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My Favorite Things to Teach

I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. 

In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. 

So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. 

And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you. Do You Know Your Values?

Your Values Create Your Results

Understanding Your Values Leads to Understanding Your Teen's Values

Secrets to Values

• There are no "RIGHT" or "WRONG" values. 
• Your values are not better than someone else's.
• We all have roughly the same amount of values in common with others as we do in conflict with others. 
• People that we like, we choose to focus on our common values. 
• People that we dislike, often our teens, it's because we focus on our conflicting values. 

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If you create experiences you can create powerful transformations and powerful relationships.

We underestimate the power of fun in our lives.

When I took my kids surfing in Hawaii the instructor told us that when we got up to make sure that we looked ahead of us, like at a palm tree. If we looked down in the water, that is where we would end up.

I love this, it fits so perfectly with my favorite saying, "You are where your attention is"

We need to set our intentions and not just let our lives govern us.

You're just a different person when you have these experiences

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My Favorite Things to Teach

I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. 

In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. 

So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. 

And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you. 

This week I'm talking about how Identity is a Process!

• Being the Parent of Your Dreams is an Identity Process
  
  
• Your Parenting Identity is Like Your GPS
  
  
• Know Yourself and Trust Yourself

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

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In this episode I talk with Tyson Bradley about how to create good sleep routines for you and your teen.

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This Is Coming From a Place of Love

First of all, I don't hate other parenting coaches. 

In fact, I don't think I hate anyone. 

I know tons of parenting coaches that are freaking amazing.

I just see the ads on Facebook and the emails in my inbox telling me things like, 

• "I'm THE parenting expert, and YOU should only listen to me."
• "Parent this way so your kids will . . . (fill in the blank)."
• Or, "Here's the RIGHT way to parent."

So, I'm going to share some of the things that I think are holding parents back, and I'm also going to share a mindset shift that will help you change everything. 

#1 I'm NOT "THE Parenting Expert," YOU Are!

#2 "Parent This Special Way, So Your Teen Will Do . . . "

#3 There's a Right and a Wrong Way To Parent

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Comparison Feels Like Not Being Good Enough?

If you worry that you're not good enough, you're probably comparing yourself to someone or something else. 

You might be comparing yourself to other parents, to your friends, or maybe even to a mythical version of yourself that doesn't even exist. 

The problem with comparison is that it is never accurate and it is often the reason you feel like you're not good enough. 

Worry About What Others Think

Another thing that might be making you feel like you're not good enough is worrying about what others think about you. 

You Are BETTER Than Good Enough

The other day I was speaking with someone and she told me that she had heard someone say, "You are the perfect parent for your children, and your children are the perfect children for you."

I think she is right on. 

You ARE the perfect parent for your teens, in all your imperfection. 

And, your teen is the perfect teen for you, in all their imperfection. 

Trust that you are actually better than good enough. 

You are perfectly matched for your teen, and when you trust this, you will start to see evidence of this all over.

Whether You Are "Good Enough" or Not is Dependent on Your Stories 

Henry Ford is famous for saying, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,”

The same principle is true here. Whether you think you are "better than good enough" or you think you're not good enough – you’re right. 

So, you might as well shift your focus to find evidence that you are awesome!

Your brain finds what you look for. 

If you think you're not good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you think are not good enough about you. 

If you think that you are better than good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you are doing that are amazing. 

You get to choose where you place your attention. 

Practice Believing that You are Better than Enough. 

You truly are better than simply being good enough. 

You are amazing. 

You are perfectly imperfect, or imperfectly perfect, either way, you are just the way you are supposed to be. 

Does that mean that you have no room for growth?

Of course not. But it does mean that you can stop trying to grow and improve because you think you're not good enough. 

Practice appreciating things about yourself. 

Seriously, what makes you special and unique?

What gifts do you have that no one else has?

Practice seeing your value. 

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Have You Ever Felt Attacked?

Appreciation is a Secret Ingredient to Lasting Relationships. 

Criticism is the Opposite of Appreciation. 

Want to Develop Appreciation with Your Teen?

Check are some tips to help you develop the habit of appreciation when it comes to your teen. 

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

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Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
 Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-trap-quiz