘crisis of association’ that’s stopping people from connecting with each other. It’s a big theory that touches on trust issues, getting offline and the coming backlash. Plus: a dilemma about financial infidelity.

(Sorry about the banging. It’s builders outside Ash’s window.)

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The girl boss is back – and this time she’s working class, mixed race and fully therapised. Moya asks Ash how we should make sense of Skims entrepreneur Emma Grede and the success of her book, Start With Yourself. Plus: which fantasy archetype are you?

Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! Tickets available here: https://crossedwires.live

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Moya and Ash answer a mystery question about why so many people are going ‘no contact’ with their parents. How do our elders understand this epidemic of estrangement? Plus: How to deal with a jealous ex-boyfriend who lives down the road.

Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! Tickets available here: https://crossedwires.live

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Ash went to the Songkran water fight in Thailand and now has a few questions about health and safety culture. Where do we draw the line between personal safety and freedom to take risks? Plus: should you chase a holiday romance?

Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! Tickets available here: https://crossedwires.live

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Ash and Moya are reunited and ready to answer a mystery question, inspired by Lena Dunham’s memoir Famesick: do we need more women mentors? Plus: a homesick ex-pat struggling to stay in contact with his family.

Come to see us at Crossed Wires in Sheffield on 4th July! Tickets available now: https://crossedwires.live

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With the manosphere back in the headlines, we’re republishing our 2024 interview with the authors of Clown World – the book that exposed Andrew Tate’s cult-like grip on young men around the world. Jamie Tahsin and Matt Shea explain how they infiltrated Tate’s inner circle and what they found inside.

Ash and Moya will be back from their well-earned break next week. Send us dilemmas: [email protected]

Remember our show in Sheffield is coming up on 4th July. Tickets: https://crossedwires.live

Music by Matt Huxley.

Moya answers your dilemmas with former Vogue agony aunt Shon Faye. Featuring: a graduate abroad who might have a saviour complex; a gay man who doesn’t know if his relationship is real; a stripper who wants to tell her parents the truth; and a relationship breaking down over Israel. Plus: how does Shon always hit her deadlines?

Follow Shon on Substack: https://shonfaye.substack.com/