What do we owe the people we love? And what do we owe ourselves?

In this episode, I explore the complicated and tender space between community and self-preservation.

I reflect on the friendships that changed me, the betrayals that broke me, and the lessons that taught me what real accountability—and real love—actually look like.

From bell hooks to Justin Bieber, from chosen family to personal grief—this is a deep dive into care, honesty, and the courage it takes to be seen.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt the weight of showing up… and wondered who will show up for them.

In this episode, we dive into the blurry line between healing and hiding. I unpack how ADHD, self-diagnosis, and the internet’s aesthetic obsession with “healing” can keep us stuck in performance instead of progress. We talk about what it really means to check in with yourself—and how easy it is to bypass your own truth in exchange for feeling seen online. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re actually doing the work or just mimicking what healing looks like… this one’s for you.

Expect honesty. Expect discomfort. Expect real talk.

Let’s ask better questions. Let’s call ourselves out—with softness.

After years of surviving, performing, and pouring into everyone but myself—I had to ask the real question: who am I when I’m not pretending? In this reintroduction to Ignoramus, I open up about heartbreak, identity loss, and the uncomfortable beauty of coming back to yourself. If you’ve ever had to start over with the version of you no one clapped for… this one’s for you.