I'm Friends With You, Not Your Baby

By pod617 - The Boston Podcast Network

We all have hopes, dreams, goals, and aspirations...But what we don't have sets us apart. Sometimes that's a good thing. Sometimes it hurts. This is where we talk about it. I'm host Elizabeth Hopkins.... more

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December 09, 2021 The MYTH of "Unexplained Infertility"
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Whether you want to get pregnant, or if it's the furthest thing from your mind, reproductive health is vital. Fertility is an indicator of overall health and its delay is often one of the first and clearest signals that something isn't right.
The answer from most doctors is to suppress or bypass these signs in favor of the end result. Severe PMS? The pill is prescribed. A diagnosis of "Infertility"? You're likely to be directed toward IUI or IVF. But these "answers" leave women with one looming question: "Why?"
That question is where Dr. Anne Nolte begins. Dr. Nolte is a board-certified family physician with a concentration in women's health and fertility and the Executive Director and Co-Founder of the National Gianna Center for Women’s Health and Fertility, the first fertility awareness-based women’s medical center in New York City. She utilizes cutting-edge technology, diagnostic tools, prescription medications and other means to keep investigating after others stop. She finds what others miss.
Whether you're pursuing pregnancy or not, whether you've suffered miscarriage or have yet to get pregnant, whether you're plagued by PMS or PCOS, whether you've been dismissed for your age, labeled "unlucky" or told there's nothing else you can do, Dr. Nolte wants you to live in wellness and with answers.
This is not "alternative" medicine. In this episode, Dr. Nolte explains why intrauterine insemination (IUI) and in vitro fertilization (IVF) fail to deliver the best medical care that women can receive, she dispels many myths around fertility and reveals why, by and large, "unexplained infertility" is a myth.
If you've been looking for answers and have lost hope, get ready to recharge.
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December 02, 2021 The Tables Are Turned
I'm going from "host" to "guest" in this re-broadcast of Episode 72 of The Story Behind Her Success. Radio personality Candy O'Terry is a girls' girl. She gives, shares, listens, "networks," and brings women together. Her podcast tells the story of how women got to be where they are in business and in life. From remarkable women overcoming extraordinary odds, survivors and warriors, artists, doctors, ballerinas, broadcast personalities, educators, and more than a few celebrities... each story inspires.
Not long ago, I had the chance to weave my story into that tapestry. I shared with Candy my story of moving to a tiny town where I knew no one to begin my career in as a journalist, to becoming a morning news anchor in a top market, and the faith that fueled it all.
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November 25, 2021 The Business of the Single Gal: Negotiate, Advocate, Nurture
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The Providence Warwick Convention & Visitors Bureau is responsible for promoting some of the biggest cities in the smallest state in the country. Kristen Adamo is President & CEO, and "Chief Executive Officer" is not a title held by many women (As an example, among Fortune 500 companies, only about eight percent of CEOs are women.*). Kristen is one of the few. She's got a big job investing in a lot of venues and events, and she gets it done with a big team. As she's "leaned in" to her career, she's learned how to advocate for herself and for her staff. But 2020 presented new challenges for Kristen professionally and personally. The Covid-19 pandemic cancelled events, her team was forced to get smaller, and business owners and their employees were desperate for support.
How did she adapt? And how did she adjust as a single-girl-about-town, to someone who suddenly couldn't go anywhere? In this episode Kristen shares her resiliency. She offers her perspective on friendship and business dynamics for women without children. And she's opening up about an important and nurturing role she's played in a relationship she rarely speaks about.
As a bonus, she's offered these three tips for women who are in the process of negotiating at work. Find it on our Instagram page: www.instagram.com/friendswithyounyb
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November 18, 2021 Guy's POV: What Men Say About Fatherhood When Women Aren't Around
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Wonderfully, Matthew Rodrigues doesn't blend. He's a standout as a wildly-talented lifestyle television host and producer. He's a Rhode Island transplant living in Chicago. He's unmarried, in an interracial relationship, and he's gay.
Matt's married female friends without children don't seem to blend either; often labeled "untraditional." But in him, they have an ally. He's seen the massive culture shift that happens when friends move from the "otherhood" into parenthood. Much of it is good. Some of it deserves side-eye. So how has that impacted his thoughts on adoption and having children of his own? And what will his partner's mother think of the whole thing??
With humor and honesty, Matt is spilling the tea. And what may surprise you most are the warnings he's received from dads, who's guy-talk advice is shockingly different then the way moms describe family life.
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November 11, 2021 Saying "Yes," meaning "No." The people-pleasing problem for women without kids
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Why does being so NICE have to be so FRUSTRATING? After all, you do for them. So why don't they do the same for you? You say "yes" when work is short staffed, you volunteer for the things no one wants to do, you help, you run, you go, you drive, you offer. DOESN'T ANYONE SEE THAT?!
Maybe it's frustrating... because you've been lying. Ouch? But yeah. You've been saying "yes" when you mean "no." Your "kindness" is actually someone begging to be seen. Your "doing" is actually investing in hope that they'll do the same for you. But this obligation is tired. And resentment is festering. And it means you're living your life from the hope of someone else's response, rather than from honoring your own authenticity. When you do that, your spirit and body will tell you. It shows up as heartburn, IBS, gut issues, eczema, teeth clenching and bruxism.
Life Coach Kelsie Bentley was there herself. After burn out depression and persistent heartburn, she realized she need a change.
Now she's helping others do the same. In this episode she shares why women without children are frequent people-pleasers, how to determine if you really want to do what you say "yes" to, and how to draw new boundaries if you don't.
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46min
November 03, 2021 Childfree? "You'll never have a fulfilling life"
Like many eldest daughters, software executive Sheila Quarz shouldered a strong sense of family responsibility. In truth, it was likely too much. From a young age, she was seen as a mother figure to her siblings. She was the one staying home to care for them. She was the one told that their college education would be her responsibility. And her parentification only intensified when her father died unexpectedly, leaving her to temper bouts of family mental illness.
But Sheila knew she was entitled to her own journey. She travelled. She dove into rich friendships, and became a godmother several times over. Working for a global software company, she rose through the ranks to be one of the few women in her role.
It was only after divorce that Sheila came to realize she didn't need biological children in order to have a fulfilling life. But the decision only crystallized when she began dating again. So how did she end up marrying a man with two girls, who was looking for someone with children of their own? And as a proud stepmother and aunt, what do her friends make of her decision to be "childfree by choice"? With consideration and grace, Sheila is sharing that story.
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October 28, 2021 Infant Loss & Finding Strength in the Hardest Moments
Former Indianapolis News Anchor Brooke Martin had no reason to believe her pregnancy would be anything out of the ordinary. Instead, it turned out to be the catalyst that changed the trajectory of her life in profound ways.
Brooke's daughter was diagnosed in-utero with a neural tube defect called "anencephaly." The condition means the baby's brain and skull don't fully develop. Many women miscarry these pregnancies. The vast majority of babies born with the condition die in the minutes or days after birth.
Encouraged to undergo a medically indicated abortion, Brooke instead chose to carry her daughter to term; her womb becoming a peri-natal hospice. And as a broadcast journalist, she was living out this long goodbye in front of the unflinching eye of the public.
It wouldn't seem it, but this is a story of hope, faith, and restoration. It's a story of good coming out of bad. And it's one Brooke is sharing because she's experienced the joy and peace on the other side of her mountain, and she believes it's available for you as well.
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
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48min
October 21, 2021 IVF: The Long Lonely Road
The path of infertility, winding its way through IUI and IVF, can be a long and and lonely road. For former Martha Stewart event planner Jennifer Arkuss, there were moments of hope, and moments of hope dashed. She became pregnant with twins but lost them to miscarriage and a rare condition called Trisomy 13. Eventually she became pregnant. And pregnant again. But just as she was settling into life as a family of four, her mother was diagnosed with Stage Four Ovarian Cancer, and the rug was ripped from under her once again.
And yet, to hear her tell it, there are elements of this journey, despite all of the pain, that she wouldn't trade. She is stronger and more resilient than she knew, her marriage is fireproof, and she believes all of it has made her a better mom than she would have been without these trials.
If you're looking to hold on to hope, Jen's story is for you.
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48min
October 18, 2021 Healing what Hurts
An authentic life that you don't need to defend. That's the goal of this tribe. And we're not going to get there by stopping those who come for us. We'll get there by not being bothered when they do.
When your life doesn't look like others think it should...when we carry the shame of feeling like we don't measure up...when we're battered and bruised from the fight to move forward...it creates a hunger for validation and a heightened sensitivity to cruel comments.We can't change them, but we can change us. How does that begin? We may be tempted to shrink back or armor up, but the real work is looking at the areas that hurt, and ask ourselves why they do. Pain points to areas that need healing. My friend Amanda Carr and I have had several conversations around that. In this Bonus Episode, I'm letting you listen in on one of them. Amanda discusses co-dependency and its impact on the nervous system, about smashing her own limiting beliefs, and of absorbing the wisdom of people like Gabor Mate', Jay Shetty and Brene Brown. This discussion is far-reaching and may hit on points that deserve to be looked at more deeply. But for now, I'm sharing it with you because this musician and life coach offers so many pearls of wisdom that have helped her process her own pain, and I hope you find something here that will help you as well.
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October 14, 2021 If you were to have a perfect life, what would it be?
In Part 2 of her story, Life Coach Rachelle Indra is beginning again. Her adult life began by following a well-worn script: pursue the dream, meet the guy, have the kids. It ended with a plot twist. Now, she's helping others self-reflect and draw new boundaries to climb their "second mountain" and discover more fulfilling lives. Specializing in neuroscience, Rachelle helps clients break their limiting beliefs, people-pleasing, and co-dependency. Her goal is to help create new neuropathways, and find happiness no matter someone's circumstances. Whether you're single and looking, or childless and hoping, Rachelle shows us how to pull the best from the present even while waiting for the future. And she's not just saying it, she's living it herself.
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